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Can family relationships and friendships broken or frayed because of differences over vaccinations, restrictions, mask-wearing and lockdowns due to the pandemic be repaired?

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As long as you accept everyones free will, free opinion and free decision: No!

I personally accept everyones opinion and decision how to behave, but for my son, I set some rules to him. (like wearing mask and wash hands...).

My wife is old enough to decide by herself what to do.

In the beginning of the pandemic, I was often upset with people who I saw without mask and I told these people directly to wear masks please, but currently, I don't care anymore about those things.

After 2 years now in the pandemic, people should understand how to behave to protect themselves and people around them.

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One strategy that is proving itself successful is having a mediator. A neutral trusted someone who will work between the aggrieved family members, to find common ground, and seed compassion and understanding in views and emotions. Acceptance and forgiveness can be key, but patience will be best, as repairs can take time.

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Just avoid them, life is too short.

4 ( +7 / -3 )

The key to civilised society is the ability to get along with people even if you disagree with their views. This ability should be fostered. It will allow you to navigate life with a lot less aggravation. A big part of this is not arguing with friends and family just because they express a view you do not agree with. In an argument, most people just defend their position and become more entrenched, so arguing is just a waste of time. Be true to yourself and let them be true to themselves. Accept that people are different. Let stuff pass if you value their friendship or wish to maintain good family relations.

If you have had a big row, give it some time for both parties to cool off before making contact on a benign subject that you both agree on, whilst studiously avoiding contentious areas. You aren't living in a melodrama, so don't make a dramatic exit and end a friendship or relationship simply because you disagree about one issue. That's immature.

4 ( +4 / -0 )

Going by the hardliners for demanding vaccinations,it'll be determined by the relationship.Quiet with family,a little distant with friends and flexing on websites.

4 ( +7 / -3 )

I've started telling the unwillingly vaxxed that I know that I look forward to hanging out with them after the virus is gone.

I'm looking forward to vaccine passports.

-4 ( +6 / -10 )

unwillingly vaxxed...

What's the problem? They're vaxxed... like you want.

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Possible? It really depends on the specific situation.

As an example, if you go full-on 5G chip conspiracy theory the problem isn't just that you aren't getting vaccinated, it is that you are moronic enough to believe that kind of conspiracy. I can't in good conscience have any kind of relationship with someone like that. Alternatively, if you think that the vaccine just isn't tested enough, I'd strongly disagree but we can maybe have a conversation still about it. It is at least a more reasonable objectionable, even if it is misguided, and there is still some hope to make them listen to reason.

In the end, I don't hold any relationship as sacrosanct. Family members don't get any magical pass just because we have blood relations, so if they are beyond help then I will write them off. I have years ago with one of my brothers, and I lose no sleep over it.

-3 ( +3 / -6 )

In my circle of friends and family, I've seen a lot of people close to me debate about this. I've heard vaxxed familiy members ganging up and pressuring other family members (in the same house) to get the shot. I've also had to play umpire to friends debating about this. This is an unpopular opinion, but respect each others' choices. If they wanted or don't want to get the shot, leave them be, it's their body. You can only control yourself, never think that you can force others to do what you want them to do.

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I'm looking forward to vaccine passports.

Careful what you wish for.

3 ( +7 / -4 )

In the same way I would take the keys out of a drunk friend's hands before he could drive away in his car, I'd talk tightly with any of my family and friends who (stupidly) decide to not get the vaccine. People drink and drive, take drugs, do other stupid things every day. I don't 'respect' their decision to do that, I don't respect them at all. I want them to go away and not come anywhere near me, my family or my friends. I feel the same way about people who don't want to take the vaccine. It shows poor decision making.

-1 ( +5 / -6 )

let me say no.

if some people relationship became "broken" reason may be not related to this covid topic.

i personally dont have issues with someone wearing masks and am not asking if somone is vaccinated or not-same time i expect no one will care about me if i wear mask of dont,if i am vaccinated or not.

lets hope this covid craze will be over in months to come and we will return to life we knew...before

3 ( +6 / -3 )

No vaccine, then not coming to my place to chill, bbq, and enjoy. We will zoom with you if we get time between wonderful rich sets of food dishes.

-4 ( +4 / -8 )

Yes, of course, if you don’t have family or friends. lol

0 ( +2 / -2 )

If the bond among family members are truly forged, broken relationship should be repaired no matter how bad the situations are. This is what a family should be.

-1 ( +2 / -3 )

Depends on the situation. If we are just talking about arguments and perception difference from discussion, then why not you are family after all.

If someone contracts covid due to their negligence and this in turn has severe consequence, then perhaps not.

-2 ( +0 / -2 )

unwillingly vaxxed...

What's the problem? They're vaxxed... like you want.

Oops, should have been willingly unvaxxed.

-2 ( +3 / -5 )

I'm looking forward to vaccine passports.

Careful what you wish for.

Ohhhhh ominious.

Meanwhile, my father in Canada is living with vaccine passports, and he said it gives so much more comfort to be in a restaurant and know there aren't unvaxxed sitting at the table beside you. And he's been going to events and live music. They can even drink past 8pm!

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If the bond among family members are truly forged, broken relationship should be repaired no matter how bad the situations are. This is what a family should be.

Why? If some family members are not willing to care about the group health of the family, why should the other family have any obligation to associate with them anymore? They have shown that they are selfish and care about themselves, not their family. Holding on because of some obligation due to sharing blood doesn't make much sense to me.

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Can family relationships and friendships broken or frayed because of differences over vaccinations, restrictions, mask-wearing and lockdowns due to the pandemic be repaired?

There are many cases where the relationship cannot be repaired. Where the one who refused vaccinations is dead due to covid.

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In this day and age? Not likely. I mean, friendships and relationships are already being destroyed now over what political party you follow.

"If you are not with me, then you are my enemy!"

4 ( +4 / -0 )

If you are not vaccinated, I don't want to have anything to do with you! As you do not care about the danger you put others in.

1 ( +6 / -5 )

I think the real issue there is the fact that these people really did not have a loving relationship to start with. Disagreements have always been there, even during pre-Covid times. However, people nowadays are more indulged with amassing various information and the "I'm better than you" and "You're too dumb to be on the other side" mindset and culture have both become the norm, especially among the tech-savy millennials.

It is hopeless for those types of relationships that simply started because they agreed on the same thing (usually having a common enemy). But among real friends and loving family, it is nothing.

1 ( +2 / -1 )

Getting vaccinated helps keep you out of the hospital with less severe symptoms and from dying if you're infected.

Hanging around unvaccinated people doesn't make them a walking bundles of germs. It just means that don't care about others in society, such as healthcare workers who are at risk when they end up in the hospital and telling others to get vaccinated just before they die. Refusing to wear a mask in close quarters is anti-social behavior.

Why would you want to repair a relationship with someone who didn't care about you? It's no different than being a passenger in their car as they drive around, and they decide to pull out a bottle of whiskey and drink it all as they're driving down the highway. They don't care if you or someone else gets hurt. It's their "freedom and choice."

Do you repair the relationship with them?

4 ( +7 / -3 )

One of my oldest friends is avoiding vaccination because she is sure there are proper meds to be treated with in case she would get Covid. She has "heard" lots of horror stories from acquaintances who suffered severe vac reactions but wouldn't listen to me. Another friend who is a naturopath has denied vaccination as well. The only way to keep talking to them requires total exclusion of the topic.

But it makes me sad.

3 ( +6 / -3 )

My parents are vaccinated against this virus and I'm not. We all despise the masks but wear them if forced to. My dad is happy to live and let live. For a short time my mum and I were in disagreement, but she's slowly coming around now that she sees the damage that lockdowns and jab mandates are doing to society, not to mention the fact that thousands of healthcare professionals around the world refuse to take the jab due to the side effects they've seen it cause.

Now we're all getting along fine. So yeah, they can be repaired once people understand what's really going on.

-3 ( +3 / -6 )

Now we're all getting along fine. So yeah, they can be repaired once people understand what's really going on.

Thinking a tiny minority of the people, without any data to support their beliefs are somehow more likely to be right thant the vast majority of the actual specialists that deal with vaccines is not "understanding what is really going on" but the opposite, giving up on reason and replacing it with baseless conspiracies and irrational thinking.

0 ( +4 / -4 )

Well, family relationships and friendships never should have been broken in the first place. It is important to be tolerant of different opinions. Everyone is exposed to different information, and those who rely only on main stream information will never learn about alternative safe and effective treatments or ways to optimize your health.

You can try to explain evidence to them, but that does not always work, so don't insist. It is very difficult to get someone to realize that they have been lied to. If they are not willing to accept other information, just let it go and ignore the differences. If they can ignore the differences too, great. But if they are self-righteous and constantly saying other opinions are irrational, then just ignore these tiresome &%$#s.

-2 ( +3 / -5 )

Everyone is exposed to different information, and those who rely only on main stream information will never learn about alternative safe and effective treatments or ways to optimize your health.

The opposite is much more frequent, people only listening to mass or social media can get the wrong perception that drugs already demonstrated as useless by science are "effective" even if the scientific consensus is the opposite. But people that go to primary sources (as in research papers and meta-analysis) can easily find out how those supposedly effective drugs are nothing of the sort. That is why the specialists, experts on the topic share this conclusion, they don't depend on media.

If they can ignore the differences too, great. But if they are self-righteous and constantly saying other opinions are irrational, then just ignore these tiresome &%$#s.

But if they are not only saying that your opinions are irrational but they can demonstrate it, the honest and responsible thing to do is to accept it and accept the scientific consensus is a much more rational position to take.

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