caroti comments

> CephusToday  10:41 am JST

Accidental touch by a drunk guy or intentional? That's hard to guess.

Are you being facetious or something?

How could a victim not realize they've been sexually assaulted?

Let’s be real—having someone grope your chest or shove a finger where it doesn’t belong isn’t exactly what you'd call subtle or 'unintentional'.

grundToday  01:19 pm JST

As WoodyLee said, this is truly one of the amazing things about Japan. I also lost my wallet last year, and after a few hours of frantic searching I got a call from the local police station. Apparently I had dropped it while stopping at a gas station, someone had found it and taken the time to drop it of at the police station. Of course with the contents all there.

It is amazing as well how this kind of kindness spreads. When you expect others to act kindly and deliver lost items to the police or station managers, it becomes natural to do the same yourself.

Meh, you are projecting kindness since you can't know the motivation behind people returning wallets.

I think valuables like wallets that aren’t out in the open do go missing in Japan. I've lost things in Japan and heard of people losing things and not getting them back, but we tend to remember the things that do come back.

A lot of people might return things they find not because they’re inherently kind to strangers, but more because they don’t want to look bad or get judged for not returning them.

Sure, there’s a general respect for other people’s property in Japan, but it’s not some magical, unique trait despite how the media often makes it seem. This kind of thing happens in plenty of other countries too.

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> hooktrunk2Today  07:21 am JST

What's with the suspicion against male nursery school workers? What about men who have kids at the same age then? What about young male school teachers then? What this guy did was disgusting, but assuming all are young men are this way is equally disturbing and disappointing.

Erm, maybe because males are statistically 80%-90% more likely to commit sexual abuse against children than females?

Almost entirely the govts fault due to it encouraging rice growers to limit production to avoid a surplus (which is usually the case) and a fall in prices. It's not good for the growers or rice consumers.

JeffLeeToday  07:01 am JST

In answer to the question in the headline, because "racial equity" is a very bad idea, leading to even greater levels of inequality and deeper social divisions. Just stick to equality. Treat everyone fairly and be color-blind in everything you do.

You and some others seem to be conflating 'racial equity' with 'racial equality'. They are not the same thing.

Equality means treating everyone the same, regardless of their circumstances, while equity means acknowledging and addressing disparities to ensure fairness.

So the reason they are focusing 'racial equity' is because there is not 'racial equality' right now.

In other words, there is no racial equality right now and people are not being treated fairly which is what you and we all agree is what we want.

It was a good Olympics for Japan and NZ (where I am now).

Judging by per capita gold medal wins NZ came 4th and Japan 47th :)

Now let the downvotes commence ..

> OssanAmericaToday  07:48 pm JST

JROToday  06:59 pm JST

There is probably at least 30 domestic dispute/abuse arrests every day in Japan, I wonder why just this one had to be highlighted hmm.

Ask JT.

HIs nationality, age, relationship are just facts. Seems some people have a prblem with a news article containing facts,

Tell you what guys, if you;'re really concerned aboiut your nationality being mentioned in a news artcle, just don't commit any crime that might become news, Much easier than trying to censor news to suit your tastes.

Hey Ossan. I am trying to understand your perspective because our views seem quite different.

Typically, when I encounter a group of people who hold a certain opinion on something new to me, I research and learn more about that viewpoint before forming my own opinion or commenting on the matter.

What's your process?

It seems like you and a few others are puzzled by the concerns some people have about unnecessarily including the nationality or ethnicity of a crime suspect in the news. Are you familiar with the potential issues that can arise from this practice?

Makeyourlifeeasy2015Today  05:44 pm JST

Guys! You are saying as if only in Japan they announce the nationality of a suspect? That's unfair as we hear these kinds of statements in other countries such as the USA and many more. So, when they don't mention any nationality, it's clear that the crime is committed by a Japanese. This should be easy to understand.

I don't get where is the problem here!

No, most Western nations (except conservative news sources such as Fox News, etc.) generally follow the international ethical standards of journalism, which state that nationality in crime suspects is unnecessary and potentially harmful to marginalised groups (e.g. International Federation of Journalists (IFJ) Ethics Charter)

Sometimes, nationality or ethnicity is important and relevant, but when it is not, news organizations will not include it due to the potential for harm to marginalised groups in the community.

Makeyourlifeeasy2015Today  05:51 pm JST

Moreover, showing his nationality gives a clearer information to the story, as this is a normal case in all countries I have been to

I doubt it; show me an example not from the US where the nationality of a suspect has been included even though it is not relevant.

You might be thinking of a suspect on the run and the news report includes what the suspect looks like. That is different.

smithinjapanToday  08:38 pm JST

caroti: "Positive encouragement is not that hard."

True, and I don't think there is anyone on here who doesn't believe that, and doesn't give it. But when you say criticism (and there is positive criticism -- also called 'feedback') is not allowed and only positive comments are, it ceases to become positivity and becomes propaganda.

There is nothing wrong with how the woman we all seem to be talking about performed in the sport. It's how she "performed" after, once again I may point out, even delaying the next match. Saying we have to give her praise for everything she did, including the post-bout tantrum, is like when someone says you can't say "no" to a person's ambitions, dreams, or mistakes, even telling the blind kid his dream to be an airline pilot is a realistic one he can most certainly achieve.

Who said anything about not allowing constructive feedback and criticism? Not me, and not the article. If the next match is delayed for a few seconds because someone is having a mental breakdown or just feeling extremely emotional, who’s to say that’s wrong?

Professional sports are passionate, stressed and emotional.

People already have to control their emotions a lot.

A little understanding and flexibility go a long way.

All these keyboard warriors being all tough and saying these athletes should just suck it up—I'd love to see you out there committing your entire life to your sport in front of the entire world.

While athletes are accustomed to scrutiny, everyone deserves respect and constructive feedback rather than personal attacks. Imagine how you would feel receiving such harsh and often unfair criticism.

Positive encouragement is not that hard.

Fighto!Today  07:31 am JST

The alleged atrocities seem eerily similar to those that happened under the Nazis.

Get back to us Herve when you find evidence that 6 million people were "ethnically cleansed" by WW2 Japan as they were by the Nazis.

Japan was responsible for the deaths of up to 30 million innocent people during its occupation of Asian countries, mostly during World War 2.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japan_during_World_War_II

falseflagsteveToday  11:01 pm JST

Strange how many attacks I’m getting from people that don’t read properly or cannot understand that life is lack and white.

Caroti

Never said anyone’s actions make them to blame, you’re making things up and attacking my good character. Cutting down risky situations is something we can all do. The man is to blame of course as I mentioned FFS!

NEVER blamed the victim in any way, ridiculous accusation to make.

Except you are without realsising it.

As I said falseflagsteve (perfect name BTW), comments like this:

If she wasn’t on the app she wouldnt have met the man. A 12 year old should not be able to access apps like that.

.... imply that certain actions of the victims somehow justifies or provoke crime, which is wrong and isn't a valid argument since there is never ANY fault or cause or role played by the vitim. Is that clear?

In the case of serious crimes like this we do not question the behaviour of the vitm or what they should or should not do because they have done nothing wrong, it is the victim who holds sole responbilty

For one I never said the girl is guilty of anything except stupidity

Can you see how this is a contradiction?! There is no 'except' - there is part of the victims actions that is to blame for her being sexaully assulted.

So what people here say is ideal solution is that we don’t take precautions to reduce risks we just say the person who did it is guilty. None of you ask about the parents or guardians responsibility to the child.

Sexual assault of their child is never the fault of the parents either!

Why not let the kids go feral, if anything happens it’s only the criminals fault,.

No wonder this stuff happens with the attitudes we see here, unbelievable.

Lastly, keep an eye on your kids activities. Keep them safe from bad people don’t wash your hands of your responsibilities.

Yes, parents should be vigilant about their child's activities, especially online, to help protect them from potential dangers.

However, this doesn't mean the responsibility for any harm that befalls the child shifts from the perpetrator to the parents or the child.

The responsibility for any crime, including sexual assault, lies solely with the perpetrator. Parents should educate their children about safety and monitor their activities, but this does not absolve the criminal of their actions.

This young victim is not to blame of course but why is she in those type of apps without her parents knowing and don’t they know what and where she is when out of the house

Contradictory statement: "This young victim is not to blame," but then you question the victim's actions and the parents' supervision, indirectly implying some responsibility on their part.

falseflagsteveToday  08:45 pm JST

Wallace

Sexual assault and rape are never something that can be condoned but we are must take some kind of responsibility. If I walked up to some black men for example and called them racial slurs etc and I got a slap or kick in what I did have zero consequences for being assaulted. No, people would say I was an idiot, same if I went around late at night flashing a huge wad of notes in a high crime area. I’m sure many would say I deserve to be robbed.

They are bad people out there who will assault, and steal or worse. Precautions are needed by all of us in our daily lives to help prevent being victims.

Your comment implies that victims should take some blame for being assaulted, which is harmful and just not true. It also suggests that certain actions can justify or provoke crime, which is wrong and isn't a valid comparison. Comparing racial slurs or flashing money to sexual assault trivialises the severity of sexual violence.

Focusing on the victim's behaviour rather than condemning the perpetrator's actions is very misguided, and your tone lacks empathy and understanding towards the victim, who is only a 12-year-old child!

owzerToday  08:32 am JST

No, do not even go there. The victim of sexual assault is never even partly to blame. Never.

Legally, you are correct. But if it was your daughter, would you really tell her that it was completely not her fault?

No, no, and no. Come on, guys. I know it's hard, but you have to educate yourselves and let go of old misogynistic myths.

It's no wonder that most women in Japan (and other nations but especially in Japan) never come forward about being sexually assaulted. They know they won't be believed and will be blamed for it somehow.

No one deserves to be sexually assaulted, regardless of their situation or actions.

The perpetrator chose to assault the victim. The victim did not ask for it, expect it or deserve it no matter where she is or what she did.

BertieWoosterToday  07:50 am JST

They met on social media. She was on social media to meet someone like this. She went to a hotel with him. To see his stamp collection? Unencumbered by the facts as I am, I would say that blame lies with both.

No, do not even go there. The victim of sexual assault is never even partly to blame. Never.

It is a complete and utter falsehood to believe that a woman is ever partly guilty if she gets sexually assaulted. A woman (or a man for that matter) is NEVER responsible for being sexually assaulted or raped. This is an unassailable truth.

It doesn't matter what she is wearing.

It doesn't matter if she is drunk.

It doesn't matter if she went into a hotel room with someone.

Guys, the law is clear on this. It is a fundamental principle that the blame for sexual assault lies solely with the offender. No justification or excuse can shift any responsibility onto the victim.

I commend JT for choosing not to make the suspect's nationality a major point in the article.

I sent an email urging more care in reporting on the nationality of suspects in line with international ethical journalistic standards, and they seem to have taken this seriously. Bravo.

The next step would be to consider not including nationality at all unless it is essential to the content of the report. In this case, it's hard to see how the nationality of the suspects is relevant.

She will make a safer and saner president than Trump or Biden.

toolonggoneToday  07:31 am JST

Whether I agree with this or not, unless it’s illegal, I suppose restaurant owners can set dual pricing, however misguided that might be. My concern is with the use of the word “foreigner”. The media, Japan Today included, would do well to either stop using the word “foreigner” with regards to this storyline, or at the very least, question whether or not the owners mean foreigners or simply non-resident or non-resident foreigners, Otherwise, they are simply engaging in lazy and irresponsible journalism. The choice of word greatly changes the meaning, effect and tone of this issue.

Yes, the word 'foreigners' is only used when no other word would work. 'International tourist' is the preferred word everywhere else but I guess that's not a direct translation of 'gaikokujin'.

carpslidyToday  09:32 am JST

Caroti

I am sorry but do you know what a love hotel is?

The woman wasn't going there to play some late night uno.

I would of course be furious at the creeps who did this, but also ashamed as a parent that I've brought up a daughter who thinks it's OK to go to a love hotel with three guys.

If it was a private residence, I would be fully on the girls side

If you do have children, I hope you have taught them about consent.

Consent is key no matter where you are, and no one deserves to be assaulted.

It doesn't matter where someone is; consent is always essential, and no one deserves to be assaulted.

If a woman goes to a love hotel she is not obligated to have sex with the person she went with. I hope you have not treatred women in that way, have you?

A woman has a right to go wherever she wants and do whatever she wants or DOES NOT WANT to do.

As parents, we should guide our kids to make safe choices, but it's also important to support them if something happens. Instead of blaming victims, we should focus on holding the perpetrators accountable and standing by the survivors.

As parents, we can guide our kids to make safe choices but need to support them if they become victims. Let's focus on holding the perpetrators accountable and being there for the survivors.

SpeedToday  08:21 am JST

Don't go to a love hotel with men if you don't want to have sex. Really goes without saying.

Set up

Because men are like animals and have no control over their actions WTF?!

Victim blaming is so ugly, and if it were my daughter, I would throttle people with this attitude first before the perpetrators because it's this attitude that promotes this sexual aggression and victim blaimg culture.

> Daniel NeagariToday  03:33 pm JST

@caroti

I was once a child too.. you know... and so was a whole generations before me and after me. My syoungeer sister is by definition a millenial and that part has not been a problem.

I think this "problem" is as you mention a personal thing, Giving is that how each individual takes it. Thus is not a issue of a nation but of the human race.

This type of misunderstandings are everywhere, the thing is that you have to grow up and lern that not everything goes as you want nor all has to be equal.

Other has made comments imilar to my, perhaps with a more colorful phraseing, but emotional growth and cultural literacy is what this "98%" is lacking.

So, we should all be individualistic, brush off the societal impact of microaggressions and cultural insensitivity by framing them as just personal issues rather than systemic injustices, and resign ourselves to inequality?

I want my kids to grow up in an inclusive, equitable society that values cultural understanding and respects diverse perspectives but hey, that's just me.

Daniel NeagariToday  02:56 pm JST

Again... it seems to me people here and the artilcle by itsefl is more foccused in highlighting a niche view and experience of some people making a fuss out of nothing...

If you call those experience "microaggressions" or "aggresions" at all in that case I have been a victim of microaggression in Japan, Peru, Colombia, USA, Spain, Kenya, Afghanistan, Philippines, Chile and Malawi...

I suppose people want to be recoggnized as "sensitive" and "serving justice" but making a thing out of something like this is plainly idiotic

Yeah, but Dan, microaggressions impact individuals differently. for you, it's 'idiotic' but for others, especially children, it's hurtful and makes them feel excluded and discriminated against.

The intentions are usually not harmful, but the systemic nature of microaggressions has a cumulative effect on groups of people who look diffrent in Japan includidng many of our kids. I'm sure you can have some empathy and understanding for them?

There is clearly motivation in Japan to do more to help Japan develop greater cultural sensitivity and inclusivity towards a more equitable society so visitors and residents can be more comfortable and welcome.

falseflagsteveToday  07:07 am JST

Micro aggressions are for wimps. I don’t have time to worry about cobblers like that time is too short and ignore the ignorant people cos they just ain’t worth it. Am I right?

Are you saying the perpetrators or victims of microaggressions are wimps, though?

> Fighto!Today  01:34 pm JST

So about 170,000 arrests in total made in Japan per year in recent years.

Whats 3000 as a percentage ?

Vietnamese crime rates a biggie ?

Nope.

Going by those statistics : If 3432 of all arrests in Japan are Vietnamese people, that's an enormous percentage in relative terms. 2 percent.

So, 1 in 50 of all arrests are Vietnamese.

Every police station in Japan should probably have fluent Vietnamese speakers 24/7.

Perhaps Vietnam should be sending their best instead of the ones they do? Because there are definitely some good people on Vietnam.

Please take a moment to consider what this kind of comment does to the vast majority of Vietnamese in Japan who are law-abiding and great contributors to Japanese society and many of whom are children and who already face bullying at school.

More corporate corruption in Japan. Is there any sector or business in Japan that is not corrupt?

WandoraToday  04:04 pm JST

carotiToday  01:39 pm JST

it's not about 'pleasing;' someone; it's about gender equality and fair representation. You don't want that?

do not want forced equality of outcome, no. Is that what you want? The latter is most definitely about pleasing certain peop

Well, if you mean pleasing the female population and those who support them, then yeah, I suppose you could say it's to 'please' certain people.

There is already equality of opportunity.

You are joking, right? Japan is ranked 118th for equality of opportunity for women.

Yes, women in Japan can go to school, but there is not full equality in higher education (some universities have been caught rejecting female applicants for entrance and research roles, etc.), the workplace, or politics.

WandoraToday  12:26 pm JST

As a point of reference, in the UK 'only' 35% of MPs are female. I guess that's still not enough to please some people. And no LDP there to blame. What could be another reason, that could perhaps be applied to Japan?

It is actually just over 40% right now in the UK.

Rwanda: 61.3%

Cuba: 53.4%

Nicaragua: 50.6%

Mexico: 50%

United Arab Emirates: 50%

New Zealand: 48.3%

Sweden: 47%

South Africa: 46.6%

The US is only 28% but hardly a model of democracy.

I guess that's still not enough to please some people

it's not about 'pleasing;' someone; it's about gender equality and fair representation. You don't want that?

What could be another reason, that could perhaps be applied to Japan?

Many things; culture, history. This is not Google or chatGPT

WesleyToday  05:10 pm JST

What's your spin?

Ever wonder why in countries where feminism was promoted, there has been a decrease in birthrate?

Or why in the west where it has has been infesting for so long, NOW women are wishing they'd married and had children instead?

More weird misogynistic right-wing conspiracy theories.

I don't want to live in a world where our daughters are subjugated by a misogynistic male-dominated society.

kurisupisuToday  02:03 pm JST

The start of brainwashing of young Japanese people is now on the cards.

Unfortunately, the United Nations is not what we imagine it to be.

Unfortunately the United Nations is not what we imagined it to be.

The United Nations will promote’ inclusion, diversity and equity’

We all know the outcome of those policies.

The world economic forum (WEF) does exactly the same.

in fact, in 2019 both groups signed an agreement to aid mutual support.

The United Nations has more than its fair share of scandals and it has been compared to a “watering hole”

Look at both organisations and they are made up of the elite and narrow globalist mindedness.

Japan should stay away!

Okaaay, so are you saying Japan doesn't have a serious problem with a lack of women's empowerment and gender equality?

Easy to say when you're a male foreign resident.

Japan would looooove to have this problem of too many talented foreign students and potential skilled workers.

Alas ..