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Retired sex workers establish their own association

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Japan’s weekly tabloid magazines are full of stories about encounters with women of the night. But how often is it that you see one about the activities of such females after they leave the business?

Shukan Asahi Geino (Dec 1) devotes four pages to accounts of the “second careers” such women have taken up. And the material appears pretty solid, since it was gleaned from women who joined the “Nihon Fuzokujoshi Sapooto Kyokai” (Japan Female Sex Workers Support Association), which was launched in June of this year. (link to Japanese web site: http://ameblo.jp/fjs0601/)

“To work in this business can be a pretty lonely existence,” said Ayano, a 10-year veteran of the trade. (Her name is a pseudonym, as are those of most others mentioned in this article.) “It’s not something that one can easily tell to friends who work at regular jobs, or people you knew from your school years. And it’s not easy to befriend co-workers either. We set up our association with the realization of the need to connect with people on the side.”

The initial activities include arranging for lectures aimed at helping the members develop new skills, as well as a forum for communications.

“By knowing what other people in the same line of work are thinking, we can expand our own world,” explains Ayano. “Likewise for second careers. We all know the day will come when we walk away from this business, and having many gals come together gives us a chance to swap notes about our future.”

Many such women have their eyes on starting up their own businesses.

“Some girls say they want to teach the skills they’ve acquired to beginners,” says Ayano. “Others learn about aroma and herbs, and take up work as relaxation therapists.”

The new association also aims to point the budding businesswomen in the direction of practical knowledge for managing money and personnel. A gentleman named Kosuke Mori, who authored a book titled “Management Techniques for No. 1 Sex Shop Managers to Get the Most from Female Workers,” gives talks to members of the new group.

“If they want to start their own business, I tell them it’s important to recognize and harness their personal strong points,” Mori tells the magazine. “But I think they should probably avoid businesses like nail salons that many women open. The conditions for success will be best if they don’t have to deal with too much competition.”

Among other trades, Mori recommends home custodial services and marriage advisers. Another business would be “rent-a-friend” services that only involve platonic activities, such as going out to dinner or watching a movie with a paying customer. One creative gal set up a Brazilian wax treatment service for men, offering delicate depilatory service below the belt.

Sometimes efforts are needed to make sure their past life has been thoroughly erased.

“Some sex shops that put their workers' photos on their web sites don’t take them down even after they quit, so there are support groups that will approach the company and ask that the operator remove the woman’s face,” says a man identified only as Mr B.

Some women flit in and out of the sex trade as their job circumstances dictate.

“In the information technology sector, worker turnovers are frequent,” says the 27-year-old Miss C. “Before I start hunting for my next job, first I’ll use up all my paid vacation time while working at a sex shop, and the money I make there lets me coast for a while hunting for the next job. That takes a lot of pressure off.”

Ms F, age 46, is a veteran sex worker and single mother who currently teaches home baking. She looks so naturally wholesome, the writer finds it hard to believe she once sold her body.

“After I finished high school I was a civil servant,” she relates. “I married a man I met at work, but he was abusive, so I divorced him and took our child. I was hard up for money, and after a while got pretty good at certain massage techniques, so the regular customers at our shop asked for me by name. As the saying goes, ‘The skills you have will support you.’”

Ms F fortunately found a new hubby and in her leisure time took up the study of bread baking in earnest.

“That kind of manual work, kneading dough, isn’t all that different from dispensing massages. Keep doing it and you get good at it,” she giggled to Asahi Geino’s reporter.

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This article offered so many opportunities for crude comments and jokes, but I passed.

Ms F fortunately found a new hubby

How much are you willing to bet that he has no idea he married a whore

-21 ( +8 / -29 )

Given that the AV and prostitution world is a world for retired idol group members I am pleased to see that they then go on to being paid company, baking bread, marriage counselors, beauticians etc. They continue to be productive members of society.

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I'll never look at my nailist the same way again.

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Sex workers???? That is illegal here. You mean AV Idols. I have seen any evidence of the existence of sex workers in Japan.

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@sensei… on the other hand, he may well know that his wife once supported herself as a 'sex-worker' to escape an abusive husband….

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There is nothing wrong with selling your body in my opinion.

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I am pleased to see that they then go on to being paid company, baking bread, marriage counselors, beauticians etc. They continue to be productive members of society.

Yes, they do, unlike their bonbon-munching housewife compatriots.

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There will always be a huge stigma attached to sex workers unfortunately which is a quite sad/hypocritical when you think it's not that rare these days to find men and women who have had hundreds of sexual partners.

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How much are you willing to bet that he has no idea he married a whore

You sound frustrated. And you might be surprised at how tolerant some other men are of their wife's past. Not all of us feel the need to marry a virgin.

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You sound frustrated.

Not at all, but that's quite logic jump from my speculation about what HE knew of HIS wife's past.

you might be surprised at how tolerant some other men are of their wife's past. Not all of us feel the need to marry a virgin.

My wife had 4 grown children from a previous marriage, and was dating somebody else when I met her, and the rest is history. So that comment is also way off base, but nice try

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Thumbs up @MsDelicious. Careful, you will raise the ire of all the holier than thou brigade. Memories of Bonney Ave.

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There is nothing wrong with selling your body in my opinion.

Ms Delicious - so if you had a daughter who went into porn or prostitution, no problem at all?

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So when a sex worker retires from sex work,do they also retire from having sex?

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Clamenz: Actually not at all. If she makes a choice and understands what goes along with her choice, I would support her 100%. You wouldn't? Would you disown your child?

She would probably become richer than both of us put together.

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Not at all, but that's quite logic jump from my speculation about what HE knew of HIS wife's past.

The logic jump was from your choice of the word "whore." It's pejorative. What do you know of these women or their situation to insult them? Maybe you didn't mean it that way, but it sounds quite hostile. Hence, my speculation about frustration.

Did you mean to insult them? Or is "whore" an affectionate term where you come from?

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Getting work after leaving the trade is not that difficult. In Kabukicho, there are alibi companies that create a resume for you, showing that you worked there as an office lady or something like that, using a famous address in west Shinjuku. Also, women (I don't know about men) in AV can "go straight" and work on national TV, like Ai Iijima. Producers love it because they know that their fans will follow them to national TV. Also, in Japan, "prostitution" involves insertion, and as long as there is no insertion, you can do anything you want, and it is not illegal.

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So when a sex worker loses their job, I guess you could say they get laid... off.

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Clamenz: Actually not at all. If she makes a choice and understands what goes along with her choice, I would support her 100%. You wouldn't? Would you disown your child?

She would probably become richer than both of us put together.

no, Ms. Delicious I wouldn't support her in that choice. I would hope to raise a daughter that had a sliver of self respect, integrity, and the moral fibre to see that whatever short term money she earned would not help the years of self-hatred that would follow. I hope to god that if you do indeed have a daughter, your previous comments are made as a joke.

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"Retired"

Hahahahaha

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no, Ms. Delicious I wouldn't support her in that choice. I would hope to raise a daughter that had a sliver of self respect, integrity, and the moral fibre to see that whatever short term money she earned would not help the years of self-hatred that would follow. I hope to god that if you do indeed have a daughter, your previous comments are made as a joke.

So, clamenza, I take it that you have never in your life looked at any form of pornography, or partook in prostitution of any form?

I would hope so, seeing how you are so judgmental of those who work in the sex trade.

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You sound frustrated. And you might be surprised at how tolerant some other men are of their wife's past. Not all of us feel the need to marry a virgin.

No man, except those immersed in VR, expects his wife to be a virgin these days. However, I suspect a great many men would baulk at the idea of marrying a former sex worker. STIs aside, you can bet your bottom dollar that most of these women are as hard as nails.

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Also, in Japan, "prostitution" involves insertion, and as long as there is no insertion, you can do anything you want, and it is not illegal.

It goes well beyond that. Or used to anyway when I was informed on the subject. Even insertion was OK, as long as it sort of "just happened," but was not the thing being paid for. It's all quite vague and subject to different whims and definitions - as are many laws in Japan.

However, I suspect a great many men would baulk at the idea of marrying a former sex worker. STIs aside, you can bet your bottom dollar that most of these women are as hard as nails.

And yet, there are many men who don't baulk at it. As far as being "hard as nails," that really depends on the woman, her exact experiences and her personal character. Many women who have unblemished records of purity can also be hard as nails.

I say this because I know a couple cases where women who were in the business have made excellent wives/mothers. Meanwhile, I also know a couple cases where women with "nice" backgrounds have been absolute nightmares.

It's undeniable that the business attracts a lot of women who already have problems - so one can't lay all the blame for personality on her porn past. But, at the same time, there are women who get into the business because of circumstance, because of poor judgement in their younger years, because they really want to make some money, or simply because they wanted to. They all have unique stories.

Not saying that you are wrong in not wanting to marry a woman with such a history. That's entirely up to each guy. And I don't disagree with sensei's assertion that many may lie about their past. I do disagree with casually calling them whores. It's not nice.

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There is nothing wrong with selling your body in my opinion. true but many women and men also hide the truth of their past from their future husbands / wives. I love my wife dearly but if she was porn or prostitute in her previous life I doubt I could start a family with her. While I could probably live with the fact I don't think our children should have to. And yes people can say they dont need to say anything and keep their past a secret, firstly starting a relationship with dishonesty isn't right and the past has an uncanny habit of coming back to haunt you when you least expect it.

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It's undeniable that the business attracts a lot of women who already have problems - so one can't lay all the blame for personality on her porn past.

I'm a husband, not a social worker. A history of sex work is such a massive red flag that you'd have to either be a fool or Kanye West to even consider going there. Furthermore, what self-respecting man could look straight into his sweetheart's eyes knowing full well that she used to #$%& !"#$ for a living?

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Actually not at all. If she makes a choice and understands what goes along with her choice, I would support her 100%. You wouldn't? Would you disown your child? so hypothetically speaking, what happens when your daughters child / your grandchild come home one day saying the kids are teasing me saying "your mommy is a whore, your the daughter of a whore, are you going to grow up and be like your mum as well" You and your family wont judge her but society probably will.

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I am struck by the ambivalence among some and the practical, 'means to an end' tone among others among people quoted in the article.

I am struck mainly in comparison with some comments above in JT.

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I'm a husband, not a social worker.

I'm not telling you that you have to accept this in your wife. I'm just correcting some assumptions you made. Even in the sex business, there is a wide range of activities, and a wide range of attitudes that women take into the biz. It's not that unusual in Asia for a man to marry a woman he initially met as some form of sex worker.

It's not right for you, and I'm not trying to change your mind. Just pointing out alternative attitudes.

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So, clamenza, I take it that you have never in your life looked at any form of pornography, or partook in prostitution of any form?

I would hope so, seeing how you are so judgmental of those who work in the sex trade.

oldman_13 - Where did I say that? I simply stated that I would hope to raise a daughter who wasn't so emotionally damaged that she would make that choice.

Some women turn to these things in desperation, yes. But the majority do it because some sort of trauma in their lives.

Can you imagine the emotional scars of Ms. Delicious's daughter when he/she says "Go on sweetie, whore yourself out to every dude who has a few hundred bucks!"

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I first became aware of prostitution in America while in college. A very nice, attractive, wholesome All-American friend became the mistress of an older man in order to pay her way through college. She later became a physical education teacher. Then I found out about the sister of a friend who became a prostitute in New York. She was smart, hard working, and thrifty. She saved her money for about ten years, moved to Germany, and married a German fellow. She was Nisei, by the way.

Another time I met a Doctor of Psychology, a very attractive mother of two, who told me that she had paid her way through college by making pornographic movies, by nude dancing, and later posing nude for Playboy.

All of the women I met who later became successful after prostitution or pornography had a few things in common; they worked for themselves, and they stayed away from drugs.

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1glenn - Come to think of it, I knew a hooker with a heart of gold who ended up dating Richard Gere and then they got married and everything was great!

Together with those 2 random, unsubstantiated internet anecdotes, I've totally changed my thinking on this.

A girl prostituting herself out is a healthy and lucrative thing that every thinking girl should try! It's all worth it if you get that cold hard cash!

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I always find these types of topic on sex workers amusing, because it tends to bring out the judgmental hypocrites who cast stone at sex workers of all forms.

When, in fact, these very same people themselves enjoyed some aspect of what the sex workers did.

The only people that can judge sex workers for what they do/did, are those people who have never looked at pornography of any form or utilized prostitutes (or even gone to strip clubs).

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I don't care how many people "thumbs-down" me, I'd bet a significant amount of money that he doesn't know her "profession". But I understand. Even whores don't want to be called whores

The only people that can judge sex workers for what they do/did, are those people who have never looked at pornography of any form or utilized prostitutes (or even gone to strip clubs).

Guilty, go straight to jail, do not pass go, do not collect $200. That's why there's no "judging" in my posts.

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The view that those who judge prostitution and/or pornography negatively despite consuming it are hypocrites is, in my mind at least, pretty twisted logic.

It's one thing to want to satiate ones own sexual appetites, this is quite natural; it's another to actively CHOOSE a job where not only do you engage in sex with just about any Tom, Dick or Harry who waves a couple of brown notes in your face, but do this knowing that you have to hide it from your child, friends and relatives. And in a country with myriad other job opportunities, like Japan, to say that they have no other choice is to be disingenuous at best.

Would you really encourage your daughter to become a prostitute? If not, then

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How much are you willing to bet that he has no idea he married a whore

My wife married a gigolo, but of course it's best to keep everything quiet.

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Most men willing to marry a fuuzoku joshi either

A) Knew her while she was in the industry and through his marriage with her, allowed her to get out of the industry

B) Are in the industry themselves OR just do not have any social hangups about it

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Gotta love the girls at the hostess bars! No matter how much of a loser you are, the chains keep them right there on the sofa!

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To me sex workers are a necessary evil in society where men can have a go instead of becoming a rapist you have these women willing to sleep with men who no woman would ever touch the only thing you can do is regulate it so they can be protected from real monsters like pimps and rapists in my country sex workers are protected by worker laws and have a union better to get the criminal element out of it for better oversight for the girls.

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However these women ended up in their situation it's fairly certain that it wasn't by choice for the majority of them. People are sensitive over the word "whore" and the negative meaning associated with it. Well, sex workers realize that what they are doing isn't a well respected occupation.

“To work in this business can be a pretty lonely existence,” said Ayano, a 10-year veteran of the trade. ..... It’s not something that one can easily tell to friends who work at regular jobs, or people you knew from your school years."

They may not like the word but they know it describes the choice they made. This is a good story to read as it shows that it's not something that they always do and that circumstances change. For someone trapped in the sex trade it's a potential avenue out.

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less probably they really leave the industry,the biggest change is to become a marriage adviser I think.

really hard to change into new life.I wonder their marriage,I can accept to marry a man from sex industry,but still mysterious,right?

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