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Neeson is of course, spot on and only repeating what 99% if us think. For every Weinstein out there that is being rightfully outed, there are 100 men who are being attacked for innocent flirtation.

This is what has become of feminism in 2018. It is a weaponized, man-hating movement with a sad, pathetic group of beta-male creeps as a faux ally.

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Any romantic proposal or interaction could potential be a #metoo moment.

It all depends how the girl perceives it, even if she changes her mind about it 20 years later, it suddenly becomes harassment.

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If Neeson wants to excuse sexual harassment and assault - such as digital rape - away as being "silly...childhood things", then he's better off getting more cosmetic surgery and having his mouth stitched shut.

What on earth is "digital rape". Is that a "thing" now? Some guy has a digital penis protruding through your computer monitor over the internetz? Nonsensical. I have never seen a time where the goal posts of what is and isn't offensive to women shifts on a near daily basis. I blame post-modernism, militant feminism and the age of hyper media for spreading this nonsense. Far too many people taking up outrage as a hobby., rather than just getting on with their real life and realizing that the majority of men and women are perfectly reasonable people, neither saint nor sinner.

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2 sides to every story.  and some of the coverage and allegations do feel a little like they are feeding on our modern "outrage" culture.

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he’s worried about what HE’s done.

whether he has done anything or not, only a matter of time before somebody comes out with a story about a cold winters evening in 1987 in which Neeson touched a woman's knee, or, heaven forbid, offered her a coat to keep her warm. The outraged mob will hunt him down, conclude he is guilty until proven innoc....no just guilty!!! and that's the end of his career.

If this nonsense filters down to the average jill and joe, bring on the asteroid strike.

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Simply untrue in most organisations

Really, I implore you to check the wording of any major company's harassment policy. The criteria is merely that a person was made to feel uncomfortable at work.

There's no objective criteria at all to define harassment, it's merely a person's interpretation of the interaction.

And these days, if any company tries to scoff off woman's harassment claim, however trivial, they're looking at a multi-million dollar lawsuit.

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You are presumably intelligent enough to understand that when a rainy day makes me glum, I am not suggesting every day is rainy?

Not really the right way to look at it.

Let's try this:

Slap a man, he'll not only slap you back, he'll punch, kick, break bones, and could kill you.

Compliment a woman, she'll scream harassment, humiliate you as a predator, look to destroy your career and could look to press criminal charges.

See how awful those sentences look?

Let 's keep it decent and reasonable, eh?

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I worked for 5 years in a company, same coworkers for all those 5 years, once a month we had happy hour time at a local pub, a female coworker was regularly slapping guys' butt one day 1 of the guy wished her happy birthday and gave her a regular friendly hug and the week after he was called to my superior's office sexual misconduct... a very big surprised we got when we heard that, so he told our superior about her behavior with slapping butts' coworkers regularly and our superior (a female)asked other coworkers about this and heard that she was also doing that to other coworkers so when she got called to my superior offices and refute the allegations, but a couple of months later she resigned because nobody was talking to her anymore... Nobody talked about it when she was doing it it was like a friendly thing we didn't care about until that moment she accused someone of sexual misconduct. Anyway to accuse someone of such behavior people should be very careful.

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It’s “childhood stuff” except they are not in their childhoods anymore.

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This is a difficult one. People like Weinstein and Cosby have abused their position and taken advantage of many woman. That's terrible. I have no sympathy for them whatsoever. I think what Liam Neeson is talking about is times when you might compliment your female colleague's hairstyle for example. Depending on how she thinks about you, they might say thank you and carry on with their life or it might be considered harassment. Apparently, technically, it is harassment according to a human resources expert I was talking to recently.

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Interesting: I find myself nodding in agreement with both Liam Neesom and many of you who have criticized him.

I guess it's a good discussion to be having.

bit this I do know:

Americans are uptight about sex. So I'm pretty skeptical about how this will likely play out.

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Slap a man, he'll not only slap you back, he'll punch, kick, break bones, and could kill you

Could I suggest using words like ‘some’ or ‘a few’? You could try words like ‘might’ or ‘could’ while you are there.

Just suggestions.

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Consensual sex is the sexiest sex.

Sure, but for that to happen, two people have to first meet and play the courtship game.

I challenge you to give us even one method, phrase or approach an interested guy could use on a female coworker he likes without it possibly being brought to HR as a harassment complaint.

I assert that there exists no possible method, as long as she says "he made me uncomfortable", HR will deem him guilty of harassment.

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You are presumably intelligent enough to understand that when a rainy day makes me glum, I am not suggesting every day is rainy?

So do you think that when someone says 'black people are thieves', they are not suggesting all black people are thieves? Because when I hear someone say 'black people are thieves', I think 'what a racist #$%&'.

That's why when I see a statement like this:

Slap a man, he'll not only slap you back, he'll punch, kick, break bones, and could kill you.

It irks, because I won't do any of those things to a woman (or a man for that matter).

If you don't want your message to be detracted from by men claiming 'not all men', then you should stop using phrases that include all men. You cannot blame us for pointing out how your words are wrong, when you are the one choosing the wrong words.

If you had said the following:

If you slap a man, some men will not only slap you back, they'll punch, kick, break bones, and could kill you.

Then we could focus on the fact that some guys will do that, and how to stop it. Instead we're defending ourselves from being told that we will slap you, punch you, kick you, break your bones, and even could kill you.

Don't create a different problem in your attempts to solve the current one. That does no one any good.

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Insisting that people who are talking about sexual assault toe the line to your choice of vocabulary, rather than understanding what they mean... is offensive.

Listen to what I mean, not what I say. It doesn't work that way. We are communicating through text - the words we write are all the other person has with which to understand the thoughts we are trying to convey. Therefore it is our responsibility to write the words that properly express what we want to say. It is unreasonable for the other person to know what you are thinking, due to having literally nothing beyond those words with which to have any idea.

If people read what you write, and come out of that with a misunderstanding of what you were trying to say, then you need to write what you are trying to say in a manner that does not cause misunderstanding.

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Well, consider me corrected about how to talk about Russian men who assault women.

No one corrected you on that. We corrected you on using language that refers to all men, rather than a subset.

And once again, your choice of language has resulted in us dealing with your comments, rather than the issue.

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Squeezing someone's breast due to superstitious possible results is hogwash.

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This is why we have the statute of limitations, to protect from claims that cannot be substantiated, let alone proven. The law is perfectly capable of dealing with these charges and letting a jury decide the evidence. Any intelligent man being confronted with accusations over the internet mob should ignore them and wait for a proper civil or criminal complaint.

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This is why we have the statute of limitations, to protect from claims that cannot be substantiated, let alone proven. The law is perfectly capable of dealing with these charges and letting a jury decide the evidence. Any intelligent man being confronted with accusations over the internet mob should ignore them and wait for a proper civil or criminal complaint.

The problem is the damage has already been done in a professional sense, whether the complaint is proven or not, at least if you are a high profile man. How many times have we seen recently that men have lost their jobs before the case has even reached point A of the legal process. Its shoot first, ask questions later. That's deeply problematic for a democracy. We created a legal process to stamp out the lynch mob.

This is a good video from a woman with her own perspective on #metoo etc.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FIPWOaYX--Y

Sane women still exist apparently.

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Slap a man, he'll not only slap you back, he'll punch, kick, break bones, and could kill you

Yeah, a psycho might, but most normal people would grin and bear it.

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Slap a man, he'll not only slap you back, he'll punch, kick, break bones, and could kill you.

OMG! We got a man-hater here!

Luckily not all women have this mindset that all men are some type of predators and romance is still alive in some pockets of the world.

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@Agent X - have you seen the information about domestic violence in Russia?

Apologies! I had to re-read your post as it seemed you were labeling men, in general, as someone who will kill you if you slap them. I can't talk specifically about Russian DV, but it still sounds like a rather blanket statement that you make there.

I find Russian women to be quite assertive anyway, so in an innocent encounter (which flirtation usually is), I think they can manage themselves quite well without violence from either side coming into it, generally speaking.

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Except that that has never happened in the history of coffee. Or harassment.

You'd have to have investigated every single reported case of harassment to be that Assertion.

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*to make.

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But the absoluteness of my statement makes it extremely easy to disprove - it only takes a single example to prove me wrong.

Are we expected to comb through every single harassment case that has ever been filed?

Why not just read the policy.

The standard definition is;

Anything that makes the woman feel uncomfortable constitutes harassment.

So if a man asks a woman for coffee and she goes to HR complaining about him being “creepy”, then the lawyers step in and the gears of HR policy enforcement start turning and nobody can stop them.

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If Neeson wants to excuse sexual harassment and assault - such as digital rape - away as being "silly...childhood things", ...

Maria, if you had read the entire article you would have concluded that he doesn’t excuse it.

This is another example of a poster hijacking an article and generating an over-long list of replies and counters.

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It seems having sexual contact with someone that you later regret can now be interpreted as sexual assault or rape.

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It's true. Anyway, didn't liam risk his life to save his daughter and her friend from sex slavery?

According to feminist, if you're a male you're automatically a rapist and sexual harasser. I don't know how they expect us to recreate, though.

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(can't speak for Russia of course, we'd need your input on that).

In Russia, guys pursue women and women enjoyed being pursued.

If a guy ever crosses the line he gets a swift slap across the face, he then backs off.

It’s a simple system but it works, no need for internet lynch mobs and HR departments intruding into everyone’s private lives.

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if you see a massive street fight of savages with bricks, chains, guns being shot from the hip, basically a riot; I suggest you run the other way, not mosey on up and start giving advice...

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@tmarie, regarding Dustin Hoffman, the stuff I read that he is accused of is pretty extreme harassment such as inserting his finger inside a woman when they are working on air in a private room. That line is far beyond anywhere that could be forgiven as childhood stuff. In my long experience in Japan the most I have ever seen was when men get drunk and make harassing statements or questions to usually a young woman about her sex life or marital status. Drunk Japanese salarywomen also tend to get frisky and grope, including grabbing the weiner and balls. There is also a lot of male on male harassment such as asking about sex life, making comments about the size or hardness of the foreigners junk.

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Maria, I don't think any poster on this board disagrees with you that physical assault is a serious crime.

Nobody is advocating or even belittling that at all. We can be sure that we all agree on that.

The issue is the grey zone of honest, legitimate courtship (if it even exists anymore).

Even simple comments like "let's go for coffee" qualify as harassment, which basically means that men and women can't even act normally with each other at work without worrying about one turning on the other and reporting them to HR to have their heads chopped off.

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Slap a man, he'll not only slap you back, he'll punch, kick, break bones, and could kill you.

Compliment a woman, she'll scream harassment, humiliate you as a predator, look to destroy your career and could look to press criminal charges.

See how awful those sentences look?

Let 's keep it decent and reasonable, eh?

Thank you.

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Matt Hartwell, “What on earth is "digital rape". Is that a "thing" now?”

It’s been a “thing” for a long time. I refer you to this from the article (and will let you guess into which part of the body the fingers might have been inserted).

“Several women have publicly accused Hoffman of sexual misconduct, including two who said he assaulted them while filming 1987 movie "Ishtar" by inserting his fingers inside them.”

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“Several women have publicly accused Hoffman of sexual misconduct, including two who said he assaulted them while filming 1987 movie "Ishtar" by inserting his fingers inside them.”

Ahhh so they are saying a guy used his fingers, aka digits, to assault a women. Why use the term "digital rape" ? Kind of misleading given how the word "digital" is commonly used in today's language. If he actually committed that act then he needs to go through due process.

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According to feminist, if you're a male you're automatically a rapist and sexual harasser.

As a feminist I can tell you firsthand I don't view men that way. I view the average man as someone who is probably very unaware of the issues many women face, others are abusers and enablers and others as great guys doing what they can to make the world a better place for all . Which category you fit in is up to you though but shall we play a game and you guess where you fit for me so far based on this sentence alone?

"I think Dustin Hoffman was... I'm not saying I've done similar things like what he did -- apparently he touched a girl's breast and stuff -- but it's childhood stuff."

Would he view it as "childhood" stuff if it was his daughter's boss pawing at her? Somehow I doubt it. And if that was his childhood, perhaps his community needs to teach the boys to keep their hands to themselves and not grab little girls.

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Does Liam Neeson suspect that this witch hunt is really aimed at President Donald Trump?

The Democrats are da-kine orchestrating this play with a gradual crescendo that will culminate in a climax where they will have 100 women pointin their fingers at Trumpy.

God Bless America and Northern Ireland!

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I read recently: There are men, women. And feminists.

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Even simple comments like "let's go for coffee" qualify as harassment, which basically means that men and women can't even act normally with each other at work without worrying about one turning on the other and reporting them to HR to have their heads chopped off.

Simply untrue in most organisations. The only reason such an innocuous question would qualify as harassment is if the bloke has a/ already asked & been rejected by the same person, b/approached (successfully or not) 10-15 other women in the office and is a well known sleazebag.

Other situations where this could/would be 'weird': if you've NEVER spoken to a colleague and suddenly asks her out/compliments her or do this on her very first day. Again it's all about discernment and sensitivity. There's a time and place for everything.

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Are we expected to comb through every single harassment case that has ever been filed?

Nope, just provide a single example. You seem to be saying this is a problem, are you telling me that you don't even have a single example of this being a problem?

Why not just read the policy.

What does the policy matter if it's something that never happens? Bit of a tempest in a teacup, isn't it.

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An Australian actor is in big trouble from what he did on set in the Rocky Horror Show. And James Franco is in trouble partly for what happened with a cellophane genital cover during an oral sex scene of all things on the set of some otherwise forgettable comedy.

Reading much of the small print in the allegation stories presents some bizarre, abnormal backgrounds to some of the allegations.

There are two lessons to come out of all of this:

sex really is troublesome; and

any male who puts their hand up for nomination to run for US president should be rejected immediately for their obvious lack of common sense.
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Am I posting too much for you, Anonymous? Compared with...? Scroll on by, my friend, I don't mind.

Liam Neeson questions whether Hoffman has done anything wrong, based on what evidence to the contrary? That "...touch[ing] a girl's breast and stuff is...childhood stuff". What does that even mean, and why does he feel entitled to question the accusations? He isn't even saying Hoffman didn't do anything; he's saying the things Hoffman did - and he isn't even sure what these things are "...or something"; "...and stuff" - are not worth mentioning. If he doesn't know, he shouldn't speculate.

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However there's that 5% (metoo crowd) that will take that coffee invitation and complain to HR about it.

And yet, it's never actually happened.

Once they do, even though the HR staff will personally feel it's frivolous the lawyers will force them to take action and HR will have no choice but to accept the woman's harassment complaint because she stated that she felt uncomfortable and that in and of itself constitutes harassment.

Which again, has never actually happened.

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You may not of heard of digital rape but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Stop sniggering at and demeaning rape.

It appears to be a not so clever term for sexual assault. I thought you were referring to something online, which was confusing to be associated with the term rape.

Like many social movements, both the bad and good people get swept up in it. Stopping sexual harassment (and more so sexual assault) is needed, but we shouldn't go so far as to vilify every unwanted flirt or pass. There isn't anything wrong with flirting. Like everything, there needs to be respect for each other.

One example I have been thinking about is the whole Franco news. Sure, young women are likely throwing themselves at him, and there is nothing wrong with that unless they are underage and he isn't cautious about who these women are and what he is doing. Or, a consensual relationship where the situation wasn't wanted (or expressed as unwanted at the time) in hindsight, but nothing appeared to have been said during the situation. I am sure his partner was jealous of those women, but so what. She had a choice to stay in the relationship or go and she stayed. So, we should blame him for being a creep in this circumstance? Not really. What about rock starts who regularly pull attractive women from the audience to "meet" after the show. ZZ Top was known for that, and I saw them pulling women out of the audience during one concert. I don't blame ZZ Top or the women for anything. i have no reason to believe that anything between ZZ Top and these women were non-consensual. Sure, they and their music is a bit misogynistic, but it was accepted, by men and women.

However, some of the things mentioned about Franco's acting school went too far, staging an orgy scene probably for his personal gratification and other unseemly and possibly criminal things. Most of the acts were just being a creep (one about removing protective gear seemed to amount to assault), and there appears to be an element of power/sex harassment, which shouldn't be allowed in a workplace.

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Reading JT's #metoo threads always feels like traveling back in time (actually am not even sure there's been an era when men & women couldn't -apparently- communicate to the same extent as modern man).

"There's some people, famous people, being suddenly accused of touching some girl's knee or something and suddenly they're being dropped from their program or something."

Really?! Imo that's a pretty hasty (and exaggerated) generalisation...'or something'.

I think what Liam Neeson is talking about is times when you might compliment your female colleague's hairstyle for example. Depending on how she thinks about you, they might say thank you and carry on with their life or it might be considered harassment

Again I find this comment completely surreal. There's a, imo 'not-so', subtle difference between a "oh I like your new hairstyle" comment to a female colleague you KNOW pretty well and a "wow, you look sexy/hot today! I like it, haha!" to a colleague you do NOT know that well. If, as you said, you're not sure 'what she thinks about you' then say the former or even better, nothing. Seriously, I think many of you guys are over-complicating things/ freaking out over nothing.

Same with the 'digital rape' thing. I sort of get that younger generations (am talking 20yo or under) may find 'digital' slightly confusing but everyone over 20-25 should know what digital rape means.

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The Late Late Show's gone down the hill since Gaybo left.

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Burning BushJan. 15  10:09 pm JST

Really, I implore you to check the wording of any major company's harassment policy. The criteria is merely that a person was made to feel uncomfortable at work.

CITATION NEEDED

Mr. NoidallToday  05:06 am JST

You'd have to have investigated every single reported case of harassment to be that Assertion.

And if you could provide even a single case where it did happen, you would prove him wrong. It's very telling that this isn't happening.

In a proper discussion, the onus is on whoever makes the first controversial claim to back it up with evidence. Burning Bush consistently comes into these threads spouting controversial claims, and then scurries away when called on to provide evidence. The mods delete any comment discussing why he chooses to use every news story about women or sexual harassment to spout his lies about how women are out to get men with false sexual harassment allegations, so unfortunately we'll just have to leave that to individual speculation. But it's an obvious pattern.

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You seem to be saying this is a problem, are you telling me that you don't even have a single example of this being a problem?

I present my case as a supposition of logic, for example:

Me: I think it's dangerous to give the keys of a Ferrari to a 9 year-old boy.

You: That's not true unless you can provide proof of a 9 year-old boy ever causing an accident with a Ferrari

or

Me: I think it's dangerous to give people the power to sink the careers of their coworkers merely by presenting these words to HR “He made me uncomfortable.”

I don't need precedence of some historical legal case (which I'm not privy to anyways) to prove my assertion.

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Me: I think it's dangerous to give the keys of a Ferrari to a 9 year-old boy.

You: That's not true unless you can provide proof of a 9 year-old boy ever causing an accident with a Ferrari

Incorrect analogy. It's more like:

You: I think it's dangerous to give the keys of a Ferrari to a 9 year-old boy.

Me: I agree, which is why we have laws against it.

Anyways you're freaking out about a problem, that has never happened. Seems a waste of time, and no reason to be freaking out.

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Franco's acting school went too far, staging an orgy scene probably for his personal gratification and other unseemly and possibly criminal things

2 things that make me wonder here in 2018.

First, the groupies that we hear about in show business. Are they really groupies or just forced upon by celebrities?

Second, movies that include nude/sex scenes are done for the importance of the movie or to gratify the makers of the film.

There are 2 sides to every story but I would like to hear your opinions on them.

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@Hiro

ive seen more than a few times:

da-kine

what are you trying to say here?

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He was right about Garrison Keillor but wrong about Hoffman. Half right...means a good deal wrong.

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You'd have to have investigated every single reported case of harassment to be that Assertion.

But the absoluteness of my statement makes it extremely easy to disprove - it only takes a single example to prove me wrong.

Yet my statement will stand as it is. Because it’s true.

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It seems having sexual contact with someone that you later regret can now be interpreted as sexual assault or rape.

Do you have some examples of this? They should be called out if they exist.

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The biggest sexual harasser and offender also needs to be punished - that's Donald Trump!

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Your claim, however, that women are just aching to make false sexual harassment allegations and that companies generally have policies against coworkers having coffee together, 

I never claimed that companies have policies against coworkers having coffee together (although NBC's new policy basically goes that far)

I'm saying that 95% of women are sensible and would happily enjoy coffee with a coworker. However there's that 5% (metoo crowd) that will take that coffee invitation and complain to HR about it. Once they do, even though the HR staff will personally feel it's frivolous the lawyers will force them to take action and HR will have no choice but to accept the woman's harassment complaint because she stated that she felt uncomfortable and that in and of itself constitutes harassment.

Men, out of shear fear of the 5% metoo type woman, will have no choice but to disengage from women in the workplace all together.

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@Agent X - have you seen the information about domestic violence in Russia? It is mostly (but not always) perpetrated by men against women. Don't get so emotional about the simple relaying of general statistics.

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Black SabbathToday  03:08 pm JST

bit this I do know:

Americans are uptight about sex. So I'm pretty skeptical about how this will likely play out.

The demographic of Americans that are uptight about sex are these days pretty near to the polar opposite of the demographic that is fighting sexual harassment and assault in society. Just look at Alabama's recent election.

Consensual sex is the sexiest sex.

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Even simple comments like "let's go for coffee" qualify as harassment

Except that that has never happened in the history of coffee. Or harassment.

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All this in the entertainment industry suggests the historical change in Kabuki to all men is perhaps the way to go in Hollywood. And perhaps a reexamination of all gender adversarial relationships

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If those Hollywood people treated women like any other ordinary men did, then there wouldn't be a problem.

In fact, if such Hollwood men acting normally were accused of sexual harrassment/assault, other women who had positive experiences with those men would come out in their defense.

Power can be intoxicating, and these Hollywood men has been intoxicated by the power for far too long and believed they were above the law.

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Well, consider me corrected about how to talk about Russian men who assault women. I'll know to address each killer's situation personally, and not generalise about the men who murder 12-14,000 women annually in Russia - even though someone here has already told us - anecdotally - how women in Russia can apparently bat away an unwelcome man with a mere slap, so what's up with those statistics?

As for the women who have been harassed, assaulted, attacked, killed, it appears to be ok to talk about them in general featureless terms.

It is interesting how nobody, while so insistent on accurate phrasing, thought to fact check my posts about Russia, in which I oversimplified the information about the decriminalization of violence against women by the partners - relevant because of the implicit claim that unwelcome sexual advances, harassment, assault, etc., are not a problem in Russia.

I am also sure you all police your own and your friends', colleagues' and acquaintances' language on all subjects equally strictly, rather than listen to the content. Right? Goodgood.

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Mrs Robinson really did a number on Dustin Hoffman's brain and he has never been the same since, suffering from dual Oedipus complex/Mazacon and Lotlita-complex.

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Any romantic proposal or interaction could potential be a #metoo moment.

It all depends how the girl perceives it, even if she changes her mind about it 20 years later, it suddenly becomes harassment.

Really? I haven't seen that happening anywhere in the west (can't speak for Russia of course, we'd need your input on that). Do you have any examples of this happening?

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@Burning Bush: no, not a psycho. A regular person. Normal, regular people are abusive, harass and attack and rape. The idea that only the mentally ill are capable of violence is a dangerous, ableist lie.

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People have mocked the use of the expression 'digital rape', and act irritated that they were ignorant of this term. Of course most people who have experienced sexual assault, or who actually stay informed of sexual violence and crime, have heard if it. There is no other way to explain the forced, non-consensual penetration of another person using the hands, than that. That is the expression used. If you have never heard it before, you were ignorant. Now you are not.

People have expressed concern about the language I have used to describe the appalling situation in Russia (a situation repeated in many countries), but have no opinion about the decriminalisation of domestic violence. Your priorities are wrong.

You are presumably intelligent enough to understand that when a rainy day makes me glum, I am not suggesting every day is rainy?

What you and others tend to do in this situation is derail the subject - either deliberately or out of unthinking ignorance - from the problem of sexual assault, to the cry of NOTALLMEN!

Insisting that people who are talking about sexual assault toe the line to your choice of vocabulary, rather than understanding what they mean, listening to to what they are saying and learning from it, is offensive. It suggests you don't consider the victims of sexual assault, harassment (and domestic violence) important enough to listen to.

Further derailing the topic of sexual assault, by comparing it to flirting, is also ignorant. If someone shows no interest in you, you stop, you back off . That is obvious, no?

If you express interest in someone and they do not return that interest, you stop. If you use your position of authority or physical presence to insist, you are harassing. If you touch someone without their permission, if you continue to do so when they are clearly uncomfortable, you are assaulting.

People are complaining that the careers of famous men who have been accused of sexual assault will be damaged regardless of the truth. Not so. Look at any list of names of people - usually men - in sport, movies, music, TV - whose careers are strong and secure despite proven sexual violence. Men's careers are not harmed by being rapists, or being violent against their partners. Let's face it, when a man rapes his date, or kills his partner, he gets sympathy and attempts at understanding - What did s/he do to drive him to it? they say. He must have cracked under the strain, they say. But she'd been drinking, they say. In fact, his future is used in his defence. Take Brock Turner: All that punishment for a few minutes of action. No fair!

It turns my stomach. What about the victims' futures?

As for withdrawing a man accused of violence or harassment from the workplace during the investigation? Well, that makes a change from the norm. It is the exception when this happens, not the rule.

Generally speaking, when a woman has accused a man of assaulting her, she is forced to work / study / live alongside him while the investigation is ongoing, unless she removes herself from the location. Campus rape - case in point.

If someone is accused of harassment or violence, shouldn't they be kept away from those they may have harmed? If not, and they are left where they are, then across the board - in schools, hospitals, care facilities, offices - the alleged attacker's comfort takes precedence over the health and safety of the accuser, aka victim of harassment or violence.

[excuse all typos.]

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You may not of heard of digital rape but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist. Stop sniggering at and demeaning rape.

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Burning BushToday  07:14 pm JST

Sure, but for that to happen, two people have to first meet and play the courtship game.

Erm, no... that's not what consent means. For consent to happen, all that is required is for two people to say, "Yes, I want to have sex with you."

I challenge you to give us even one method, phrase or approach an interested guy could use on a female coworker he likes without it possibly being brought to HR as a harassment complaint.

A- It is quite creepy that you interpret every discussion about sex in the context of the workplace. In your Russia are people unable to meet anywhere else? Do you have no coffee shops, bars, gyms, or parks?

B- If you want one "method" you can use "on" someone, you don't understand this whole "sex" thing.

C- Assuming you don't have power over your coworker in the company hierarchy, "You wanna get coffee?" is generally fine, at least outside of Russia. I don't know what things are like over there, other than that it seems a lot of women are trying very hard to get out.

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Giving Russia as an example of good male-female relations, where a slap can keep harassment and violence against women at bay? Are you stupid?

Slap a man, he'll not only slap you back, he'll punch, kick, break bones, and could kill you. A simple bit of research shows how violence against women is not only going unpunished, but actually being allowed. one year ago saw the first decriminalisation by Putin of domestic violence. Violence against women is rampant, and ends in tens of thousands of deaths annually.

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He said this for two reasons; first of all, he’s RIGHT.

It’s the latest “Fashionable” thing to do in Hollywood, and SECOND,

he’s worried about what HE’s done.

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Disappointing to hear such nonsense from Neeson, a once-decent actor now reduced to appearing in ridiculuous revenge-violence fantasy movies.

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Neeson's entire career these days is built around giving fantasy material to a generation of past-their-prime men with insecurities about how later generations are leaving them behind. It's not too surprising that he would defend the misogynistic behavior of their generation as "childhood stuff". To be spared from critical self-examination is the greatest fantasy of them all, and for Neeson to peddle it with the issue of sexual assault will almost guarantee some number of ticket sales for whatever his next "old man fights bad guys to protect the women who are his property" movie is.

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Burning BushToday  07:25 am JST

Any romantic proposal or interaction could potential be a #metoo moment.

Only if your proposal or interaction involves sexual harassment or sexual assault. Most guys nowadays know how to express their affection without violating someone. We should all pity the men who are so debased that they don't understand how to do this.

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If Neeson wants to excuse sexual harassment and assault - such as digital rape - away as being "silly...childhood things", then he's better off getting more cosmetic surgery and having his mouth stitched shut.

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