Take our user survey and make your voice heard.

Five hobbies that prevent guys from getting a Japanese girlfriend

By Casey Baseel

There’s less than a month to go until Christmas Eve, the most romantic night of the year in Japan. As the special night approaches, lovelorn single men throughout the country are scrambling to up their game in order to attract a date before Santa starts his rounds.

As a handy starter guide, Japanese women in a recent poll listed the top five hobbies that are immediate deal breakers when judging if a guy is boyfriend material.

The poll was conducted by a Japanese fashion magazine, with 259 women responding. Let’s take a look and see where we’re going right, or perhaps very, very wrong.

5. Dessert/cafe nut (8 votes)

Japan is in the midst of a dessert boom, with everything from Hawaiian-style pancakes topped with mountains of fruit and whipped cream to cherry blossom-infused muffins and cakes ready to satisfy your sweet tooth. The country is dotted with independent cafes, and even among chains, many of their tempting menu items are only available for limited times.

But while making a pilgrimage to whichever bakery has the newest, tastiest roll cake is a common enough pastime for young women in Japan, some of them don’t seem to appreciate a guy who shares their appreciation for the sweeter things in life, and would apparently prefer a man with a more traditionally masculine palate, so if you’re looking to impress, say no to cake, guys.

4. Train fan (12 votes)

In almost all cultures, there’s a period growing up where young boys get really into trains, perhaps because they speak to their aspirations for strength and power. Whatever the reason, it’s perfectly natural, and after a few years this usually gives way to the other normal male obsessions of dinosaurs, sports, and finally girls.

In Japan though, some men hold on to their passion for trains. They crowd the platforms to catch a glimpse whenever a new type of car is being debuted or retired. They travel the country to snap photos of obscure local service trains in rural areas.

They make some girls not want to date them because of their off-beat hobby.

3. Anime otaku (42 votes)

It may seem like faint praise, but it’s a sign of the times that hardcore animation fan is only number three on a list of hobbies women can’t stand in a boyfriend.

For starters, high-brow animation houses such as Studio Ghibli have been cranking out anime with mainstream appeal, such as the #1 movie in Japan this year, "The Wind Rises," that prove anime isn’t merely the niche hobby it once was.

Secondly, each year sees the ranks of female anime otaku grow larger and larger, with the industry producing more and more content for them. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander, and it’s hard to criticize a guy for liking the latest Gundam series when you’ve got posters from ab-centric swimming anime Free! on your bedroom walls.

2. Idol otaku (45 votes)

Obsessing over idol singers used to be a part-time gig. A new starlet would appear on the scene, there’d be intense interest in her for a couple of months, and then things would die down after either photos of her with a boyfriend (scandalous!) surfaced, or her costume designers ran out of places to add ribbons to her stage outfit, thus forcing her retirement at the ripe old age of 22 or so.

Nowadays though, when ensemble idol units such as AKB 48 have a rotating roster of performers bigger than most privately owned businesses, the idol world never stands still. With so many up and coming singers who need to be nurtured with their fans’ attention (and their money in the form of album sales), some women looking for a boyfriend deduce there’s not going to be much left over for their own relationship.

1. Gambler (152 votes)

The runaway winner (loser?) of the poll as to which hobby would kill a guy’s chance with the respondents was gambling. For a country that doesn’t have any officially designated casinos, Japan is filled with places to place a wager, whether it be at one of its ubiquitous pachinko parlors, mahjong dens, horse tracks, speedboat racing facilities, or even bicycle racing tracks. And the ladies really don’t care for it.

The one and only constant of gambling is that the house always wins. Many women, particularly those in their 20s who are reaching the age when they start thinking about cohabiting and thus merging their finances with their significant other, couldn’t accept their boyfriend throwing away his money in such a manner. So as fun and thrilling as games of chance may be, if you’re looking to find love in Japan, you might want to keep your love of poker on the down-low.

Sources: Hachimakiko, Twitter

Read more stories from RocketNews24. -- Men with ‘Nerdy’ Hobbies Describe Their Ideal Marriage Partner -- 10 things foreign women hate about Japanese men -- Five things men in Japan hide before inviting over a woman

© RocketNews24

©2024 GPlusMedia Inc.

Login to comment

I don't think Japanese girls are the only ones who this list applies to gents. Consider it a universal guide.

4 ( +4 / -0 )

Fox, so find an otaku girlfriend? You can be an ota-couple.

2 ( +3 / -1 )

I once watched a bus full of camera-toting men follow one bikini-clad girl onto a beach (in Kanagawa) for a "photo session". I don't know who she was, but she was nothing to write home about. I had to wonder how much those guys had to pay for the honor.

2 ( +2 / -0 )

The Otaku genes run abundantly also among the female population...so watch out for bad surprises guys...

2 ( +2 / -0 )

The Japanese girls polled seriously need to get some perspective. I agree that gambling is a serious bad habit, but dumping a guy because he likes to eat cake?

... no wonder there's a birth rate problem in Japan, the girls here have no idea how to have a good time. I mean I can think of at least a dozen fun uses for all that whipped cream, and only a few of them involve cake.

2 ( +4 / -2 )

Great photo, made me smile.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

1.5 out of 5 for me and it looks like it's going to happen.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Why did I have a feeling Otaku was going to be on the list. Girls don't understand the fun and awesome behind Anime Culture. Don't hate cause I said that, cause its true. ;p

1 ( +2 / -1 )

Yep, that list seems to fit 80% of Japanese men. The creepiest of them all are the full-grown boys sitting outside the AKB48 "theater", trading cards while sitting on the sidewalk.

Most of the things on this list results in the boys diverting their interests in the girl and obsess over something else. Of course girls are gonna dislike that. Try giving them some attention, perhaps even a kiss now and then. I have only once seen a couple kiss (Parisian style) in Tokyo and that was very late at night in Shibuya. Show some damn emotions, Japanese.

1 ( +2 / -1 )

I perfectly agree with Tamarama...

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Welp, I'm boned. I'm an anime Otaku. Well, I guess that depends on how you define one. I'm not obsessed or anything. I don't have my walls plastered with posters, and I don't have any cosplay gear, or those frankly creepy body pillows. But I do have eight Figmas so...

Oh well, eah to their own I guess.

0 ( +1 / -1 )

Japan today: just like Rocket News but with way fewer pictures and slightly better discussion. Yes, I just complimented you guys.

0 ( +1 / -1 )

Christmas Eve, the most romantic night in Japan? Get a life! And 259 women is hardly a scientific poll. But let's go for the throat - where are the five things those 259 women would want their boyfriends to do, have, like, or believe in? I'll be back for the third time in a year, next spring, looking for the answers.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Don't like deserts. Don't obsess over trains. Don't watch anime. Don't gamble. Couldn't even name one idol.

Come at me ladies. ;)

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Train fan Poor Sheldon :(

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Login to leave a comment

Facebook users

Use your Facebook account to login or register with JapanToday. By doing so, you will also receive an email inviting you to receive our news alerts.

Facebook Connect

Login with your JapanToday account

User registration

Articles, Offers & Useful Resources

A mix of what's trending on our other sites