Why are some Chinese women still looking to the West for love?

So? I'm 50, divorced 20 years ago, and have been in a long-term relationship for 13 years without any interest in marriage or children. Funny how guys always assume that unmarried women are pining away alone and sad, when the opposite is far more likely to be true

O think you’re just taking this way too deep. Trust me, the vast majority of men do not have a monolithic thinking when it comes to women and their relationships.

YohanToday 12:07 am JST

Might be some Western men think like that but sure by far not all of them. Your comment is rather exaggerated.

I didn't say all men, though, did I. I said men who are uncultured, e.g.,. who have no experience with traveling or interacting with people from other countries, which is why they believe in the stereotype.

The funny thing is, even some of the men who live in Japan still think Asian women are submissive and expect their Japanese gf to continue to cater to him after marriage. What a surprise they get...

If a Chinese woman up to her 40s is still single and claiming she cannot find a husband, she better should think about if she herself is the problem and not all these many local men around her.

Pffft. She might not want a husband. Maybe she makes that claim so she can placate her family while avoiding marriage.

About international/interracial marriage, I have no objection at all. I am from Europe, moved to Asia and I am married since 45 years with a Japanese wife, never divorced, no problems of any kind in our relationship

So? I'm 50, divorced 20 years ago, and have been in a long-term relationship for 13 years without any interest in marriage or children. Funny how guys always assume that unmarried women are pining away alone and sad, when the opposite is far more likely to be true.

girl_in_tokyoToday 09:33 am JST

Women need to survive, and men want someone they (think) they can control.

In the US, particularly among those who are less culturally aware, people tend to think that Asian women are pliable and submissive. This is of course quite wrong and very sexist. I imagine a lot of the men who marry these women learn this on their own. At least by then the woman will have her US green card, can leave him in the dust, and hopefully find real love with someone who won't expect her to be a doll.

Might be some Western men think like that but sure by far not all of them. Your comment is rather exaggerated.

This article is about China which has a huge gender imbalance, there are about 35 million men (up to the age of 39) more than women living in this huge country. It is often very difficult and costly for a young Chinese man and his parents to find a reasonable young woman for a long term relationship.

If a Chinese woman up to her 40s is still single and claiming she cannot find a husband, she better should think about if she herself is the problem and not all these many local men around her.

About international/interracial marriage, I have no objection at all. I am from Europe, moved to Asia and I am married since 45 years with a Japanese wife, never divorced, no problems of any kind in our relationship.

"True love is something you can't find in stores":

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O2vJtIfD5HA

I guess a lot of these women ignore the red lights that are flashing when - some - Western men declare: "I want to marry only an Asian woman. No more Western women for me!"

These guys sometimes tend to carry personal issues and are perhaps not the most adjusted guys out there.

Having said that, overall, I think cross-cultural relationships can work as well as any other. Good luck to all the women in this study.

I think it's a more liberal culture (including family culture) and much more freedom and probably financial factor sometimes as well (depends on a woman) they want to try marrying a western man because there's the belief that western men are less authoritarian, more understanding, kind, loving etc etc little do they however suspect that narcissism and psychopathy is a universal trend on the rise.

My first marriage was with a woman of the same race as myself. It was a disaster. After forty plus years in a cross cultural marriage, we are both very happy. I think that in this day and age, people look for an alternative when the first marriage does not work out.

Interestingly, of the 30 women in my study who were financially secure, only 12 ended up marrying Western men. By comparison, 26 of the 31 financially struggling women married and moved abroad.

Smart. If I could marry a wealthy woman and live abroad, hell yeah!

they love a man with a big ego

Despite these potential drawbacks mentioned here, many cross-cultural relationships are successful and enriching for those involved.

girl_in_tokyoToday 09:33 am JST

Women need to survive, and men want someone they (think) they can control.

> In the US, particularly among those who are less culturally aware, people tend to think that Asian women are pliable and submissive. This is of course quite wrong and very sexist. I imagine a lot of the men who marry these women learn this on their own. At least by then the woman will have her US green card, can leave him in the dust, and hopefully find real love with someone who won't expect her to be a doll.

Good luck with your fantasy.

I cannot imagine any Chinese or Asian woman staying long with a USA man from the deep south. If they think for one second that the standards of these men will be any better than Asian men, they are in for a huge surprise.......But then, I bet a lot of them are just looking to escape from China, for which I cannot blame them, they can always move on once in the USA.

Turbulence.

Money!

I have a friend from China, and aside from struggling to live there, she says that most men there are controlling or stupid. The men in the US are no great catch as a bunch, but many are much better than living in China and being the property of a Chinese man. That's what my friend says. The funny part of it is that she came with green card in hand, so she didn't have to get married at all, but she's dating a Chinese-American. She's very happy here. That's all I can say.

Women need to survive, and men want someone they (think) they can control.

In the US, particularly among those who are less culturally aware, people tend to think that Asian women are pliable and submissive. This is of course quite wrong and very sexist. I imagine a lot of the men who marry these women learn this on their own. At least by then the woman will have her US green card, can leave him in the dust, and hopefully find real love with someone who won't expect her to be a doll.

For love? Come on. Its anything but.

Infatuation or infiltration.

They're interested in the bulge in your trousers (the wallet, not what you were thinking, tch tch tch dirty mind) O_O

Must handsome western guys ,like me, always be objectified ??

Ask Japanese women