How do you (or did you) discipline your young children? Did you ever hit them?

I have 2 children. The older one is in elementary school and younger one a toddler.

They will usually be given time out or grounded for misbehaving.

I had hit them before, but in area not dangerous to jeopardize his safety like spank in the butt.

Hitting kids?

It's child abuse.

Never hit them - both are now in their 20s and although not perfect both are very well mannered, respectful of other people, and generally good kids. (Yeah I guess i still call them kids)

Two warnings of an imminent smack if bad behaviour continues, followed up with a kept promise if they didn't take the hint.

Rarely got beyond the first warning once it was established that the promise would be kept. Very effective.

I didn't enjoy doing it, but kids need to understand there are repercussions to choices.

Nothing wrong with giving a naughty child a smack on the bum. Look around society today for numerous examples of what happens when you don't do this....

Look around society today for numerous examples of what happens when you don't do this....

Look around society today for numerous examples of kids who are beaten, physically abused. Luckily, not all of them end up traumatised or repeating the examples of their parents.

Abuse and torture is different with discipline. Spoil your kids and that's how you get rotten apples. Torture your kids you get poor traumatic souls. Disciplining them, they will thank you later in their lives.

I was the latter, with my parents. It was owing to their guidance, at least I'm a better man today. They say good medicine tastes bitter.

Disciplining them, they will thank you later in their lives.

No, they won't. They really, really won't.

Kids can learn what's right and what's wrong without being walloped.

I don't agree with hitting kidz as I see them as small immature people.

When you tower over someone showing anger then spank them, you should consider what you are doing. If from the start you show balance, maturity, and patience, then I don't see why you would need corporal punishment. There are many other ways to discipline someone of any age without using violence, so why is it ok with little kidz but not teens or adults?

There are kidz I see sometimes and I think the could do with a good spanking and talk, but that's because they are so far down the line, they've already become an ill behaved child.

We were seated to a family right across us at chinese diner, Gyoza no Osho the other day. They were with their 3 children, 11-12 years old son and 2 younger ones. The eldest son went berserk when the mom wouldn't comply with son's okawari for another glass of Coke when they were almost done with their meal.

He repeatedly yelled " baka (stupid, fool!), shine (die!)", threw chopsticks on his mom's face, cursed, kicked his mom many times on the thigh (we're all seated to a zaseki style sitting) while the dad just watched and said "yamete". I was like what......

Mum was just quiet and didn't even say anything. Everyone were staring at the scene in shock and awe, like jawdropped. I would have showed the boy who's the boss, if I were his dad (it's not going to be them bossing me around).

Well, to those disagree with hitting kids, good luck with talking to those kind of kids.

Yinyang128

Can you imagine what their relationship will be like when the boy is 35 and still living with them, but they are 70 and unable to control him?

smack, hit , beat... I'm not sure these mean the same to everyone.

I was smacked a couple of times as a young kid by my mother. It happened when she had absolutely had enough of my behavior. It taught me there are limits to people's tolerance. I don't think it did me any harm. On the other hand, I had a friend who was beaten quite severely for any kind of infraction. He didn't turn out too well. I have another friend these days who tries to reason with his kid when the kid is having a tantrum. That kid isn't turning out too well either. No easy answer.

I did once for my 7 yr old and later at age 11. The spanking was the only way to get his attention. It was more about the "event" than any pain. I'd already counted to 60 BEFORE the smacks.

There are many other ways to gain control over most kids, but there are always exceptions. Thankfully, not with mine.

(At least in the case of being able to raise only one child) this seemed to work: ask for REASONS for behaviour that you want changed and use your superior arguing power instead of physical force to convince the little one. Eventually, s/he will surpass you, but by then they should be independent, right?

Just remember; "parents" who hit. One day your child will be as big or bigger than you.

You won't be so brave, then.

No way. Hitting your children is abuse.

One day your child will be as big or bigger than you.

Mine already threaten me with the worst nursing home they can find. But I like to think they're kidding. I smacked them both on a couple of occasions (as my mum did to me - see above). I still remember the times I did it. I'm not proud of it, but I don't think it was the worst thing I did to them. Not listening to them was probably a bigger crime.

Albaleo,

You LIKE TO THINK they are kidding? Dude, thats scary!