Sex therapists say 3-13 minutes is best

5 is plenty, don't measure your 'standards' by what you see in porn.

30 seconds works for me. Or the ad breaks on tv are just about right.

depends if its any good whether you want it to last or not I guess.

Is 3-13cm also ok?

A friend wants to know.

rjd_jr,

How does your partner feel about that? ;)

They mean 3-13 minutes per hour?

Does that include the post-coital rollover and nap?

A survey of sex therapists have concluded the optimal amount of time for sexual intercourse was 3 to 13 minutes.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, cited a four-week study of 1,500 couples in 2005 that found the median time for sexual intercourse was 7.3 minutes. (Women were armed with stopwatches.)

So does this mean that the optimal time and the mean of actual sexual practice just happen to match, or is somebody stoopid?

“There are so many myths in our culture of what other people are doing sexually,” Brandon said.

This is true. And I blame many of society's ills on the simple fact that people are not performing enough nor with enough variety despite the fact that sex in the modern age can be extremely safe.

A key factor perpetuating the lack of action is the lack of sensible discourse on the subject. It is quashed by those in for a nervous laugh and by stiff-backed prudish scum who seem to gain more power all the time.

Two minutes in heaven, is better than one minute in heaven...

Peace

Hiko, But 45 minutes of bangin' at the gates of heaven ain't no fun at all.

its fun . do it for a long time and then some more and then some more. you can get 5 hours out of a decent Saturday. night or day, no problem. just enjoy the passion.

I think an important part of sex is what happens afterward also. After sex, most women want to hear something like: "I love you. I want to grow old with you. Let's just hold each other until the sun comes up."

Guys on the other hand just want to hear this: http://www.myxertones.com/ringtone:53641/ (click on the play button)

I can't take credit for that one. I saw a comedian do that bit a few years ago.

Taka

"3-13 minutes is best"

Richard Pryor said "I can do about 5 minutes of serious ( sex ), then I need 8 hours of sleep and a bowl of Wheaties."

Time is not the measure. When you have those really hot times when you get home rip each others clothes off, no one is timing matters. That can be short hot and very enjoyable sex. Then there are the times when you both have been drinking wine and you slip into a whole different mode. Early morning can be a slow sleepy experience or a quickie before work. Time is not the measure - it is the enjoyment the partners derive fromew it.

Hey, what the heck is this foreplay stuff the article mentions?

Old news. I've know that since high school.

Geez Sailwind, Don't you know anything? It's sex on the golf course. Everyone knows that.

Taka

Geez Sailwind, Don't you know anything? It's sex on the golf course. Everyone knows that.

Taka

Ahhh, clears that up! By the way how do I get hold of this Goldstein guy, he owes me some medical bills.

Dr. Irwin Goldstein, editor of the Journal of Sexual Medicine,

I bought a copy of his journal tried a few of his suggestions and ended up in traction it was a misprint.

3-13 minutes

That doesn't really narrow it down, does it!? Now I'm more confused than ever.

I need a specific number to aim for. You know, like 5 minutes 20 seconds.

I think it's time to open this back up for discussion.

3-13 minutes?! Heck, my life partner is so used to our hour-long plus sessions, 13 minutes would seem like a mere instant in time...