Man arrested for threatening woman by saying he would send sexual images to her workplace

The man and the woman met on a dating app and had been communicating through messaging apps, but they never actually met.

So this woman, who’s in her 40s, sent sexually explicit images of herself to a 29-year-old boy she had never met???

The boy’s judgment is obviously lacking, but is the woman’s any better?

Nothing wrong with cougars but calling someone almost 30 a boy is pushing it!

So this woman, who’s in her 40s, sent sexually explicit images of herself to a 29-year-old boy she had never met???

Not necessarily, deepfakes can be very convincing, maybe that is what the suspect used to threaten the victim.

KazukoHarmonyToday 07:03 am JSTnever actually met.

So this woman, who’s in her 40s, sent sexually explicit images of herself to a 29-year-old boy she had never met??? The boy’s judgment is obviously lacking, but is the woman’s any better?

He asked her for pictures, then threatened to use them against her.

Who is the criminal, again? And who is the one who is immoral? Who is the one who broke trust?

And who made a mistake in trusting someone she thought she could trust?

I'd say his judgement is far, far worse than hers - to the point of criminality.

In this backward society she will end up apologizing for causing the trouble, and the guy is fine.

I'd say his judgement is far, far worse than hers - to the point of criminality.

Wrong again, as usual. His criminality is not in question. What is at issue here is her decision to send compromising photos in the first place. When you engage in behavior like this, there is an inherent risk, regardless of the intentions behind it. Sending private, intimate photos is a choice she made, and with that choice comes the responsibility of understanding the potential consequences.

As for whose judgment is worse, it’s important to recognize that while the man’s actions are clearly criminal — threatening to distribute intimate material is illegal — his decision is rooted in a clear, albeit immoral, goal: to manipulate and intimidate. On the other hand, her judgment in voluntarily sending those photos is arguably far more reckless. She made the choice to share something deeply private, without fully considering the possible outcomes or the risk of exploitation. In terms of decision-making, hers was the more perilous and avoidable one. The man’s criminal behavior might be worse in terms of legality, but her judgment was worse in terms of the risk she willingly exposed herself to.

owzerToday 01:27 pm JST

His criminality is not in question.

Correct. The article clearly states that he tried to blackmail her, and there is clear evidence against him.

What is at issue here is her decision to send compromising photos in the first place. When you engage in behavior like this, there is an inherent risk, regardless of the intentions behind it. Sending private, intimate photos is a choice she made, and with that choice comes the responsibility of understanding the potential consequences.

That does not absolve him from blame, nor does it indicate that her judgment is somehow worse than his, which is the claim being made.

As for whose judgment is worse, it’s important to recognize that while the man’s actions are clearly criminal — threatening to distribute intimate material is illegal — his decision is rooted in a clear, albeit immoral, goal: to manipulate and intimidate.

To sexually harass, intimidate, and blackmail.

On the other hand, her judgment in voluntarily sending those photos is arguably far more reckless. She made the choice to share something deeply private, without fully considering the possible outcomes or the risk of exploitation. In terms of decision-making, hers was the more perilous and avoidable one. The man’s criminal behavior might be worse in terms of legality, but her judgment was worse in terms of the risk she willingly exposed herself to.

No. What he did was immoral and criminal. What she did was to be naive enough to trust the wrong person.

No crime victim is at fault for being chosen by a criminal as an outlet for their criminal intentions.

Tokyo Girl: I could not agree more. I would hope that if it was one of my previous employees she would have enough trust to alert her work place, sure what's his no. / what's his name. I do not believe that when she sent the pic. she had any intention of having it passed around. Did he ask her for consent (is that a legal Req. in jpn). or just say GIVE ME THE 'BUCKS'. No need for fancy analysis. Stupid female stuffs. In a backward society?? uwat, try that one on my better half. then walk down a dark alley (ghost time).

Since when is a 29-year old, "a boy"?

Play with fire, get burned.

Sure he tried to get money from her.

If ever he sends the photos, say it is deep fake.

Society has long been without morals.

This is surely happening every day.

“I’m going to send sexual images of you to your workplace," 

> The man and the woman met on a dating app and had been communicating through messaging apps, but they never actually met.

It doesn't say in this article.

But, did she actually send nude pics to this foo, without actually meeting him?

Or is he just talking nonsense?

Oh, here comes the victim blaming.

＠KazukoHarmony、29yo boy? Really?

However, I do admit that I never understood why is it so hard not to take nude photos of oneself, and definitely not to trust the internet with them.

What could possibly go wrong?!

@owzer - he correctly identified a woman with judgement poor enough to send him compromising photos.

It's been pointed out to you above, but I'll say again to you here - AI software will take a picture on anybody and make a new hyper-realistic picture of them undressed. So if she sent a picture of herself clothed, he can easily, with affordable software, create a picture of her undressed that looks very realistic.

You already admitted he is a criminal - why would you give him the benefit of the doubt about not being a liar?

Choose the bear - men don't want women who hate simply to hate.

But you have no reason to hate on the victim yet you are doing so. I am not saying you have to respect her or feel sorry for her. However, stating it as fact that she sent compromising pictures just because he said so, and given the fact that such pictures can now be easily fabricated, is simply counter-factual.

But you have no reason to hate on the victim yet you are doing so.

Nonsense. I don't blame her for what he did. I am simply observing that she has demonstrated poor judgement. She decided it was safe to send him photos. She misread what kind of guy he is. That's poor judgement.

owzerFeb. 21 06:59 pm JST

Nonsense. I don't blame her for what he did. I am simply observing that she has demonstrated poor judgement. She decided it was safe to send him photos. She misread what kind of guy he is. That's poor judgement.

It is very very easy to misread what kind of person someone is, and there have been many people fooled into believing the person they are dating is a good and kind human when in fact the opposite is true. It doesn't mean that the victim has poor judgement. It means the perpetrator is a good liar.

ILoveDownvotesFeb. 20 07:24 pm JST

However, I do admit that I never understood why is it so hard not to take nude photos of oneself, and definitely not to trust the internet with them.

What could possibly go wrong?!

What's funny to me is that since cameras on phones became ubiquitous, everyone is walking around with a porn-making studio in their pocket. Sexting and risque photos are now the norm, so what she did (if in fact she did this; considering he may have produced a deep fake) was perfectly normal and not at all out of the ordinary for modern dating.

I wonder if we will ever come to a point where society stops slut shaming women, specifically women, for expressing their sexuality in a perfectly normal way.

Also, note that no man ever complains when a woman send risqué photos of herself to him; but so many men who very happily accept these photos will then turn around and shame the women who send them.