Depending on who you believe, sex is either over by age 45, or it’s just beginning then. Shukan Gendai (Aug 15) takes the latter view. True, the magazine acknowledges, it may not be as effortless as it used to be, but effort, properly directed, enhances pleasure, and besides, your life may depend on it.
A study by Britain’s Bristol University seems to confirm that lives lived in the lap of Eros tend to be not only more satisfying but longer than lives lived in gloomier settings. The study surveyed 918 men in their 40s and 50s over 10 years and found the death rate among the sexually inactive to be twice as high as that among the sexually active.
The difficulty is, of course, that repetition over the years dulls the enchantment. Curiosity fades, the thrill wears off. “You get to the point,” acknowledges medical professor and author Kimihiro Yoneyama, a firm believer in lifelong indulgence, “where you feel you know in advance exactly how it’s going to unfold -- ‘first this, then that…’” However, he adds, the been-there-done-that feeling is “all in the mind” and can -- and most certainly should --be resisted.
The weapon of choice is imagination. “Set the mood,” Yoneyama advises. Mood is everything -- and the key element in mood is aroma.
“Aromas associated with pheromones are not present in human body odor,” he says. “A good idea therefore is to infuse the room with aromatic oils.” “Humans are sensitive to specific aromas,” agrees mental health clinic director Teruo Abe. “The right odor stimulates the reproductive functions of the brain, causing sexual excitement.”
He suggests a light sprinkling of “a perfume you both like” on the skin as you emerge from the bath. If you haven’t tried it before, “it makes for a whole new kind of erotic stimulation.”
“The main thing when it comes to sex,” continues Yoneyama, “is the unexpected. The brain responds to the unexpected with increased secretions of dopamine” -- a neurotransmitter associated with pleasurable sensation.
Of the various sexual settings and positions that make up Shukan Gendai’s discussion of what constitutes the unexpected, we cite by way of example… the floating position, in the bathtub.
“I recommend bath sex,” says psychiatrist and clinic director Harufusa Higano. “A bubble bath; the water warm, not hot. Wash her all over as she lies afloat on her back, especially” -- -obvious erogenous zones aside -- “her neck, underarms and behind the knees. The areas where sweat glands are located,” he explains, “are particularly sensitive.”
There is something else about a bathroom which raises it above the bedroom in Higano’s view -- its acoustics. “Orgasmic cries resonate wonderfully,” he says. “It’s a whole new feeling, a fine stimulus to the male libido.”
What Shukan Gendai appears to means in describing its offering as “techniques beyond the grasp of the young, accessible only with the passing of time,” is that only the aging libido requires “a whole new feeling” in order to be stimulated. If necessity is the mother of invention, invention is the mother of sex the young can’t imagine, because they don’t yet need to.© Japan Today