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How many married people with children in Japan admit to cheating on their spouse? Survey says…

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By Dale Roll, SoraNews24

Right now in Japan, dramas about affairs and cheating relationships are trending among TV viewers. People are hooked on stories about messy love-hate relationships, roller-coaster affairs ending in true love, and the drama of a secret relationship come to light.

Affairs seem to happen a lot on TV in Japan, but are they representative of real life? A survey conducted by Japanese company Love Is All, whose goal is to support women in Japan and across the world in business, relationships, and life, aimed to find out.

They surveyed 1,966 men and women from across the country who have children and are between the ages of 35 and 45 about their extramarital affairs. As it turns out, nearly a quarter of men and a fifth of women admitted to having cheated on their spouse.

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In answer to the question, “Have you had an affair or cheated since getting married?” 16.6 percent of men answered said “I previously had an affair” and 7.8 percent said “I am currently having an affair.” As for women, 12.3 percent said they had an affair in the past, while 4.8 percent said they’re currently having an affair. In contrast, 77.1 percent of men and 83.6 percent of women said they’d never had an extramarital affair.

Next, the respondents were asked, “What is the main reason you had/are having an affair?” Here is where the answers were more starkly divided among the gender lines. The most common reason for men was “I wanted to fulfill my desire for sex,” which was selected by 33.6 percent.

After that, the reasons for men to have an affair had much lower response rates. The next most popular answers were, “I wanted some stimulation” (14 percent), “I fell in love with the other person” (13.1 percent), and “My relationship with my spouse wasn’t good” (13.1 percent). With nearly half the answers involving sex or excitement, however, some might conclude that these men cheat out of impulse, rather than for emotional reasons.

Women, however, seemed to cheat because they craved emotional intimacy. More than half of the women in the survey cited reasons involving love, their marriage, or their emotional state, including, “I fell in love with the other person” (19 percent), “I wanted to be comforted/I was lonely” (12.3 percent), “My relationship with my spouse wasn’t good” (12.3 percent), and “My married life was stuck in a rut” (10.4 percent).

Interestingly, having an affair doesn’t actually mean that these people want to leave their partners. The respondents who answered that they had an affair were further asked “Do you want to divorce your spouse?” and 63.8 percent of the men and 55.9 percent of the women said either “I don’t want to get divorced” or “I’d rather not get divorced if possible,” with a further 7.9 percent of men and 10.4 percent of women saying “I’d like to work on our marriage.” Only 8.3 percent of men and 13.5 percent of women said definitively, “I want to get divorced.”

Finally, respondents were asked “How did the affair start?” For both men (42.4 percent) and women (41.7 percent), the overwhelmingly common answer was “At the workplace/related to work.” With a minimum of eight hours a day away at work and after work socializing a common requirement among Japanese companies, it’s no surprise that someone could develop a deeper connection with a person they work with, married or not.

After that, popular answers were “Romance apps and social media” (15.3 percent for both men and women) and “From a friend or acquaintance” (15.3 percent of men and 12 percent of women). Some people even met at social gatherings for hobbies and interests (11.4 percent for men and 6.4 percent for women), and for some women, reuniting with their exes was the stimulus (9.8 percent).

While a little less than 2,000 married people between the ages of 35-45 with children is not completely representative of the entire committed population of Japan, the results of the survey are quite interesting. It seems to show that to keep marriage working–and the partners faithful–dedicated effort to both physical and emotional intimacy by both parties is essential.

However, the key to this survey is that the respondents questioned were married individuals with children. What we’d want to know next is, what about married couples in this age range without children? Are the rates of cheating lower–and if so, is the added stress of raising children what causes people to seek physical and/or emotional intimacy outside of their marriage?

Either way, though most of these respondents said they didn’t want to get divorced, their spouses might think otherwise, and if they get caught, they might lose more than their relationship. Hopefully the end result doesn’t end in disaster!

Source: ValuePress

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We don't know how they defined "cheating" prior to the questionnaire - Many (I would think they're a good majority) of Japanese males and females do not consider using paid prostitution services as cheating, as there is no romance involved. This is a big difference from many other cultures.

10 ( +14 / -4 )

I was just going to say that ebisen. You beat me to it.

0 ( +8 / -8 )

kind of surprised so many were honest, although of course the real number is a lot higher. Compared to most countries it's more understandable and accepted here, also way easier to get away with in big cities. Do the same thing where I originally came from and half the town would know it a day later.

8 ( +9 / -1 )

Not surprisingly at all.

There is a video running out there when women are interviewed if going to fuzoku or prostitutes is considered cheating and all of them said is NOT.

So with this mentality, does this article seems surprising?

-2 ( +6 / -8 )

There is a video running out there when women are interviewed if going to fuzoku or prostitutes is considered cheating and all of them said is NOT.

Clearly a scientific study.

3 ( +7 / -4 )

I think in Japan "extramarital affair" means having a lover, excluding prostitution and other forms of paid services. I do wonder where papa katsu is included though, it is a bit on the borderline.

10 ( +10 / -0 )

Adultery should be a criminal offence as a deterrent. People who cheat on their spouse cannot be trusted in any aspect in their lives. It’s a dishonest act like theft and should be taken more seriously by the authorities to improve the morals of the nation.

-16 ( +2 / -18 )

Adultery should be a criminal offence as a deterrent.

Interesting. And what kind of punishment would you propose for adulterers?

13 ( +13 / -0 )

So similar percentage of Japanese cheat (or better said, admit to cheat) compared with other countries where equivalent polls have been made? It would seem that this part of human nature does not variate that much even in very different cultures.

Adultery should be a criminal offence as a deterrent

It is a solid base for lawsuits that can ruin the cheater. That seems a much more reasonable situation.

4 ( +6 / -2 )

People will not admit 100% because a partner committing adultery can be sued for compensation as the other person involved can and in a divorce case will lose the right to any children. A lot to lose but that does not stop many people.

10 ( +11 / -1 )

People who cheat on their spouse cannot be trusted in any aspect in their lives

How so?

Adultery should be a criminal offence as a deterrent. 

Sounds like a medieval-Taliban kind of thing.

12 ( +14 / -2 )

Sounds like gasu nuki pressure release for marriage.

5 ( +6 / -1 )

Adultery should be a criminal offence as a deterrent. People who cheat on their spouse cannot be trusted in any aspect in their lives. It’s a dishonest act like theft and should be taken more seriously by the authorities to improve the morals of the nation.

Although I'm married with kids myself I think the idea of someone basically owning someone's body is really weird and medieval. I think officially marriage should be changed to a flat partnership agreement, so there is legal agreements on who is your guardian etc if needed, this would apply the same for any kind of relationship or gender, really weird to lock that kind of legal work behind a romantic relationship.

9 ( +9 / -0 )

Strange how many condone cheating here, mind you it’s the usual suspects that I would expect it from.

-7 ( +2 / -9 )

Strange how many condone cheating here, mind you it’s the usual suspects that I would expect it from.

If two people promise each other something and one breaks that promise of course that's a shitty move, but that's not something that needs to be dealt with through the law, if you don't like a person anymore just leave. What needs to be normalized here is co parenting, instead of forcing themselves to stay in toxic relationships.

Also "the usual suspects"? based on your plus and minus ratio would that be everyone?

6 ( +7 / -1 )

Compared to most countries it's more understandable and accepted here, 

As long as it is off the radar

Look at all those celebrities who loose so much when cheating, Nothing is accepted.

5 ( +5 / -0 )

Ready or not, cheating is being normalized by reality shows, TV, movies, social media, etc. We live in period of fully connected to Iphones and tablets/computers so life style is shaped by stories on screens and social media. Apps for date, anyone? apps, for affairs, anyone? Ain't no big deal anymore. Ever wonder fascism, Nazis, lies on media are no longer big deal because it is all over social media and mainstream media are forced to follow suit. In fact to gain more clicks and followers, isn't better glamorize affairs?

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOcgscShqZg

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