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What are some first-date mistakes to avoid?

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Staying for breakfast?

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Seriously, … letting their ‘causes, activism or politics’ enter ‘the conversation’. - Keep it ‘simple’, keep it ‘light’.

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Not dental flossing

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Saying ‘I love you.’ Talking about your ex. Being glued to your phone. Calling him/her ‘Mommy.’ Paying.

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Hearing the words, “I”, “Me” and “For me,…” too much in the conversation.

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Timing & protection are tantamount. Not knowing when to pull out of your bad 1st date can be a mistake, with other possible, unforeseen & unexpected consequences down the road.

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Don’t be too obvious but have an ‘exit strategy’, like that possible ‘Emergency’ call that may come from your friend in need, … or work.

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If you sense something ‘fishy’ about them, trust your guts & politely get out.

With knowing more about them, you can always ‘give it another go’ IF the lay of the land improves.

And knowing is half the battle.” - Sun Tsu; A Real American Hero, 1983
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Don't keep calling her by the name of your first (or current) wife or your parole officer?

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Try not to lock your keys in the car, heard this from a friend . . .

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Stare at your date for a full minute, then laugh and tell him that two out of three voices in your head thinks that he is a spitting image of Zhou Enlai.

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snowymountainhellToday  09:00 am JST

Timing & protection are tantamount. Not knowing when to pull out of your bad 1st date can be a mistake, with other possible, unforeseen & unexpected consequences down the road.

Perfect double entendre. Was it intentional?

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Bringing your wallet.

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snowymountainhellToday  09:00 am JST

Timing & protection are tantamount. Not knowing when to pull out of your bad 1st date can be a mistake, with other possible, unforeseen & unexpected consequences down the road.

Harry_Gatto: Perfect double entendre.

(I agree!)

Harry_Gatto: Was it intentional?

(Don't think so! Still funny!)

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My date was boasting about her professorship, her two houses in Tokyo and her place in LA, and I was wondering why she'd brought me to the crappiest Chinese joint I'd been to since my student days.

When I said betsu-betsu to the cashier after enduring her boastfest, she complained "I thought you'd be a gentleman and pay for me, too." No wonder she was loaded.

Guys, set expectations: go Dutch, or go broke.

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Guys, set expectations: go Dutch

...and be single.

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Don't mention a love of guns, porn, Trump, idols, fishing, golf, God, craft beer, model railways, conspiracy theories, S&M, Top Gear or your mum's taste in fashion.

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1st date mistakes?

For the guys: having to chew your arm off to get out quietly.

For the ladies: the so-called ‘walk of shame’, wearing the same clothes to work the next day.

Ladies, forget those catty b’s at work. Hold your head up & walk in proudly. You had a date and they didn’t.

(“See how it works, guys?” It’s not ‘a double-standard’ if we just take to time ‘empower’ women.)

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Read your repost for the 2nd time today @samuriavunyl. Considering language barriers, seemed a legitimate question to avoid ANY mistake or misinterpretation. You seemed conscientious and obviously don’t want something getting lost in translation, or worse, hitting ‘off target’. - Looking forward to you posting in arrears.

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The ambiguous wording of this question leads itself to a variety of interpretations: by readers: those choosing to comment; and, those reviewing the content at any given time of the day, or night. Perhaps, and this is just a suggestion, it is the Editor that should preface and clarify exactly in the what ‘spirit’ the question is to be engage when answering. One example recently: Have Your Say: “Who would you like to see become the next PM of Japan? (Sensible answers only please.)

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… lends

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My date was boasting about her professorship, her two houses in Tokyo and her place in LA, and I was wondering why she'd brought me to the crappiest Chinese joint I'd been to since my student days.

When I said betsu-betsu to the cashier after enduring her boastfest, she complained "I thought you'd be a gentleman and pay for me, too." No wonder she was loaded.

Thats cringeworthy....well done for letting such a show off pay her own way.

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Not listening.

Using your phone.

Expecting too much from the date.

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For the guys: having to chew your arm off to get out quietly.

Best not to forget your stove pipe!

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K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple, Stupid)

@Luddite, you hit the nail on the head. Especially about the phone. When a woman I dated for the first time pulled out her cell phone and started talking, and then excused herself to go to the ladies' room while still chatting, I signalled the waiter for the bill (a glass of wine each), paid and walked out before the woman exited the ladies' room. Never heard from her again.

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I consider being late for the time of date should be avoid, though I've never had a date with anyone.

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Guys, set expectations: go Dutch

...and be single.

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What do you want to bet that the down-voters here have never done very well with women?

-3 ( +1 / -4 )

Setting it up with grindr and not knowing what grindr entails.

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Do you mean ‘intails’ as in @9:27pm?

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Tokyo Disneyland

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Not knowing your soap, deodorant and mouthwash well enough.

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Staying friends after the date when they say "I care deeply about you, but not in that way." Curtain call, time to leave the friendship zone.

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Waiting too long to "go to the washroom" before the waiter comes to ditch out. Once she orders you are toast for the rest of the evening.

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All my "first dates" didn't work. The only thing that worked (too well, actually) was bringing a girl directly to my room.

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based on recent happenings in Japan, dont wear your 13 million yen watch.

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@snowy: Still…brilliant, I think you know exactly what you wrote. Not enough smutty humour anymore.

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Don’t let the condom break!

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