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How do you know when you are really in love?

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Don't ask me. I fall in love once a week.

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Don't ask me, i fall in love frequently :)

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When you sign a prenuptial!!?

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When you're willing to park your car across the road from her house for hours just to get a glimpse.

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altria

yr confusing stalking with love, watch out, yr window that is!

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when yr hormones are ragging 24/7 & just wont leave you alone.......ah those were heady times.

glad the hormone levels have tapered off some over the years that stuff can kill ya!

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When you don't have the urge to run for the door the following morning at her place when you wake up hearing a little voice say, "Mummy, is this my new daddy?"

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Without wanting to appear corny, love is all about chemistry, biochemistry, to be precise. People release certain scents, often called pheromones, that others can detect subliminally. These scents carry information about the carrier's genetic profile that can help the smeller subliminally decide whether they would make a fitting parent. If a couple are sufficiently attracted to copulate, there are other chemical releases that engender feelings of attachment. Often this has nothing to do with personality, giving rise to the situation where someone feels they are in love with someone they don't like. Also, it seems that women have drawn the short straw, in that it is easier for them to develop these feeling of attachment. This bond, linked to high levels of oxytocin, has varying degrees of strength and longevity, which may go towards explaining why some marriages last a lifetime, whilst others fall at the first hurdle. Interestingly, childbirth and child rearing seem to engender the greatest releases of oxytocin, so perhaps the only true love there is is between mother and child.

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When I remember her name the next morning. Kidding! Relax!

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When you're willing to park your car across the road from her house for hours just to get a glimpse.

Uhm.. that's 'stalking'.

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I'm glad I didn't fall in oxytocin with Notginger.

:-)

Seriously though, when all the good things you wanted for yourself, you now want for the other person.

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Often this has nothing to do with personality, giving rise to the situation where someone feels they are in love with someone they don't like.

I disagree. Knowing you love someone is your ability to accept the things you don't like about them. Love may bring out a person's better qualities, and hopefully it does, but it won't remake them.

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Squishy, gooey feeling. I think.

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Squishy, gooey feeling. I think.

No, that would be self-gratification!!!!

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Please define 'love' so we can answer the question more accurately.

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I think love is something you do, not something that happens to you. People are confused because they believe it's an involuntary reflex, like a knee jerk reaction or something. Just find someone you can love and love them.

Note: If you are salivating, you're getting warmer, and you're panting, you may be catching influenza, but you're not in love.

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When you are willing to move to a country full of prejudice and racism just to be with her (or him)

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"How do you know when you are really in love"

you don't, you just know

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@timorborder at 01:38 PM JST - 11th February

No, that would be self-gratification!!!!

Well, you know what Woody Allen said! ;)

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And I think Benny Hill would have added a comma...

How do you know when you are really in, love?

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when it's over and too late/

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when it couldn't be anything else

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The ways I know.

I think about her welfare before my own. I cannot imagine anyone ever taking here place in my life. Even when she drives me crazy I love her. She's my best friend. Being with her feels like home.

Passion and scents are fine just starting out. But after years together you will know if love is there or not based on things like my list. Those will make a relationship endure or not.

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I've been dating my boyfriend for some years now. In the beginning all my friends wondered why someone like me who has many men at her feet would fall for this man. But I know that I'm really in love with this man. He's intelligent, knowledgeable, kind-hearted, warm and is always there when I needed a shoulder to cry on....

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I like moonbeam's answer.

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