In recent years, the phenomenon of all-women gatherings (or girls-only party) has been becoming a major fad in magazines and on television. Many restaurants and cafes offer various limited time-only plans for women.
But why are such gatherings popular? Is it because women don't want men around, or is it because the women like to discuss topics that would be of no interest to men? Lifestyle website Excite News recently did a survey of women aged 20 to 40, who frequently attend girls-only parties, and asked them why.
“When it’s only girls, there is a different comfort level," said a 20-year-old office worker. "The kind of stuff that stirs the conversation is talk about love and sex.”
Some other comments were: “When girls come together, 90% is girl talk. A lot of it is talk on men we’re interested in” and “When it’s only girls, it’s heart to heart.” And “When men are around, the talk can be a bit dry;" "When girls come together, husband-bashing is sometimes well received;" "There are only men at the workplace, so once in a while you want to get together with the girls;" “When I got together with only single girls, we talk about how to deal with old age.”
These earnest remarks also were put forward:
From an office worker in her 30s: “Just because you only have girls getting together, it doesn’t mean that there will only be talk about love and sex;” “It is good fun when girls have a giggle, but when you think about it, a lot of the talk is about food.”
From a housewife in her 30s: “Whether it’s classmate friends, or hometown friends, when only girls get together, they can usually spend up to 3 to 4 hours at places like family restaurants. It’s not that having a man will put a stop to the desired conversation, but if a man is around, he’ll probably get bored, so we don’t invite him.”
From an office worker in her 30s: “Regardless if a man is present or not, the subject of the conversation will be the same. The intent was not to exclude the men, it’s just that during heated conversation between men and women, men will often not be able keep up and begin to get bored. You talk and talk, but you’re still not satisfied so you end up with: To Be Continued at Girls-Only Party!”
Some voices point out a purpose beyond the chatting, says Excite News.
“Only women will pay attention to the latest in bags and clothing for you. We get fired up about something the most when it’s only girls.” (30-something housewife)
“Girls-only is just a pretext for finding a sitter for the kids and going out for some quality time.” (30-something housewife)
“When we socialize with men, we end up going to the average izakaya every time. We cannot eat what we want to eat, nor go to the restaurants we want to. For a fashionable, gourmet, or newly discovered restaurants, girls-only is best.” (30 something office worker).© Japan Today