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Do you think starting/ending a romantic relationship with someone was easier before there was social media?

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Everything must have been better when people didn't have fake relationships to pretend like they weren't alone.

10 ( +11 / -1 )

I can't vote. No answer applies to my situation.

Got married divorced and remained before social media was a thing.

So never experienced the joke of social media dating.

So

Under

I'm not old enough to remember.

You need a 4th choice

I am to old to care

Or

Don't know never used social media for dating.

Etc....

7 ( +11 / -4 )

There were dating agencies long before the internet but I never needed them.

1 ( +5 / -4 )

Even though there were still may societal issues back then, the world seemed a brighter place before social media.

8 ( +10 / -2 )

Previous generations used the newspaper classifies for dating.

2 ( +5 / -3 )

I'm too old to remember

6 ( +6 / -0 )

Paul Simon’s ‘ 50 Ways to Leave your Lover’ was pre-social media.

8 ( +9 / -1 )

inkochi

Today 02:54 pm JST

Paul Simon’s ‘ 50 Ways to Leave your Lover’ was pre-social media

Yes and once you left that love it was far more difficult for them to find you or stalk you.

Today every young person has FB Instagram or Twitter.

I know a young man that broke up with his girlfriend, she use a fake name on twitter and claimed he had HIV, she was caught but the damage was done.

Previous media like classified ads would not have made it past the editorial section and not been printed.

If I moved 40 years ago to get away, it took considerable effort to find me. Today just search online do a LinkedIn, FB and photos search, etc...

There are 50 ways to leave and a 100 new ways for them to track you down.

2 ( +5 / -3 )

I think theres no relation between existence of sm and easiness of starting/ending relationships. It depends on psychological factors mostly. I cant imagine that one can start/end a relationship via sm, if they do then, maybe im too old , but it looks like a fake to me. Not meaningful and deep.

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I'm another guy for whom the poll choices aren't relevant. Got married 15 years ago. Social media was around, and so were dating sites, but I always preferred to go on the pull analog/old school.

If anything, I'd assume it would be easier with technology if you wanted it to be. Breaking up with someone via Facebook message or whatever is possible, but doing so would make you a bit of a jerk. Do it in person.

As for hooking up? Never went the digital route, but if I had to fathom: A hookup is probably easier, because you can link up with someone else looking to hook up too and make the decision based on photos. But it would probably be harder to get a real feel for a person the same way you would if you met more organically (sat near each other at an izakaya, at the gym, etc) and got together based on chatting in person and body chemistry.

If I woke up and was single tomorrow, I'd go right back out on the pull old-school style.

4 ( +4 / -0 )

I met my significant other in person but due to the pandemic, we spent almost our first year virtually together. I answered not old enough to remember since I was already in my teens and began dating when social media was already taking root. I can imagine that dating pre-social media era was more challenging and interesting than having a wide selection of potential partners at a swipe of your fingertip.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Starting and ending relationships was more upfront and honest before social media. None of this ghosting nonsense or catfishing. Social media has enabled so many bad habits that ruin relationships before they even properly begin.

4 ( +4 / -0 )

Everyone's experiences are unique. We all have ways of being attached and unattached. Some people take time to develop or end a relationship. Others jump in. Either relationships do or don't work out, whether you are using social media or beating on tom toms.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Yes, we get too much information from SNS.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Instead of stalking you on social media, they stalked you by hanging out at your front door.

3 ( +3 / -0 )

Too old to know.
0 ( +0 / -0 )

If a 'serious' relationship is seen to be terminable via electronic media, consider yourself an unworthy partner whose depth of emotional commitment and sensitivity to anyone but themselves is less than ankle deep and whose departure is the VERY best thing they could do for anyone... emotional cowards, essentially, and thereby completely untrustworthy. Just sayin'...

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Hit the wrong button, thought the 3rd option said too old to remember!

0 ( +0 / -0 )

It's way easier with social media. The old days you had to have the guts to approach someone in-person to ask for their phone number or to go out. Maybe get hooked up by a friend.

These days, just find out if they're on Instagram, Line, FB, Twitter or whatever to get your foot in the door and then a few cleverly worded direct messages and you can easily hook-up.

2 ( +2 / -0 )

These days, just find out if they're on Instagram, Line, FB, Twitter or whatever to get your foot in the door and then a few cleverly worded direct messages and you can easily hook-up.

You may travel in a better circles than mine but it seems the people I connect with prefer to keep those relationships online to avoid those nasty in-person interactions. Also back in the day you had a chance to get your foot in the door personality wise before getting swiped left.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

Instead of stalking you on social media, they stalked you by hanging out at your front door.

You have to at least admire the dedication of the latter!

2 ( +2 / -0 )

Oh those crazy kids. Back in my day ...

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Sorry, but I say "No", absolutely. While it's true that in many cases you can stalk someone more easily if that is your desire, had any of you ever heard term "ghosting" before social media came into existence? No. These days, instead of meeting the person face-to-face and breaking up with them (or copping out and calling), you can get a text out of the blue saying it's over. You reply with a "What?" but account blocked. You get the picture.

And for those saying it was easier to stay away after that in the old days, we're not talking about packing up shop and running. So, I say it is far easier to break up with people now than it was in the past, when you needed the courage of your convictions to look the person in the face while you did it.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Never had a problem with dating in my younger days(long before so-called "social media". I met lots of girls (in person) at school and other social activities. I took the time to get to know the girls before becoming romantic most of the time. When the chemistry wasn't right, it didn't go anywhere.

The concept of delayed gratification is a very foreign idea in this age of instant gratification, and the lack of relationship development is a major societal flaw.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

yes, because emojis complicate everything.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

From my standpoint, it's easier and faster to make relationship with people through the social media. It is much easier to judge whether or not someone matches my needs before meeting each other. If the person matches my personality, I will start to send messages without hesitation. If it were not for social sites, starting and ending romantic relationship would be more difficult than before.

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