8 types of men you’ll meet on dating apps in Japan

So it may have been a while since your last date in Japan and you’re looking for something new. The guy from Tsutaya isn’t your cup of tea and you’re now moving on — to the world of dating apps in Japan. While this is a world on its own and yes, there are chances you may find your ideal man out there, there are a few species you should rather trade for the elderly lady next door. So, who are the black sheep behind your screen?

Here’s my list (based on some careful and very dedicated “field” research…) of the eight types of men you’ll meet in Japan on dating platforms.

1. Decent Guys Looking For A Relationship

Okay, they do actually exist. Let’s get this part out of the way before anyone says anything about “not all men.” Keep hoping: there are decent Japanese guys that use online dating. Some are simply too busy to go out in real life, some are quite shy about approaching women in public, some aren’t confident in their ability to speak English enough to make a Western woman happy… the list of issues they might have had meeting women in the past can be extensive. They are hard to find, and you need patience to sift through the rest of this list in order to find them, but you might find someone particularly special if you keep at it long enough.

2. Serial Online Daters

Generic profiles, standard headshots and waist-up photos, and brief and perfunctory messages are the hallmarks of multi-site users. Yes, there are men who think that one isn’t enough, and for whatever reason, they are on multiple sites, meeting and chatting with numerous women daily. They seem to think that “multitasking” will make it easier to meet their “perfect wife,” although none of them seem willing to quit the sites once they’ve met someone.

Several of the men I spoke to were appalled at the thought of a woman wanting to shop around for a man to meet her own standards, and many were all too willing to “mansplain” my own life to me, so this is a category I would probably warn against dating — unless you’re a fan of arguing.

3. Quarter Men

Online dating means you’ll inevitably meet these types of men — the ones looking for a short-term, sex-based relationship without serious emotional complications. Quarter men are the guys that want a girlfriend only to date for a fixed period of three months — or one quarter hence the name — then it’s goodbye. Summer flings and dating only during the eventful period from Christmas through Valentine’s Day fall into this category — lovely for three months but gone as soon as the weather changes. Ever heard of セフレ (sefure; “sex friend”)? This is what they’re hunting for. Sites and apps like Tinder are their stomping grounds, but if you know what to look out for, you can avoid them.

4. Drinking Buddies

This is the second-best result of online dating that I’ve found, male drinking buddies. You can learn a lot about Japanese culture and many other topics by having friends of both genders here. These men aren’t expressly looking for a relationship and are generally entertaining to spend time with. Getting acquainted with a man like this can lead to a fun evening of conversation, a great friendship or even a relationship.

5. Language Exchange Partners

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