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Why doesn't Father's Day carry the same importance as Mother's Day? Or does it?

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Sadly society see's men as disposable, in the west as un-needed, family courts lay waste to men in courts daily, and it is still getting worse sadly

12 ( +16 / -4 )

who said it doesn’t?

-5 ( +4 / -9 )

Fathers day doesn't carry the same importance because men don't need to be constantly 'pat on back' to reassure them. It's not an insult either. Men and women have different emotional needs.

9 ( +11 / -2 )

Both mother's Day and father's day should be eliminated.

When my children were young the schools would have mother's day events tell the children to make something or write something for their mother.

Well my children's mother walked out on them long before they reached school age and others lost their mothers to other things.

Only to have to advertise these things when asked why they can't do like the others.

Father's Day was usually ignored but if given equal status then you will make it a problem for those without fathers.

This constant need to pat people on the back for just doing something that humans have done since the species stood upright is a little bit of a joke.

4 ( +9 / -5 )

Simple. If neither hasn’t abused or abandoned you, show equal love & respect to both, everyday, throughout the remainder of their years.

Both holidays are offshoots of the now, defunct ‘greeting card companies’ and other marketing-advertisers that that profited for ‘real’ sentimentality. Genuine love & respect ‘can’t be adequately expressed’ with just a purchase.

Wait! You’re not ‘off the hook’. Step it up and, at least, take them out once in while for a meal.

If you’re a full-fledged adult and have money to go out with friends, how about paying some ‘rent’?

If you have a good job, how about repaying those student loans yourselves, if you can?

4 ( +4 / -0 )

AntiquesavingToday 09:38 am JST

Both mother's Day and father's day should be eliminated.

When my children were young the schools would have mother's day events tell the children to make something or write something for their mother.

Well my children's mother walked out on them long before they reached school age and others lost their mothers to other things.

So everyone else should be made miserable because of your personal misfortune?

2 ( +9 / -7 )

Well a mother carries you in her body at risk of her life for 9 months and a lot of cultures appreciate that. What comes after that is the roulette wheel of life.

-1 ( +3 / -4 )

I like the tradition. But in the long run this type of celebration may become obsolete or even "politically incorrect" as more adults are single or childless, and gender and parental roles become diverse and blurred.

BTW, Father's Day is not universal, not necessarily held in mid June; some celebrate it in autumn.

0 ( +2 / -2 )

I haven’t noticed any appreciation at all, despite someone living at home, for free.

Why should any day be different?

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Perhaps because fathers don't throw a fit if father's day is ignored or not taken seriously.

7 ( +10 / -3 )

That's an easy answer.There's not much love for fathers over here,mainly because of the wives influence(or lack thereof).

3 ( +5 / -2 )

Why doesn't Father's Day carry the same importance as Mother's Day? Or does it?

No it doesn't, and i would say this is more so for Japan than the West.

In my eldest's year, the elementary school did a "half-seijin shiki" at school, a halfway to coming-of-age event where the 10 year olds did a performance and each read out a letter thanking their parents, presumably written with teacher prompting. My daughter mentioned me, but only about a quarter of the kids mentioned their fathers in their thank you letter. When my son was 10, his year group didn't do it.

fwiw, I am a believer in the traditional family and don't mind women having a greater role in childraising. The thing I oppose most is fathers being at work all the time, especially when their own wives welcome it.

4 ( +5 / -1 )

I wish I was still in a position to thank either of my parents for everything they did for me.

2 ( +2 / -0 )

In the US, we get bombarded with the same amount of commercials leading up to both days. My family celebrates both in the same way (though father's day might include using the grill, because my dad likes grilling). I always wish both of my parents happy mother's day or happy father's day, respectively. And I recently gave them a nice bottle of wine as a joint gift for both mother's day and father's day. I've only seen mother's day be treated as more important in memes... as a joke.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Fathers abandon their families far more frequently?

-3 ( +2 / -5 )

Usually, a mother is a primary care giver for the first 5 years of life. Obviously, of course, there are exceptions to this, but generally speaking this is how most households are. The mother creates the baby's life from her own body, carrying the baby inside for 9 months, gives birth, feeds the baby with her own body, is often the first to wake up and change diapers, etc. Biologically, and psychologically, there is a strong connection made there during the first 5years of life. I'm not saying fathers don't provide care, of course they do, but generally speaking the mothers do most of it and biologically speaking there're things they simply can't. As children age, and their needs change, their moms are still the ones who they feel more comfortable going to, because of that solid, influential first 5 years.

That's just how I see it.

So, that's why in my opinion, Mother's Day is such a big deal, outside of the massive marketing campaigns.

-1 ( +1 / -2 )

Men are now portrayed as bumbling morons in commercials who can only be saved by women.

2 ( +3 / -1 )

Why doesn't Father's Day carry the same importance as Mother's Day? Or does it?

It does.

2 ( +2 / -0 )

I can't speak for other families, but mine gives me a nice father's day every year.

0 ( +1 / -1 )

same with Strangerland, my family gives equal importance to both mothers' and fathers' day every year. In my (possibly unpopular) opinion, I see these days as commercial holidays meant to encourage spending more than truly feeling grateful for one's parents.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Mother's Day was started as a way of raising awareness of the work mother's did in keeping children alive back when infant mortality rates were high in order to get them more support (e.g. medical supplies). The whole card and flowers thing came later. The woman who founded the day lived long enough to despise what it became.

As far as I can tell, Father's Day was started in order to try and hawk cards for Dads too.

2 ( +2 / -0 )

As children my parents forbade Mother and Father's Day because they have no real meaning. Just more made-up commercialisation.

BTW, they should have Gaijin Day in Japan, were people show their appreciation to the foreigner in their lives.

4 ( +4 / -0 )

Gynocentric society, always has been.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

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