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A Japanese woman’s guide for getting a date

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By Karen Masuda

What kind of person are you attracted to? Good looking and intelligent may be at the top of many people’s list of attractive attributes, but not all of us are blessed with an abundance of physical beauty and/or high intelligence.

Self-sufficiency and outspokenness would normally be good characteristics to have but are also widely overlooked by the male species when searching for a female to spend time with. "Ah she doesn’t need me," would be a likely initial reaction. This could be one of the great universal truths: cultural boundaries disappear in the need for us to be needed.

Alright, so something has to be done and since it takes time for someone to find your "inner beauty," you may want to try these sure-fire tactics, courtesy of our female Japanese editorial staff, for getting someone you’re interested in to be interested in you. Ladies, arm yourselves!

1. Play Tech-Dumb

Take an antiquated cell phone with you the next time you go drinking with friends. Approach the man you have your eye on and strike up a conversation during which you intentionally take out the antiquated cell phone and start fiddling with it. The moment for your Academy Award performance is at hand:

“Ohhhhh this cell phone!” Moan lightly. Ooze with helpless and gentle frustration.

When he says, “What’s the matter?” you’ve got him hooked.

Continue with your performance. “I don’t know much about cell phones. Had this one for ages! It’s really difficult to use.” Simper a bit over this.

Most likely your guy has the most recent edition of his favorite smartphone and is itching to show off his knowledge of it. He’ll say, “Why don’t you get a new one?” (If this guy isn’t perceptive enough to say anything, then it is OK to ignore him and move on).

Act like the thought of dealing with a new cell phone is truly baffling and just the thought of it leaves you speechless. “Well I … I, I …” Brighten up with, “The latest iPhone 5 is really popular, isn’t it? How is it? I really want a new phone but...” go back to being baffled.

“It’s a 4s, the iPhone 5 isn’t out yet. What kind of phone do you want?”

He is all yours. You need him to help you find a good cell phone. On your next day off, you can plan a date in search of the perfect cell phone. You may even be able to get him to buy it for you.

2. Bubble Over With Enthusiasm

Be theatrical; he’ll love it. At any gathering of mixed company, guys like to brag, giving orations on their latest endeavors. Perk up your ears for the guy you like, inserting your “wows” and “Oh really?” in a timely fashion. An ”I didn’t know that!” will also make him feel good enough to elaborate. “You’re kidding! What's that supposed to mean?” Let him know you want to know more, adding in a sing-songy tone: “I’d love to hear about it!” The excitement in your voice is evident and he will gain much satisfaction from all your enthusiasm. You will be a pro in no time with enough practice.

3. Bump Up the Cute Level

Here we run into the cultural aspects of what is attractive in a woman. Repeating what your guy said, like you are saving it for posterity, then putting your finger to your head and moving it in a circular fashion might be a good idea. When asked “what are you doing?” reply: “Saving it on my hard drive.” Your guy might think that was the cutest thing. It will make you look daft, which is a good thing. Your guy can feel superior without any guilt because you are just so darned cute.

4. The Omuraisu Trick

When you’re at a restaurant together make sure he knows you cannot eat omuraisu. Omuraisu is a Japanese dish of rice topped with an omelette and can be found on the menu in any family restaurant and many coffee shops throughout Japan. For those of you outside of Japan, any egg-based dish like a normal omelette should work fine.

When seated, make sure you are seated next to your guy so that you can share a menu. Find the picture of omuraisu, gaze at it with consternation and exclaim sadly: “I absolutely can’t eat omuraisu.”

There is almost 100% chance that your guy will respond with, ”Why not? You don’t like omuraisu?”

Be silent for a few seconds for dramatic effect and continue. “I… well (take a deep breath). Every time an egg is cracked open, those cute little chickees die…they’re killed! Those cute little baby chicks. I can’t bear to think about it. They’ll never get a chance to be born, to hop around and chirp those cute little chirps." It is good to shiver at this point.

Your guy will gaze at you in amazement. What a kind, sensitive angelic person you are. Next he will be feeling the need to spend the time to really get to know you. He’s yours. Plans for a date are in the bag.

When you start going out with him, no doubt you will find yourselves at a similar restaurant where you can order omuraisu. You’ve got to know each other well enough, but of course he is going to ask “Didn’t you say you couldn’t eat omuraisu?”

It is safe enough to blow it off with a “I’m OK with it now,” or “Oh, I got used to it,” or even a “Did I say that?"

Original Author: Lady Ebiosu

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If any woman I am with says "Every time an egg is cracked open, those cute little chickees die…they’re killed! Those cute little baby chicks. I can’t bear to think about it. They’ll never get a chance to be born, to hop around and chirp those cute little chirps" I'll run a mile! In fact I would only have been seated next to her by accident because If I had met her before I would have known she was a lunatic.

43 ( +42 / -2 )

This is a begginers guide of how to raise your airhead credentials.

Act stupid. Can't operate a cell phone. Oh wow! What an attractive woman!

Be school girlish in the presnce of men. Really should drag in the more intteligent males don't you think?

Act cute, which is a combination of 1 & 2.

Decend into vomit inducing baby behaviour with the knowledge that should you ever find some fool to marry you that you will never be able to eat any egg products again.

Honestly, this has to be the worse ever advice given to a woman who wants a date. At best they can expect to hook up with someone as shallow and dimwitted as they are portraying.

46 ( +44 / -1 )

Hey women how about being natural and stop acting, it is fake and childish.

33 ( +33 / -1 )

I've noticed you around. I find you very attractive. Will you go to bed with me?

35 ( +36 / -1 )

Whoever wrote this doesn't even have the first clue of what dating is, in fact, I think it can possibly do the opposite and slim your chances in the dating department, I mean, seriously. After you read this article the 3rd time, you actually see how badly it was written. This article was tedious to even finish it.

17 ( +19 / -2 )

Hahaha, any girls actually done these to youz here?

4 ( +4 / -0 )

gem-nama (ca$h) baby, that is the key

0 ( +1 / -1 )

Actually this may be the Japanese woman's guide to pick up herbivorous men. I can see them falling for such tricks.

12 ( +13 / -1 )

You may even be able to get him to buy it for you.

So, the real motive is just to rope the guy into buying the woman stuff. Essentially the woman is using the man as a utility. Lets hope women remember that when they complain about men using women solely for sex.

14 ( +14 / -0 )

From their "female editorial staff"? I would think they must all be single and boyfriend-less! What ridiculous ideas (and No.3 is particularly cringe-worthy).

16 ( +18 / -2 )

I thought it was funny. And while it's an exaggeration many if not most Japanese girls act like that all the time around men who aren't their fathers, brothers, or husbands.

Bost men could live with a girl who is cute, doesn't argue and listens what's important to a man rather than a battleaxe who argues with every point, doesn't listen to him and tells him he's baka.

But here's a great irony. a guy could do similar in Japan and get the next date too.

Acting cute, needing help, sounding sensitive, listening to every word of a woman's talk and sounding impressed? Works both ways.

11 ( +11 / -0 )

What a load of baloney!!

3 ( +4 / -1 )

So if you can't find a boyfriend through being you ... just go out and trick someone into liking you! Yep, men love to be deceived and tricked. Then when they find out what the woman is really like, I wonder how long the relationship will last?

12 ( +12 / -0 )

Bump Up the Cute Level

No, God, no, no, no!!!!

Greek guy's advice for non attractive girls (Japanese and non Japanese) that want to get a date: Just act normally. Believe me, no serious man would want you just because you can't use a cellphone or because you make cute facial expressions - or because you yell "kawaiiii~" every time you see something even remotely cute. Just be yourself. You don't want to create a fake impression of yourself and then have to pretend you are someone else, do you?

Advice for attractive girls that want to get a date with any guy: Just show your body! The more skin you show, the better chances to attract guys.

Advice for attractive girls that want to get a date with a serious guy: Follow advice 1 and 2 combined.

10 ( +10 / -0 )

this is how NOT to get a date no? Or how not to get a second date

4 ( +4 / -0 )

any girl who behaves like that wont be respected, will be evaluated purely by physical merit only (thee is not a lot else present) and chucked to the kerb promtply

4 ( +4 / -0 )

The OMURAISU!! This is what I FELL FOR!! Damn these cho kawaii nihonjin babes! Just like a wolf in sheep’s clothing!! How could I have ever fallen for the oldest trick in the Japanese book on dating!!! I am so ashamed!

10 ( +15 / -5 )

well ... I suppose there is no way to recapture the time I wasted reading this article so I will add this comment.

These all seem like interesting tricks but I may suggest starting with, "Hi my name is ___ ." and from there be yourself. If your potential date is uninterested you saved yourself some time, on the other hand if your new aquaintance is indeed interested then they are attracted to "the real you" and you have set a good foundation for whatever the future may hold.

6 ( +7 / -1 )

She: Man this old phone stinks! Me: Yeah mine is crapper then the one you got!

She: acting all hyper and pointing her finger. Me: You on medication?

She: I don't eat Omuraisu. Me: Yeah me neither.

9 ( +9 / -0 )

Sweet Jesus, can this advice actually work on some men?

No wonder I'm single (and happy to stay so, if these are the games people like a gal to play).

5 ( +6 / -1 )

A man wants a cheerleader.

1 ( +2 / -1 )

So if you can't find a boyfriend through being you ... just go out and trick someone into liking you! Yep, men love to be deceived and tricked.

Hey, so long as the date is for the sack, then it's all good, ha!

3 ( +3 / -0 )

is it April 1st?, my satire-ometer is going off like crazy. This is a vintage "The Onion" like piece.

7 ( +7 / -0 )

no. 1 isn't bad. A similar technique is acting like you don't know the rules of sports, but act really interested. The last piece of advice is pure crap. Don't do it, ladies. Here is some practical advice : pretend like you can read palms and take his hand. Men like body contact. Say it's my first time to ... or I've never ... like, I've never met someone so witty / knowledgeable about ... or whatever. Guys like that too. But the best thing you can do is smile!

4 ( +4 / -0 )

I much prefer intelligent women. Oddly enough, some of them are just as "feminine" as the "dumb" ones. In fact, I think most women are way more intelligent than they let on.

9 ( +9 / -0 )

As for being yourself, I think we all consciously or unconciously turn on the charm in front of people we are interested in. If you don't, they may think you're not interested in them or only consider them as a potential friend.

3 ( +3 / -0 )

if you actually decide to date someone hitting on you that low level, you in for a world of pain... run away at any of the above signs I say

5 ( +5 / -0 )

This is terrible advice that will only get a girl the kind of guy who thinks "wow, what an idiot. She's an easy target, I can have a few nights of fun with her!". Which...probally isnt what most ladies want.

6 ( +6 / -0 )

How old were the ladies who came up with this rubbish? I would guess around 13~14 with no real life experience..

STOP ACTING and being FAKE. Just act normal and be yourself...

4 ( +6 / -2 )

So who wants to date the kind of fool who is attracted to airhead bimbos?

Pass.

9 ( +12 / -3 )

It had to be written by a woman....oh wait, it is!!

Women need to stop advising women on what men want! Ask a man!!

16 ( +17 / -1 )

The dating scene in western cultures is very different to Japan, so it is easy to see why everyone immediately criticizes this article. In many western cultures, women dont have to do anything to indicate attraction (if the girl doesnt pepper spray/slap you when you say hello, you might have chance!); guys will try regardless.

Many guys here in Japan are just too timid to chase after a girl; so they need to do more to get the guy's attention away from their PSP/Nintendo DS. Of course i think the tactics are cheesy and pathetic, but if thats what they have to do.... I see it as more of a social commentary to say "look at what they have to resort to, in order to get the attention of guys"

5 ( +7 / -2 )

One doesn't need to go very far to see why dating is dying in Japan.

3 ( +3 / -0 )

Nice call bassfunk.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

"go back to being baffled

Simper a bit

It will make you look daft, which is a good thing. Your guy can feel superior

Dear sweet weeping Jesus. I don't know which is the more conducive to despair, that people are so clueless that they will follow this advice, or that J-blokes are so utterly clueless they need women to feign idiocy in order to make a move.

10 ( +12 / -2 )

As I started reading this I thought it was an over the top bit of sillyness like that blurb about the 7 questions Japanese alway ask............... but I am not sure, this is just too daft & tryingto be serious to know for sure LOL!

Anyway seems like it shud be super easy to get a date these days, most of the J-guys it seems might as well get fixed & call it a day LOL!

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Another reason that contributes to Japan's continual backward evolution... Is there any aspect of life in Japan that is getting better?

0 ( +4 / -4 )

hahahahahahahahahahahaha and good bye

3 ( +5 / -2 )

originalusernameAug. 28, 2012 - 10:49AM JST The dating scene in western cultures is very different to Japan, so it is easy to see why everyone immediately criticizes this article. In many western cultures, women dont have to do anything to indicate attraction

Actually no, it isn't. I've seen this same sort of advice for Western women, and it basically boils down to, "Act dumb and make him feel clever". I may be aberrant, but what I want in a relationship (as opposed to a one-night stand) is someone I can talk to, who shares my interests and who will, on occassion and when it is merited, put me back in my place (but resorting to tears and throwing stuff... well, maybe throwing stuff a bit... as long as her aim isn't too good).

My advice for J-girls looking for a date:

Ask HIM out - If you like him, if you want him, then go get him. I've seen this happen and after the guy recovers from the shock he's soooo grateful!! He doesn't have to guess if you're interested, guess where you want to go, etc.

Talk! - No pickup lines, no false cuteness, just get to know each other a bit and find out if you have any shared interests. If you get a bad feeling then you can back out. If you find yourself enjoying his company and talking naturally then he's a keeper.

Don't be afraid to get to know his friends - For two reasons, one they'll be your friends if you date, and second their opinion does count, and often relationships are made of broken depending on how the friends feel about you.

P.S. Remember that anything he pays for is for the pleasure of your company. The "giri" (obligation) on your part has already been dispatched by him having your gorgeous self accompany him on the date. Don't ever get into bed with a guy because you feel you "owe" him.

Finally, "yes" and "no" are useful words, don't mix them up. It just confuses everyone (including yourself). Say 'Yes" when you mean "Yes", say "No" when you mean "No", and don't be afraid to be assertive - which may mean actually taking him arm if you want him to do something, or slapping him if you don't want him to do something.

There you go.

12 ( +12 / -0 )

It's great reading something politically incorrect like this. It amazes me how so many people these days cannot handle different opinions and feel compelled to force others to think as they do.

0 ( +3 / -3 )

Ugh, I hate when women feel like they have to act stupid and childish to be attractive. Hint - if the guy you're dating wants you to act in such a way, he is a freaking creep.

-1 ( +2 / -3 )

“I… well (take a deep breath). Every time an egg is cracked open, those cute little chickees die…they’re killed! Those cute little baby chicks. I can’t bear to think about it. They’ll never get a chance to be born, to hop around and chirp those cute little chirps.”

oh yes, those cute little chickens that are to hatch from unfertilized eggs - the horror! No girl with in her right mind would say something this stupid...right...?....right??

Now where are the hidden cameras? this is a joke right?

3 ( +5 / -2 )

I think this advice would work fine when girls are trying to snatch your average young J salaryman / semi herbivore type who prefers a mumbling " "kawaii "idiot that makes him feel at least a little bit superior and "manly". As for us worldly gaijin guys , most of us would no doubt run in the other direction...

0 ( +2 / -2 )

after a few months of playing fakes, they get dumped because they becoming the real selves , " Wagamama"

0 ( +1 / -1 )

This "woman´s guide for getting a date" is a guide for looking like a complete idiot,. And that is supposed to be attractive? What am I missing here?

1 ( +2 / -1 )

This "woman´s guide for getting a date" is a guide for looking like a complete idiot,. And that is supposed to be attractive? What am I missing here?

What you're forgetting is that Japanese dudes love women who are imbeciles. If you were Japanese, you'd think this was a wonderful article and would post it above the office water-cooler for all women to see.

2 ( +4 / -2 )

I know quite a few American dudes who prefer Japanese "imbeciles" (though they are not really dumb) to demanding, quasi-intelligent, stuck up, overweight, slutty, foul-mouthed American "women".

2 ( +11 / -8 )

Typical RocketSnooze24-trying-to-be-funny-but-failing article.

1 ( +2 / -1 )

If "demanding, quasi-intelligent, stuck up, overweight, slutty, foul-mouthed American 'women'" are the only kinds of chicks your friends are capable of getting in America, then yes I agree the imbecile is more their level.

1 ( +5 / -4 )

Maybe it's me, but I just don't get the Japanese girl act of being stupid and immature.

Not "Tech-dumb" just plain dumb.

Fake and over-the-top.

Not cute, just stupid.

Avoid the eggs cus of the little "chickees" and wander off to a Japanese restaurant to eat alive octopus. Stupid.
-1 ( +1 / -2 )

Childlike vacuity - The New Black.

4 ( +6 / -2 )

This is one of the, no, actually I think this is THE dumbest article I've ever read.

8 ( +10 / -2 )

sexy clothing express no interest in marriage 3.flirt in a naughty way.

Not necessarily in that order...................

10 ( +10 / -0 )

Obviously tripe, but supposing it were true, it would speak worse of the man than the woman.

Every time I read something by Lady Ebiosu, a tiny bit of my soul dies.

1 ( +3 / -2 )

I'm sure some of this advice might actually work but I just have one question: was this article deliberately written to humiliate Japanese women on the eyes of foreign men?

9 ( +9 / -1 )

It is a light-hearted look at the dating game from a Japanese woman's point of view.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

SushiSake3 unfortunately,its a very true one although there are many exceptions

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Thank god I've only had relationships with ADULT Japanese women.

Bump Up the Cute Level

Here we run into the cultural aspects of what is attractive in a woman. Repeating what your guy said, like you are saving it for posterity, then putting your finger to your head and moving it in a circular fashion might be a good idea. When asked “what are you doing?” reply: “Saving it on my hard drive.” Your guy might think that was the cutest thing. It will make you look daft, which is a good thing. Your guy can feel superior without any guilt because you are just so darned cute.

You have GOT to be kidding...

4 ( +4 / -0 )

I'm sure some of this advice might actually work but I just have one question: was this article deliberately written to humiliate Japanese women on the eyes of foreign men?

I can't decide if it's more insulting to women or to the men it's supposed to work on.

As Mod said, a lighthearted article. Lighthearted tripe.

9 ( +9 / -0 )

If Japanese men are such a bunch of inadequates that women have to go through this asinine performance before any of them can summon up the will to even ask one out, how in the hell are we supposed to even pretend to respect them?

11 ( +13 / -2 )

A woman can be just as outspoken and honest as she likes. Too disagreeable though, and no one would want to be close.

But confident, outspoken, independent; I do not believe men actually care about those things directly. I do not believe men want their egos stroked. I believe what men want to know is if she is going to be submissive or dominant/stubborn in the sack, and we can't just ask. So we try to tell by other personality traits. That is all.

And that is why I don't mind the acts of submission and neediness at first, so long as she really is submissive in the sack and also getting there, if she is not leading me there.

Dating would be so simple if it were not for all this angst about sex. I never needed the angst. I wish societies would dispense with it.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

I do not believe men want their egos stroked

Everone likes a bit of ego stroking, but not necessarily by an adult pretending to be a lobotomized 12 years old.

12 ( +11 / -0 )

Wow,

Probably no need to comment. As everyone has said; must've been written by lonely pubescent virgins, or by equally lonely one-night-stand only adults.

As everyone said, even if you do get someone interested in s/t other than a round or two of sexfriending, they will likely come to find you annoying when they realize you are fake/ just different from what you tried to show at first. And, as everyone said, the kind of guy you are most likely attract will very likely annoy you soon/ eventually. Does not sound like a recipe for success!

But then I read ORiginalUserName above, and there is some truth to what he said, esp in the younger generation. So many guys are shy bambi types, maybe you really have to humor him in this kind of way to get things going...

0 ( +1 / -1 )

This is so bad, it makes me want to burn my bra in protest. And I'm a guy.

13 ( +11 / -0 )

Funny but actually I do like cute girls that don't boss me around and try to control everything in my life. In return I like taking care of my gal, romantic dinners, share house work.... I'm new age Japanese Guy.

0 ( +2 / -2 )

Suggestion 1: Owning a cell phone "for ages" and barely able to use it? I guess that would make her look dumb ......

2 ( +2 / -0 )

Funny, I just had lunch with three Japanese women of different generations. They acted cute, laughed at everything I said, cooed "eeeeeeee" with great admiration, and said how hard it is to get used to new smart phones. They also seemed not so bright, but really cute.

Unfortunately one was my wife....

16 ( +18 / -2 )

I meant "fortunately" of course.

9 ( +10 / -1 )

why is being "outspoken" a good thing?

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Ah this is why there is so many single folk in Japan...

2 ( +3 / -1 )

Girls of Kanagawa Ken: Get a DATE Here:

Zama; Iriya 1Cho'me'

Zero Four Six Four 0 Eight 1 Seven Four 9

1 ( +2 / -1 )

Most ladies play like that, until they get the social security form us with the marriage. Then eventually they turn back more natural. ...and they grab our iPhone...

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Never try the Omuraisu Trick on me. I'm very likely to point out that these are unfertilized eggs and thus would never have hatched. That's all right so far... but then I'd ruin it forever by saying that eggs are basically a chicken's menstruation.

Yes, forever alone, but I am technically correct.

5 ( +5 / -0 )

Well, I love you, kchoze - you have good sense.

4 ( +4 / -0 )

does that mean i need to act like mickey mouse before i can go on a date with a japanese woman?

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Is so funny this article that I understand that a woman that tries to demonstrate that she can stand by herself can never get a date in a geeky-macho country like Japan. The article exploits very well the japanese man weak points: geek, very proud of his gadgets and overly open to fell for a cutie... just want to know what could happen to the victim when the woman shows her real face...

0 ( +0 / -0 )

If I have to dumb down so that a man can feel superior over me then I don't want him. If you're looking for a simple minded gal then I guess this type of guy will not be intelligent enough to hold MY attention.

5 ( +6 / -1 )

I've seen this same sort of advice for Western women, and it basically boils down to, "Act dumb and make him feel clever".

Actually it reminded me a lot of Scarlett O'Hara's approach to Chatting Up a Gentleman.

Everone likes a bit of ego stroking

That's why we have dogs.

2 ( +3 / -1 )

this is embarrassing! but what do i know. i found my date the boring way - by being me. ;-)

4 ( +4 / -0 )

Pretending to be someone you are not may very well lead to a date or two but it won't last long....As soon as you drop the act.,.and eventually you will, then the game is over. Just be yourself, be polite,dress nicely,and be open to conversation..Acting stupid in an effort to seem cute is a lame way to find a date and most men will look at you as an easy lay,men are smart enough to see the desperation in such a foolish women. I don't know anything about Japanese culture or what Japanese men look for in a potential date but I would bet that most Japanese men are like most men in the US and will date any women that is polite,clean well dressed,and freindly..We will date the airheads too but we veiw these dates as a chance at some casual sex only....Why is it so hard for a Japanese woman to find a dat in Japane???Many Americans find Japanese women to be quite attractive..

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Why is it so hard for a Japanese woman to find a dat in Japane???Many Americans find Japanese women to be quite attractive..

I think it may be because Japanese women have been taught to be passive, to let men approach them. Hence these little games of trying to speak to a man for X reason while not making clear their intentions, hoping the men will catch on and do the rest. Meanwhile, Japanese men are becoming more and more meek and passive (which some media has called the "herbivore" men trend).

So on one side you have women who are passive, or at "best" passive aggressive, on the other you have shy men who don't dare approach women. It's like the stereotypical classic school dance with boys on one side, girls on the other, and because no one dares go across the room, nothing happens.

Then again, I may just be making stupid generalizations, feel free to mock me in that case.

5 ( +5 / -0 )

This sounds like it works on Japanese men and those guys that go to Japan thinking Japanese women are exactly what they see in anime. This "article" is grossly disturbing to me. A woman is attractive enough to me as a man depending on how she carries herself naturally. I don't mind her showing me some interest in me to raise a flag, but these types of attention getting methods are a complete turn off for me. I'd give some pointers on what can attract intelligent men but I'm afraid they might abuse it with this kind of thinking. I'll give off one harmless one though, its as simple as walking up to someone and saying, "I couldn't help noticing blah blah about you...It is quite interesting" shows that you were checking him/her out and is the simplest ice breaker in the world to start a conversation up.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Avoid any woman with this line of thinking like the plague! immature, superficial, vapid.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

It is a light-hearted look at the dating game from a Japanese woman's point of view.

Lighthearted or otherwise it's a sad, sad, sad, statement about both Japanese women and men as well that they have to act like children to get a date, and that the men are so insecure (following along with the "light-hearted" topic) that they can not deal with an intelligent woman that very well could be their equal or better.

6 ( +5 / -0 )

"most men in the US and will date any women that is polite,clean well dressed,and freindly"

Trouble is there's only about 6 left.

6 ( +6 / -0 )

yep. The author Karen Masuda is only using this to make all the other women non-candidate, throw-outs thus bumping up her own datability value. That's why I take the similar approach by hanging out with nerdy guys to make me look cooler. However, it doesn't seem to be working yet. I'm starting to worry that maybe I am at the very bottom.

2 ( +2 / -0 )

Play Tech-Dumb

Actually, being tech-savy would be a plus. Don't "play", be yourself.

Bubble Over With Enthusiasm Be theatrical; he’ll love it

No he won't.

It will make you look daft, which is a good thing.

Ok i stopped reading after this. Female editorial staff: GET A GRIP.

0 ( +1 / -1 )

This has got to be the worst dating advice I've ever seen. The only thing even close to being helpful to anyone was show interest in what other people say. If any girl said any of the rest of it to me I wouldn't be able to get away from her fast enough! I always think it's interesting to read articles BY WOMEN who try to explain what men think or want. It's almost always 180 degrees opposite the truth. It's almost like they're trying to sabotage the the competition.

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While some guys might fall for the fake cutesy BS, you should know that there are other guys out there (myself included) who will see through it instantly and it will be a major turn-off. Women who speak frankly, naturally, from the heart and do not compromise their intelligence for the sake of trying to appear cute are the ones I'm interested in. Ladies, do yourselves a favor: ingore the advice in this terrible article.

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I dunno.

If I saw through it, I would apply logic and go "ah, she's trying to make me like her, which means she likes me." I would then stop her and say "you don't need to do this, let's just go to a hotel", and everything is resolved, isn't it?

The bigger problem is girls who do this without you realising, so you just think they are idiots and never bother to pursue them.

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Okay, being the expert on all things to do with romance that I am ....I'l give my first serious comment.

If a girl can't get his attention through a couple of smiles and a friendly look, then I'd say he's just not that into you.

I'd never want my daughter to be that desperate for a guy that she'd have to jump through all the hoops listed in this article.

And if you do have to go through all that nonsense before he asks you out, I'd forget him.

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So what kind of men do Japanese women really like? I'm a big muscular guy, I had a discussion about this with about 9 Japanese men and women, while I do respect individual tastes, some of the women thought my biceps and chest were too big and buff. One woman said, she likes really skinny guys and cute (as in feminine) I was raised as a tough man, so I don't have ANY feminine attributes, but that doesn't mean, I am not sensitive to a woman's care and needs. I just dress, act and walk like a man. Most women here like clean, shaved men, I often get that 5 O'clock shadow, but some of these herbivore men get manicures, pedicures, painting their nails, soft spoken. Hard to believe 70 years ago, Japanese men were so fierce and scary, tough as nails, I find it a bit bewildering, but then again, what do I know. Maybe Machoism is a thing of the past. Again, for these women that think that is cute and they really want a soft-girlish looking guy, I have no problem with that, personally, but a lot of Japanese women think it's cute to raise the voice to a 8va level, coy eyes and twist your feet inward. Another woman said to me, western women don't care as much about fashion and dress like men, walk like men. This same woman said to me, she feels comfortable having her feet turned inwards and it looks cool or at least soft and lady like. So IMHO, I think this would turn off most western men, but then again I could be wrong.

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I sometimes get the feeling that both Japanese men and women don't know the dating habits of their own as well. With all the "group" activities that abound here in an attempt to get to meet people of the opposite sex I truly think at times that dating is not a part of the vernacular here.

I would like to know if this article was originally published in Japanese, and if so, what publication it was in as well. That would answer quite a few questions in my mind about the women that the article was directed towards.

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When I first went back to Japan after in 2000,I was shocked at how many girls had hip displaisia . They all walked pigeoned toed ,with both toes pointed so far inward,I had no idea how they walked in high heels. After being back for a while,I mentioned it to a friend,and she said...oh noooo.....no one has a physical problem . Everyone walks that way because its considered cute,and men like it. I have many Japanese friends,and none of them can deal with the entire dumb cute routine . Ugh

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@Phil

It is true though, I have met a few Japanese men that think walking like that is cute and sexy. Personally, I am happy my 5 year old has a straight gate when she walks, hope she stays like that when she gets older. I never seen many pigeoned toed women in other Asian countries, I guess, it is more of a Japanese thing, maybe I am wrong?

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bass4funk

"70 yrs ago tough as nails"

Maybe you are thinking of some kind of samurai image? Remember tho, this country was run by samurai, but it was a country of very poor peasants who were (often, depending on the feudal lord) kept cowering in fear of retribution, and had no weapons legally available much less weapons training. These ppl often had to sell their own daughters into prostitution to make ends meet.

If you mean the "gaman" (endurance) of the jpns soldiers in wwII, well, poor ppl are used to being hungry, tired, and have good pain tolerance.

Finally, even among the upper class/ samurai (maybe especially among them) there was a tradition of "beautifulness" that was a little different than the West. It is hard to imagine masculine men of 100+ yrs ago writing poetry at all, much less about flowers etc. But jpn, that was normal.

This article is more about "shy" guys tho, imo, than feminine. That too, is a long tradition of the tough samurai suddenly having a weakness when it comes to talking to girls. (I honestly think the older jpns guys ordering women around is kind of a "cover" for not knowing what to do/ how to talk to a woman, sometimes, i.e. shyness).

So, modern is connected to old, imho

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"hard to imagine masculine men"= hard to imagine masculine WESTERN men

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I was raised as a tough man, so I don't have ANY feminine attributes

Presumably you were born with one X chromosome, so you do have some feminine attributes. Whether you like/acknowledge them is your own business, of course.

Maybe Machoism is a thing of the past.

I hope so. Machoman is and always has been a turn-off.

some of these herbivore men get manicures, pedicures, painting their nails, soft spoken

Nothing wrong with being well-groomed and not yelling at everyone. Lots of Japanese men have very heavy beards; regular, meticulous shaving does not turn a man into a 'soft-girlish looking guy', it just gives him a smooth chin for a couple of hours.

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It's a little different in Colorado Springs. The lady uses a good cutting horse, a long rope, and a short rope. The horse knows what to do and so does she.

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LMAO! WHAT THE HELL IS THIS?! LOL wow!!! xD this is japanese women. women from the rest of the world are real lol

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Wow. Amazing the amount of people whose heads this went over.

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The woman was created for man, Adam beget Eve. Man beget Woman! She was made to be a companion for Adam when the animals failed the test! Just get your priorities straight in the given parameters! Be natural!

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Women just be yourself so a man knows what he's getting himself into. Literally!! Nobody likes the a fake act. I believe there is somebody for everybody. Don't give up. This "advice" should be for men anyway. Women shouldnt be chasing men. Ooops I forgot!!! Im in Japan.

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very lame advices...

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5: Put out on first date......

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They can try all the tricks they like on me, sure I'd be happy to bed another one but damn straight my wallet won't open for her hahaha

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"She was made to be a companion for Adam when the animals failed the test!"

The mind boggles at the testing procedure...

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If this is what Japanese women think guys want, the reason for the population decline has been Identified.

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OK, here we go: It's called SATIRE. This isn't serious- it's sarcasm and was supposed to be taken as such. Johnathon Swift? A modest proposal ring any bells? You've at least watched the Colbert Report right?

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I am a cool guy, girls

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@lowly

Thanks, way off topic from my original point though.

@Cleo

Presumably you were born with one X chromosome, so you do have some feminine attributes. Whether you like/acknowledge them is your own business, of course.

Ok, very cute.

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"On your next day off, you can plan a date in search of the perfect cell phone. You may even be able to get him to buy it for you." Very few guys make that kind of investment and even fewer girls suggest or accept such an expensive gift on a first date. Scenario: First the woman "owns" the phone, then the man "owns" the woman. They exchange emoticons instead of conversation and after an heated argument (it wasn't going to last), he snatches the phone "remember? this is mine" . The following "girlfriend" get a "new" iPhone. Whatever happened to a walk on the beach at night, a blanket, sushi, fruits, wine, shooting stars, the moon, stars, CONVERSATION...

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This has GOT to be satire.... right?

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I dread to think what kind of simple minded fool these "tricks" would work on!

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This is satire, some of you say, and that does eventually become clear, albeit very gradually and muddily, but it has been very poorly and unclearly introduced as such. (I am not commenting on the quality of writing of content here, just presentation by the editor.)

There is nothing to suggest, in the title, illustration, or really anywhere else, that this is tongue-in-cheek. Also, to compare it to either Swift or Colbert is - well, for politeness' sake let's call it ambitious. Colbert being visual, relies partly on tone of voice and expressions to relay his sarcasm (as well as the brilliance of his writers), so it's not a good comparison.

The editors should take this away from all their readers' comments: We, the Readers, came to this article hoping for something more than fluff or sarcasm, and came away disappointed, as if we've been victim to an April Fool. Why not ask someone to approach the topic with intelligence?

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This is comedy.

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Everyone walks that way [pigeon-toed and knock-kneed] because its considered cute,and men like it.

Partly. The pigeon-toed stance is considered correct and feminine when wearing kimono. When posing in the first kimono my J friends insisted I try on, I stood in the Western style: left foot forward and right foot one step behind, heel behind heel at a right angle doing my best to be J cute.

No, no, no, no, no! I was immediately corrected and shown the correct stance for kimono. Pigeon toed and knees bent together. I understood what I'd been assuming were extra-ordinary levels of deformity in J limbs as the desired norm. Ingrained cultural preference. In contrast, Western parents often have legs like that straightened in infancy.

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If a girl acts like this, she's one-night-stand material. I'd never bother afterwards.

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Scoliosis - the new thin.

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My wife still can't eat Omuraisu!

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I'd like to pass this off as comedy, but the sad thing is, I see lots of Japanese women act as per article. It's really sad.

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If the girl had a great figure and dressed up provocatively, the formula in this article would work anywhere anytime.

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This is a joke, isn't it? Must be taking the mickey, right? These are all the things that would turn most guys off completely.

Ha ha, not that funny cause there really are girls out there who think this - how many times have I ...

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This is absolute nonsense. All the woman need do is where a low-cut top and a push up bra if needed, showing some cleavage, then it's a done deal. Being an air-head, as this article seems to suggest women be, would only work for guys who NEVER get girls, or are so drunk they don't know their head from their arse on the stool.

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My Japanese ex said, basically, she has to act like a moron to get J guys, which is some weird kind of unreality, as if they come home at the end of the day and Ms Airhead says "Ohhh, I am too stupid to be able to turn on the cooker, without a man to help me" they wouldn't be happy..

Once she asked her J boyfriend "why do you like this stupid tv program?" Admittedly, he did drive her to hospital to get her jaw checked after her punched her in the face, so that's real good manners.

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Yes...

This load of poopypoop makes me wanna open up my skull so i could remove the part of my brain that just read this.

This is the worst advice i've ever seen published.... I hope no one ever take this piece of sheisse serious.

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Oh, and here's the original link (in japanese) http://youpouch.com/2011/04/26/162331/

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Or you can just find someone who you just happen to "click" with

Just a thought.

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"ard to imagine masculine WESTERN men"

Not as hard as you think.

I agree with the guys who say that the women should just act natural, there's nothing more annoying than a women who acts all cutesy and ditzy and believes it to be attractive.

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