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Kyoto University dorm pamphlet advises residents on how not to commit sexual harassment

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By Shannon, SoraNews24

Japan is a nation where, unfortunately, sexual harassment like groping and stalking is almost a daily feature in the news. While there are some measures to prevent acts like these from happening, there are surely some that think it’s just not enough.

One of Kyoto University’s off-campus student housing facilities, the Kumano Dorm, has decided to take initiative in this front by laying it out for students that apply to live in the building. Twitter user @tai_kai_sha uploaded an excerpt of these seven guidelines of “how not to commit sexual harassment”.

▼ It even goes into specifics on how to treat people in general.

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Here are the main points of each article:

  1. Do not touch someone else’s body.

  2. Don’t make dirty jokes or tell dirty stories in public spaces.

  3. Don’t make judgmental statements about someone’s appearance or personal lifestyle.

  4. Don’t compartmentalize behavior by gender, such as saying “girls are like this/boys are like this”.

  5. Don’t assume that someone isn’t or won’t get angry.

  6. Don’t automatically assume that every college student should have a significant other.

  7. If someone criticizes your behavior, it doesn’t matter what your intentions were. Listen to what they have to say first.

Not surprisingly at all, this advice resonated with netizens, with many saying that they wish these rules were posted in other areas of life (especially offices).

“This is amazing! Like, ‘it should be distributed in all industries’ amazing.”

“I love how this also mentions ‘it’s also not okay to compliment someone’s appearance’. No matter how beautiful they may be, there are a lot of men that don’t understand how humiliating it can be to be sexually objectified. It’s the same across all genders.”

“When I read this, it really took some weight off my chest. I thought, ‘So that time I didn’t like what was done to me really was power harassment. I wasn’t mistaken. I should have more confidence in the fact that it wasn’t my fault.’ I feel strangely happy now. Thank you for sharing this.”

Thanks to @tai_kai_sha, many more people than just new dorm students now have access to this valuable life advice.

Sources: Twitter/@tai_kai_sha via Hachima Kiko

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Do not touch another human being.

Tippy-toe around others and keep your mouth shut lest you compliment them by accident.

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Burning BushToday 07:29 am JST

Do not touch another human being.

Tippy-toe around others and keep your mouth shut lest you compliment them by accident.

I agree. Men should be able to compliment women on how sexy they are at any time. It is not fair if women get angry about this. They should just be happy that a man finds them attractive, right? After all, women live for men's approval, right? What else would we want out of life, if not to be attractive to all men, everywhere, at all times?

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@Girl_in_tokyo

im assuming you’re being sarcastic. Please clarify

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@that persion

Are you being sarcastic to assume @Girl is sarcastic?

I think being sarcastic makes things so easy to understand.

I wish every comment was sarcastic. It makes things so easy for everyone (both native and non-native English speakers).

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When I went to college my dorm threw gasoline on the fire by forcing us to have gender neutral bathrooms and showers. As a 19 year old guy it is challenging not to be curious about who is showering beside you.

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I don't see anything too radical in these seven points.

Don’t compartmentalize behavior by gender, such as saying “girls are like this/boys are like this”.

Nothing to do with the wilder shores of contemporary gender identity politics. Reads to me as just a reasonable suggestion that you might like to reconsider whether, for example, women really can't be engineers, or men can't be nurses, or women are always ruled by their emotions.

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Nice to see they're going for potential perpetrators instead of victims. It's quite clearly spelled out too.

There seems to be a discrepancy between the headline and actual rules though in that they're not explicitly aimed at sexual harassment, just 'harassment' in general (but potentially covering the sexual variety).

Maybe because the students aren't old enough there isn't anything on drinking but for the older ones that could be a good idea too, alcohol causes a lot of problems. I saw an interview with a security guard for Shambala festival and he said alcohol being banned there cut incidents down by 70%!

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The strange thing is, although I never touch my female coworkers, they always tap my forearm when they speak with me or crack a joke.

How come I'm not allowed to touch them but they feel entitled to touch me whenever they please.

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@Burning

Such is the price you pay for being irresistible beyond words ; )

5 ( +5 / -0 )

Hmm...#4 is a little iffy. How is “gender” in Japanese? If you’re talking about “sex,” then I doubt you could complete a medical degree with this restriction. I suppose if “gender” is very clearly referring to a social construct, it might do. Yet, can’t we talk about it? Can’t we discuss it?

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A lot of this is plain common sense. Body-shaming and telling dirty jokes/stories in public only shows a person's lack of maturity. It highlights their total lack of maturity.

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Don’t make judgmental statements about someone’s appearance or personal lifestyle.

... but according to #7, if you make such statements you should still be listened to!

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Don’t automatically assume that every college student should have a significant other.

This one's a bit odd to me. Why would anyone make that assumption? Never heard of this being problematic before.

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Burning BushToday  12:08 pm JST

The strange thing is, although I never touch my female coworkers, they always tap my forearm when they speak with me or crack a joke.

How come I'm not allowed to touch them but they feel entitled to touch me whenever they please.

Right on!! How dare women have the temerity to think they can tap a man on the arm when talking with him?! That’s exactly the same as the men who give a fake massage as an excuse to.touch a woman’s shoulders, or staring directly at a woman’s breasts.

Wow. How can women claim they’re being sexually harassed in the workplace when they do the same thing to men by sexually tapping on men’s’ arms?

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Mean what you say, and say what you mean.

https://www.google.co.jp/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/think-well/201206/think-sarcasm-is-funny-think-again%3famp

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From the above link

So, tone down the sarcasm and work on clever wit instead which is usually devoid of hostility and thus more appreciated by those you’re communicating with. In essence, sarcasm is easy (as is most anger, criticism and meanness) while true, harmless wit takes talent.

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Sexual harassment has been a serious problem in Japan and elsewhere and ought to be addressed. I'm glad to see that happening. Many men, especially, need to get the message that certain behaviors and words are out of line.

I don't want to see things go overboard though, which seems to be happening. Neither do I want to see men confused about what they cannot say and do. In my workplace, where I am usually the only man with several women it seems they are free to lightly touch me, call me handsome (don't know why) etc, but I never do or say those things to them lest I get trouble. It's a double standard I have to live with. I make it a point to never be alone with any one of them either.

While generally it is men that tend to sexually harass, many women are not angels either. How about the gold diggers and gossips? There are many women who judge men by their appearance, social status and wealth. Is this not discouraging for men who lack in these areas?

Recent angst between the sexes has been very sad to see and seems to be driving us further apart than closer together. We are all fallible humans and ought to admit it and try to improve, both men and women. More mutual respect and co-operation needed.

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Elvis is hereMar. 21 09:17 pm JST

From the above link

So, tone down the sarcasm and work on clever wit instead which is usually devoid of hostility and thus more appreciated by those you’re communicating with. In essence, sarcasm is easy (as is most anger, criticism and meanness) while true, harmless wit takes talent.

Thank you so much for your advice! I really need a man to tell me, a woman, how to react to misogynists online. Your input is valuable, and I will immediately stop being sarcastic. Instead I will stay completely quiet, and I'll let the men, who are so much smarter and have so much more experience in dealing with misogyny, take care of it themselves. I am sure none of their commentary will be self-serving excuses or victim blaming. I totally trust them to say all the right things. Again, thanks!

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Thank you so much for your advice! 

You're welcome. Glad I could be of help.

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How can women claim they’re being sexually harassed in the workplace when they do the same thing to men by sexually tapping on men’s’ arms?

That isn't what the poster is claiming at all, this is deliberately misrepresented. They are describing how women are held to a different standard than men in that regard. It's a good idea to avoid confusion by making sure both sexes are held to the same standards. Also, men don't like to touched unwantedly, but some people seem to think men enjoy all such attention and that they live for it (oh, the irony). Here's an example:

https://twitter.com/hizaga/status/1241419718709280768

(Hold that thought!)

https://twitter.com/hizaga/status/1241435662420553728

The funny thing is women do actually claim this when men tap their arm in the same way. I have read more than one email regarding the cautioning of male employees after complaint by a female employee. Quite possibly warranted, but remember men apparently couldn't be raped in Japan until....

checks notes

2018?

There is an obvious discrepancy between the perceived intentions of male and female behaviour and feminist scholars have noted a historical divide in this regard. Here is a small collection of feminist evolutionary psychology for reference and the basis for further reading: https://psycnet.apa.org/fulltext/2019-81646-001.html

For the good of society, we all need to be held to the same standards. Without equitable relations for one sex, the other won't buy into it.

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