Beats committing sepuku. But only a half mesure if he doesnt become a monk. Just saying.
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Why would she hessitate reporting abuse and harrasment? Answer: It's a slow progression by the abuser so to disguise and break the victims own swnsw of worth. Which is why she would cry on the way to the dojo etc. Some never realize abuse for what it is and blame themselves until they cannot bear it with dissastrous results. The lucky ones wake up are able to step out of the shadow to recognize they have been taken advantage and seek help and speak out.
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The Olimpics have put Japan on the spotlight longer than they wished. You can only fake it for so long before the true face shows. A ll in all Japan is a great place to live if you can ignore the passive aggressive, superiority meentality that permeates throughout many of its ignorant members of society.
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Poor guy! Trying to go above and beyong to let someone else go home early makes a mistake that didnt hurt anyone and has to fork out his his hard earned money to appease some nobodies. Love to see that same rattional used on politicians and executives. Like the saying goes " No good deed goes unpunished!" Refund him for the sake of decency.
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I guess it's a step in the right direction. Next is the interview which would probably be over video chat. Back to square one. It is unfortunate that looks for the most part drive the decision making of these companies. Its deeper than that. It's a societal norm too. Unfortunately, it is a problem everywhere but I think in Japan it caries heavier consequences for the individuals. Best of luck to all! Like the saying goes " Don't judge a book by its cover."
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TARA TAN KITAOKASep. 28 11:16 pm JST
My deepest regret is, good people are always the ones to suffer.
I agree Tara. People who are prone to deepression tend to empathize more with others, are more forgiving to others yet less forgiving to themselves. Some say depression is anger turned inwards. Good people care for others they feel the pain of others sometimes to their own detriment.
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So I found myself watchin the Japan TV show that my inlaws were watching. A mother of two is very distraught over her weight gain and how it makes her feel about herself. She feeds the kids, cleans, eats chocolate and every npw and then breaksdown crying over how she feels. They have cameras recording the husband who comes home from work and imediatly starts railing on her because of his disatisfaction with the house being untidy( toys everywhere kida stuff) then another clip shows the motherinlaw going through the refrigerator while expressing disayisfaction and disapointment about her supposed failure as a housewife. In the show she is chosen for a makeover ( liposucktion, jaw reconstruction new hair and outfit the work) next bam hot mama again walking down the stage the LOVING husband and the kids. Husband is so apologetic happily ever after the whole Tv judge pannel is gusshing over the outcome.
Japan story: well she let herself go and thats why she was treated the way she was treated she's not fat now problem solved.
Me: Did they not just record domestic abuse (psychological abuse at the least) on a mother of 2 by a husband and his mother. Her issue is not the weight. Its her environment of criticism and if they are this bold to show the world how they behave, there is are probably other forms of of abuse passive aggressive types that she's subjected to.
Now she's thin and beautiful again but the real problem was swept under the rug. Her mental state. Given the oldest kid was arownd 5, she's probably been under this abusive environment for years. Honeymoon moment will fade because the abusers wont be able to change their behavior that easy. Her mental state will still be a fragile one. In time husband will come home see toys on the floor and say something that will trigger her mental state to have a flashback of the past experiences, her inlaw visits will trigger anxiety. She goes back to the old ways of coping with her situation in an unhealthy manner physically and emotionally. Cycle repeats.
Shameless and vain. They cant even talk about the mental health issues even when its in plain sight. They are scared to rock the boat and shine the light on the monster that is depression and abuse and how it runs rampant in their society.
Then we wonder why would a woman or men (its not a gender issue) would all the sudden commit suicide.
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Using these signs as a way of determining how safe a neighborhood might be, is almost as unintelligible as using blood types to determin what type of a character a person would have. What you can be sure is you can bet pretty much any neighborhood you go to you will be safe. You an also be sure that if any crime or nuisance is encountered the gaijin san will be the first suspect.
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What a nightmare for the poor parents and child! They need to have a talk to whoever designed the menu. Accidents happen but as adults they need to think worst case scenarios. Im on edge everytime school has the mochi making day for this same reason. Im a hawk if my kids are eating mochi or anything questionable. But I've been looked at as over reactive or over worried by my Japanese inlaws for it. But I dont care because its my kid and what they feel means nothing when it comes to their safety.
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girl_in_tokyo. You have alot of good points. There are a lot of studies that support alot of what you have stated. One of my favorite lectures that talks about this is by a Stanford Professor by the name of Robert Sapolsky. His lectures are available on youtube. Its basically a whole semester of his Human Behavior Course taped and made available fo anyone interested in the complexity of our mind. A few of the lectures are about sexuality. Great series to just listen to. We might not all agree but we cant just close our ears when we dont hear what we want to hear.
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This is not about look at my foreign girlfriend. This is about control and ownership of another human being. He is trying to have you question your own convictions and deprive you of your basic needs such as social interactions. Soon he will not even let you interact with your own kind because this will weaken his statuss in the relationship. Next will be your family that he will guilt you about in order to get you to distance yourself from. If you let him he willhelp you with your finances to make it easier for you all as a ploy to also controll your ability to be independant. It's a dangerous slippery slope. Narcissists can behave this way they are always right and are cunning at getting what they want while hiding the truth to the outside world. When all is said and done hopefuly you dont allow it you wnt be able to even express your frustration because of your laguage barrier. Keep your loved ones close and dont make excuses for this person. Wish youall the best.
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COVID-19, heart disease, high blood pressure, why not add high levels of stress too, but all not an assurance of certain death. A maybe one day at best. But a knee to the back of the neck while handcuffed to stop oxygenated blood flow to the brain over an unnecessary amount of time will cause certain death. Trying to taint a helpless murder victim's image, too easy of a target but our eyes are not covered and we can't and don't want to unsee what happened. As some one said it hasn't gotten worst it's just recorded for all to witness.
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It only took a pandemic for people to wake up and say it is ridiculous to pay so much symbolically for something so basic. But again its just as ridiculous to hear people in other countries who actually believe the prices were a reflection of quality or scarcity. It was just a free pass for a non-frowned upon " Look at me" moment in Japan. People just realized they have better things to do this year.
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"One is not mature if you can't bear criticism."
Priceless wisdom there folks. Right up there with everyones favorite classics. Such as grow a thicker skin. Unless you have actually experienced real axiety or depression or have a real understanding of the internal turmoil within individuals who struggle with such emotional storms. Then it is easy to make such simplistic statements as to think beyond your own experiences would require empathy. This was a young woman at a still voulnerable age akin to that of a teeneger. Look up pre-frontal cortex development to get a better understanding. Educate yourself about depression don't blindside yourself to think you or your loved ones are somewhat immune.
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Serenity now! Insanity later, and stop short when necessary!
Rest in peace, Mr. Stiller.
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The irony and hipocracy. Hikimori is now a hip thing to be. Great and insightful journalism. Next thing well hear is schizophrenia is a blessing from God too. Have at it. Dig deeper do some actual work in truth finding.
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Im not a fan of Abe San but to be fair there is no win for him. No matter what he does there is some one waiting to take the opposite side. Like tryig to strike a compromise with narcissistic tendency. You just can't win. Maybe it's a taste of his own medicine or not but it is what it is (politcs) at a bad time.
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Blame it on a bad hair day.
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Throwing a tantrum add no credibility to the Japanese Justice system in the eyes of outsiders looking in.
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All jokes aside a death especially a childs death is a tragic thing no mater the cause. But it's fair to point out that child fatality rate in Japan for children under 5 is half that of the US. When feeding mochi watch your littleones closely.
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This is a terrible act that was commited by a 14 year old boy. An the victim thou lucky to be alive will forever have to deal with this experience. Here's hoping for a quick recovery physically and emmotionaly.
Now to the adults in the room who are wondering how such a thing can happen, it is important to understand how brains develop. It's believed that the human brain doesn't fully develop until around age 24. Thou most of the brain is developed by then the one part that lags is the frontal cortex. This is important because this is the part of the brain that is believed to be responsible for the erratic behavior bad decision that children and young adults make. Including such compulsions and horrific acts that are committed from time to time by young people such as in this case.
This is yet another reason there is an age limit before someone can be tried as an adult.
Something to think about before getting the stakes and pith forks out.
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