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Eventually I moved out of the city and now I don't make any personal info available on social media. Nada, zero. Lesson learned.

Correct! I'm constantly amazed at the trail of breadcrumbs some people leave online. And the personal info; what are they thinking of?

That's why I don't reveal anything about who I am, where |'m coming from and what I am :-)

It does make for some tiresome assumptions on some people's part but if that keeps 'em off the streets, fine by me.

4 ( +4 / -0 )

On social networks? No.

On JT, though... just one coward out of many decent and thoughtful contributors.

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Online bullying is different because the bullies are cowards who hide their identities.

I would be happy to face them.

3 ( +5 / -2 )

By one person and he turned into a seriously dangerous stalker. It started as social media messages, then escalated to finding where I worked, my car's plate number, etc. I had to contact the police when he started posting photos of his guns on MySpace and Hi5. Eventually I moved out of the city and now I don't make any personal info available on social media. Nada, zero. Lesson learned.

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Online bullying is different because the bullies are cowards who hide their identities.

I would be happy to face them.

Depends. They could turn out to be a dangerous individual.

I did attend a few real life meet ups over the years. Most people were sound as a pound and the one or two bullying types turned out to be quivering jellies who were all sweetness and light at the meet ups. "Hey, it's just joking" were the responses to questions about why they behaved the way they did. And the topics which they normally ranted on (immigrants/welfare/politics) turned out they weren't as well-informed as they made out to be. The universal reveal was that they were all well-off conservatives who have never known poverty or discrimination. And within days of the meets, they were back to the their old tricks.

That's the best case scenario. Some of the more sinister types I'd avoid. I've done my anecdotes for today but there are loose cannons out there who are best left within the confines of online "debate".

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I couldn't decide whether to say "yes" or "no", but ultimately said "yes", since bullying was what the people set out to do despite my not really caring or it having an effect, or not considering myself much of a "victim". Before blocking them, I've had numerous nutters on Facebook try to give me grief, and some who've gotten my email address somehow and have told me "Leave Japan with your Korean dog wife!" and such stuff. One of the people I knew and once considered a friend, and sure enough when I posted on line what they had said, along with their identity, they were EXTREMELY quick to beg me to take it off, and apologised, but since I knew what they said was how they felt I refused both, and every now and then repost it. Apparently she lost most of the mutual friends we had, some of whom were shocked at what they saw, others not surprised, and she kept a couple who apologised to me but have not kept in touch since. She also had to quit a couple of groups she was in in the town I used to live, I heard. Whatever. Like I said, I don't really care much what others say about me, or to an extent about mine, but that doesn't mean I accept it.

I feel sorry for kids who are bullied by their peers, whom they know and have to meet in daily life. I hope they also realise at some point that it really doesn't matter what the other people say, and can have enough confidence in themselves to ignore it when possible.

3 ( +3 / -0 )

Had a few uncomfortable comments on photos on Facebook when I first started and added everyone as a "friend" as if the number was a status symbol. Now I tighten the inner circle to family and a few close friends with whom I am comfortable sharing pictures...

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Yes. I discount the often rough attacks on sites like this that deal with politics and current events. That's debate. It is different on social websites that are not political. One photography website was full of trolls, really vicious trolls, that included some of the moderators. There was a purge. When the last creepy moderator was kicked out things finally got better.

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I was bullied mercilessly in middle/high school. After many beating I began to learn to fight for self preservation, then I took up boxing in college and finally hit a growth spurt that took me from 145 pounds at 17 to 185 pounds at 18.

All that muscle and my fighting skills then became a tool to protect those that were being bullied. I look back at all the bullies I have pummeled with some satisfaction, but also relief that no of the cowards found me later when they had a gun. I had the opportunity to turn the tables on a few sexual predators in Bar Champion in Goldengai, Shinjuku. Put one drunk Aussie in the hospital for repeatedly grabbing this poor girls crotch.

I'm getting to old to act that way anymore and, frankly, it's too dangerous, but there is nothing worse than bullies and I'd do it all over again.

2 ( +2 / -0 )

If you participate in an open social networking you risk to suffer the consequences. Those networks were created for coneheads and brainwashed people. If you give away your personal e-mail or you're not sure about what you are doing in Internet then you're a conehead or you have been already brainwashed. I pass.

1 ( +1 / -0 )

Yes. I discount the often rough attacks on sites like this that deal with politics and current events. That's debate.

For the most part, yes. And very lively it is, too. It's when it veers off debate into something more untoward, that it's time to disengage.

0 ( +0 / -0 )

It's important to take the lead in different matters. Rise as a powerful and respected friend, from as early as primary school. You'll have to gain respect in some kind of a way, to restrain the bullies. At least that's what worked with me. Don't be a gossiper at school, and don't blame things on your friends.

You have to find a role which only you can play in the hierarchy, and you got to play it damn well! And take advantage of your role, to exploit the bullies' unawareness.

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I find that many younger people today are victims of a very dangerous left-wing indoctrination in their education where they see, ironically, themselves as victims at every single turn.

They don't know how to debate, and are so offended by opinions that don't follow the orthodoxy that they actually think they are being assaulted.

Its a very dangerous time.

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