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Posted in: How women can manipulate clueless men See in context

Yes, dialogue definitely ...for an attempt to 'win'... That is, if 'win' in this case means, 'gain useful insight.' .However..no win is ever guaranteed, I feel sure. Western verbal exchanges are often challenges, or competetive, combative...full of shades of aggression, criticism, insult, implied 'wrongness', judgement or psychological diagnosis. The first/important part of useful dialogue is to really want to know how the other person feels about the topic. What is it ...in the topic, that is of interest to them. Nothing can be demanded, or required, in dialogue. Look for whatever it is, in the other... that they are glad and willing to give, share. Not what is required by rule or demand. Nothing, ever.. can be demanded. Husbands and wives might build many different kinds of pair bonds. I would not ever want to enter into one which was master/servant. Superior/inferior. Controller/controlled. etc. Complex but interesting. The bottom line is inevitably, two whole people, capable of separate, independent lives...who choose to resolve difficulties, discuss and share points of view... together. (some small quotes from 'Speaking Peace' ...by Marshall Rosenberg)

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Posted in: How women can manipulate clueless men See in context

I wonder how many more milennia it will take for men and women, globally... to be able to talk to each other as singular creatures, each having his her own mind, and life experiences, instead of mindless meatballs on legs. No one can guess or be taught by anyone else...how any husband, or wife... thinks or feels. It is a dreadful cruelty, not a ridiculous unfunny joke... to think otherwise. Get to know one another ...talk to each other, as singular people with deepest feelings, before the chance is lost. It really isnt funny to be treated in such an ignorant unfeeling way.

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Posted in: WWII kamikaze base to seek UNESCO recognition for pilots' documents See in context

comparing kamikazi equally..to suicide bombers is the activity of biased indoctrinated minds. No, they are not the same... and there are too many reasons why, to list. Just read the available information, and think about it more carefully. To forget...any of it...if anyone can bear to preserve evidence and memories...given the human propensity to twist the facts to suit fashionable thinking of the day...is a sad and irresponsible path to take. Keep every bit of evidence, keep every note, every thought, every voice from that time... as evidence. Let the world understand as long as it can, what a miserable mess it is possible to achieve, even with the best possible intentions.

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Posted in: Japanese men share a list of common male woes before and after marriage See in context

Well clearly..the worst of it...is not having reasonable charge of the children regardless of fault/blame etc. As for the rest...it appears loveless and futile....If I felt sure there was no way to improve the relstionship, I would not stay there. It sounds like subjection to a culture, not a marriage at all.ie caring supportive relationship of two people...in fact...even with the children out of my contact...Now...I think I might leave in any case...while making absolutely sure to establish ways to stay in their sight or mind...even if it meant paying for giant posters on their way to school...somehow...make surethe kkids know that all that stops them being with the missing parent...is the law....and that love goes on...How old does a child have to be before it can begin to think in independent terms? Many 14 year olds might be willing to take off... Years pass quickly...stay in touch, somehow, anyhow...employ private detectives, never give up... Enjoy the intrigue if possible...dont let it get you down...ridiculous materialistic marriages....t

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Posted in: Documentary maker Ken Burns unravels mysteries of cancer See in context

You can get telly from everywhere with free OLA unblocker, I think...

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Posted in: Japanese activist wins U.S. Woman of Courage Award See in context

The most important issue in all harassment and bad treatment related to parental care.is to remember that, ultimately...it is the children who suffer stress as much as, if not more than their mothers, in these circumstances. If there is even more harassment because of the unmarried status of a mother, and lack of support from its father as is commonly the case in Europe and USA, so that the parent is at the mercy of a hostile society, this may also adversely affect any child's development and the rest of its life, as well as causing the distress for its mother.

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Posted in: CCTV shows British schoolgirls in Istanbul on way to Syria See in context

Not accurate to say... Islam is a religion same as any other religion!. It is a whole political/legal/religious system in one org.

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Posted in: CCTV shows British schoolgirls in Istanbul on way to Syria See in context

Thank you WilliB....its astonishing how few people recognise the similarity between the brutality of the jihadis, and the brutality of Muhammed himself, and those who hope to emulate him. Please, all readers ... go check up for yourself... the military stature of Muhammed. He was not simply a prophet of peace.. not by any means...An immensely powerful ..military General who fought and won numeros battles...and carried out his own brutal slaughter and enslavement. And he is the model and perfect example for all young Muslims to emulate, and the rest of the world obliged ...by extremist threat, to respect. Hate and bigotry have nothing to do with the discussion about the religious and political system that YOU will choose for yourself, your children and grandchildren if you support the development of Islam and Islamic law. Have you examined carefully, the system .. religious/political... of Islam?...and do you want it to be your own? What do you know about Muhammed, as political?military and religious leader? Are you aware that he was a fierce military leader and that he kept his own slaves? Islam is not about any kind of religious faith alone... it is about creating a world system of law and order of a very particular kind, with religion inseparable.. from your government. There is no more detailed, precise book of rules than the quran. There is no reason to hate anyone. It is simply a question of safeguarding your preferred rights and freedoms in law and government. It is very unlikely that Muslims will ever make strong complaints against the killings and cruelties of extremist, as long as they reflect Muhammeds own. He is beyond criticism, for Muslims, they are not allowed to say he was cruel or wrong. Hate no one, be kind to everyone. but do not throw away those few precious freedoms won so far, by handing power to a religious organisation of any kind.

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Posted in: CCTV shows British schoolgirls in Istanbul on way to Syria See in context

It is not enough for the overwhelming majority of Muslims to reject the jihadi madness.! It is not enough for the religious leaders of Islam, to say Peace is their motivation. Are young Muslims around the world...encouraged to revere. and emulate the man Muhammed...as a perfect example...who kept slaves, who practiced butchery....who was prepared to fight with all the violence necessary to protect and spread his faith ...of Islam? Or are they not? Is everyone else around the world permitted to see and discuss fault of any kind, in the leader of Islam, Muhammed, ...or not? Muhammed kept slaves and butchered his enemies. Was he a perfect example, or not? Is he beyond criticism,... so that how ever many more young people ...will look up to violence and cruelty as a good way to defend a religion, or not?

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Posted in: CCTV shows British schoolgirls in Istanbul on way to Syria See in context

The determination to protect and respect religious freedom, fails to take into account important differences in Islam from others of the worlds religions. With many battles, carefully recorded and undisputed, Mohammed was a successful military leader, a General, a statesman, charismatic and bold, as well as prophet. Young Muslims worldwide are exhorted to look up to him as a perfect example ... and this is how many of them think of him. It must be remembered that the violence done by extreme groups, is a reflection of that offered by Muhammed himself, to enemies of his faith, with slavery and extreme brutality the result of actions taken by infidels, against the spread of Islam, and its essential Sharia law. If Muhammed is to be considered perfect, and to be emulated by all Muslims, without criticism, and with reverence, then I fail to see how his own brutality and that of his followers, will be easily excluded from carefully studied behaviour patterns, and detailed events. Perhaps there are Muslims here who can clarify? Meanwhile, while no criticism of the leader himself may be offered, then I suspect young people worldwide, may well be attracted to what appears to be a group of daring, devil may care, followers, following Muhammeds own example and passions in their spiritual fire.. for the faith?

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Posted in: The evolution of 100-yen shops and how they've changed people's lives See in context

I always buy my reading glasses, 6 to 10 pairs at a time, in the 100 yen shop. There is no way at all to compare cost and value with any other reading glasses available. Thus..they are disposable, if a little scratched or marked, if squashed out of shape. My eyes benefit from always clear view lenses. I have learned too, that ones sight can be altered by different conditions and events... stress or certain ailments, moods or foods...might all bring about different sight capability, so I have a selection of different lens strengths from 1.50 to 3. And out of my selection..I choose the best for the day. I buy the largest lenses available, those with wire, no-ornament frames...for a painter... they give the least cluttered and widest possible view. Thank you Daiso. Another product I always buy when in Japan is the big packs of chopsticks. I need to do so little washing up, when a set of chopstixs at such a micro price for a huge pack, can be used several times before being recycled for other uses. I have no use whatsoever for style or name brands of anything, and the most basic of kitchen goods available, suits my purposes. I do not want to waste a moment of my life working to pay for nonessential trivia. Basic food supplies are sometimes useful ..although there is not a lot to beat the Kombini onigiri...The scissors and nailclippers proved much more durable than I could have imagined, and the soft crayons in brilliant colors together with good art papers in different sizes, are excellent. Different kinds of bags, in a wide range of sizes and styles, seem to last for ever. I found the padded insoles for shoes, very comfortable.

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Posted in: Death sentence upheld for man convicted of killing 7 in Akihabara See in context

I was thinking about a situation where I might be confronted with children and others, under attack... probably you and I and anyone...might look around for a way to protect those being harmed?

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Posted in: Death sentence upheld for man convicted of killing 7 in Akihabara See in context

Yes, I would be interested to hear ideas on improved public safety and protection from random attacks. Ridicule and sneering responses to anyone's thoughts on this serious matter...are unwelcome and completely out of place. Perhaps there might be some kind of instant warning/alarm systems installed, since violence of this kind appears to be considerably more common now, than it has been in the past. Certainly in other big cities, around the world including London ... I can think of two street 'beheadings' and a couple of horrific attacks by fire or other barbaric violence, that passers by felt unable to intervene or prevent. There have been installations to assist in health emergencies, eg defibrillators ..why not instant 'street violence alarms' etcetc...? Plus...education in how to manage out breaks of violence in ways least likely to result in personal harm. If someone went berserk with a knife..anywhere near YOU...what would you do about it? My first thought might be to pick up the nearest, most substantial self defence 'weapon' I could see...maybe a metal cafe chair, on the pavement, or a hefty p!ant pot...perhaps a bike or a table....something to throw at or strike the person intent on doing harm.

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Posted in: How do you feel when you speak fluent or reasonably good Japanese to a Japanese person and they insist on answering you in English? See in context

I have to rethink that as fluent in another, second, language ...not Japanese. Do I care if anyone talks back to me in English? I've just addressed them in what I assume to be their mother tongue? Why would it matter unless I've got some kind of juvenile hang up that tells me people who mirror my own behaviour (in this attempt to communicate in first language of hearer) are taking the pee. or in some way out to cut me down. Ha ha ha! No I hope I have sufficient confidence to face the world without tying my brain into knots of that kind! Silly silly...try to be brave ...everyone.... and git over it....

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Posted in: Demographic crisis empties out Japan's rural areas See in context

I do not know how well the schemes progress, surely one excellent government idea...must be the arts villages ...there are a number of them up and running in rural locations, eg http://www.transartists.org/air/akiyoshidai-international-art-village... and as far as I know...they bring tourism and new jobs/new lives, to places that had been abandoned. This is a familiar story...globally. ..those people interested in art/creativity for its own sake...who appreciate adventure maybe or wild beauty or a thousand other aspects of a life where everything is possible...but perhaps very little or nothing provided for the usual, preferred comfortable life...will be sure to seek out, and find, the worlds most beautiful...undervalued unappreciated places ...as work places and for their homes. Artists communities are most often the places that begin poor ...and end expensive. The gentrification of those areas of New York, for example - that were once rambling and chaotic mixes of abandoned industrial buildings and collapsing tenements...become prized locations in the same way... as artists move in and make them their own...but soon cannot afford to pay to live there any more. I remember when it was cheap and easy to find a room just off the Kings Road..Quentin Crisp was a neighbour in those days..it was a cheap and colorful life. The same kind of communities developed in many poor places of UK...and spread through Europe...many parts of France remain arts centres ..but the cheap homes and workshps disappear...as travelling to find a new home...becomes so much cheaper and easier. Compare this kind of exodus and development..to the state of rural Japan. so beautiful, so cheap, so rich in culture and art already... but still...as yet...mysterious and inaccessible ...as a new home or work base...for creative people worldwide...The lack of real information that might indicate safe or less safe bits of the landscape..diminishes the potential. However...since I first came to Japan accessibility has changed drastically..fares are becoming ridiculously cheap..around 500e ...and the possibility of finding a glorious bolt hole in the hills of Japan, or on its empty , dreamlike coastline..once unimaginable... is fast becoming easy to pick up like a nut fallen from a tree..So much changes so fast. the internet will sell those lovely parts of Japan...I hope they will be protected and treasured.

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Posted in: 'Frozen' on track to become second highest-grossing film in Japan See in context

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Snow_Queen#Story. Is the link to the plot of the real Snow Queen, I have no idea if 'frozen' resembles it.... Hans Christian Anderson's story was for ever a beloved tale...but because of its close ties with New Testament (bible)..is unlikely to be accurately reproduced as Anderson himself might have approved...however..the eternal plot about the triumph of love over cruelty and wickedness is likely to survive for ever.. My own hope might be that Japanese children have their own 'Snow Queen'...story...as I had Anderson's in my childhood. Perhaps Frozen is it...I dont know...I havnt got what it takes to watch whole movies as animations.

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Posted in: Maternity clinic in Nagano sparks debate over sperm donation controversy See in context

Is it my imagination....or has nobody here or in the clinic or anywhere else...recognised the risks inherent in inbreeding? If this is in any way a common practice in Japan, it could account for the decline of the population. Homozygosity....The clinic lacks fundamental essential knowledge and should be closed down.

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Posted in: BABYMETAL plays first ever U.S. show See in context

I thought ....oooo ....something very new and different....in JP pop?..... No. Same as usual, just louder. Actually....a diabolical noise.....

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Posted in: Police may film interrogations under new proposals See in context

'TRUSTING' the police - would be a bad slip down a greasy pole. Dont go there. Not because one policeman or another is more or less likely to behave in a moral way - but because creating good, fair laws, with an ongoing attempt to enforce them - is the only safe way to build a sound structure for any society. Without that attempt or determination to maintain good laws - those who choose to make their own best uses of circumstances, or those who attempt to take control without justification, and for wrong purposes, may gain strength & opportunity.

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Posted in: 2 Fukushima police officers found dead in apparent suicides this week See in context

"Is it better for people to just be told its the bully's fault and then pray for karma to come do something about it? " 'Praying' (in all its forms) might look like a waste of time to you...but that could well be because you clearly have no conception at all - of what a 'bully' may be capable of. What are you thinking of? A comic strip cartoon character, who can be persuaded to slip on a banana skin while everyone laughs? You imagine, for a moment, that the word 'bully' inevitably means some kind of schoolboy with a pea shooter and a grudge? When you have actually met someone, who is in any kind of position of power - sufficient to cause YOU profound psychological or physical or material distress - without your having a crumb of power to defend yourself or escape - without even that miserable recompense - 'retaliation'.... When you feel your own life, or the lives of those you love, may be in the hands of someone whose interest and motivation is entirely self-gratifying, and there is no help to be found, no law to protect you, no power to crush that of the offender (and millions of people around the world, must, at this minute be in such a position right now -) only then - can you come back with your insolent, disrespectful and ignorant comments that defend bullying and the cruelty it brings about.

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Posted in: World's longest-serving death row inmate freed in Japan See in context

Japan needs an 'Innocence Project' (USA)?... "the IP mission - is nothing less than to free the staggering numbers of innocent people who remain incarcerated and to bring substantive reform to the system responsible for their unjust imprisonment......... "DNA Exoneree Case Profiles.. There have been 314 post-conviction DNA exonerations in United States history. These stories are becoming more familiar as more innocent people gain their freedom through postconviction testing. They are not proof, however, that our system is righting itself. The common themes that run through these cases, from global problems like poverty and racial issues to criminal justice issues like eyewitness misidentification, invalid or improper forensic science, overzealous police and prosecutors and inept defense counsel, cannot be ignored and continue to plague our criminal justice system.

Eighteen people had been sentenced to death before DNA proved their innocence and led to their release.

The average sentence served by DNA exonerees has been 13.6 years.

About 70 percent of those exonerated by DNA testing are people of color."

"In almost 50 percent of DNA exoneration cases, the actual perpetrator has been identified by DNA testing" The Innocence Project - Understand the Causes http://www.innocenceproject.org/understand/ .

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Posted in: 6 things Japanese expats miss most about Japan See in context

yes !!.....onsen, ....plus people almost always being civil to each other, no one-upmanship, & no thieves, no thieves and ....no thieves. (and safe city streets at night)

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Posted in: Elderly people's manners increasingly deplorable See in context

fuss about nuthin time. Old folks cant usually achieve a lot in terms of physical aggression - and a few weird oldie habits that look and/or sound freaky in public - never trouble me. I hope when Im old enough to be thought of as old, I will be able to enjoy a bit of free expression, not usually available to those who must meet deadlines and quotas, or do any clock watching. I am always tolerant of weird people - and odd behaviour, unless it is dangerous. in any age group. I dont need automatons, I am fine with nutty people young or old. (inc myself). Old peeps in Japan - in my experience - are most often wonderfully tough, amazingly fit - and so grateful for small kindnesses. May the angels take care of each and every one.

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Posted in: Japan shocks Belgium with 3-2 victory See in context

What an exceptionally curious notion that is! That anyone 'has to remain loyal to their own country'! Who chooses the country that he or she is born into? I choose to support actions/ideas/effort/thought - in fact all human effort that appeals to me as having worth or value - regardless of nationality. To feel bound to any 'club' organized and maintained by human reason, is not guaranteed to place you or me on the side of 'right'. I was glad to leave UK and have no regrets in doing so, after 17 years. The people of the whole world - are MY people - not those of any particular patch of terrain, or historical association - and I will support whatever I see as valuable to world peace and creative effort, in whatever field I see it - including sports.

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Posted in: 'Buy from bookstores or they’ll disappear!' Frustrated bookseller implores crowd on final day of business See in context

It seems somehow, safer, to depend on basic industries like paper making and printing, - than to trash them all in favour of the digital/electronics stuff none of us will be able to reproduce, if/when civilizations collapse....(as they must, I guess) . I suppose that accounts for the fuzzy-warm, delightful feeling found in the best café/librairie settings, where carefully chosen & loved, real books - can still be bought & sold or fondled and read over again, with a chunk of tarte aux figues well slicked up with a giant dob of creme fraiche, plus a steaming pot of earl grey. aaaah wonderful. but my free kindle and mound of free downloads makes it easier to read anything at all, anywhere in the world.

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Posted in: 'Anpanman' creator dies at 94 See in context

The hello 'kitty' thing, is getting bigger in Europe by the minute - maybe Mr Anpan will come to life again ....in Paris. Bread? Parisiens? French people? ...Cant be so hard to find someone to take over the drawings and the plots?

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Posted in: Father drowns trying to save 2 sons off Kanagawa coast See in context

spudman go back and read all of my post . Books of rules and approved procedures - do not work all of the time, they are a backup to initiative and sound intuitive responses (eg sound as in not panicking) - you have no idea what went through that guys head or what the exact circumstances were. Very few people who live or work with fishing in any way - have not heard of 'correct procedures' - but if you imagine that relying on rules and procedures is the best way to go at all times, then you must have lived inside a crate for a long time. When I know precisely what those circumstances were - that man faced - then I can make some kind of judgement. Not before. - And neither can you.

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Posted in: Father drowns trying to save 2 sons off Kanagawa coast See in context

JeffLeeOCT. 14, 2013 - 06:39AM JST "I would do the same" I would NOT do the same. The best way for a rescue is from land. Find a pole or an object the victims can grab. If unavailable find anything that floats first, to then enter the water to give it to the victims. Call out to nearby boats or others nearby for assistance

Youve no idea what you will do - when you find yourself in the situation of seeing your two small boys in a life threatening situation. You will act according to instinct and according to exact prevailing circumstances - as far as it is possible to read them - at the time. Not according to rule books and instructions. Either child might have disappeared from sight if the man had turned away even for a moment - to find a pole or get help, I guess, as a fisherman, he was well aware of the risks he took.

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Posted in: U.S. lawmakers seek accords on abducted children See in context

a very sad business, too sad to think about sometimes, for a child to lose someone he or she loves, for whatever reason, in no matter what circumstances. It happens in so many ways - so much pain is caused for a child - and that pain has to be addressed. The easy solution is often presented that Japan is bad news in kidnapping children - on the other hand - the comparison between US and Japanese cultures makes it clear that no parent, no matter what nationality - can come to an easy decision. .... No quick fix laws can resolve the matter. This is not simply a question of global rights of the child. The basic respect for every child in each different situation - must always be considered - when a judgement must be made, - including the child's own view, if it is old enough to offer one. Nevertheless - I can see how hard it must be for two people from such vastly different cultures - to agree, or to accept the opposing laws of different cultures, when both, truly love the child.

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Posted in: Is Miley Cyrus latest ex-child star headed for a fall? See in context

As the divide between performance of the suggested acts of coitus or masturbation/ sex gratification etc - and performance of the 'real' acts, for mass public entertainment, diminishes, less and less attention and for ever shorter time spans, will be spent guessing about the effects on performers. How much time will pass before the ACTUAL sex act/masturbation etc is included in public display as part of the dance routine? Cyrus - tongue and twerk - is already old news, and any shock in that performance - fading fast.

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