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Why do children become bullies?

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Children Learn What They Live

By Dorothy Law Nolte

If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.

If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.

If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.

If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.

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So they can feel power over the weaker ones. It's their "revenge" against the world for having been humiliated and have had their pride hurt in the past (probably by their parents or caretakers).

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Because they don't get enough love and attention from their parents and lack confidence in their own abilities.

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Bullies, whether children or adults, are people who try to hide their own insecurities by proving that they are 'stronger' than others. All they really prove of course is that they are weaker than they are prepared to admit.

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A lot is due to poor parenting and possibly that sort of behaviour copied from home and from their peers. There should be a zero tolerance to bullying.

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lack confidence in their own abilities

people who try to hide their own insecurities by proving that they are 'stronger' than others. All they really prove of course is that they are weaker than they are prepared to admit.

Exactly!!! Having multiple friends/accounts and tag team others…

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Because they don't get enough love and attention from their parents

That may be one path to becoming a bully but I don't think it is the only path.

Some bullies have been spoiled and pampered by over-indulgent parents who think their lovely little angel could never possibly do anything wrong.

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Children Learn What They Live

By Dorothy Law Nolte

This could be a recipe for raising spoilt little brats who turn into uncontrollable monsters as teenagers.

I think it is OK to offer both praise and criticism to a child.

Strict discipline when a child does wrong is also good.

People often say that bullies are just copying the bad treatment that they have received from their parents.

In some cases that may of course be true but it is not the only path to becoming a bully.

Some bullies have never had any discipline and have been spoilt and indulged to the point that they think they can do and say anything they want.

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Some bullies have been spoiled and pampered by over-indulgent parents who think their lovely little angel could never possibly do anything wrong.

Which is the exact opposite of love.

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Kids can become bullies cuz their parents treat them bad OR cuz the parents let them get away with anything and everything. It could also stem from dad being mean to mom or something like that.

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Crappy parents.

Bad friends.

Weak teachers.

Bad genes.

One or two isn't so bad. Three or more is trouble. If you're a parent, all you can do is be a good one, and make sure your kid runs with a good crowd. The rest is pretty much out of your control.

If you're a teacher, you can't do except make sure it doesn't happen under your watch.

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Boredom

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Because some kids are so punchable.

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Children Learn What They Live

By Dorothy Law Nolte

This sort of answer, while sounds eloquent, and may have some truths; it is a book for your reading, or a poem for your reading and for you to take in some point, but to quote it and regurgitate it as if it means something special here, to me is one type of example which would stimulate bullying. Why? Because it is boring. It totatly, when regurgitated in this fashion, highlights judgemental attitudes, and that always needs answering and demands specifics, and when youre the one regurgiatating and not giving specifics, you seem totally boring and unopened, and would cause me to like now, be bullying of it.

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Bad wiring.

The brats who bullied me at school for three years found someone with a weakness and they exploited it. When I fought back it made them worse.

Zero tolerance on bullies... and those who are bullied don't become bullies... I'm proof of that ^_^

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They learned from their peers...in Japan, the adults are the most bullies, I've experienced it in my workplace. I was bullied to the max until I had to quit my volunteer job and developed PTSD for a year until I started practicing yoga..because I was the only one different, the only foreigner that gave opinions, because I wore a different shoe, because I dressed differently, because I would have home parties and invite their husbands over as well, because I did a lot of things together with my husband...those are the simple reasons as to why I was bullied and left ostracized. Now, I've grown stronger, wiser and kinder and aware that when I read about bullying from kids, the parents, the adults around them are more to blame.

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