I've been dating my boyfriend for some years now. In the beginning all my friends wondered why someone like me who has many men at her feet would fall for this man. But I know that I'm really in love with this man. He's intelligent, knowledgeable, kind-hearted, warm and is always there when I needed a shoulder to cry on....
I think about her welfare before my own.
I cannot imagine anyone ever taking here place in my life.
Even when she drives me crazy I love her.
She's my best friend.
Being with her feels like home.
Passion and scents are fine just starting out. But after years together you will know if love is there or not based on things like my list. Those will make a relationship endure or not.
Often this has nothing to do with personality, giving rise to the situation where someone feels they are in love with someone they don't like.
I disagree. Knowing you love someone is your ability to accept the things you don't like about them. Love may bring out a person's better qualities, and hopefully it does, but it won't remake them.
Without wanting to appear corny, love is all about chemistry, biochemistry, to be precise. People release certain scents, often called pheromones, that others can detect subliminally. These scents carry information about the carrier's genetic profile that can help the smeller subliminally decide whether they would make a fitting parent. If a couple are sufficiently attracted to copulate, there are other chemical releases that engender feelings of attachment. Often this has nothing to do with personality, giving rise to the situation where someone feels they are in love with someone they don't like. Also, it seems that women have drawn the short straw, in that it is easier for them to develop these feeling of attachment.
This bond, linked to high levels of oxytocin, has varying degrees of strength and longevity, which may go towards explaining why some marriages last a lifetime, whilst others fall at the first hurdle.
Interestingly, childbirth and child rearing seem to engender the greatest releases of oxytocin, so perhaps the only true love there is is between mother and child.
When you don't have the urge to run for the door the following morning at her place when you wake up hearing a little voice say, "Mummy, is this my new daddy?"
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TonyTakitani
I like moonbeam's answer.
seesaw
I've been dating my boyfriend for some years now. In the beginning all my friends wondered why someone like me who has many men at her feet would fall for this man. But I know that I'm really in love with this man. He's intelligent, knowledgeable, kind-hearted, warm and is always there when I needed a shoulder to cry on....
tkoind2
The ways I know.
I think about her welfare before my own. I cannot imagine anyone ever taking here place in my life. Even when she drives me crazy I love her. She's my best friend. Being with her feels like home.Passion and scents are fine just starting out. But after years together you will know if love is there or not based on things like my list. Those will make a relationship endure or not.
nath
when it couldn't be anything else
moonbeams
when it's over and too late/
blvtzpk
And I think Benny Hill would have added a comma...
How do you know when you are really in, love?
blvtzpk
@timorborder at 01:38 PM JST - 11th February
Well, you know what Woody Allen said! ;)
PuffinMuffin
"How do you know when you are really in love"
you don't, you just know
neverknow2
When you are willing to move to a country full of prejudice and racism just to be with her (or him)
cow76
Please define 'love' so we can answer the question more accurately.
timorborder
Squishy, gooey feeling. I think.
No, that would be self-gratification!!!!
blvtzpk
Squishy, gooey feeling. I think.
Betzee
I disagree. Knowing you love someone is your ability to accept the things you don't like about them. Love may bring out a person's better qualities, and hopefully it does, but it won't remake them.
cleo
I'm glad I didn't fall in oxytocin with Notginger.
:-)
Seriously though, when all the good things you wanted for yourself, you now want for the other person.
telecasterplayer
Uhm.. that's 'stalking'.
telecasterplayer
When I remember her name the next morning. Kidding! Relax!
nath
Without wanting to appear corny, love is all about chemistry, biochemistry, to be precise. People release certain scents, often called pheromones, that others can detect subliminally. These scents carry information about the carrier's genetic profile that can help the smeller subliminally decide whether they would make a fitting parent. If a couple are sufficiently attracted to copulate, there are other chemical releases that engender feelings of attachment. Often this has nothing to do with personality, giving rise to the situation where someone feels they are in love with someone they don't like. Also, it seems that women have drawn the short straw, in that it is easier for them to develop these feeling of attachment. This bond, linked to high levels of oxytocin, has varying degrees of strength and longevity, which may go towards explaining why some marriages last a lifetime, whilst others fall at the first hurdle. Interestingly, childbirth and child rearing seem to engender the greatest releases of oxytocin, so perhaps the only true love there is is between mother and child.
timorborder
When you don't have the urge to run for the door the following morning at her place when you wake up hearing a little voice say, "Mummy, is this my new daddy?"
GW
when yr hormones are ragging 24/7 & just wont leave you alone.......ah those were heady times.
glad the hormone levels have tapered off some over the years that stuff can kill ya!
GW
altria
yr confusing stalking with love, watch out, yr window that is!
Altria
When you're willing to park your car across the road from her house for hours just to get a glimpse.
linro
When you sign a prenuptial!!?
some14some
Don't ask me, i fall in love frequently :)
smartacus
Don't ask me. I fall in love once a week.