Yours sincerely: Singles charmed by Japan letter-writing scheme

Sounds fun, anything is better than dating apps in Japan. People here only take pictures of the back of their hair, desserts, that one time they went to the beach, or pets in profiles. Completely wild why people even sign up if they can’t even muster a profile shot lol

It’s difficult to imagine how this would work in a culture like Japan’s, where collectivist tendencies extend even to hobbies and preferences. So many people I’ve met say their favorite things are “tasty food”, “cute cafe”, and “outdoors”. How people can select partners based on that is a mystery to me. But then again, maybe they just try it out. I believe people could be in successful relationships with almost anyone if they were open minded enough - arranged marriages can be more just as successful, if not more, than traditional, for example. Perhaps that’s a strength of this letter writing approach.

I write the letters,that make a Sweet Japanese Princess,heart sing

Sounds fun, anything is better than dating apps in Japan. People here only take pictures of the back of their hair, desserts, that one time they went to the beach, or pets in profiles. Completely wild why people even sign up if they can’t even muster a profile shot lol

and when the japanese actually show their faces in a picture on SNS, everyone else's eyes/faces are blurred/censored with black boxes etc. including children, not totally creepy.

But I like this idea of love letters without pictures, a great way to know each other (like in penpal times) and after all, its not like the people here are remarkably different from each other in terms of looking

Interesting idea but I’m too lazy and impatient for something like that. Seems like a pain. And yeah, pictures play a big part as most people are shallow to a certain degree. An unattractive woman could have a beautiful soul but it’s not gonna work if there is no physical attraction. And a beautiful woman may have an ugly personality and that also won’t work in the long run even if there is sexual chemistry. There’s a reason dating apps are so popular.

A step in the right direction, as shown by its popularity. There’s been a focus in modern society on finding one’s soulmate, but no one marries their soulmate. When you marry, at that instant, you have become soulmates.