When you go on a date with someone for the first time (or when you used to, for those of you no longer dating), what do (did) you pay the most attention to?
If she'd be talking down about her friends or anybody then it's a no from me.
This. Kindness & thoughtfulness are incredibly underrated. Nothing more attractive than a girl (or guy I guess) who doesn't have a mean bone in her body.
Does the girl smoke?If so, we won't be meeting again. Does she have clean teeth? We' re all used to messed-up teeth in Japan, but at least keep them clean! Does she have two or more cellphones? Big alarm bells if so. Does she have any means to support herself, were she forced to do so? (i.e. any skills other than just being a stay-at-home housewife?) Another big one, has she ever been abroad before? (Really important to consider when considering dating any Japanese person).
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ArtistAtLarge
How they treat other people. Their manners and civility. Their awareness of their surroundings.
Of course I allow for being nervous and hope they do the same for me.
FizzBit
Independence. Does she need to have friends or is she perfectly satisfied with being alone "dancing with myself".
inkochi
Me, well, what chance I would have with her - at any given moment. And boobs. Pretty normal on my dates.
Be that as it is though, any posts from the other side, like @commanteer's
commanteer
Weird question - we are talking about a date, not a job interview or audition. The only thing I paid attention to was whether I liked them or not.
Toasted Heretic
I'm confused. Aren't you the fella who's obesessed with men weating panties and bras?
Not that I blame you; some hotties out there of any gender. If we're being superficial and all that.
Haaa Nemui
And if it were a female?
borscht
What the other person says; how they say it; how we connect.
goldorak
This. Kindness & thoughtfulness are incredibly underrated. Nothing more attractive than a girl (or guy I guess) who doesn't have a mean bone in her body.
kibousha
Her stories, they tell you a lot about a person's personality and interests.
Haaa Nemui
If she'd be talking down about her friends or anybody then it's a no from me.
TrevorPeace
The chemistry for lust. If you can sex out of the way, first, then you can get down to being good friends, and that's what it's all about.
Toasted Heretic
What he or she is saying. Who they are and what their hopes and dreams are. Do we make each other laugh.
DouganNash
I can tell you what the OTHER person always pays attention to. My big, peachy butt. Constantly looking at my big, peachy butt.
kawabegawa198
Does the girl smoke?If so, we won't be meeting again. Does she have clean teeth? We' re all used to messed-up teeth in Japan, but at least keep them clean! Does she have two or more cellphones? Big alarm bells if so. Does she have any means to support herself, were she forced to do so? (i.e. any skills other than just being a stay-at-home housewife?) Another big one, has she ever been abroad before? (Really important to consider when considering dating any Japanese person).