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YouTube video has girls asking: Am I pretty?

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as their brains continue to develop.

Junk science, just as flawed and dangerous as early twentieth century declarations that certain behaviours gave you hairy hands and made you blind, and that its best to deny your babies and children as much touching and lap sitting as possible.

If tweens etc. make poor decisions, its because society is doing everything they can to deny them real world experience and knowledge, not because the brain has formed in a certain way over time.

There is so much panic in America right now a male teacher would be nervous just to give his 13 year old student directions on the street on a Saturday. So no surprise that people have grown to post hateful anti-social comments on the inhuman medium of the internet. And why is this happening? Fear they might have sex before 18, as if sex were the most destructive force on Earth, because that is also what today's junk science is telling us.

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The internet is often a cesspool of callous off the cuff remarks by people of all ages who have virtually nothing intelligent to contribute and show no empathy for the main respondent of their comment. The comment boards on Youtube are some of the worst I have read and I honestly shudder to think what girls like these, and others go through as they read the massages people post. These are immature minds at a very delicate stage of their existance being subjected to horrible abuse posted by people who can hide away from the responsibility of what they write through the anonymity of the internet. It's a damming indictement on where we are at socially.

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I feel bad for these kids. I was bullied and treated quite badly in school because I was mixed race, quirky and shy. But in that time I had the support of parents who loved me and supported me and teachers who saw my potential and encouraged me.

If I could write to all these kids I would tell them to hang in there. School can be hell, but it passes quickly and life really begins after the nightmare of school. Most bullied people I knew in high school found their stride in college and became some of the most creative and impressive people I know. Often finding their purpose or confidence as they uncovered what they wanted to do with their lives. None continued suffering the insults and idiocy of school.

The cyber world can be a lot like the idiocy of grade and highschool. I think it is a dangerous forum for young people and it may well be a new kind of selfdestruction that these kids are exploring. I hope that parents will do what my parents did. Take time to talk with your children, support and encourage them. Listen to what they have to say. And help them see past the present challenges with hope for a better future.

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Well, this shouldn't come as any surprise. Parents here and worldwide are buying their children smartphones.

Correction: Parents who don't know how to use a smart phone are buying their children ,who can run circles around them, smart phones. Women are using the Internet 3x as much as men are. Here in Japan, women have made it their addiction, and their confirmation that they are desired. They constantly need to be in contact with someone, anyone.

This video is just the tip of the iceberg. Lucky it's just YouTube. Imagine this same story but on Craigslist? Such insecurities can be exploited.

At the heart of this problem is NOT the video itself but the fact that parents aren't being parents. You don't leave your daughter or son who's just going through puberty with a laptop up in his room. Nor do you give him a smart phone. A father runs the house. Now if he wants to go up to his daughters room and she whats she's doing it had better be an open door policy. None of that "Respect my privacy, Dad".

Parents need to watch every computer and smart phone in the house. Add tracking software and keyloggers. You can have privacy after you prove to be a responsible teenager. If the situation is too bad, then pull the plug on the Net.

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The problem isn't really with the girls asking if they are pretty but with the people who make nasty comments. Some of those are well educated people who behave badly when given the freedom to post without revealing who they are.

I think on YouTube, there are millions of sicko comments?

There are children 7-8 years posting video, mostly with adult supervision. I have been very impressed with the talents of some of these young people. Singing, making music or even running their own computer tech shows.

The use of this technology, and other is very much part of the lives of these young people. Mostly, I think it's good and helps them develop communication skills.

Google needs to introduce a better system for the postings by these young people. I think for both posting and viewing there should be a system of registration which involves much more than just an email account. But no system will be prefect.

These young people have been born into the world of advanced technologies but mostly their parents were not and often lack the understanding or abilities to guide their children's lives on the internet.

Back to the original question, I think most young girls want to know if they are pretty?

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@zichi

Come on dude, if you are willing to put yourself out there publicly then you had better be ready to take the heat. There are many preference settings for people who upload videos. This girl went public and that's what she gets.

Am I pretty? Jeez, you want to let the world judge? There you go!! She got an honest response. You can even set your video NOT to allow comments but NOOOO she didn't do that.

Whitney Houston suffered from a low self-esteem, look where it got her. It's society itself that caused this girl to worry so much about her image. "I don't look like that woman on Cosmopolitan or Vogue" So what? The women on the cover of those magazines can't enjoy a slice a pizza without feeling guilty.

Anyway, YouTube is not the place for underage girls posting videos. I don't blame the people who posted somewhat questionable comments for a questionable video. Come on @Zichi, you know the saying "If you have to ask" then you will never know.

Some people find it disgusting when people wallow in self pity.

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I was going to search for the link, sign up and give her positive feed back. I decided it is not worth getting hate notes to me for doing so.

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if you are willing to put yourself out there publicly then you had better be ready to take the heat

If you're dumb enough to go on to a public forum and ask that question, you shouldn't be surprised at what you get.

If you're talking adults, I agree. But these are pre- and low-teens. Kids. They shouldn't be being given this much rope to hang themselves with. Internet-savvy (but not streetwise) kids with Internet-ignorant parents. A recipe for disaster.

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Insecurity in one's teen years is a natural thing. Everyone had to go through it. Without seeking the opinion of hundreds of thousands of unknown viewers on the internet. If someone posts such a video on the internet without any further message or without showing anything special (like the ability to play piano, dance or whatever), it really makes me wonder if there are deep psychological problems, since the message in that case is only "ME". It might reveal a basic lack of communication skills. It's parental duty to raise children and help them develop their personalities. Giving birth is simply not enough. Sadly, giving birth (and paying for gadgets) is the limit of parental ability in many cases.

"How did we grow up without all that?" , one might wonder... But at the time when we were young, other forums served a similar purpose.

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How needy!

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I feel bad for the kids because their parents dont have the since to teach their children about self respect. If you go online and askpeople "am i cute" or something like that, people are going to say nasty things.

Its sad that the world is becoming filled with more and more people that wear their heart on their sleeve.

You cant think that everyone in the world is going to like you are think that you are cute or something, thats just nieve.

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Young people should use restraint on internets. And they need to understanding that many people leave comments just being mean. Or some people even pretend to be an another person! But as users, we should always refuse to watch any video on the Youtubes that do not allowing comments.

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Netninja Children of age 10 would not be mature enough to understand the repercussions of their actions ...obviously. If you say they deserve the abuse for that reason, well, I just don't follow the logic.

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Going on youtube and asking if I'm pretty or ugly?

Man, that's one thing I ain't gonna try.

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netninja

Come on dude, if you are willing to put yourself out there publicly then you had better be ready to take the heat. There are many preference settings for people who upload videos. This girl went public and that's what she gets.

Hang on a sec. Are you suggesting that none of those people have a responsibility for what they post? Are you suggesting that the bottom of the barrel standard of those responses is entirely justified in cyberland? That cyberland doesn't need to really bare any reseblance to the standards we generally try to uphold in other parts of our life? She is a KID netninja. She isn't old enough to know better or really deal with the ramifications of exposing herself to the immoral wolfpack that is the cyberworld.

I don't blame the people who posted somewhat questionable comments for a questionable video

Care to explain why?

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I am so glad I did not grow up in NetNinja's house. I have always valued my privacy. If I had someone insisting on coming in my room, I think I would have offed myself like my friend did.

Moving on, its interesting that when most people recognize this form of female insecurity, they want nothing more than to squash it. This is part of what makes girls, girls. This is part of what draws them to boys. Part of what makes love and romance possible. Wanting to make a country of confident females sounds a lot like just wanting of country of nothing but males. Why can't girls be girls?

Nature has given many girls this void that is meant to filled by the approval of boys. But Americans work over-time against that nature, fearing humanity might ensue. And what do you get? Legions of females trying to fill that void with a substitute, a popular one being consumerism. Which is of course exactly the way many captains of industry want it; to have a quivering dissatisfied populace trapped in a cycle of believing happiness can be found in the next purchase.

But this article points to yet another attempt of young girls to stray away from the false god of consumerism and get the actual approval that right now she knows she wants, before the conditioning of the TV set has set in. But for all these vicious people and their cruel comments, I bet there is someone who would give her all the approval she needs in the real world. But that is about the last thing Americans want to discuss. They would sooner tell you that young females are damaged by what comes natural than by being a love starved slave of the next infomercial promising beauty if you just buy this product.

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Wouldn't it be nice if we lived in a world where the people who thought they were pretty said so in their comments, and the ones who didn't, just declined to comment.

Reading youtube comments can make you lose faith in humanity. Makes this site seems like the Mutual Admiration Society.

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I'd post something along the lines of "Do I think you are ugly? No. Do I think you are an idiot for posting this video asking trolls to boost your self esteem? Yes."

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why do people need to be mean is beyond me. there is nothing wrong with the truth. i would just give a rating. 10 being a model. if parents or friends keep lying and telling u that u r a 9 or an 8 when in fact you are a 6, u will b heart broken when u keep aiming for a 9 boyfriend/girlfriend and u r only a 6. its very rare for such a match. usually a 6 matches a 5,6,7 not a 9 or 10. im always surprised when i get 4's or 5's chasing me when im clearly a 7 or 8. i think they re nuts to think they have a chance with me. people need to know the truth about their level so they can chase after realistic goals.

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Well comments to underage videoposters should be moderated, anonymity on the internet seems to increase the sociopathic behaviour in people.

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NEW YORK — The young girl shows off her big

that bit made me click on the link... -_-

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...and no body commented on these kids self esteem issues?

The comments of Albert Ellis are quite enough for me.

The American psychologist Albert Ellis criticized on numerous occasions the concept of self-esteem as essentially self-defeating and ultimately destructive.[31] Although acknowledging the human propensity and tendency to ego rating as innate, he has critiqued the philosophy of self-esteem as unrealistic, illogical and self- and socially destructive – often doing more harm than good.

Girls acting like girls is not a problem. The problem is that they are seeking attention over the WWW instead of getting enough locally.

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im always surprised when i get 4's or 5's chasing me when im clearly a 7 or 8. i think they re nuts to think they have a chance with me. people need to know the truth about their level so they can chase after realistic goals.

Clearly. And who told you, Hot or Not dot com?

Ok, I don't agree with most of NetNinja's points, but...

At the heart of this problem is NOT the video itself but the fact that parents aren't being parents. You don't leave your daughter or son who's just going through puberty with a laptop up in his room. Nor do you give him a smart phone. A father runs the house. Now if he wants to go up to his daughters room and she whats she's doing it had better be an open door policy. None of that "Respect my privacy, Dad".

Lots of parenting groups give the advice to put your family computer in a common area instead of in their room. There's a lot of dangers and potential dangers on the internet that children and young teens don't have the experience or knowledge to understand.

So they don't say you're ugly, they say "You're hot, now take off your shirt". If this is your child and you don't know what's happening, that could end up very, very badly, ranging from public humiliation to becoming a subject of child pornography. If there's a webcam and it's in a common area, it's far less likely your child will respond in kind to that kind of request than if they were in a private area. No pun intended.

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