Kobe civil servant arrested for stalking ex-lover

He needs to buy a real doll figure. What a wussy....

What went wrong?

It being an affair aside, the guy was dumped after 10 years and not sure what the circumstances were. But, I'm sure he's heartbroken and wants to talk and reconcile if possible. Obviously, she doesn't. He probably ran into financial difficulties and couldn't afford her anymore. Just a hunch.

Are we sure he didn't understand why she broke it off? She could have been perfectly clear about why, but he obviously didn't want it to end. Who knows. She's wrong for letting it continue that long-- it does make sense that he would be pretty upset to have her break it off. 10 years is a long time. Still, that doesn't mean it's cool to stalk someone just because you can't get your way. I'm glad they got him before something serious happened.

at 35 she has given him the most important years of her life when she could have married some guy who could have treated her the same way as he treated his wife.

He decided to push it and she must have at least warned him off before going to the cops. Now he has much more to think about than a bruised ego from being rejected: angry wife, public embarrassment, workplace and social reputation.. At least this time the cops actually did something about stalking, good for them!

I tend to agree with WhatMeWorry. She probably gave no reason and after 10 years the guy is searching for what he did wrong. And if he hadn't threatened her then there is no crime yet from him. Come on. Email? Not showing up at her door 40 times?

I guess cops only take the easy cases seriously.

I agree with WhatMeWorry. 10 years is a long time and from 25-35. I think she is pretty good to stay around. She maybe just realised that its time to move on settle down if she wants a family.

Not up to snuff any more.

bushlover: Yes, that would explain everything!!! Like why they wouldn't arrest that sicko before he stabbed his (ex)girlfriend 20 times. And why they arrest people for .0008 grams of drugs instead of going after the big fish. And why they have anti-groping campaigns but don't take rape seriously at all. Sorry, a bit of a rant. Anyway, thanks for pointing that out.

I am glad that they stopped this guy. Sure, email is not harmful by itself but these cases usually escalate into violence when the guy can no longer handle the rejection. It starts out with some email, then he's watching you outside your home, next he's knocking at your door with a knife in his pocket...

Sad that a woman wasted 10 years of her life on a married guy, though. Well, maybe they had a good connection, good sex, or whatever but if she was waiting for him to leave his wife...think again. Not going to happen.

8 day 5.8 emails a day. Awake 17 hours of the day which comes to one email every 2.93 hours. I would not call that harassment .

Yelnats: I hope you're joking.

10 years... That's quite a long time. Did she tell him why she wanted to break up with him before she ended up the relationship? Well, if he was told, then, what's his point calling and mailing her so many times in a day and week? If he still likes her, he should've let her go instead of stlking her and tighteining her life up. Wishing her a happy life? That's the point I don't uinderstand this guy. He's not an elementary school kid. he's old enough, 43 years old. He must have known that stalking someone is a crime? or he didn't know/realise that his actions/behaiviour towards her were sturaggling her for such a long time?

Maybe he can just write the police a letter saying he won't be violent, like the Fukuoka would-be murderer did.

seems fairly obvious that japanese 'men' can't handle rejection

Was he stalking her, or trying to restore their relationship??? Seems like a pretty fine line if you ask me... Wonder how the law on stalking reads??? I just might have a few bill collectors that fall into the stalking category...

Calling her 47 times as well as emailing her in the period of a week--That is definitely stalking behavior; no doubt about it. A man who obviously couldn't take NO for an answer. This is a dangerous breed indeed. And this is not just a weakness of Japanese men. Men (and women) everywhere are capable of this kind of obsession.

I disagree that it is stalking behavior. Look at the stats:

8 days at 5.8 emails a day. Awake 17 hours of the day which comes to one email every 2.93 hours. I would not call that harassment.

Yelnats, if she told him to go away it's harassment. Glad to see the cops got one nut job before he committed murder. Hope they keep him in the psych ward for a while. Especially since the victim has no means of self defense.

My guess is after 10 years she got sick of waiting for him to leave his wife and marry her instead, so she called it quits. I'd call her a smart girl, but getting involved in an affair with a married man is possibly one of the stupidest things a woman can do, so I'll settle for saying I'm glad she wasn't the victim of physical violence. We see way too many stories of stalkers brutally assaulting or murdering the objects of their obsession; at least this case didn't have a chance to go that far.

Yelnats: I'm sorry, but I agree with dolphingirl, ca1ic0cat, et al. She broke off the relationship OVER TWO YEARS ago, in April 2007, and suddenly he pops up on her radar again like a bad penny? Incessant phone calls and emails over a dead-and-buried relationship? And that's just what he's charged with. The woman went to police because this guy "continued to show up at her home and workplace." The implication there would seem to be that he kept coming back for the greater part of three years despite her desire to end the relationship. That's stalking. She should have reported it sooner.