I was young many moons ago and my background is Anglo-French. After several months in splendid isolation, I decided to utilize the Internet and seek a Japanese, Korean or Chinese lady. Therefore, for a week or so, I searched the best sites and hoped for the best.
It soon became apparent that meeting someone wasn’t so hard, but would anything come from my desire and passion? Well, patience is a virtue but sometimes virtues don’t work or you miss the chance to start something new.
I met a nice lady called Chung Ae who originally came from South Korea and after studying she worked in information technology. She was a real stunner, nice and slim, a strict Protestant Christian and an adorable lady.
However, after several weeks, I knew she wanted to share a real and deep relationship and she let it be known that marriage was her long-term motive for dating. This became our stumbling block because I knew I would return to my beloved France within six months at the most.
More problematic than this, was my ex-girlfriend who had died young and in tragic circumstances. Her spirit still remained within my soul and now was not the right time for me to tie the knot and settle down.
If I had met Chung Ae several years later, then she would have been a fantastic catch, so to speak. However, to keep a long distance relationship is very hard and I really did not want to waste her time because not only was she cute and highly intelligent, but she was extremely sincere. Therefore, the feeling of desire was in my heart but this devout Protestant lady had my utmost respect, and in time, our meetings petered out.
The next lady was buxom and mixed Japanese-Brazilian. She had two young children and one year earlier, she got divorced in Japan. We hit it off in a different way -- Marie was very open and a little wild in a nice way.
Marie was 8 years older than me but this meant nothing because her features and curves were sexy and she liked to dress fashionably. It soon transpired that she was only looking for comfort and a casual relationship because she wanted to be free from pressure and stress. This suited me down to the ground and it was nice to see a lady in Tokyo with a fuller figure but not overly. Nice deep eyes, a smile to warm the heart, busty, nice muscled thighs and carefree with me but deadly serious about her beloved children who she adored and gave everything she had.
For four to five months, we had a steamy affair and while we knew our boundaries about not falling in love, this did not stop our heated passion.
I knew that she did not care about me looking for other ladies but my meetings from this time were based on my curious side. Of course, not all meetings went well and one lady loved herself and I think she wanted to study French more than anything. Within less than one hour, I knew that we would never see eye to eye and this applied to friendship and not romance. Neither I nor she would entertain romance because we were like chalk and cheese and worse, our thinking was completely incompatible.
I am not sure who wanted to leave first because I wasn’t going to play ball and neither was she. Also, I am sure that this experience for her had little meaning because she was rather shallow and searching for either a French teacher or a male to compliment her all the time.
Therefore, I continued to meet several ladies for the next few weeks and if I had met anyone special but not marriage-based until the future, I would certainly have finished with Marie. I was not interested in playing the field and entering a paradise of fools who just leave broken hearts for selfish reasons.
After some time, I stopped meeting ladies and settled with Marie and having passionate nights.
Internet dating was not so difficult and maybe this was much easier than going to any nightclub. Also, my Japanese was very basic but I enjoyed myself while searching for and meeting new ladies. Therefore, I would certainly recommend it for people who are new to Japan, irrespective of sexuality and gender, because it is easy to become isolated in any new nation, and not just in Japan.
Months of buying coffee in solitude can become mind-numbing and the high octane nature of Tokyo makes you feel even more lonely when no real friends or lover. Of course, some people like it this way and want splendid isolation but most people are looking for someone to add spice.
Providing you take precautions, show respect and have no ill intentions then internet dating in Tokyo is a piece of cake. However, it is never a piece of cake to meet that special person.
My only regret in life while I lived in Tokyo was not being more patient with Chung Ae. Looking back, she was the nicest lady that I ever met and while we no longer keep in touch, I certainly think about her from time to time but in a realistic way.
I am sure that people will have mixed views about Internet dating but the real outcome of it being a success or failure depends on your own personality and the individual you meet being sincere, open and honest.© Modern Tokyo Times