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What advantages does marriage offer that a single lifestyle doesn't?

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Plenty if you are a semi decent looking women with no job skills to speak of.

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Hardly any. Perhaps the question is based on 18th or 19th century concept of 'marriage' !

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Pfft marriage. What an outdated concept.

Divorce is where it's at now. Let's party.

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Good question.

Too bad i can't answer it. Happily married posters (kira, I'm thinking of you), do you have any words of wisdom to offer about this?

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None at all.

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Advantages? well, dinner will be ready and also laundry if you train your partner :) Besides that, being single is better because you can go out and have as many girls as you like and come back home feeling better instead of feeling guilty LOL.... LOL so, if you ask me what is better? Stay single man. you have Roppongi and Shinjuku and Shibuya....... WHY get married?

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This is a no-brainer - free back scratches!

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A future - children to look after you, a better savings plan, more allowances in your pay check, lower taxes, undescribable joy in watching your children grow, learn and laugh, a family to look forward to coming home after work, more yen in your winter/summer bonus, ....

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oh and not worrying about using protection when you do it.

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A visa for me in Japan and for her in Europe?

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having kid(s) and raising them.

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What advantages does marriage offer that a single lifestyle doesn't?

There shouldn't be many. But the problem is women and their unrealistic expectations of monogamy. Man should be let free to spread his seed and populate the Earth. This goes double for Japan where the fertility rate is pitifully low. So ladies, pop a chill pill and start encouraging your man to help mend Japan's skewed population pyramid. Thank you.

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Single life means more sex but very incovinient.Marriage life means less sex but very convinient.

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So it's about timing. When convenience becomes more important than sex. Wait does this actually happen?

For men you should get married when you aren't a major player like me for example, anymore.

For women you should get married at 27 or 28, don't leave it til you're 29 that's just silly. And after 30, well just forget about it.

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Waking up everyday next to the woman you love beats being single any day of the week or in any lifetime for that matter

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Waking up everyday next to the woman you love beats being single any day of the week or in any lifetime for that matter

How about waking next to the woman you hate?

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Waking up everyday next to the woman you love

Is this English? I can't make any sense of it. Is it the beginning of a Mills and Boon?

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perhaps i should have put each day??

For the record am single.....LOL

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Long term partnership is more interesting, I think, and practically speaking, relationships don't tend to be as long term if you're single. This doesn't have to be true, but I don't see many exceptions.

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Hmm marriage means I only have to pay half of the bills, but I only get half of the bed as well.

I need more time to think about it.

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Having someone to share your life and dreams with, doubling the joys and halving the sorrows.....and kids.

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Before you put the ring,she is the best woman ever.Just after the "yes I do",you are doomed!But all is not lost.Marriage life is a savior.It has shaped rotten single men into responsible young daddys.Marriage life rules!

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There are only two things when married that you can do that are unique to marriage.

So if you don't know the answer, then look below. (Heard at a Bonenkai a couple of nights ago from the head of a large hospital.)

And the answer is, you can have married rows, and you can get divorced.

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Agree with cleo , plus you work and save much more for the family than when you were single...at least it is true for my case.

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Plenty if you are a semi decent looking women with no job skills to speak of.

I guess you missed out the word J...

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Never-married people, compared with their married peers, are:

5 times more likely to die of infectious disease

Twice as likely to die in accidents, homicides, or suicides

38 percent more likely to die of heart disease

SOURCE: Kaplan, R.M. and Kronick, R.G. Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health, August 2006

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Its very interesting to read the comments... the "simplest" positive ones are easiest to dismiss or or make fun of. Personally, I am unmarried, but agree with (perhaps hope for) "Waking up next to the woman you love" simply demonstrate feelings those are happily married. Some others seem to be somewhat bitter and resonate with "get as many girls as you can before you die" - perhaps they're right, I dont know. There was a poll taken of old men in England, I believe, of what those old men regretted most in their lives. Top result? Most wished they had bedded more women! I wonder if that's international? Many married older men I speak have very different opinions from younger married men: The older married men seem to be divided between A) Indiscretion Is Expected Versus B) I Never Needed to Screw Around.

After having spoken about this very issue to both types, the only thing I can say is that both types seem to be very comfortable in either role, as they know they will not change. By they time they are 45 or older, their personalities/behaviors are set, they are not going to change. "It is what is it is" seems to be the final take.

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Marriage is fun. I enjoy looking at things together with my hubby. It would feel so lonely looking at them by myself. Sharing all kinds of things makes a marriage worthwhile. Also, who would change my tires for free every year? Teasing each other is also fun. But most of all I enjoy cooking a healthy meal for him and watching him eat it.

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Geez there's alot of stuff here about sharing this and that with someone else and that is all very well and good but what I will say is that beforehand you must learn how to share information between the left and right halves of your brains. Fact is, monogamy is for the birds and man needs to spread his seed with as many partners as is physically possible. Any attempt to deny this is an attempt to refute human nature itself. Please respect nature. And man's need to go home with that cute fluffy thing. Thanks for listening.

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Never-married people, compared with their married peers, are: 5 times more likely to die of infectious disease Twice as likely to die in accidents, homicides, or suicides 38 percent more likely to die of heart disease

As opposed to dying a slow, lingering death!

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I can attract far more private students as a married person. Students fear of being raped, robbed or murdered goes down if I've got a wife and kids in the house.

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Wife is an acronym;

Washing

Ironing

F&*%ing

Eating

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I know what marriage is all about. That's why I chose not be married.

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Being single is great...when you're young, good-looking, carefree and can have sex with a different person every week. When I was single, I loved it. But I think there comes a time when a person wants more than just casual sex and short flings. Well, maybe not everyone but I felt this way. I am happily married now. Although me and my husband do not have traditional views about marriage at all; we tied the knot for more practical reasons. We both just knew that we wanted to be together for a long time.

I like the way cleo put it--'doubling your joys and halving your sorrows'. Marriage is about sharing your life with someone. It's witnessing a life and having your life witnessed. It's knowing that you have a partner to enjoy every day with. A partner to love and to grow with.

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Speaking as a woman, I came to the conclusion about 14 years ago (in my early teens) that marriage was not for me as it held 0 benefits. A tax break or a doubled income doesn't even begin to make up for all the other stuff that I would be EXPECTED to put up with and do just because I'm a woman.

No thanks. As far as I see it, partnership/marriage holds zero advantages over the single life. Being single and living by myself is the only way I can be content. (Apparently being interested in my own happiness is a horrible, selfish trait for a woman to have. I guess I missed when the Earth reversed and we went back to 1890.)

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Apparently being interested in my own happiness is a horrible, selfish trait for a woman to have.

Or a man.

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doesn't that depend on who you're married to ?

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Marriage is a status with responsibilities, something that single people are too chicken to get. Only the weak and scardy cats stay single.

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Too many to recount here....

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Thanks for trying.

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It was once said by my friend,"A man doesn't choose a woman,a woman chooses a man".What I am seeing is a recession in the love business too.The singles are looking desperate recently,but staying in denial about the benefits of being one.Went to a bar with my wife,the other day and watching the jostling for action by not only gaijin guys as per usual,but with Japanese girls,let us know... we dont wanna being single in this climate.But good luck to yous.

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Both have their advantages and disadvantages. But a bad marriage is certainly worse than being single. I wonder when they are going to come up with some stats on that?

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The joy of becoming a family and growing as a family.

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Some sad facts. A large number of marriages suffer infidelity, divorce or sexless situations. A lot of married people end up sharing a life but not much conversation.

Now I plan to get married to the girl I am with. Why? Well... because I care about her more than anything or anyone in the world. Will we be a picture perfect marriage? Maybe, maybe not. But we will do our best to take care of each other.

My point is this. If you are getting married for any reason other than love, friendship and devotion to your partner, then you will fail. It should not be taken on if it is for social status, because you are lonely, because you are getting to that age or any other reason.

Marriages that survive are based upon deep frienship as well as love and more patience than you can imagine. Even with those things in place, it will be hard long work.

So I hope anyone going towards marriage has thought about these things more than the hallmark card notions of marriage.

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we tied the knot for more practical reasons

Spouse visa and pension rights?

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tkoind2

You'll soon learn the marriage is more than that. Yes, your wife will most likely remain as your sweetheart, but running a family is like doing a life long project, there are commitments and a lot of teamwork involved. Love of course is mandatory as a starter, and of course should always present, but marriage does have a 3D nature. A successful marriage does take a lot of work because a husband and a wife are both humans with a lot of weaknesses. It is about love, it is about commitment, it is about friendship, and it is about teamwork.

... and of course all of the above makes marriage meaningful and fun.

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I see my parents, both in their mid 70's and realize how although they may not be madly in love like they might have been 53 yrs ago, they take care of each other. Over the last 20 yrs, mom had cancer, father had 5 heart attacks.. both survived thanks to the help of each other. They watch over each other.. so I guess that is a benefit we only know when our health fails. I never been married but always been strong and healthy.. one day when laying in bed sick as hell, I will regret it. Until then, I will do what I want, whenever I want and keep an eye open for a conservative girl with family values.... and then she will be able to quit her job and live a good life with this millionaire. aw

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Hmm, trying not to go on about my own failings, so...

Marriage offers everyone different things. For some it is a dream of being at home and raising kids, or financial security, just for sex, or whatever. Personally I am looking for a partner who has like goals and when we come to a point we can compromise. Who respects them self and wants and tries to do well in their life for both our gain.

I want to reciprocate that, do well for my partner and enjoy life with them too! My lady and I enjoy some craziness here and there, but all in good fun and in moderation. That is something marriage can offer many people, someone who might enjoy some of the same things you do along with long lasting support and happiness. So many guys mention sex, well, find a woman who wouldn't mind enjoying another partner in your bed once in a while for some adult fun! Mutual respect, not often, but she understands me and I understand her. She's the one I always wake up to and always come home to. :)

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