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Posted in: Laughing matter See in context

Aso and Abe are discussing why the unhappy foreigners continue to live in Japan, thinking Japan should change to meet their standards.

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Posted in: Counselor has harsh words for parents of 'hikikomori' See in context

FrungyFEB. 18, 2013 - 11:11PM JST (a leading cause of hikikomori behaviour is bullying at school and the refusal of school authorities to take firm action). BULLYING by students who have not received enough parental control in their lives to understand what is good behavior and not, taught at home before they enter the school system. The parents are the first teachers. Having watched one show on TV about a man helping hikikomori young people. There wasn't any brain chemistry imbalances mentioned as a root cause to the problem. School authorities would not have to deal with so much bullying at school, if more parents took a more active role in being a parent to their children and took a hard look at themselves before pointing their finger at others as the cause.

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Posted in: 72 Osaka teachers confess to hitting students in questionnaire See in context

Maybe if the vice-principals took a more active role in disciplining misbehavior and the parents were called immediately to come to school to discuss the problem or take the student home, the behavior would change.

This view is also held by many Americans, sadly. It should be, Maybe if the parents took a more active role with their children and ensuring the children knew how to behave BEFORE going to school. The teachers require the support of the parents, to help keep classrooms a place of learning the curriculum and not a classroom for teaching good behavior.

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Posted in: Counselor has harsh words for parents of 'hikikomori' See in context

I wonder if the parents are of the same type that say, you can not force a child to learn good behavior and discipline is not the way to be a parent. I get the feeling if a survey were done. They would be the parents of adult hikikomori. Reading the part about if the child is 20, 30 and 40 years old. The state of childhood should be long over before 20 years old. And as posted earlier supplying all the internet, TV, phones and whatever else to a able adult kid who is not activity looking for work, everyday. Is not helping the kid become self supporting. Helping a kid who lost a job or having bad times is part of being a parent, treating a adult kid do a life that does not include getting their butt outside everyday, isn't helping them. For all the parents worried about the effects of disciplining your child. It all starts in the home and when they are small children. SOME of the effects of not, are adult hikikomori.

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Posted in: More gold sent to Ishinomaki by anonymous donor See in context

Hope that the gold received is used for the purposes it was given. That effected people can feel some sort of relief from the traumatic events that happened to them. The person who sent the gold obviously has a heart of gold for sharing the gold with people who can benefit from it. God bless.

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Posted in: 72 Osaka teachers confess to hitting students in questionnaire See in context

Adults who want to resort to a childhood experience as being a stigma, a thing that long into their adulthood can be remembered, well that was the intend. Part of the maturing process should include realizing the lessons taught by parents were to have their children mature into responsible adults with values and morals making them good citizens. Having REAL traumatic events happened in childhood is serious. Being discipline and taught by your parents to behavior is not a traumatic event and any memories should be there to remind you of what you parents were trying to teach you to remember, the process being called maturing past the, my parents don't understand me and treated me badly. To understanding what your parents were doing was their job as parents. If a person is going through adulthood using non-traumatic experiences as crutches to support their inadequacies in life. I think you've got more maturing to do. Unfortunately there are many immature people who become parents, not having completed the process themselves.

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Posted in: 72 Osaka teachers confess to hitting students in questionnaire See in context

Confusing abuse with parental privilege is something that comes up a lot with the topic of disciplining children. When I see comments like belting, bashing, punching I have to think the comments come from people who have personally experience this type of physical discipline. Gently spanking a child's butt or a slap on the hands or grabbing an ear is not child abuse. It should not be the first choice to correct behavior. Being a parent and teaching a child is being a parent. There are too many parents who think somehow the child will learn somewhere, what should be taught in the home. Reenforcing good behavior or correcting bad behavior. When a child is having an episode in public and will not stop behaving badly, picking the child up and taking it outside or a child too big to carry and grabbing a arm or ear to take outside is not child abuse, when all prior efforts have failed to correct the problem. Keep this in mind, all prior efforts have failed. How many times I have seen parents simply pretend they don't see or hear bad behavior or speak softly saying, don't do that as they continue with what they were doing and not a thing changed in the childs behavior. It should remain a parents right to decide wheather or not to use physical discipline. When I see bad behavior in adults in public I often think, what did the parents do? Seeing adults opening sealed packages in a store, dropping things on the floor and leaving, bumping pushing into people without regard, making rude remarks publicly to others, using profanity loudly, speaking to people as servants of some kind, not acknowledging courtesies given to them. Seeing these same people when confronted with their bad behavior try to change the confrontation into something the other person is doing to offend them by bringing it to their attention. When a child is sent to school the child should already know how to behave, by the parents teaching them. The teachers are not there to teach children how to behave, but when confronted with bad behavior by a child. The teachers should have the right to grab an arm or an ear and take the child away from the learning environment they are trying to create.

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Posted in: 72 Osaka teachers confess to hitting students in questionnaire See in context

Take how many times students require physical discipline to keep order with a daily count. Of that count how many were HIT. I think the final count of being hit is pretty small. So, my point is with all the political correctness that appears to be taking place in Japan that was forced on most Americans. Taking the powers of teachers and parents away has helped to produce better students, better citizens? American society has so many ill mannered people who came from generations of "Someone will teach the children" but who? Parents in America keep losing the right to be a parent, physical discipline. Parents that don't teach their children basic manners, behavior and courtesies at home and send their children off to school and let the teachers have to deal with kids who have no respect for the teachers. Kids reflect what they have or have not been taught at home. Using physical discipline should not be the first choice, but it should be an option when everything else fails. These acts of violence in the surveys, should include. How many times was the student in trouble for something prior, what type of physical discipline? A gentle slap on the butt or hand? How many times were the parents told there is a discipline problem with their child? Sure there are bad teachers, but a lot more parents that think their children will be learn basic manners from SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE, but not from them.

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Posted in: Love and fakery in the air on Valentine's Day See in context

This story is pretty demeaning to men in general, maybe I m out of touch with current dating styles. But reading this story I get the impression that the story is more about horny men looking for horny women. And there are financial requirements attached to it, along with physical requirements. If doing a financial background check and also requiring certain physical aspects is the general way people are going about finding someone. Well, I think your not going to find someone that a life time of companionship can be enjoyed from the love and desire standpoint. But there are people who think having financial security is love, sadly.

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Posted in: U.S. tax rules sour life for Americans abroad See in context

Having done my own taxes, mostly. As a resident of Japan and citizen of the USA, I have not had any problems or confusion in doing the tax returns. I don't and have not gone over the $95,000.00 Maximum foreign earned income exclusion though. The fortunate people who go over this amount, lucky you. Contributions made to IRA'S in America are generally pre-tax or not pre-tax depending on your options. Making a contributions while living in another country would be the same as working in America for a company that did not provide pre-tax contributions to a IRA. So I don't see or understand the sour part of filing, but like I said I m not making more than $95,000.00.

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Posted in: More young people try communal living in 'share houses' See in context

When I was a teenager, this was called a Hippie comune. The 60's and 70's in America. Story has a lot in common with a hippie comune, group of strangers living together for different reasons. Differences, happening in Japan.

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Posted in: 55-year-old woman arrested for burning 78-year-old mother to death See in context

Both in Japan and America, children are caring for their aged parents. The sad part is for many, they do not have the skills required to do the job. A lot of factors come into play taking care of elderly parents or even just living with one. I will guess, for some past bad memories that are bottled up inside for years and than some abuse comes into the picture. In both countries prevention help and education should be increased, physical help as well as mental help coping with the living arrangement. Children abandoning elderly parents because they don't want to deal with them, is that much different than a young parent abandoning a child?

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Posted in: U.S. airman arrested in Okinawa for causing accident while driving drunk See in context

The story is about a man who got charged with DWI and having an accident. All the comments about other issues that want to be attached to the story are just to create tension or try to relieve tension from the part of the story that he is a U.S. serviceman. To rant about removal of bases serves what purpose in accord with the story? The story gives the ranters a place to post their protests against bases. If you feel so strongly about base removal, write or phone city ward offices and/or the base commanders, people who's job requires them to pay attention.

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Posted in: 4 women injured after car hits them in Sakai See in context

Glad some of the posters would not be on a jury for this. Because the article does not say the driver was not looking, it says "he took his eyes off the road for a second and didn’t see the pedestrians." If you do drive, you have done the same thing many times, change the radio station, reach for something a drink, snack, talking to someone in the car. All these things take your eyes off the road for only seconds. The bad part in this story is the man hit people when he did. Not looking implies that the man was driving carelessly on the road not looking way he was going.

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Posted in: What Japanese women think about money and marriage See in context

A woman or a man thinking about marrying someone they already know is one thing. They are considering the relationship they are having and talking about a future together that includes all the issues. Thinking about looking for someone to marry is another thing. If a search is going to be made for someone to marry, well most people would want someone employed at least. To say the entire search is going to be based on the financial status of someone. Than i don't think what is being sought is marriage in the true sense, but more of a help wanted in a financial sense. Everyone has different ideas of what a marriage means to them, but if financial status is a priority, the most important thing. A help wanted search might be a better way of labeling it.

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Posted in: Jets roar as U.S., Japan, Australia conduct drill in Pacific See in context

You can post all the history of the subject, whose islands are whose and the reasons why the islands belong to who. That this country did this first, so the other country should respond by doing this.

What should be the main concern for all in involved and the citizens is that all of the recent actions taken by all stop. That this dispute does not and should not continue with military actions. It should be resolved by discussions.

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Posted in: British lawmakers approve gay marriage in historic vote See in context

Usual statements how people oppose to gays are narrow minded and don't see the bright future of Sodom and Gomorrah or the destruction of Roman from within. This was also handed down through the centuries. Divorce is a normal ending to marriage. I believe gays couple break up also. Maybe the special gene that they carry prevents break ups?

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Posted in: British lawmakers approve gay marriage in historic vote See in context

Amazing that a person's sexual preference can become a right in any country. The gene thing has not been proven by science to be a fact. And that is a very small amount of gay people in the world. So when a child molester can say they have a gene that makes them act on their sexual preference, they won't be charged with a crime, right? They have a right to choice because of a gene? If there ever is a gene thing proven.

With a very small amount of the population 100% homosexual, how the gay thing gets pushed into law in countries could only be understood by the people who think being pro-gay is a vote getter, fashionable, stylish or wrongly understood as a right for people who think that their sexual preference makes them entitled to preferential treatment under the laws.

People who are not homosexuals and do not care for the gay life style have rights to, the right not to have their children exposed to abnormal behavior and be told it is normal. The right to have organizations that have application rules and not be called names like homophobic or that they are against freedom of choice because they simply don't care for it.

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Posted in: Evening stroll See in context

I think it is a great shot. I can look at this and think all kinds of things, it gives reason to pause and think. Big city, bridge over the water to the city, the lighting on the bridge and more. what not say who took the picture? Not allowed to for some reason.

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Posted in: Obama pushes short-term spending deal See in context

Obama is doing such a fine job for America, huh. People who voted for him should be picked to be the first to suffer anything related to cuts in funds. Where are the impeachment paper for him, congress had started to look at his non-constitutional authority. Where is the follow-up to get rid of him."

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Posted in: Boy Scouts in U.S. delay decision on admitting gays See in context

The Boy Scouts of America have lots of gay kids in it already, really? This information is obtained from where? Same place that says, "first organized by Baden-Powell in Edwardian England,"

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Posted in: Are you addicted to your smartphone? See in context

No, but I m addicted to wanting to tell the smart phone users to put it away a lot of times, but try to be polite and keep silent, unlike the smart phone users, not all by the way.

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Posted in: Boy Scouts in U.S. delay decision on admitting gays See in context

Not only delay it, ignore it. The Boy Scout's is a private organization and so it can have any rules it wants to have. The government can not interfere because gay people say it is not fair. People have a choice, the right to be gay, sexual preference. They don't have the right to force their chose on the rest of us. Oh Yeah, the gay gene thing, Okay, all gays that want a marriage license will be tested for the gay gene, their expense and no gene, no license. Welcome to freedom of choice, we get to chose too, remember.

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Posted in: 5 dead as 8.0 quake off Solomons sparks Pacific tsunami See in context

So the media should not put out information to keep the public informed about possible tidal waves, earthquakes, volcanoes or anything that isn't happening right at the same moment? Just give people the least amount of time to do anything for themselves to react? Ya think, an adult could just possibly make their own decision about the information given, ignore it or take advice from it?

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Posted in: British lawmakers approve gay marriage in historic vote See in context

The church of England and the British government will both approve of gay marriage?

Theologians have a lot of knowledge about the bible and put a lot of effort into their work. Scientists who specialize in the theory of evolution have made equal efforts in their fields. Both have contributed to their fields of study by putting forward truths and fiction of their fields.

The inconsistencies that are the most popular or well known are the ones discussed by people who don't know much about either, but not knowing doesn't keep them from having their opinions.

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Posted in: British lawmakers approve gay marriage in historic vote See in context

Kids can get married with parental consent, in America each state has an age allowed. Of course this used to be a man and a young girl or the other way around.

Having the laws of nature, reproducing, a male and a female having intercourse, human, animal whatever. Redefined to mean a male and male having intercourse legally doesn't hurt society, because their in love. There is a multitude of things that hurt people who believe in having morals and self worth.

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Posted in: Obama to visit Israel for first time as president See in context

I would like to think he will make all Americans proud of him. I would like to think this, but I have a whole lot of doubt.

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Posted in: British lawmakers approve gay marriage in historic vote See in context

I want to see the reactions of people for all the gay rights stuff. When there is a 50 year old man is taking a 14 year old boy or older boy as his bride, of course with parental consent. When this is condoned in the world as a right, well society as it has been known for a very long time will be completely gone.

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Posted in: Abe: China radar-lock on Japan ship 'dangerous' See in context

Can only hope and prayer that this all stops soon and somehow the dispute is resolved with both agreeing to a end. I think the subject has changed to, how to stop these actions and than back to the original subject.

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Posted in: British lawmakers approve gay marriage in historic vote See in context

Now Elton John can get married again in his jolly olde England. And instead of knighting him, the queen can make him queen for the day! Soon the world will look all the same, MacDonalds, Walmart, groceries, clothes and equal in having no morals.

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