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Five things girls do in winter that Japanese men find adorable

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By Philip Kendall

For many of us in the northern hemisphere, winter is finally showing signs of packing up and leaving us alone for a while. People are starting to use their heaters less or, wear fewer layers and, if you live in a paper-thin, central heating-less house in Japan like I do, risk not putting on a woolly hat when going to bed at night.

But winter in Japan isn’t all bad. There are beautiful snow festivals and alternative snow cones to be enjoyed! And, according to a report over on Japan’s R25 news site, even wrapped up in all that winter weather gear, the nation’s ladies still manage to look so very, very cute.

In a survey conducted by Japanese group iResearch, a sample of 300 businessmen aged 25-34 were asked to list the little things that they’ve noticed girls do during winter that they just can’t help but find adorable. Although at first we struggled to come up with that many of our own, reading through the results of the survey, we definitely found ourselves nodding along here.

1. She’s all bundled up

In at number one with 35.3% of the vote, the thing that men really love about girls during winter is the way they tuck themselves in and brace against the cold. It’s an entirely normal, everyday action, but men find it completely adorable nonetheless. Wrapped in their soft scarves with their faces partially hidden, tucking their heads down low to avoid the bitter winter wind makes a girl “look like a little cute animal,” said one 28-year-old man, “It makes me want to look after her.”

2. Hiding her hands in her sleeves

“Her cute little fingertips peep out at the bottom,” said one young man explaining why he was so fond of the sight of a girl with her sweater sleeves pulled down over her hands. He’s not alone either: this vulnerable pose stole the hearts of as many as 32.7% of the total men surveyed. Sure, it’s kind of cute, but – at least to us, anyway – far cuter than this is a girl who has cottoned on to the fact that she can keep her hands warm and avoid stretching out their sweaters all at once by investing in a decent pair of gloves.

3. Blowing on her hands to warm them up

At first I scoffed at this one; I’ve seen big, hairy Liverpool dockers do this and there’s nothing cute about it. But the more I come to think about it, I have to admit that girls warming their hands up in this way is, for some reason, quite cute (even if that does have more to do with basic human instincts than the gesture itself…). Even so, 32% of the guys asked agree that this simple sight makes them feel all fuzzy inside.

4. Hanging on to a warm cup for dear life

Thanks to the abundance of hot drink-dispensing vending machines in Japan, this is something that guys get to witness pretty much anywhere, indoors or out. While for many it’s a simple case of trying to warm their hands up enough so that their fingers don’t move like they used to belong to a 90-year-old, this everyday action has many men going weak at the knees- 28.7% of them, in fact.

5. “Is it me, or did you just get snuggly?”

Finally, in at number five with 27.7% of the vote, the survey revealed that men simply love the way girls feel during the colder months.

“I find myself wanting to touch her more in winter;” said a 25-year-old office worker, “she wears big, fluffy sweaters.”

Although this one isn’t technically an action or a gesture that girls do so much as the way men think and feel, R25′s resident mental health expert Chie Odaka suggests that things such as soft, fluffy clothing actually make women appear more feminine in men’s eyes.

But surely the women in the northernmost reaches of Scotland or Nova Scotia aren’t being constantly hit on by whiskey drinking men in pubs on account of the deluxe lamb’s wool sweaters they’re wearing? Wouldn’t skimpier outfits work better on us simple male beasts? Apparently, it’s not always about showing off all of the goods at once, with Odaka suggesting that we men “have a natural instinct to pursue what is only partially revealed.”

It would seem that, given only a glimpse of the female form- be it the tips of her fingers poking out from her sweater sleeves or that “definite area” between the top of her stockings and her mini skirt, “men become completely captivated.” And here’s me thinking that we were intelligent, evolved beings…

Until next winter, ladies!

Source/title image: Web R25

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@Francis obviously if you can't tell that the woman doesn't see you as a human as well, then you shouldn't be with them in the first place. Before diving into any relationship I made my point very clear and my ex-gfs all got the understanding.

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I've heard Japanese men describe buck teeth as cute too. I guess it's a cultural thing.

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I'm glad sniffling wasn't on the list. I remember once hearing that Japanese men find it cute.

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My suggestion is don't date a girl just because you wanna "hit it". If you can't see that woman as another human being in the first place then you're going to keep getting into relationships that can end up in long term misery or worse.

The irony here is that she doesn't see you as a human being either. Search on Google for 'Japanese women heartless' and see how many results come up! It's so common it has almost become a collocation. Yes, the predatory image may be true of many gaijin, but in my case, my intentions were entirely honourable, and I was never the type just to shag and leave. To be thought of as human, you have to have human emotions, compassion, morality etc. You can see where I am going with this.

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And people wonder why I'm cautiously picky about the women I even choose to date in the first place. Even though the relationships I've had so far ended in failure, they ended on a note where neither of us despise each other or are bitter afterwards and the journey of the relationships always left good memories. We just moved on.

My suggestion is don't date a girl just because you wanna "hit it". If you can't see that woman as another human being in the first place then you're going to keep getting into relationships that can end up in long term misery or worse. I won't even date a woman unless I can see myself raising a child with her in the future. Don't go into a relationship only for what you want, make sure you look in a mirror and see if you can be the type of person she wants and you can deliver.

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Francis Urquhurt, you've obviously been hurt and clearly it still smarts.

My relationship with Japan goes back to the mid eighties. Although self employed now, I've worked for Japanese businesses as well as foreign. I've seen the behaviour you described and come a cropper on cultural issues many times. Life got much better when I stopped trying to change Japan to suit me.

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Francis Urquhart, there is something touching in your words. I feel sorry. I know, some Japanese girls use lots of different adorable tricks. It is a part of the hunt for men. :) European women are much more simple with that respect.

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Spelling mistakes - 'move on happily, or move on at all' it should read.

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@ChibaChick Thank you for your best wishes, and also to SwissToni, but I am very unlikely to be able to move in happily, or more on at all. Too much damage has been done and the years have passed, and all I can do is look back with regret and anger, both at the women of Japan and at myself for chasing the lie. Silly me! Heartbreak, shattered self-esteem and regret are all I take from my experiences with women in Japan. I don't trust women generally any more. In the end it was my choices that led me to this point in my life, but I can rant and feel a bit better about it, can't I? It might save someone else the heartache, and it is somehow slightly relieving to know that I am not the only one scarred by an experience that is supposed to be so wonderful. To the guys out there falling for Japanese girls, I say take that pretty face and cute mannerisms out of the equation, and trust what your head is telling you! Is she acting strangely? Is she giving you the come-on, and then going all cold on you? Is she playing with your heart? Be warned!

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@SwissToni I understand what you are saying, and acknowledge that some people - some people - get the relationship to work. The trouble is, many do not, and the fact that it is always the same character traits in the Japanese woman that are mentioned by those who share their stories. This leads me to believe that is is a Japanese thing. Anyone who has been in Japan for any significant time knows that the Japanese think different, and they all seem to think in the same way! It is almost spooky. What also seems like a mysterious, inpenetrable culture is also very predictable one you know what the 'rules' are. You know how people are going to think and react. There is something abhorrent about the way Japanese women can be so nice one moment (tatemae?) and so vicious (honne?) the next.

The rules are different and people think differently. Japanese men are part of that society, so they expect to be treated foully by the women. Western men, on the other hand, do not, so when it happens we are stopped dead in our tracks. I know that nastiness can come from either sex in any country, but there is something cold, calculating and inevitable about the way it all plays out in Japan.

Take another example of this cultural divide. If you've ever fallen foul of colleagues in a Japanese work environment, you'll be able to identify with this one. I used to work at an elementary school, and for various reasons got on the wrong side of some of the teachers. This was partly due to cultural faux-pas on my side, so I am not shirking responsibility here. However, these teachers, when given the opportunity, wrote scathing reports to my company, one of them even making up stuff to make me sound as bad as possible - and presumably to get me sacked. These teachers were lovely to my face - the kocho sensei was very friendly, smiley and asked me all sorts of stuff, yet behind my back, the knives were going in big time! When they didn't know was that I actually go to see what was being written about me. They didn't know that. This kind of underhanded attack is very Japanese. It is part of the culture. Yes, people can be backstabbers in my country (the UK if you haven't already guessed) but it's regarded as shameful behaviour. In Japan, it is an accepted, and acceptable, part of the culture. That's the way it's done, and that's what you have to expect. Similarly, the way women behave is a cultural feature. I'd rather people were just honest with me, but then I also accept that Japan is different and to live in Japan successfully, one must also be willing to accept the cultural rules as well as the ones laid down by the law of the land.

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Francis; I am with you 100% on this brother. I sensed the 'culture' coming through on a couple of occasions with different Japanese girls, at times when they should have been acting rationally, and it scared the living daylights out of me. No way on earth I am ever EVER getting tied to one of them. It is a prison sentence.

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Francis Urquhart, 26 years married to mine and I still find her cute. Over the years I'd say roughly half of the marriages of friends have failed, be they mixed or not. Bitterness seems to come with the break up, not the nationality. I wish you luck and hope you get to move on.

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"the bitter winter wind makes a girl “look like a little cute animal,” said one 28-year-old man, “It makes me want to look after her.”"

Weird imagination..

Although not an action or gesture, I'd say the best things about Winter girls are the short skirts, black tights and knee high boots.

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Yep. I'm bitter!

Yes, you are. But you are not alone in that - many people I speak to have had similar experiences. Its a shame but experiences make you what you are. Hope you move on happily.

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But what with all those cute clothes just make it harder to take 'em all off!

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Oops. That wasn't meant to happen!

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mrkobayashi, you are the exception that proves the rule. I know of a couple of other guys who are happy with their Japanese wives (and they live in Japan). However, I know of far more who have had a bad experience with Japanese women, and it seems the experience is always based on the same traits from the women. It's not a one-off, it's a cultural character trait. Have a browse on the Internet for Japanese women who have 'kidnapped' their children and taken them back to Japan. Typically, the woman plans it slyly, awaits the opportunity, clears the guy out for as much as she can, then takes the kids back to Japan and wipes out all memory of the western side of their lives as is humanly possible. In one case, the 'cute' Japanese woman got the guy arrested for something he didn't do (she set up an argument, recorded it and claims her husband hit her!) to get him out of the way while she cleaned out his bank account and fled. There seems to be no sense on the Japanese woman's part that this behaviour is morally and criminally wrong.

I consider myself lucky to have avoided the trap, but I was very tempted to fall into it! I did not come out unscathed, however, and will never have anything to do with a Japanese woman romantically, if such a concept exists in Japan, beyond the commercialism and shallow pretentions of western style love.

Yep. I'm bitter!

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I got married to my Japanese wife several years ago, have one kid with one on the way, and our relationship keeps getting stronger and deeper. I wouldn't have it any other way.

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Having lived in japan for 8 years, and having been involved with plenty of japanese girls, the thought of getting stuck with one for the rest of my life, as she rapidly becomes her grandmother absolutely horrifies me. You can keep them.

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Having lived in japan for 8 years, and having been involved with plenty of japanese girls, the thought of getting stuck with one for the rest of my life, as she rapidly becomes her grandmother absolutely horrifies me. You can keep them.

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@ChibaChick No, sorry; I don't find those adorable. Practical,yes. Sensible, yes. Adorable? No. But I can't speak for other men's tastes, whether fellow foreigners or Japanese.

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If articles like this must be written, please consistently use the word "women." Men of that age finding "girls" cute in this matter is beyond creepy.

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Make no mistake about it, Japanese girls are very cute and mostly adorable, but I think they looked even better and cuter in the 1980's and with the hair, makeup and clothing of that decade.

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@Theinterstat - "300 young bowing machines..." Priceless! I love that. Seriously, JT should organize its own survey. I suggest "Top ten woefully tedious surveys".

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Japanese girls are just adorable.. they never grow up.. just stay young and cutie like

So all those obatarian were born like that ? They are not what Japanese girls become later ?

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I hide my hands up my sleeves outside. Does that make me cute?

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Gee whiz girls and ladies! It's still 1956 in Japan. What "girls" really want is to know how "cute" they are to "men" who really like to "touch them more" in the winter. Try as you may to restore them, profound and far-reaching gender relations have already taken place in Japan, and it would behoove your paper to perform the service of alerting the population to this fact, and help it to be understood. I don't think articles like this help adults to learn to take each other seriously. The Japanese women I know will be ridiculing this; and lord help the boys who will buy this.

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otaku reporting?

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Why is it always about "girls" on JT? What about cute men in winter??????

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@Corner of my eye, great comment! So who in the hell comes up with these stupid topics,"What I find cute of J girls in the middle of winter??"

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Ahhh, the Otaku culture. Never boring.

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They fail to mention that while they are doing all these cute things they are saying samui every 3 seconds.............

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What I find most 'adorable' is when a woman actually dresses for the weather outside, be it hot or cold and is thus neither hot nor cold.

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My father was a big hairy Liverpool sailor. A very handsome man indeed.

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Japan wouldn't be Japan without all this Kawaii stuff! Love it or hate it but its one of the characteristics of Japan and it has its roots somewhere in the history and culture. It might seem shallow at times but its better than some of the more annoying traits of some other civilized countries.

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yeah any child like actions. when will j men actually be attracted to women that act like women not teenage girls.

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And LOL at this part; "300 businessmen aged 25-34". How was it even possible to find 300 businessmen in Japan this age bracket? I think the researcher actually meant, "300 young bowing machines wearing cheap suits we found still drunk from the night before, shuffling through some soulless Tokyo suburb station".

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I am glad that more people are now realising, and commenting / sharing the truth; Japanese women on the whole are just play acting the whole time. When they get hold of you, and trap you, all that vanishes and they turn into the standard Asian matron; no sex, no love, no compassion, just a stern fish-wife demanding money from the poor man they ensnared with their 'act'.

Be careful out there lads. Be very, very careful.

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Francis Urquhart, you it it right on the money. Yes, it is all a snare. If you bite the bait, you will live to regret.

I am I have seen that "kawaii" outside Japan by non-Japanese. It is good it was just a nightmare for few years. Trying to get rid of her was the difficult part. The talking cute is a forced expression. That is why when you see them with their mouths open, they tongues are retrieved towards the back. I have heard that trying to talk cute will enlarge your lower jaw.

The mamasan at the Yakitori I go to tells asks me if I am not cold because I wear short sleeve shirts all winter. And when go indoors I removed everything except the shirt. The Japanese customers keep their coats on with sweaters underneath. They admit their body temperature is lower than most foreigners.

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Actually, one of the strongest impressions I have in Japan is that the skirts seem to get shorter in winter. Not that I'm looking, mind. Almost like a uniform: short skirt (short pants recently too), long boots and black tights. Every year!

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I love these articles on Japanese women because it tells you a lot about men and make American women shake their heads. Japanese girls are just adorable.. they never grow up.. just stay young and cutie like Pokeman and shop and consume support the department stores and the economy, maybe have children or not have children because they are children, and when they get old.. just be around to take care of parents when they are old... and then take the old mans life work and act like it is their wealth and travel and are jealous of other women who have more than then or will not follow them around.. I see it everyday.. and it is not cute.

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Wow this article changed my life and perspective on winter...... or not.

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"Until next winter, ladies!"

What about the adorable things girls do in summer?

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This article is just sad! All this cutesie stuff is nonsense, and it hides beneath a cold, heartless animal that wants to snare you and then drain your life's energy and wallet, and free English kaiwa thrown in for good measure - hears, not yours. All that kawaii stuff is just grotesque once you get over the lie. Trust me on this one!

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and people wonder why men treat women like dolls and pets.. and why women act kawaii.

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I know all five. NOT being mean, this advice does not apply to girls with big bones. If that fat chick is cold what the ___ can I do?

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How corny can you get? I think "any child-like actions" should be number one on the list.

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Who in the hell thinks up these lists?

Note to the Administrator, it's just a rhetorical question.

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The problem with this article is the fact that a lot of Japanese women think they're cold all the time anyway. They start wearing wooly hats and scarves in September when the temperatures are in the high 20's because - well, look at the calendar...it's Autumn.

Winter is cold, but they have a need to agree with each other that it is cold from early Autumn, thus making about half the year "samui, desu ne?" season. Then in the summertime, when it certainly isn't cold, they complain about the air conditioning. 26 degrees is too cold in a Tokyo office, requiring the use of a blanket.

So, although Japanese women do the above things in Winter, and doubtless amp up the "look at me, I'm a helpless little bird" routine, I find the performing as though you are cold to be a pretty much year-round phenomenon.

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Do you guys find the thermal underwear and up-to-the-armpits warm pants adorable too? Just wondering....!

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Well, I find HER pretty adorable.

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1,2,3 and 5. Well duh... its COLD! I noticed that for some reason my body temperature goes up ridiculously high during winter time (must be because of the shivering) and all the girls that I've dated always said I'm like a heater. Heck, they didn't need to tell me that, I felt like one!

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