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Japanese women reveal how far they’ve gone in 'stalking' a guy they like in survey

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By Casey Baseel, SoraNews24

Japanese Internet portal Aikatsu, which caters to women in their 20s and 30s, bills itself as “A website with information to help you succeed in romance and finding a spouse.” Its most recent poll, though, asks women how far they’ve gone in trying to win the game of love.

The survey asked the question “Have you ever done anything stalker-like about a guy you have a crush on?” with participants selecting from one of eight levels of stalker-liness. 739 responses were collected, with the results being:

● Level 0: I haven’t done anything stalker-like. (13.8 percent of respondents)

● Level 1: I’ve checked out his social media accounts. (19.8 percent)

● Level 2: I’ve checked out the social media accounts of his friends or ex-girlfriend. (12.7 percent)

Level 3: I’ve waited somewhere I knew he was going to be, then ambushed him by pretending we’d run into each other by coincidence. (14.3 percent)

● Level 4: I’ve gone to his part-time job/workplace. (6.8 percent)

● Level 5: I’ve secretly followed him. (7 percent)

● Level 6: I’ve gone to the front of the building he lives in. (13.9 percent)

● Level Max: I’ve gone beyond any of these. (11.6 percent)

While Aikatsu itself brought up the word “stalker” to describe these actions, some might argue that in the modern dating era, some of the things on the list don’t qualify a woman for that label. Taking a peek at someone’s publicly visible social media posts, for example, is considered by many to be simply doing your homework. Looking for potential red flags before seriously pursuing a romantic prospect can save both parties a lot of time and stress if they reveal things that would be eventual deal-breakers.

On the other hand, it’s hard to think of a scenario where the object of your as-yet undeclared affections would be happy to know you’re hanging out outside their apartment, or that you’ve been tailing them as they go about their day. Once feelings of attraction become that strong, as scary as the possibility of rejection may be, it’s generally best to just bite the bullet and tell your crush how you feel.

Source: PR Times

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While Aikatsu itself brought up the word “stalker” to describe these actions, some might argue that in the modern dating era, some of the things on the list don’t qualify a woman for that label

Umm yes they do.

If a man did those the police would be knocking on his door.

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Seems like a few women in Japan are just as human as a few men in Japan are.

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I agree with Burning Bush. It's some how cute if a girl & a blind eye is turned but creepy if a guy does it.

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I know that men can hide secrets like the CIA while women can get background info on you like the FBI, but I honestly believed that women stalking guys only existed in fiction. Well, I was wrong.

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I'd rate as low as Level 2 as getting a bit stalker-ish. Level 4, definitely.

Got to agree with comments above re how less benignly these behaviours would be interpreted if it was a man doing it. I guess the difference is that women don't turn to violence anywhere near as often.

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Never been stalked, that I know of. Why stalk a man if you can just let him know you are interested? Had more than a few women come on to me, and can't say that I was offended. Had a few men come on to me as well. Don't know what made them think I was interested. I don't swing that way, but don't mind having all kinds of friends.

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[...] the social media accounts of his friends of ex-girlfriend [...]

You mean "or."

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