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Fear of failure could be behind the extremely low happiness rate among Japanese men

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By Audrey Akcasu, RocketNews24

Recently the world got a look at the busy world of salarymen in Japan via a viral video, but there were also some slight reassurances that these company men didn’t necessarily hate their lives. We may have been a bit too optimistic, however, because a study done last year found that less than 30% of Japanese man can confidently say, “I am happy.” Well… that’s some statistic.

What’s behind the unhappiness factor among Japanese men? Bad marriages, work problems, convenience store diets? Accomplished Japanese author Reiko Yuyama gives her two yen on the root of the problem.

Reiko Yuyama has penned numerous books and her most recent is somewhat of a self-help book for Japanese men struggling to survive and become happy. There have been a lot of such books cropping up lately because of the supposed gloom hanging over the general male population.

The study we mentioned found that only 28.1% of men 20-60 years old could answer positively to the question, “Are you happy?” That leaves the other 72% floundering in some degree of unhappiness. The happiness figure is staggeringly low compared to other developed countries, so what’s the deal with Japanese men? If we were to sum up Yuyama’s thoughts in one phrase, it would be “fear of failure,” but we can break it down a little bit further.

Need to succeed at work

While the culture is changing slowly, most salarymen still expect to remain in the same company for the entirety of their careers, so, in order to rise in the ranks and get paid more, they have to fight for promotions. However, if they don’t succeed, they feel like failures and that affects their self-confidence, which affects their work, which pulls them further away from their goals. It’s a vicious cycle. In order to avoid this, men work long hours, a situation that creates a whole set of unhappiness-inducing consequences of its own, such as having no free time. So really, many men are just stuck in lousy situations.

The higher number of confident, independent women entering the workforce is not helping men’s pride either. Many men feel emasculated if women surpass them, adding another layer to the self-confidence issue.

Yuyama shares some wisdom from the comedy duo Ogi Yahagi, who say that “the ones working only to get the promotion aren’t the people who end up actually getting the promotions. The ones who take the time to try to enjoy their work are the ones that succeed.”

Many men are under the impression that if they don’t always succeed, women won’t like them.

Yuyama tries to persuade men that this isn’t really the case. In fact, many women don’t find that kind of attitude charming at all. On the other hand, they don’t really like “herbivore men” either. Herbivore men are guys that are not very aggressive, quite passive and often lacking in confidence.

Recently, women have been looking for men that can be more straightforward to avoid miscommunication, men that can think for themselves and don’t feel too compelled to follow the crowd, yet, still have compassion for their loved ones.

It kind of sounds like the book also serves as a dating guide, but hey, they also say that single people tend to be less happy than those with a significant other, so it fits with the overall goal of the book.

We’re not sure these are the real reasons behind the low unhappiness rate, as there are undoubtedly many more factors, like marriage, divorce, and family issues, but we can understand how the fear of failure can lead to unhappiness. Still, it’s important to learn how to deal with setbacks. Ogi Yahagi made another wise comment that Yuyama likes to share, “In this world, even if you fail once, it doesn’t have to ruin your life.”

Source: Shupure News

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Ogi Yahagi aren't very funny comedians judging by those two examples of their material.

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I wonder what those percentages would show if the same questioned was asked during the bubble yrs. Not so surprising that Japanese men aren't happy these days.

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A fear of failure is something I completely understand and can relate to. Often times, I won't strive to aim higher unless I know for a fact that I'll succeed. "What's the point in trying if I just fail?" That's a very common thought to have, and very counter-productive. Getting over the fear of failure isn't easy. The approach I'm trying to take is to try making an impulsive gamble on something that doesn't matter, like a video game, or a sports prediction. It's completely irrelevant if I get it wrong. Nothing bad happens. But if the gamble pays off, I feel a little more confident about my chances. The idea is that I gradually work my way up to taking a chance at something important like a relationship or a career or something along those lines. It'll take time, but I think that might be the best approach. Confidence doesn't just appear out of nowhere in great quantities, it's something that has to be built up gradually.

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I just wonder: what happened to the samurai spirit of days past?

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This writer has an awful habit of regurgitating or spewing stereotypes and basing "facts" on surveys of a minuscule portion of any given segment of society and expounding the so-called findings to include ALL Japan.

Fear of failure permeates many different societies and is not unique to Japan, case in point, look at SKorea, if this was actually true then pray tell what are with all the freeta's and neets in Japanese society who are still living at home with Mom and Dad? Wait they have to be the successful one's here, taking care of the parents!

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"Fear of failure" means cautious right? doesn't it good?

On the other hand, they don’t really like “herbivore men” either. Herbivore men are guys that are not very aggressive, quite passive and often lacking in confidence.

it's true especially for good girl.

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More likely because the cards are stacked against them.

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