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I met Shun and Makiko one morning as I was standing in front of my apartment drinking coffee and wondering what the hell I was doing with my life, teaching English in Japan. When they came out of the apartment two doors down from me, they introduced themselves and we small-talked for a bit. Then they went off to go clam digging, but not before inviting me to dinner that Friday night.

If you live in Japan, you know just how rare this is. People go decades without ever speaking to their neighbors, and to be invited into someone’s home is nothing short of miraculous. Soon we were hanging out a couple times a week. I’d go over to their apartment for curry and beer, they’d come to mine for shochu and this dried octopus I buy at the convenience store. Once in a while Shun and I would go out together and hit a cheap izakaya. Shun and Makiko also had a two year-old daughter named Ai-chan, who used to scramble to high-five me every time we met.

This went on for a few months, until I decided I ought to actually attempt cooking something in return for all the delicious food Makiko had been making. I figured I’d invite them over the next time I ran into them. Only problem was, I didn’t see them for a good three weeks. I was a bit concerned. We’d been planning to go to karaoke together.

Around midnight on a Saturday, just as I was wondering if it was worth crawling all the way to the fridge for another beer, the doorbell rang. I got up and there was Shun.

“Hey, how’s it going?” I said. “Haven’t seen you in a while!”

“Yeah,” he said as he stepped in and took off his shoes. I could see that something was wrong.

“I’ll get you a beer,” I said. “What’s up?

“You got the landlord’s phone number?”

“Yeah, somewhere in this pile of papers. Grab a seat.”

He sat on the floor with his beer. “Where’d your little table go?” he asked. Then, “You seen Makiko lately?”

“No, why?” I said. “I haven’t seen either of you in forever.”

“I hope she’s not dead,” he said. He dialed the landlord. “He’s not answering,” he said.

“Well it’s after midnight. Dead? Why? Dude, Makiko’s not dead.”

It turned out they’d had a fight a week ago, and Shun had packed his bags and left for his mother’s house. I was like, “Don’t you have a key?” and he looked thoughtful and said, “I was pissed so I gave it back to her.” Then apparently, little Ai-chan had been dropped off at her grandmother’s house three days ago and no one had heard from Makiko since.

We went outside and looked at the door. “Doesn’t it smell kind of funny?” Shun asked. We sniffed at the exhaust fan. “I dunno,” I said, “maybe it’s garbage or something.” We went back into my place, then out to the balcony. He only lived two doors away. I stood up on my air-conditioning unit and looked around the partition. If you stepped onto the railing, you could hold onto the partition and swing around to the next apartment. Do that twice and you’d be there. I looked down four floors to the ground, and reflected on the small pile of beer cans I’d just drunk. It was really high.

“Maybe we should call the cops,” I said and stepped down. Shun got onto the air conditioner and stood there for a moment. Then without a word, he stepped onto the railing and balanced there. I thought it’d looked dicey before, but when I saw him up there, it was way worse. If he fell, he’d be dead for sure. He twisted his body around the partition and dropped onto the nextdoor neighbor’s porch, then began working his way onto his own balcony. It occurred to me that maybe the sliding glass door wouldn’t even be open.

“Can you get in?” I yelled.

“Hang on,” he said. “It’s dark. I think I see her.”

“Open the front door,” I said. “When you get in, open the front door!”

I went inside, then out my own front door. In about one second, the door to Shun’s place flew open and he fell out, screaming “She’s dead! She’s dead!” He dropped to the concrete as I caught him, saying “No, she can’t be. How’s that possible?” He was crying and shaking. “I thought she was asleep! She’s cold, she’s cold!” I held him in my arms and he wouldn’t stop crying, just wailing. I was like, what do I say in Japanese? What would I even say in English? I know Japanese stuff like “well, that’s too bad,” for when your bike gets a flat tire, or “I’m sorry to hear about your loss” for when your granny dies, but what do you say to a guy when his wife’s just committed suicide? I said nothing.

Shun was babbling and almost incoherent, and suddenly seemed to be all wet, and I wondered if it was tears, sweat, or he’d peed himself. “Call the police,” he said. I was shaking so badly I could hardly hold my phone.

“What’s the number?” I stammered. “The number, what’s the number?”

“119,” he said, which in Japanese sounds like ten-one-nine. I knew that. I started to dial.

“Where the hell’s the ten button?” I cried. “I can’t find the ten button!” I was shaking like mad. Then I thought maybe I’d made a mistake in my Japanese, so I tried to calm down and check my numbers. Shun and I are laying on the concrete, and he’s pale and wet and crying, and I’ve got my left arm tightly around him and a phone in my right hand and I’m counting, One, two, three, four, five . . . until I get to ten and I still can’t figure out where the hell the ten button is, so I start over again, One, two three . . .

“I don’t know how to dial the phone,” I said. I pressed it into his hand, and he managed to get it dialed and passed it back. A police dispatcher answered. Suddenly, I didn’t know what to say again.

“Hello,” I said. Then, “There’s a dead person!”

“What’s the person’s name?” she asked. I couldn’t remember, so I told her who I was. “What’s your location?” she said. I couldn’t remember.

“Japan,” I said.

Japanese Emergency Response

Shun and I were still laying there when the paramedics ran up the stairs, followed shortly by the police. Soon there was a swarm of stretchers, oxygen masks, medical bags and police of every sort.

You know, unless you live near a row of bars, which I didn’t, Japan’s really quiet at night. I could only imagine what the neighbors were thinking, with all the sirens and police and ambulance crews. A policeman squatted down beside us and started asking questions. This went on for about 10 minutes, and I knew a solid hundred people in the neighboring apartments could hear every word. A lot of the questions were personal, and for the first time it occurred to me that this was a criminal investigation. I thought, shouldn’t this be happening at the police station? Instead, we were just collapsed in a heap on the concrete. I was a mess. Shun was a disaster.

Finally I said, let’s at least take this into my apartment. The policeman said nothing, but kept asking questions for another 20 minutes. Other cops came by and asked things. She’d been holding her phone and texting someone when she died. Who was that person? Where’d she gotten the pills she took? The ambulance crew went in and out and the medical examiner arrived to take away the body. I suggested moving into my apartment again and finally the suggestion took. We’d been outside for nearly an hour, in a crumpled pile on the concrete.

When we got inside, it occurred to me I had a different problem. My place was a holy mess. There were dishes in the sink and little stacks of garbage and empty beer cans, and everywhere were enormous piles of laundry. Soon a dozen police were in and out asking every possible question of Shun and me. What time did Shun arrive? Why didn’t he have a key? How long had she been depressed? Was there infidelity? How had he broken into the apartment? How many beers had we had? This went on for hours, sitting on my floor.

Somewhere around 4 a.m., things got a bit stranger. Makiko’s parents showed up. Shun broke down when he saw them and with tears streaming down his face, got on his hands and knees and bent his head to the ground, apologizing over and over. Her parents were crying. I was crying. The policeman was sitting there with his notebook and he was crying. I started madly stuffing laundry into the closet and put on some tea. I looked in my cabinet and all I could find was one tea cup, a plastic McDonald’s glass, three wine glasses, and a Rirakuma coffee mug, so that’s how everyone got their tea.

Then Makiko’s other children showed up. Other children? Apparently she’d been married before and had two children, aged seven and 12. They were bawling, having been woken in the middle of the night to the news that their mother had killed herself. I gave them wine glasses full of tea. Shun’s mother showed up. I gave her a beer mug full of tea.

Sometime after dawn, everyone left, except Shun, who asked if he could stay. We unfolded the futon and passed out. When I woke up a couple hours later, he was gone.

The Morning After

I stepped out on the porch. Christ, it was a beautiful day. This is where I’d met them a few months ago, and now Makiko was dead. I felt like hell. I decided to go for a run to clear my head. The night before, there’d been an emergency room’s worth of medical devices on the porch, along with every type of police and medical personnel you’d ever imagined. Now it was all gone, except for a small flyer for a pizza place laying in front of the apartment where they used to live.

It was so strange. They’d cleaned everything up, except for this one ad for a pizza joint. I picked it up. I couldn’t believe they’d never live there again. My friends were gone. For some strange reason, I tried the door handle and it turned. I opened the door.

Surprise party! Everyone was in the apartment. “Hello,” they all happily shouted at once, and Shun jumped up and ran to me. “Come in, come in,” he said. Holy Christ. I closed the door. Shun opened the door and grabbed me by the arm. “Everyone’s waiting for you,” he said. Everyone was in black suits. I looked down and all I could see were my bare legs and these tiny running shorts. I went in and everyone was smiling. I was still holding the flyer for the pizza place, since I didn’t have any pockets in my shorts. I looked down again and to my shock, there was Makiko, laying dead on a futon in the middle of the room. Shouldn’t the coroner have taken her away? Why the hell was she still there? She did not look very good.

“We’re putting make-up on her now,” said Makiko’s mother. I’d never noticed how many earrings Makiko had before.

“That’s, uh, good,” I said. Again, I had no idea what to say.

Somehow, they’d run out in the early hours of the morning and already gotten a glossy 8×12 framed portrait of Makiko and laid it by her head, then whipped up a bowl of her favorite meat stew and placed it beside here, along with a bowl of rice. It wasn’t even 10 a.m. yet. A pair of chopsticks were sticking straight up from the rice.

“Come and sit beside her,” said Shun. That was about the last thing I wanted to do, but as I had no choice, I knelt beside her dead body with my running shorts and pizza flyer and looked at her and her family, and wanted to cry. But since no one else was, I didn’t. The whole thing was already weird enough. Everyone thanked me incessantly for the use of my apartment the previous night. After half an hour, I made my goodbyes. I couldn’t figure what else to do, so I went for a run by the river. Such a beautiful, sunny day.

Makiko’s body lay there for another two days until they finally carried her away surrounded by flowers. Shun said he didn’t sleep the entire time. He was wracked with guilt. He started cutting his arms with razor blades. He must have had a hundred cuts all up and down them.

Then on the third day, they started cleaning the place out. They threw away everything, and I mean everything. Makiko’s parents came by and gave me a case of beer. Shun gave me their microwave and a bunch of dishes, including some tea cups. I figured those would come in handy. It took them exactly two days to throw out all the furniture, appliances, and traces of their life, and then clean the place.

After it was done, I went into the apartment and it looked like nothing had ever happened. All that was left was an enormous pile of trash in front of the building. No sentimentality, no mementos. They bagged up all of Makiko’s clothes and possessions and laid them among the trash. And then it was like she’d never existed.

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Heartbreaking story. I'm speechless. Thanks for sharing.

6 ( +10 / -4 )

What a sad yet interesting story. If it wasn't for the humor, I may have been in tears half way through. I wonder if Ken still has contact with Shun and how he is doing. I wish the best for him and his family.

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What can you say in response to something like this? I have my own opinions on this story, but I won't post them, I'll just say RIP Makiko.

1 ( +4 / -3 )

What a surreal story, very rare to experience. I guess the apartment is now "cursed" so the rent would be dirt cheap. Would any of you readers live there if you were apartment hunting? I'm not superstitious so I'd have no qualms about moving in.

-3 ( +3 / -6 )

Thanks for sharing, very interesting and moving...

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I wouldn't dare move in now that I know about that apt. Tragic way to end life..

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When we got inside, it occurred to me I had a different problem. My place was a holy mess

There's a man with a dead wife next door and the author is concerned about litter?

-6 ( +8 / -14 )

so sad & so unfortunate. man, that was the most riveting read on JT I've seen. yeah, thanks for sharing...

-1 ( +3 / -4 )

One of the best stories u shall find, thanks for sharing! Couldn't stop reading quickly till end!! Out of words.....thumbs up

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What a sad story and it is such Japanese courteousness that they showered you with gifts even though they were going through such a terrible time.

I am wondering if there was a reason for her suicide like a note left or what the couples fight was about.

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I can't read this. I only skimmed it. I already know the story, as I have lived through it. To the writer, I am sorry.

2 ( +4 / -2 )

Incredibly sad story. Please be strong.

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This is well written, Ken. I've experienced something similar and you describe well the shock of the experience and how it affects you, and others, as the situation plays out.

Quite often on this site, people post callous and flippant remarks about suicide - they dehumanise it terribly. This paints a real picture of the pain, suffering and humanity of this tragedy - which will last a lifetime for all involved.

It's an important piece, thank you.

4 ( +8 / -4 )

Truly a sad story on how people can be so alone in these faceless times. I had a similar experience a few years back where a neighbour had died and it was weeks before i even heard about it, by which time all had passed and moved on. Living in these high rise apartment blocks i guess it happens quite often, but usually to someone else.

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nice read, just like your yakuza experience

-1 ( +2 / -3 )

Follow the link to his website in the "Author Information" section at the bottom of the article. There is a fuller version of the story there along with an update on how Shun is doing. Ken has other good stories there, too. He's an interesting writer to be sure. I read this first on his website and was very moved, and amazed that he could somehow mix humor with pathos and get the balance just right, which is not an easy thing to do.

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Interesting read. Although I'm still puzzled by the ending...

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That was heart breaking...

-1 ( +2 / -3 )

sounds like a typical ceremony in a small apartment, I do hope they had plenty of dry ice and the aircon maxed out for the 3 days. If you want some insight into Japanese funeral makeup this movie is worth watching "Okuribito" http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1069238/

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I cried reading this

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Surprise party! Everyone was in the apartment. “Hello,” they all happily shouted at once, and Shun jumped up and ran to me.

When I read this, I was like, "No, this can't be real, you totally made this up." I mean, how could they act like that? How could you be happy (or even pretend to be happy) at a time like that? But then, what do I know, I haven't actually been to an actual Japanese funeral before. So maybe it is real. I wonder if it's the Japanese norm though. Regardless, it was an incredibly touching and sad story.

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@tsukki

It was unfortunately far too real, down to the last detail.

As for happiness, or what passes as such, I can only add that I've also experienced something similar with the death of a close family member. At such times, emotions run so high, I think the brain must just be flooded with endorphins. Or something, what do I know? But maybe there's so much grief and horror in realizing just how temporal life is that we shut down our logical thought processes and just revert to pure emotion. Some of which is, occasionally---what? Relief? And then guilt for feeling relief. It is, to be sure, incredibly sad.

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Wow...just wow

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So i have been staying in an apartment located in inazawa and when i first move in here i thought of giving a small present to a person living next to me like a normal japanese would do, but that time no one was there i could have greet. Day passed and i never went to greet him because i am from nepal and thought that would be awkward if i make my first step since i live alone. The only thing i know is the person living next to me is an old man because most of the nights i can hear him cough and snore. So there was one day i happenned to wake up at 6 in the morning but normally it would have been 7:30 if there was no sound of those ambulance which was very unusual and loud because most of the time my place is also very quiet and silent. It was for sure that there has to be some sort of reason for them to come early this morning and to know why i had to open my door and step outside. Now all i saw was medical peoples and policemen and some other assistant making some inquiries and to my understanding i think the person who stays next to my room had some kind of health problem, but i know he's not dead because it was over by that particular day and after couple of weeks later, the sound of coughing and snoring continued and i knew he's back.

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