It depended on the severity of the offense. Going to bed early, loss of privileges, time outs, a stern talking to. As for physically, the occasional slap or spank but no more than that.
Corporal punishment in schools was still legal then and I was caned more by my teachers than physically disciplined by my parents.
Bring caning and 'spanking' back, I reckon. Kids today need it.
When I was a kid, I got spankings on occasion, slaps, and the belt, my mother and grandmother were no joke, and if you f***** around, you found out real quick. Dad was more kind, he didn't like to touch us, but he yelled and he had a deep voice that was like thunder and that was enough to scare the crap out of us.
Corporal punishment in schools was still legal then and I was caned more by my teachers than physically disciplined by my parents.
Bring caning and 'spanking' back, I reckon. Kids today need it.
I agree, I think, to an extent that is one reason why a lot of kids feel entitled and feel that they can do whatever they want, when I was a kid, no one thought that; we all had boundaries and knew our limits and we were all too afraid of the law and prison, I am very grateful that my mother and grandmother disciplined my sisters and I, made us better and successful people
We're getting downvoted pretty hard, but no counter arguments, so...
That's ok, I've come to sincerely appreciate the spankings I got in hindsight, they made all of us different people. I am not saying it is for everyone or that it works all the time, but back in the days when kids were spanked, overall, we had less crime, assaults, stabbings, murder, and a sense of youth entitlement.
Counter argument: My step-dad was your proverbial "spank until 9, punch until you move out." I had to have dentistry done twice after he "disciplined" me. I had to spend two weeks in the hospital after he pushed me down and I fell back and cracked my head on the sidewalk. Blood every where.
So you know what I did? I became the rebel of all rebels. So what? I'm gonna get hurt anyway. Class clown, fights, picking on littler kids, smoking, drinking; you name it. I was 25 or 25 before I realized life wasn't all that bad if you didn't want it to be. Now get this: flash forward 25 years. Raised a girl of my own. Never spanked her, slapped her, or in any way physically "punished" her. At 18 she got her Bachelor's degree while girls her age were graduating high school. Owns her own business, knocks down big bucks, and couldn't be happier.
Yes, I had it rougher than most kids do. But I didn't find it necessary to pass that along. And it worked out great. She's in a good place, I have a fountain pen that must have set her back $500, and her mother adores her. Family life could not have been better.
I appreciate it. And sorry you went through that. Of course, it's the obvious counter point to my unscientific, based on thoughts and feelings, opinion.
Although I will point out that there are differences between a spank for extreme bad behaviour and what was obviously child abuse. Of course, the question is where is the line between the two?
Like you, I've never disciplined my kids physically and never will. I'll just repeat the tired old trope that it never did me any harm.
Counter argument: My step-dad was your proverbial "spank until 9, punch until you move out." I had to have dentistry done twice after he "disciplined" me. I had to spend two weeks in the hospital after he pushed me down and I fell back and cracked my head on the sidewalk. Blood every where.
Sorry to hear that. What you experienced was clearly child abuse of the worst level. No one should have to endure that. My parents were tough, but they never went to the point where we had to go to the hospital, that is just outrageous. I have kids, too, and I had to discipline them once or twice, and those were the times I deeply regretted it, but had no choice, now that they are older they understand why I had to take that drastic step, and there was no other recourse and we both had to work through that bump in our lives but other than that, they were the perfect kids. Every child grows up differently, and I would never tell another parent how to raise their child, you do what you think is right and what works for you. I deeply respect that, but when parents abuse kids physically or sexually, that is where I draw the line.
I had to carry a bucket of water above my head and stand on one leg, drop a leg to rest, the stick came hitting.
Now I have 2 kids grown up, never punished them once, how could you see a cute child not understanding the world, the rules, and punish them ? I prefer teaching them what their actions would result in, hurting themselves, hurting others, etc.
My folks believed in the "spare the rod; spoil the child" philosophy. Back then, corporal punishment was still doled out at some of the schools I went to, so being physically punished seemed normal to me. I was also grounded and sent to bed without supper. I know now that there are better, more efficient, and less traumatising ways of instilling discipline but times were different back then. I would also argue that the way many kids are disciplined now is inefficient and ineffective; so many parents are just letting their kids run amok without a consequence in sight. It's highly worrying.
Very similar to todays method, My parent allow the institutions ( educational ) to deal with discipline in school hours. My parent would not defend against any action they dealt to me from my bad attitude and behaviour. home hour when my parents discipline me they would be take away my freedoms. Like you e.g. can,t ride your bike for a month or other enjoyment. There was never any physical discipline but mental discipline. I had to always explain my bad action and the reason why for my bad action and how should I contain bad action. Then punish would be served as enjoyments and freedom taken away.
My dad used to give us a stern telling off, he was a pussycat; my mom on the other hand was a horrid woman. A broom handle was her favourite apparatus. That, and the perennial “clip round the ear.”
Counter-argument: she lost the love and respect from my sister and I. So much so that when she died, we didn’t attend her funeral. That speaks volumes, I feel.
My stepdad’s Make Love not War, draft-dodging, peace-loving ideals didn’t translate over to how he treated us.
When I joined the Marine Corps, I was a expecting daily beat downs like I was used to, but was amusingly surprised when I found out that USMC DIs can’t/don’t hit recruits.
My brother and I got into a fight and got kicked out of the house when we were little. We had nowhere to go so just sat on the doorsteps when my brother, having money, decided to abandon me and left to go buy snacks. When we were let inside, our fight had become a lot bigger…
Usually just a strong tongue-lashing but tell and lie and you get the strap. Quickly, strongly and deservedly. No major marks and no lasting damage. That is what is still needed in today's society. I see kids talking back to parents all day every day in Japan. They are extra spoiled. Not going to work with my parents and grandparents. Love them for it! Made me a much better person.
Well, they applied almost the full catalog. Better no details, because if all that would be practiced accordingly and at the same former scale still nowadays, for all the things kids and younger people do or don't do today, we wouldn't have any new generation left, exactly zero survivors.
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Hawk
It depended on the severity of the offense. Going to bed early, loss of privileges, time outs, a stern talking to. As for physically, the occasional slap or spank but no more than that.
Corporal punishment in schools was still legal then and I was caned more by my teachers than physically disciplined by my parents.
Bring caning and 'spanking' back, I reckon. Kids today need it.
bass4funk
When I was a kid, I got spankings on occasion, slaps, and the belt, my mother and grandmother were no joke, and if you f***** around, you found out real quick. Dad was more kind, he didn't like to touch us, but he yelled and he had a deep voice that was like thunder and that was enough to scare the crap out of us.
I agree, I think, to an extent that is one reason why a lot of kids feel entitled and feel that they can do whatever they want, when I was a kid, no one thought that; we all had boundaries and knew our limits and we were all too afraid of the law and prison, I am very grateful that my mother and grandmother disciplined my sisters and I, made us better and successful people
Hawk
bass4funk,
We're getting downvoted pretty hard, but no counter arguments, so...
bass4funk
That's ok, I've come to sincerely appreciate the spankings I got in hindsight, they made all of us different people. I am not saying it is for everyone or that it works all the time, but back in the days when kids were spanked, overall, we had less crime, assaults, stabbings, murder, and a sense of youth entitlement.
Gene Hennigh
Counter argument: My step-dad was your proverbial "spank until 9, punch until you move out." I had to have dentistry done twice after he "disciplined" me. I had to spend two weeks in the hospital after he pushed me down and I fell back and cracked my head on the sidewalk. Blood every where.
So you know what I did? I became the rebel of all rebels. So what? I'm gonna get hurt anyway. Class clown, fights, picking on littler kids, smoking, drinking; you name it. I was 25 or 25 before I realized life wasn't all that bad if you didn't want it to be. Now get this: flash forward 25 years. Raised a girl of my own. Never spanked her, slapped her, or in any way physically "punished" her. At 18 she got her Bachelor's degree while girls her age were graduating high school. Owns her own business, knocks down big bucks, and couldn't be happier.
Yes, I had it rougher than most kids do. But I didn't find it necessary to pass that along. And it worked out great. She's in a good place, I have a fountain pen that must have set her back $500, and her mother adores her. Family life could not have been better.
Hawk
Gene Hennigh,
I appreciate it. And sorry you went through that. Of course, it's the obvious counter point to my unscientific, based on thoughts and feelings, opinion.
Although I will point out that there are differences between a spank for extreme bad behaviour and what was obviously child abuse. Of course, the question is where is the line between the two?
Like you, I've never disciplined my kids physically and never will. I'll just repeat the tired old trope that it never did me any harm.
bass4funk
Sorry to hear that. What you experienced was clearly child abuse of the worst level. No one should have to endure that. My parents were tough, but they never went to the point where we had to go to the hospital, that is just outrageous. I have kids, too, and I had to discipline them once or twice, and those were the times I deeply regretted it, but had no choice, now that they are older they understand why I had to take that drastic step, and there was no other recourse and we both had to work through that bump in our lives but other than that, they were the perfect kids. Every child grows up differently, and I would never tell another parent how to raise their child, you do what you think is right and what works for you. I deeply respect that, but when parents abuse kids physically or sexually, that is where I draw the line.
kibousha
I had to carry a bucket of water above my head and stand on one leg, drop a leg to rest, the stick came hitting.
Now I have 2 kids grown up, never punished them once, how could you see a cute child not understanding the world, the rules, and punish them ? I prefer teaching them what their actions would result in, hurting themselves, hurting others, etc.
purple_depressed_bacon
My folks believed in the "spare the rod; spoil the child" philosophy. Back then, corporal punishment was still doled out at some of the schools I went to, so being physically punished seemed normal to me. I was also grounded and sent to bed without supper. I know now that there are better, more efficient, and less traumatising ways of instilling discipline but times were different back then. I would also argue that the way many kids are disciplined now is inefficient and ineffective; so many parents are just letting their kids run amok without a consequence in sight. It's highly worrying.
stormcrow
In the worst situations . . . the belt!
Yeah, it must sound pretty old school, but my father was born during the depression in a poor family.
John-San
Very similar to todays method, My parent allow the institutions ( educational ) to deal with discipline in school hours. My parent would not defend against any action they dealt to me from my bad attitude and behaviour. home hour when my parents discipline me they would be take away my freedoms. Like you e.g. can,t ride your bike for a month or other enjoyment. There was never any physical discipline but mental discipline. I had to always explain my bad action and the reason why for my bad action and how should I contain bad action. Then punish would be served as enjoyments and freedom taken away.
aaronagstring
My dad used to give us a stern telling off, he was a pussycat; my mom on the other hand was a horrid woman. A broom handle was her favourite apparatus. That, and the perennial “clip round the ear.”
Counter-argument: she lost the love and respect from my sister and I. So much so that when she died, we didn’t attend her funeral. That speaks volumes, I feel.
BeerDeliveryGuy
I’ll just put it this way.
My stepdad’s Make Love not War, draft-dodging, peace-loving ideals didn’t translate over to how he treated us.
When I joined the Marine Corps, I was a expecting daily beat downs like I was used to, but was amusingly surprised when I found out that USMC DIs can’t/don’t hit recruits.
Yharnam Resident
My dad used to beat me with jumper cables.
Jennie
My brother and I got into a fight and got kicked out of the house when we were little. We had nowhere to go so just sat on the doorsteps when my brother, having money, decided to abandon me and left to go buy snacks. When we were let inside, our fight had become a lot bigger…
Seigi
Belt, stick whatever... I'm glad they did!
Mocheake
Usually just a strong tongue-lashing but tell and lie and you get the strap. Quickly, strongly and deservedly. No major marks and no lasting damage. That is what is still needed in today's society. I see kids talking back to parents all day every day in Japan. They are extra spoiled. Not going to work with my parents and grandparents. Love them for it! Made me a much better person.
Sven Asai
Well, they applied almost the full catalog. Better no details, because if all that would be practiced accordingly and at the same former scale still nowadays, for all the things kids and younger people do or don't do today, we wouldn't have any new generation left, exactly zero survivors.
DanteKH
Sever punishments but no child abuse. There was always a line.
Nowadays? Just look on the streets or restaurants, etc.
Full of spoiled brats, entitled children, and extremely weak parents who do not know how to impose themselves in front of their children.