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Do Japanese people kiss on the first date? Survey investigates

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By Oona McGee, SoraNews24

May 23 was Kiss Day in Japan (so-called as the first kiss scene screened in Japanese cinema was shown on this day in 1946, in the film "Hatachi no Seishun") and to celebrate, Internet survey site Minna no Koe decided to conduct a poll delving into the subject of first kisses.

So when do people in Japan usually feel like puckering up? On the first date? The third? Or do they prefer to wait until their wedding day? Well, the results point to all the above so let’s dive right in and take a look at the responses below!

When do you share a first kiss with your date?

This is the question that everyone wants the answer to, and as it turns out, there’s not much difference between the top two responses.

1. On the third date (2,127 people)

  1. On the first date (1,753 people)

  2. On the second date (1146 people)

  3. On or after the fifth date (910 people)

  4. Upon marriage (184 people)

After tallying up a total of 6,510 responses, it turns out that 33 percent of people surveyed are more likely to lean in for a kiss on the third date. Surprisingly, a lot of singles don’t shy away from kissing on the first date either, with this option coming in at second place with 27 percent of votes. There’s not much action on the second date by comparison, which suggests this might be the time when your date has either decided they’re not interested in taking things further, or are holding out until they’re certain on the third date.

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Looking into the results by sex show that the top two responses for men and women were the same, with the third date being the most popular (33 percent and 34 percent, respectively) and the first date next in place (22 percent and 24 percent).

When looking at the age categories, it’s clear that the top two responses also rang true for people in their teens, 20s, 40s, 50s, and 60s. However, for the 30-somethings, there was a different response.

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For respondents in their thirties, kissing on the first date was most common, coming in with 30 percent of the vote. This was followed by the third date (24 percent), then the second date (16 percent), and then on or after the fifth date (13 percent), and finally “after deciding to get married” (6 percent).

So if you’re out on the dating scene in Japan, it looks like it only takes a few dates to lock lips with your partner, providing they’re into you, of course.

Source: Minna no Koe

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I usually let the lady initiate the first kiss, who says the man has to start everything himself? Any girlfriend of mine, of any kind can kiss me on the first date if she wants! I'm for 'equality-of-the-genders'.

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@starpunk

Agree completely. Any girlfriend of yours is always welcome to kiss me on the first date!

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Agree completely. Any girlfriend of yours is always welcome to kiss me on the first date!

;)

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What about the option "kiss before the first date"?

Thats how it works in my experience!

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In my experience, Japanese girls do a lot more than kiss on the first date.

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Most japanese couples would have already been dating - as in the western concept - before they go on their first official date which is usually after they decide to be a couple. The results aren't really equatable with western countries due to the different concepts of what a date is.

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lucabrasi:

Agree completely. Any girlfriend of yours is always welcome to kiss me on the first date!

Doesn't that mean that you and starpunk are indirectly kissing each other? God knows what could be passed on.

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@Pukey

All I have to pass on are my infectious charm and my wholesome wit...

Can’t speak for others ; )

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Have you ever seen a Japanese man try to kiss a woman? They do it like Jim Carey in “Dumb and dumber.” It’s no surprise that relationships here involve little or no sex.

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Have you ever seen a Japanese man try to kiss a woman? They do it like Jim Carey in “Dumb and dumber.” It’s no surprise that relationships here involve little or no sex.

The fact that you're referring to Jim Carey means that not J men can be as clumsy as...

About sex in J relationships, where do you base your assumption on?

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not only **

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Interesting. To each their own, but why in the world would anyone wait until the THIRD date to kiss? I mean, if you're both into each other, why wait? I almost always kiss on the first date, which happens on 90% of my dates.

And what about those 184 people who wait until marriage? Are there really such people in Japan? I honestly thought this was reserved for a few ultra-conservative in American evangelical families...

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In my experience, Japanese girls do a lot more than kiss on the first date.

Yeah, including falling in love and becoming infatuated / obsessed!

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Have you ever seen a Japanese man try to kiss a woman? They do it like Jim Carey in “Dumb and dumber.” It’s no surprise that relationships here involve little or no sex.

What about the tamago kiss in "Tampopo"? Ever since I first saw that, I've always felt that everyday kissing lacked a certain something (and don't say, "bacon")

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I I was looking at a dating site four Cupid Japan I'm a Westerner I met a Japanese man I looked at his profile after we dated and I see a lot of Japanese women I'm sorry they don't look too innocent to me yes I do think they do a lot more when people think and what their post say yes yes I do believe they do a lot more on the date than just kiss if you read some of their profiles you would see what I mean you cannot stereotype westerners because women are women this is the 21st century

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Have you ever seen a Japanese man try to kiss a woman? They do it like Jim Carey in “Dumb and dumber.” It’s no surprise that relationships here involve little or no sex.

What we've got here, is failure to communicate. Some men, you just can't reach...

I like films, too. But they're not always related to real life.

The focus should be on honesty and telling each other what you like and don't like. And if your man is kissing you incorrectly, tell him this and show him how you'd like him to kiss you.

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