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We all try to make good impressions when we have people over, don’t we? Especially when it’s a special someone. Well, if the person you’re inviting over is a Japanese man, there are some things ladies should beware of, according to Yahoo! Japan.
Apparently, Japanese men (and perhaps it’s not just Japanese men) sometimes harbor “illusions” about what girls’ rooms are like — you know, always smelling sweet, with maybe lots of pink and lace and fluff. Well, sorry to have to break it to you guys, but these are “illusions” that exist mainly in movies or glossy magazines.
Putting male hypocrisy aside, I think we ladies can agree that no one has their room in picture-perfect condition all the time. But just to make sure you don’t plunge your male visitors into shock, the writers at Yahoo! Japan offer the following advice on 9 items that Japanese men say they definitely don’t want to see in a girl’s room.
The items are based on a poll taken of the site’s male readers. Here are the results:
■ 9 Items That Shock Male Visitors to a Female’s Room
- Hair removing products such as a nose hair cutter or an open bottle of hair removal cream
Men may wonder if you’re really hairy, or even feel guilty like they saw something they shouldn’t have. Okay, so these products should be kept out of sight. (But guys, do keep in mind that women use these items mainly in an effort to make themselves more attractive to men.)
- Partially eaten or spoiled foods and unwashed dishes
This one’s not surprising, it’s just a matter of keeping your room in a decent condition and not turning it into a pigsty. You could be immaculately groomed when you go out, but being seen as a slob at home could understandably be a big turn off.
- Photo books or life-size posters of idols
One male reader commented that such items make him feel uncomfortable, as if there’s another guy in the room watching. The article recommends that ladies reduce the number of “idol-related” goods on display in their room. Maybe once you get to know your male friend better, you can gradually increase the number of items showing your preference.
- Large-size bottles of sake and snacks
These may unfortunately be taken as signs of being a little too fond of drinking (and could be perceived as somewhat unlady-like in Japan), especially if your male friend himself is not too fond of alcohol. In such a case, the article suggests you could maybe mention that you had some friends over for a home party so it doesn’t look like you spend a good deal of your time at home consuming large amounts of alcohol and snacks.
- Different types of diet pills/tablets that supposedly offer easy weight loss
Based on the poll, it seems some Japanese men may think such products indicate a girl’s desire to lose weight the easy way by simply taking some pills, which may make her look like a bit of a slacker in his eyes. And it could be a double whammy if you have not just one but several different types of diet pills in your room, as men may take that as evidence of your inability to stick with one diet regimen or product. Maybe some weights or other exercise equipment that shows you’re putting in effort would leave a better impression.
- A hand written over-the-top motivational message put up on the wall
It’s common for Japanese people to hang scrolls up on the wall, typically with Japanese calligraphy on them, but when it’s a scroll with an overenthusiastic motivational message like “Reach for your dream!” (or sometimes it may be even a hand written message on a piece of poster paper), men may find it off-putting. Such messages are typical in the world of sports in Japan, but for non-athletes, the drive and enthusiasm can be a bit too much, so you may want to consider taking them down before you have special visitors.
- Hand-made cosplay costumes
“What, she’s an otaku?” may be the surprised reaction of some Japanese men if they find such costumes in a girl’s room. Although it’s common enough in Japan for grown men and women to have a favorite manga or anime, few people go as far as creating original cosplay costumes, after all. If you’re into collecting manga or anime realted products, it may be wise to let your male friend know beforehand to avoid giving him an unexpected surprise.
- Used (and well-worn) fake eyelashes
Ick, this is just plain creepy for both male and female friends visiting your room. One unfortunate male reader commented that he had the experience of being absolutely terrified by pieces of fake eyelashes that at first looked like some kind of hairy insect. Okay, so you should probably put your fake eyelashes away when you have visitors not just because it’s really not pleasant to look at, but also to avoid giving someone a heart attack.
- Men’s clothing belonging to an unknown owner
Needless to say, having men’s clothing lying around where it can be seen when you’re having someone special over is just stupid. Even if there’s a perfectly harmless reason for the men’s clothing (and even more so if the reason is not so harmless), you should be careful to remove men’s clothing and other items from your room before inviting a male friend.
So, that’s what Japanese men have to say about what they would prefer not to see in a woman’s room. While some of it does sound a bit unfair to women (what, women aren’t supposed to drink lots of sake?), it does give you an idea of what Japanese men want in reality. I guess much of it comes down to basic common sense, but I do sympathize with the man who was given a scare by fake eyelashes.
Regardless of what you may have or not have in your room, we hope everyone has a good time inviting and being invited by friends. Just remember to keep all your skeletons locked and hidden away in your closets.
Source: netallica (Japanese)
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Nessie
vctokyo
SimondB
Add: a box of condoms with some missing.
Speed
DentShop
Aint nothing to worry about. Just dont be making eye-contact with the dude
combinibento
This might have been to write, but let's face it: If you're interested enough to take up a girl's invitation to her room, the only dealbreaker at that point is the presence of another guy in her room. Otherwise, I'm pretty sure most dudes would turn a blind eye to the 9 items mentioned above.
davestrousers
At least that would suggest she's using jimmies. Better that than finding some antibiotics for her latest gonorrhea infection.
Ironic.. sounds like many of us would meet a girl hoping to get back to her place, and then once we get there hope we don't see any signs that she's that kind of girl.
Yubaru
Nothing off topic here! No wonder there is a Lolita complex in Japan when media refer to women as girls and think it's fine that men visit them there.
JT should be ashamed of itself for promoting the image too!
Sue Jones
@Victoria- exactly. Men/women, Boys/girls. If someone uses "men" they should use "women". Men shouldn't be in a girl's bedroom in the first place.
Dennis Bauer
some of these things are just stupid.
i would worry if you step into a dominatrix lair!
mrkobayashi
One thing I don't want to see is clumps of hair on the floor.
himawari
I can see the reasoning behind most of these to an extent, but... a motivational message? Too much "drive and enthusiasm"? I think a lot of people could use more of that. Pretty ridiculous.
Okinawamike
Aint nothing to worry about. Just dont be making eye-contact with the dude
Or cross swords.
Funnybonesup
I hate it when you call on a nice girl and her room looks sweet and tidy, clean and well decorated....although you wonder briefly as to why she has a fireman's pole in the corner and fur cuffs on the bed posts........later, you fall off the bed and notice her web cam is on and there are 84527584 viewers online......and there are requests. I hate that.
cubic
Zen student
Um, to tell the truth, the only one from the list that would SERIOUSLY bothe me is #9. #1 and #2 while unpleasant are nothing to get upset about. IF she's using a hair removal product to make herself look attractive, then I say good on her! #2 would totally depend on the degree of the mess.
Large bottles of sake are not a problem. Even better if she's willing to share! Motivational messages - if it helps her get through the day, then why not? (I think everyone should have their own motivational message)
lucabrasi
@Ewan
But if there's no television, what are you going to do when you've done the deed. Talk to her???
cubic
Are you Gareth from The Office?
DentShop
fannybatter
Spanki
SenseNotSoCommon
errant apostrophe's
nath
A pregnancy kit? Opened or not doesn't really matter.
maninjapan79
photos from 'her'all boys high school days....
luilui
sorry, but i found this article quite funny :-)
"reach your dream!" message on the wall? do people do that?
"..being terrified by pieces of fake eyelashes that at first look like some hairy insect" - too funny!
lucabrasi
That would depend on your performance, my friend ; )
smithinjapan
Another ludicrous list. The only one that should possibly matter to anyone is the last one -- finding another man's clothing in the room. But if it's your first visit to a woman's room, I would assume you're not far into dating, and therefore it's really while you can walk away if you choose, you really can't judge. I think a better list of things that would shock a man walking into a woman's room are:
Another man in the bed.
Used condoms strewn here and there.
A vase of flowers with a note: "See you again this weekend".
A calendar chalk full of smiley faces or hearts and different men's names indicating when she's had sex.
Strange stains all over the bed.
Dirty pictures with other man time-stamped the day before.
A man's razor, freshly used, in the washroom, plus all other sorts of men's toiletries.
Herpes and/or genital warts medication on the bed table.
Your name marked on some note pad with, "Not as good as (man's name)".But again, this is not limited to men walking into a woman's room, per se, and could easily go the other way as well. If a guy is uptight when he sees a box of tampons under the sink, or some dirty dishes or hair removal products, he's in denial. Does he think a woman's poop doesn't stink as well? Anyone who expects so much of a woman doesn't deserve to have one, or at least not for long, and would most certainly be in for a shocker after marriage and moving in together (if they didn't before).
cubic
Fadamor
It's not hypoctical at all. It's the ideal woman for a man: a wanton minx in the bedroom and the perfect cook in the kitchen. Of course, the reason it IS the ideal woman is your odds of finding one are... (takes off shoes to count toes as well as fingers) MORE than 20:1.
nath
The cos play costume would get me excited and I would tell her to put it on so I could do her right then on the bed. Otherwise, a girl can have anything she wants in her room and whether it puts of the guy or not doesn't matter. If it puts him off then better not to have him. No need to hide anything since one is just hiding themself and creating a fantasy just like cos play is a fantasy.
Moderator
Back on topic please.
cubic
Ayesha
Mother is the last thing you need. And especially a randy mother...
y3chome
any evidence of idol/celebrity worship is a big turn off, and shows a low level of mental maturity. Liking an actor/actress in one thing, having their paraphenelia everywhere is quite another.
megosaa
my picture with the eyes cut out?
Alex Einz
donno 4 & 7 are definitely a plus here..... food and used rubber would be a definite no though
Frungy
If it's a "sexy nurse" cosplay outfit I don't think most men would object....
In fact I'd be really impressed that she could sew and had an artistic streak. I can't sew very well (reattaching buttons is about my limit) and my artistic ability is zero. I admire these things in others.
Alex Einz
@T_rexmaxytime really.. you dont want your girl to have sex toys ?
Daijoboots
And here it is baby! (whips out a Loto6 ticket)
Thunderbird2
Apart from #9 none of those would bother me to be honest.
HonestDictator
2 and 4 = slob or lush to me so I'd leave. 8 = shock, but wouldn't kill me... 9 = I'm outta here!
The rest of this list wouldn't bother me too much, and I'd be interested in 7 since she obviously has a hobby that will keep her busy while I do a gaming session xD... Unless she starts making costumes for me too shudders
Neo_Rio
You said "A used condom"
Survey says:..... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0A8sI6c_daE
lucabrasi
@cubic
Ouch! Brilliant put-down.
Bartholomew Harte
No Worries there lads,I'm not there to do any interior decorating,nor get on bended knee!B.T.W. I prefer to use the Correct description as to dates ,to wit Young Ladies & Not girls.
David43515
Used condoms. Dildoes signs another guy"s been by recently
Zen student
And Nessie - Yes! Totally agree with you. The elusive #10 - Mother - is the real elephant in the room/house.
T-Mack
Picture's of her X-boyfriend. Mother comes in and put's the girl's laundry away, and hands you a box of condom's.
Eric Schneider
kids?
daviddd1212
I would rather find a guy since I am gay!
basroil
I'm with the others on this, personal products are fine, and costumes might spice up the night, but used rubber or other signs she's a bit loose are definitely signs to run.
Mens clothing it iffy though, i know a few girls that don't mind using mens boxers as sleeping shorts, since they tend to be much cheaper than ones made for girls.
TokyoGas
Box of a dozen jimmies with 11 missing.
The_RP
Too many hypocrites here. Gents want Sora Aoi and Asa Akira in bed, but want Aoi Sakuraba on their arm. Good luck.
FightingViking
I agree with Yubaru.
Aizo Yurei
I think most are up for debate. The only one that is truly offensive which goes both ways is old food or dirty dishes. That's just bad health. Doesn't matter if guy or girl.
I definitely hate small dogs. I REALLY hate houses that smell like pets. I can deal with almost any hobby or likes but for god sakes clean up after yourself dirty human.
I think it goes without saying that you don't want to see any evidence of past or current conquests.
Elbuda Mexicano
Own Cos Play costume?? Oh my god!!
Ewan Huzarmy
Why the thumbs down for a television ? I find girls who don't constantly sit clued to the inane crap that spews forth from the idiot box a turn on. They seem more intune with the real world, have their own opinion etc.
Ewan Huzarmy
"glued to"
RowanM
These are Japanese men we're talking about. Of course they could use more of it. Equally true is that they often find it intimidating.
And I'm shocked that no one has mentioned other feminine products. I wouldn't ever want any reminder that women have periods when I go for the night.
Ewan Huzarmy
@Lucabrasi
"But if there's no television, what are you going to do when you've done the deed. Talk to her???"
If I had done the deed I'd at least be on talking terms with her, don't you think ?
Dennis Bauer
a love pillow of korean male stars
cubic
The comments here are out of control - brilliant work people.
Vast Right-Wing Conspirator
A pampered lap dog wearing ribbons and perfume.
A vast array of "Hello Kitty" goods, from stuffed toys to bedsheets. How can you do the nasty on top of a big Kitty face...
Shapeless "obasan panties" over the back of the chair. Those are just plain wrong.
"Bald spots" on the carpet from, ahem, 'overuse'.That's about all for me.
iceshoecream
A bunch fallen hair on the shower's drainer.
Number 7. So you make your own cosplay costumes? Yes! Things are about to get freaky.
TrevorPeace1
A dog
T_rexmaxytime
sexual toys, how to books on psychology: eg how to control your man, dirty room, room with nothing and etc
Ewan Huzarmy
A television.