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Three reasons why fewer Japanese people are having funerals

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By Ingrid Tsai

Traditional Japanese funerary practices are rooted within Buddhist rituals, and a traditional Japanese funeral consists of the following three important steps: the wake, the ceremony itself, and the cremation of the deceased.

However, funerals have been noted to be on a sharp decline in Japan in recent decades, and Hiromi Shimada, a Japanese specialist of religion and writer of a bestseller titled "Funerals Are Not Necessary," has observed the three main reasons as to why more Japanese people are forgoing traditional funeral practices.

The first reason is related to cost. Japan has the most expensive funerals in the world with the average funeral cost at 2.31 million yen. This average is at least five times the average of United States’ funeral costs, which has an average of 444,000 yen ($4,183) per funeral.

And especially compared to other countries such as Germany and the United Kingdom, with their respective averages around 198,000 yen and 123,000 yen, funeral costs in Japan seem like borderline bank robbery.

While a part of Japanese funeral tradition is gifting money to the deceased’s family, such monetary offerings don’t necessarily cover the full costs.

Costs have also risen due to a growing dependency on third-party vendors. Traditionally, funerals were very much a community-based affair. Whenever an individual in a village passed away, typically a team was formed from the members of neighboring households to assist the grieving family.

Much of the help provided from the community included preparation of funerary items, assisting the post-wake meal, hosting visiting mourners from afar, and burial of the deceased. As populations shifted and more individuals moved out of these tight knit communities, such groups have become scarce save for Japan’s more rural, tradition-abiding regions. In place of assistance that would come from the community in bygone days, people now have to rely on funeral agencies or third-party businesses.

The reciting of Buddhist sutras by a local monk is another traditional part of Japanese funerals, but many families refrain from including such practices to keep down costs.

Secondly, traditional funerals have been on the decline due to their smaller sizes.

While funeral ceremonies used to be elaborate affairs in the late 80s due to the robustness of Japan’s economy, with over-the-top flower displays and even brass ensembles for passed away celebrities, people have now opted to have more private funerals that only include family members and/or close friends of the deceased. Some individuals even opt for a funeral style dubbed chokuso, in which the deceased is cremated immediately, and no wake or ceremony is held.

Smaller funerals ensure that burgeoning expenses, such as the renting of a funeral hall, are avoided, but another factor why funerals have become smaller is that simply put, for a person who passes away in their 80s or 90s, there is no one who can come to mourn. For the extremely elderly, their main social circles have dissipated over time as the majority of their closest relatives and friends have already passed away.

Lastly, a drop in company-sponsored funerals have also contributed to the overall decline of Japanese funerals.

Postwar Japan saw a rise in companies becoming more involved in the life affairs of their workers — including their memorialization post mortem. It wasn’t uncommon for companies of any size to oversee funerals especially for top administrators who passed away, and oftentimes companies would completely supply the manpower and funds necessary to pull off the ceremony.

However, nowadays less companies partake in this practice, leaving funeral costs up to individuals and their families.

While things definitely look like they’re on the expensive side in Japan, Hiromi notes that you can still hold a budget-friendly funeral by obtaining the necessary items on your own.

For example, the casket and the funerary urn for holding the deceased’s ashes can be bought separately for 30,000 yen and 3,000 yen respectively. The price of cremation depends on the municipality — some local governments offer the service for free, others may have a small charge of 10,000 yen, which is way cheaper than the 60,000 yen charged by third party businesses in metropolitan areas like Tokyo. So technically, you could have a funeral for less than 50,000 yen, provided you make the proper arrangements ahead of time.

But for folks juggling work, multiple social spheres, and family, the time and energy necessary to prepare for a funeral isn’t something easy to shoulder individually. And while this may be a personal opinion, but if the deceased really wants a traditional funeral, it would be in rather bad taste not to respect their final wishes.

There is also a DIY funeral kit for those who are superbly desperate or strapped for cash.

Every culture has their own funerary practices, often reflecting historical underpinnings as well as religious beliefs. But whether you believe in the afterlife or not, no matter your budget, at least it’s become much easier to keep mementos of the deceased with these elegant brass capsules for your beloved’s ashes or bittersweet, homemade altars.

Source: President Online via Hachima Kiko

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And especially compared to other countries such as Germany and the United Kingdom, with their respective averages around 198,000 yen and 123,000 yen, funeral costs in Japan seem like borderline bank robbery.

That's exactly what they are

16 ( +17 / -1 )

Many service providers seem to still be living in a bubble era wet dream. Demanding half a year's salary for a funeral, and putting social pressure on the grieving families: "if you don't do it, everyone will looks negatively on you" is downright robbery and should be made illegal. The movie "Okuribito" romanticised this business but touched very little on the problems the monetised interpretation on what the funeral practices should be create.

12 ( +12 / -0 )

An immoral scam, taking advantage of the griefstricken to emotionally blackmail them into handing over far more money than is necessary.

16 ( +16 / -0 )

Grieving relatives are often persuaded to have services and extras they don’t need, often because they want to look good to the neighbours. These Buddhist rituals area scam, especially when burying the ashes in the family grave and the endless memorials.

I don’t want a funeral, any money I may have left I want spent on a massive boozed up wake for my nearest and dearest.

19 ( +19 / -0 )

The ceremonies are way too stiff and formal in Japan, I wouldn't want that in my name.

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The people who run the funeral industry in Japan are vultures who prey on death and grieving families. I have asked my kids that under no circumstances to deal with a mortuary when I pass, but to arrange a gathering for friends and family if they want to,

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The first reason is related to cost. Japan has the most expensive funerals in the world with the average funeral cost at 2.31 million yen

Japanese or local government could ease people who have little knowledge about funeral in Japan by providing information about affordable service, so people not being confused and surprised with expensive funeral cost when they lost their family member.

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Another reason is that a small number of providers has established a dominant family position, as they have in the US and other countries, allowing them to undercut competition, and then fix prices. Recall, too, that all of these providers are connected due to historic patterns of discrimination against them, a group which has an axe to grind.

As the article points out, there are options - including leaving your body to a medical school, which will then take care of costs and commemorate you every year for eternity...

8 ( +8 / -0 )

Funeral providers are in it for the money of course but a bigger problem is the families of the deceased bending to ridiculous historical social pressure to put themselves into debt rather that economise on a funeral.

6 ( +7 / -1 )

We had 3 funerals in my wifes family side and to be frank...i feel sorry to spend that amount of money...sure when my day will come i wish to have very simple one with closest family members to make them tired from spending over for this...I would prefer to leave my savings for my kids and wife...not to send for these funeral scammers

8 ( +8 / -0 )

Conduct a funeral at your house. That's what we did for my FIL; the only expense was the honorarium to the Buddhist priest of his hometown way up in the mountains of Kyushu - money well-spent. And when a beloved female friend of mine died - she was akin to a Japanese sister and never hesitated to slap me down when she disagreed with me - the opportunity to give her one last kiss on her forehead is something I will never forget.

10 ( +10 / -0 )

My FIL's funeral was one of the worst experiences of my life. I realized in a way that I am next to walk the plank and the chanting makes me physically ill. I threw away the black suit after that.

5 ( +5 / -0 )

That’s only another part of the bigger picture. Everything is uniformed, globalized, digitalized, cost performanced and so on. Same looking city centers , abolition of Hanako stamping and here less or same cheaper funerals show you what’s going on everywhere.

Exactly delivered as ordered...lol

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This article didn't even mention the cost of the plat for the grave. From the ads in the trains, even ones a few hours from Tokyo seem to run in the range of 600,000 to one million yen. Add that to an expensive funeral and there may be nothing left in the deceased's estate.

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Even in death, you can't escape debt!

4 ( +4 / -0 )

Over ten years now my father’s ashes are in an urn at home. One day when the time is right we’ll throw them in the sea.

5 ( +5 / -0 )

this may be a stupid question, but what if the family just cremate their dearly departed, say a little prayer, give the final rites and place them in the family grave with minimal fanfare and spending. I come from an Asian country where funerals are also extravagant and have seen it drive families into financial strain just to make themselves look good because of traditions. If only the dearly departed could talk, what would they say.

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