Man arrested for murdering mother after she saw him killing his father

Not excusing this terrible crime but “he was worn out from looking after them”. We will continue to hear this until some sort of assistance/support is offered to people caring for the elderly. Can’t just guman forever, fuses pop as we see too often here.

My wife had a nervous breakdown taking care of her bedridden father, who was dying of cancer. He had to be sponge bathed and his diaper changed. Fortunately, I was there to support her and help as much as I could in his care and, ironically, finally became a bonding experience between us - he was very provincial and opposed to his daughter marrying a foreigner. At a certain point late at night, I suggested hospitalization, and he nodded, so we put futon in the back of my van and drove him to the hospital. They were shocked we hadn't called an ambulance; we didn't because he wouldn't have wanted it, particularly the noise, which would have woken the neighbors, and he wanted to slip away from all he had built in his life quietly. I narrowly missed his death as my wife and I had switched places early in the morning so that I could go home, bathe, look after the infants, and get some rest; she was at his bedside in the hospital when he died.

Caring for two elderly people, particularly when you're alone and 59, has got to be overwhelming. I agree that Japan must provide more aid, and it should be targeted to support to such people.

A social issue which is barely talked about. Domestic violence. Japan has a major issue with this very serious problem and the longer japan ignores it, the worse it will get and the more harm it will do to more people.

He had to be sponge bathed and his diaper changed.

Now guess, what all your parents have done all the time, when you have been a similar helpless newborn and toddler? And they did without nervous breakdown or killing you, otherwise you now couldn’t read and guess.

Sven AsaiToday  05:56 pm JST

He had to be sponge bathed and his diaper changed.

Now guess, what all your parents have done all the time, when you have been a similar helpless newborn and toddler? And they did without nervous breakdown or killing you, otherwise you now couldn’t read and guess.

There is a huge difference!!!!!

Good job there, Junji.

Have fun cleaning your own underoos when you get out.

IF you ever get out that is.

Firstly, @Laguna 5:27pm sorry for your family’s loss but your ‘act of compassion’ for just that: both compassionate to the deceased and, for the mental health of his caregivers.

- “Caring for two elderly people, particularly when you're alone and 59, has got to be overwhelming. I agree that Japan must provide more aid, and it should be targeted to support to such people.” -

Those that are having to care for the elderly deserve our compassion. ANY help should be sought before resorting to extremes.

That being said . . .

DON”T believe HIS current ‘appeal’ to ‘public sentiments’.- It’s a manipulation toward ‘some type of sympathy’ by this defendant’s ‘change of motive’.

His initial, confessed motive for ending their lives was far more ‘juvenile’. The original story Jun 30, 2021 was:

*- “Bodies of couple found in refrigerator; police search for son ...”: **whereabouts remain unknown.” -*

The followup on his arrest Jul 5 quoted his specific confession as:

*- “The suspect said “It became troublesome when caring for my parents always interrupted my anime viewing. I couldn’t stand it so I killed them,” - *

He was childish, utterly selfish and murdered them without any ‘real’ compassion.

There is a huge difference!

The size of sponges and diapers? Maybe you mean something else and just only forgot to teach me. You still may… I’ve seen both cases and it’s often similar difficult and disgusting and you also get sometimes similar thankful face expressions and smiles. So what is the huge difference?

Being worn out from caring for two elderly parents is understandable, but in no way justifies a double murder.

The underlying problem of a lack of adequate support that this case gruesomely highlights is one that will only get worse as the population ages and is a problem that will have to be faced world wide. There are solutions which are easier to put in place if done early before the tidal wave of an ageing population hits, but that requires forethought and planning which the Japanese system does not seem to be well suited for. The cultural inertia induced by a tradition of family care of the elderly posited on a population demographic that no longer subsists is also a hampering factor to change

Having said that in any other democracy the growing grey vote would be a force to concentrate the political mind but as the Japanese electorate simply vote for the same people time and time again there is not the same motivation in the political elite.

Oh God! death penalty for this man

First: “*my parents always interrupted my anime viewing. I couldn’t stand it so I killed them**,”*

Now: He told police he killed his parents because he was worn out from looking after them.

He told police he killed his parents because he was worn out from looking after them.

This is a way too familiar scenario in Japan.

Caring for a parent is the duty of every responsible son or daughter, they took care of you when you were little and they expect you to do the same.

Yes it is a burden, yes it is stressful, and yes it could bring some people to a breaking point, but never to the point were you are excused after killing them with a cord , this is WRONG and anyone who understand this killer actions is also wrong, there are several options and many ways to ease the burden but killing your parents is NOT one of them.

re-arrested a 59-year-old unemployed man on suspicion of murdering his mother after she saw him killing his father.

Shouldn’t that read “after she saw him putting his father into a state of cardiac arrest”?

You only have to be in the shoes of a care giver. My brother had a very good female friend. They were best friends she lived with her nieces until she got bed ridden the only reason the nieces kept her around for purely for her money. Finally she called my brother and asked him if he could take care of her. Being that they were good friends he said ok and he had no idea of what he was going to endure. For eight years my brother bath her, fed her, gave her the medicine she needed, took her to her doctors appointment. During the last year of her life it finally began to take a toll on him. I asked him why did he do it? He didn't have an answer all he said was I told her I would take care of her because her family mistreated her and I just wanted to do the right thing. Mentally I noticed he was getting tired but he never gave up. The day before she died he told me, finally I think I can have my life back. He called her nieces and told them the sad news. The next day he called and said now I can have my peace and she can now have hers. He gave up 8 years of his life, he could barely do the work he had as he worked from home. He said it was like taking care of a newborn all over again accept the person is helpless old and sick. He could barely leave his home to go shopping. One thing I do remember him saying is everyday I turned the doorknob to go into the room I didn't know what to expect. Now that she is passed on he is working hard to get his life back because of all his newly found freedom. Another thing he said that I WILL never forget is he wouldn't wish that job on ANYONE!!!

Horrendous.

In the long run I don't think the responsibility for improving the care of the aged rests solely with the government. While they have an important role, it's better for families to assume the responsibility. I would guess that the reason we so often read stories like this is because all the care falls on the one solitary child the parents had. Care for the elderly is an extremely taxing job. If we want to be cared for well in our old age, rather than expect it from an uncaring and mechanical government with limited resources, ideally it's better to have the load shared by our own several kids who are returning all the love we poured into them ourselves, along with some government/professional help as well.

A modern materialistic society dedicated to the selfish pursuit of wealth for the few cannot wash its hands of such individual tragedies. They will inevitably continue to occur as long as its patently inadequate social welfare safety-net fails to catch the many without means who will fall through.

Working with the helpless elderly, you discover that there are those who would prefer to get on to the next great adventure than be crippled, sick, pain ridden, and have to endure the embarrassment, shame even, of having others tend to their 'personal' needs. People in advanced senescence can 'want to die' but the candle can gutter for a long while after 'life' is no longer worth all that it has become and one lies there wishing that they could return to that timelessness from which they came and arose here. But leaving when one chooses to leave is looked at as 'bad' and archaic thought systems prohibit such measures.

Some places, such as Oregon, are 'kind' enough to allow those in excruciating, intractable pain to go through a lengthy process 'proving' they really want to leave and can then get assistance in doing that. But, we Humans do not trust other conscienceless Humans not to use this to, essentially, murder people for reasons other than mercy so we force our 'loved ones' to endure unimaginable trauma for years until death do we part, anyway. There is selfishness for some who fear the grief that will follow. There is also a blind drive to 'preserve life' built into the systems which gather profit from such preservation, often of the unwilling.

There are those who have completely left life while physically still firm and unable to express their wishes and all manner of other complications which confuse and baffle us as to what is the proper thing to do. Yet, we have war.

For me, it's the sphincters. When they fail, I hope to have the courage to go out into the woods and return myself to that infinity of time that passes instantaneously. But I love being alive albeit the only thing for which I cry when thinking of it is that I will never see or be with my wife again.

So many complications in this area of Human inevitability. And, in the end, after the end really, none of it matters at all. But the selfishness of insisting on remaining as a brutal burden on those around us is rarely thought about and, perhaps should be a consideration of all who are sinking, or who have sunk, into deep senescence but fear what they don't know.

For some things we just have no good answers...nor much promise of having them in the future. What to do?

He seems to have used the other meaning of, 'take care of them'.