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A week after I first arrived in Japan in 2014, my all-American punk rock boyfriend broke up with me. Surprised? Maybe. But, oh well, it was time for a rebound. At that time, I was living in the countryside and had no idea of the best way to find guys in an attempt to move on. Unless I wanted to date in the small pool of assistant language teachers in my area (not much of a choice — all great guys weren’t interested in women), how else could I meet some boys?
You knew it was coming: Yes, I joined Tinder in its heyday when “swipe right” and “swipe left” were acceptable ways to communicate if you were planning to bang it out or not. Oops! I said it (again), but if you know the Japan dating scene, you know there’s no time to be coy about it because it’s gonna get rocky.
Knowing nothing, I decided to try Tinder and see what happened. The subtext of these eight dates is that my experience highlights just how different Japanese guys are — like any other group of people — and really shouldn’t be stereotyped as one kind of guy. Rest assured that none of the events have been modified or changed for dramatic effect. Laugh, cry or hate-read, it’s your choice.
1. The aggressive boy
This is how I learned where Saitama was because I am pretty sure people are only traveling there for booty calls but, for the record, I never did. As we started chatting, it became clear he was not stereotypical and got super “direct,” the opposite of what people tell you about “Japanese guys.”
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Kinky May
This flirting app you can simply snap and share your photos to start your kinky communication and you also can search others photos in the social dating pool. Whether you are single, married, divorced or just want to meet new and kinky people, KinkDr is the choice.
Civitas Sine Suffragio
Handsome white devil or not, once you lose those youthful looks you will have to work a lot harder to score in Japan.
papigiulio
Andrew Crisp: because Tinder removes the hurdle of finding an easy lay. Yes you can talk to woman on the street and perhaps talk her into the bedroom but obviously at a lower percentage of luck than tinder.
Strangerland
I have found Japanese women very open to being approached, but very rarely been approached.
I guess I just don't have that ruggedness of Andrew Crisp....'s avatar.
fa477279
@ Andrew. Wow, you must be one handsome devil. Ive lived in Nagoya for quite some time and Ive almost never had anyone come up to me anywhere ever, let alone Japanese women. And im a decent looking guy in my 30's.
Andrew Crisp
Fail to understand why people need Tinder in Japan especially Western men - Japanese women in the Nagoya and Kyushu regions come up to you on the street, supermarkets, train stations coffee shops. Ditch the apps and get talking to real people.
Strangerland
How exactly is it decided 'what Tinder is for', and who makes that decision? And if that's what it's for, and people are using it improperly, why can they not be banned?
factchecker
Tinder is ruined. It used to be totally free, full of like minded people wanting to hook up (i.e. what it was designed to do). Now it's not totally free, and people who parrot 'no hook up' in their profiles and miss the point of what tinder is for ( like the authoress of this article )
Strangerland
I just read the article (which I enjoyed). I didn't see anything that sounded like her asking for sympathy. Were you reading a different article?
Vince Black
Does this woman want a medal? She writes as if she wants sympathy for her tinder dates that went south. She chose to swipe right and meet them.