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7 unfortunate Tinder dates and a happy ending in Tokyo

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By Victoria Vlisides

A week after I first arrived in Japan in 2014, my all-American punk rock boyfriend broke up with me. Surprised? Maybe. But, oh well, it was time for a rebound. At that time, I was living in the countryside and had no idea of the best way to find guys in an attempt to move on. Unless I wanted to date in the small pool of assistant language teachers in my area (not much of a choice — all great guys weren’t interested in women), how else could I meet some boys?

You knew it was coming: Yes, I joined Tinder in its heyday when “swipe right” and “swipe left” were acceptable ways to communicate if you were planning to bang it out or not. Oops! I said it (again), but if you know the Japan dating scene, you know there’s no time to be coy about it because it’s gonna get rocky.

Knowing nothing, I decided to try Tinder and see what happened. The subtext of these eight dates is that my experience highlights just how different Japanese guys are — like any other group of people — and really shouldn’t be stereotyped as one kind of guy. Rest assured that none of the events have been modified or changed for dramatic effect. Laugh, cry or hate-read, it’s your choice.

1. The aggressive boy

This is how I learned where Saitama was because I am pretty sure people are only traveling there for booty calls but, for the record, I never did. As we started chatting, it became clear he was not stereotypical and got super “direct,” the opposite of what people tell you about “Japanese guys.”

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Does this woman want a medal? She writes as if she wants sympathy for her tinder dates that went south. She chose to swipe right and meet them.

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She writes as if she wants sympathy for her tinder dates that went south.

I just read the article (which I enjoyed). I didn't see anything that sounded like her asking for sympathy. Were you reading a different article?

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Tinder is ruined. It used to be totally free, full of like minded people wanting to hook up (i.e. what it was designed to do). Now it's not totally free, and people who parrot 'no hook up' in their profiles and miss the point of what tinder is for ( like the authoress of this article )

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Tinder is ruined. It used to be totally free, full of like minded people wanting to hook up (i.e. what it was designed to do). Now it's not totally free, and people who parrot 'no hook up' in their profiles and miss the point of what tinder is for ( like the authoress of this article )

How exactly is it decided 'what Tinder is for', and who makes that decision? And if that's what it's for, and people are using it improperly, why can they not be banned?

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I have never used Tinder as i'm happily married but have listened with interest to my mates experiences and met a few of their 'candidates'. I did use Metropolis Mag Confidential's a few times when I was free and single just for the fun of it, so I enjoyed reading about the different characters the author met. I'm pleased it worked out for her!

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To anyone who doesn't know, Tinder is an app to find a sexual partner fast. If you are really lucky you may end up in a relationship.

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Fail to understand why people need Tinder in Japan especially Western men - Japanese women in the Nagoya and Kyushu regions come up to you on the street, supermarkets, train stations coffee shops. Ditch the apps and get talking to real people.

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@ Andrew. Wow, you must be one handsome devil. Ive lived in Nagoya for quite some time and Ive almost never had anyone come up to me anywhere ever, let alone Japanese women. And im a decent looking guy in my 30's.

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I have found Japanese women very open to being approached, but very rarely been approached.

I guess I just don't have that ruggedness of Andrew Crisp....'s avatar.

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Andrew Crisp: because Tinder removes the hurdle of finding an easy lay. Yes you can talk to woman on the street and perhaps talk her into the bedroom but obviously at a lower percentage of luck than tinder.

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@Strangerland: in my early 20's in Oita I got more than a few smiles and approaches that led to something; however, as Father Age has beat the hell out of me,,, nothing recently except scowls, snubs and elbows to the kidney on the Tokyo metro.

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Handsome white devil or not, once you lose those youthful looks you will have to work a lot harder to score in Japan.

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