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What’s your impression of parental supervision of children when families are out and about in Japan?

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Seems fine to me. No doubt someone will remind me how terrible parental supervision is compared to their perfect country

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Please be careful with your children. I was at a beach recently, and a little girl I didn't know (it turns out she had just turned 3) came right up to me and started rubbing my unshaven face, and wanting me to pick her up. The beach was nearly deserted, and I finally spotted her mother who was busy texting far away at the other end of the beach. The mom eventually came over and convinced her child to leave.

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Seems fine to me. No doubt someone will remind me how terrible parental supervision is compared to their perfect country

I can only assume that you don't travel by train here. I am constantly seeing mothers sitting on platforms checking their smart phones while their young children move ever closer to the platform's edge....

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Parents are very relaxed about surroundings and people. Everything may change in one second.

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Very lax. Kids berate their parents in public, are allowed to throw their trash on the ground and are basically allowed to do anything they want while mom and dad stare at their smart phones and utter a 'yamenasai' that would not scare even the most timid of children.

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When it comes to child safety in cars, disgustingly ignorant....

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When it comes to child safety in cars, disgustingly ignorant....

Brilliant observation, its indeed scary seeing so many kids bouncing around inside cars here............I always make people where seatbelts or the car stays in park! One time while full of adults I said I am not driving until your seat belts are on, someone pipes up I trust your driving & I say so do I, but its all the other cars on the road I have no control over I am worried about!! Click Click seat belts engaged & I put her into drive!

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Mixed. As you would expect. and some of the do's and don'ts in Japan differ from what is more acceptable in the West.

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My only complaint is physical safety in cars and around them, such as by roads and in parking lots. I find that extremely lax.

I do not appreciate foreigners coming here and trying to import stranger danger. Children and adults not being terrified of eachother is a prime reason Japan is relatively safe in that regard. But sadly, some reactionary and bad foreign ideas are starting to take root in Japan and Japan will not benefit.

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@life_aint_no_sitcom: True. Some kids always high-five me when I walk past their school each day. Back home, I'd probably be on the sex offenders register for life! It's gotten silly.

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I do not appreciate foreigners coming here and trying to import stranger danger. Children and adults not being terrified of eachother is a prime reason Japan is relatively safe in that regard

I guess you don't pay attention to the news with how many kids havre been kidnapped over the past few years. Teaching kids to be aware of their surroundings is good. Stranger danger doesn't mean everyone you don't know is dangerous.

No doubt someone will remind me how terrible parental supervision is compared to their perfect country My country certainly isn't perfect but when it comes to kids and seat belts, smoking in front of kids, kids and bike helmets, not being allowed to smack mom... My country, or at least from what I have seen, is far better. Certainly the cross guards, the group walking, the yellow hats... are much better here.

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Very very irresponsible indeed!

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. @tmarie

My country, or at least from what I have seen, is far better. Certainly the cross guards, the group walking, the yellow hats... are much better here.

Why is it that the average Ms Smith loves to use her personal experiences as a proxy to a universal truism? Why? Its once again the 80% rule, the 80% "simpletons" complain, bitch about everything in any society they live in regardless of what the Government; their employer does. Give them a glass of mineral water and they will complain about the shape of the glass. There is no difference between Japanese or Canadian or Australian or US level of supervision of children.

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randomman. Ah, clearly there is a difference between countries and the level of supervision of children. If you drive around in your car using your smart phone while your 3 year old is standing on the front seat with a screwdriver in their hand, you will be reported to the police. If your child is not in a child seat, you will be pulled over. Not so in Japan. I have never, ever seen such examples of complete parental negligence in Canada. Here I see such things weekly. Shogannai ne!

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They certainly have no problem in letting them spoil every other person's meal in a restaurant if they feel like bawling. I'm amazed at how parents here allow their kids to scream in public places with no thought for the people around them.

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randomman: There is no difference between Japanese or Canadian or Australian or US level of supervision of children.

So, does it follow that there are no differences in the way kids are raised in Japan, Canada, Australia or the US? Are there no cultural differences between these places or do they simply not extend to the level of supervision?

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Hard to compare between cultures. Anyway, I am more interested in the results, not the methods. How do the kids turn out as adults? Maybe Canada has cornered the market on responsible child rearing, but I know Canadian parents who have to worry about their otherwise bright and normal 13 and 14 year old kids getting involved in drugs, getting pregnant or getting arrested. Those problems are far less likely to crop up in Japan.

Japanese do come off as lax when out with kids at restaurants, or when driving. One the other hand, people in North America and Europe often seem unreasonably intolerant of noise from children.

Obviously, the smart phone induced neglect is a bad thing, but that's hardly confined to Japan. Give it a few years in other countries. Today's phone-addict young women will be tomorrow's neglectful mothers.

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Why is it that the average Ms Smith loves to use her personal experiences as a proxy to a universal truism? Why? Its once again the 80% rule, the 80% "simpletons" complain, bitch about everything in any society they live in regardless of what the Government; their employer does. Give them a glass of mineral water and they will complain about the shape of the glass. There is no difference between Japanese or Canadian or Australian or US level of supervision of children.

Guess you missed the point of the thread and if you think that there is no difference in supervision you are either blind or don't pay attention.

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