Toxic relationships always involve both parties being at fault in some way or another. But it’s how you react to the toxicity.
I was in a toxic relationship with a Japanese woman in my early 20’s for 3 years. She was a control freak and would slap me, kick me if I forgot to do everything she said... forgetting to take out the garbage, not washing the dishes, not doing the laundry, etc. I admit that in my youth I wasn’t the best partner but her reaction and resorting to physical violence was not right.
I’m a mellow guy and I put up with the physical abuse for 3 years. Then one night she kicked me in the face when I was laying down watching tv. My nose started bleeding. I snapped. I yelled. She started biting me. I then picked her up and threw her on the bed. She started cowering and begged me not hurt her. I guess it was at that point she realized that I’m bigger than her and could have actually hurt her.
I really wanted to hit her because she deserved it but I didn’t. I walked out and never saw her again. When you reach the point in a relationship where you have thoughts of inflicting pain on your girlfriend it’s time to leave.
I could have been this YouTuber wannabe but my reaction was not violence. That’s why that guy is more at fault than the wife. The wife was passive aggressive; the husband was physically aggressive.
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Trust me, “physical dicipline” is just a euphemism for corporal punishment and it doesn’t work. You never lay a finger on a child. Period. If they misbehave, give them a time out. Kids are smart and will get the message.
I love my parents but what they did to me as a child would probably be considered criminal in today’s world. I made a vow never to be like my parents with my own children. Unfortunately for many it is a cyclical pattern that repeats itself over and over again.
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Fumihito is one to talk about money problems... he’s never earned a yen in his life and lives off of my (our) tax money.
A 4M JPY debt? The imperial family goes through more than that in a week.
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Single mothers in this country need to have more self worth instead of shacking up with the first looser who gives them any kind of attention.
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I’d still rather take JAL than Lion Air (which I foolishly did earlier in the year)... RIP
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The J cops are not weak. But they are not as trigger happy as US cops and only use force as a last result.
In my younger days I had a run in with the J cops (my ex Japanese wife claimed DV out of spite) and it took only one j cop to restrain me... I want to point out that this was not excessive force. The cop was not violent but he had me in a hold and when I tried to move he I felt a huge amount of pressure on my arm and he told me to stay still.
I’ve been in fights before but at that moment I realized A: I’m not as strong as I thought and that the J cop could have taken me down in an instant if he had wanted to and B: if you’re ever in that situation do not mess with the J cops and cooperate with them.
If the J cops really needed four officers to bring this fellow down he either must have been extremely drunk and violent because otherwise the cops better have a good explanation.
Unlike the US, in Japan it is not common for suspects to die in custody.
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I’ve lived in Tokyo for 13 years but never vacation domestically. Aside from the crowds, the prices are an exorbitant ripoff.
I spend my vacations in Southeast Asia. Much cheaper than traveling within Japan.
Just last month I was in Indonesia. Round trip airfare was 25,000JPY/ person and a descent hotel over there is about 2,500JPY/ night. 4 star restaurant, 10 course meal plus drinks for me and my wife was not even 13,000JPY.
I have enough places to explore in and around Tokyo alone, I don’t need to waste my hard earned money traveling to Kyoto or Nara.
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She was never interested in freedom/ democracy for Myanmar... she only wanted power.
I never trusted her for one reason: she essentially abandoned her family and children in the UK and chose not to see her sick husband who was dying of cancer in the late 90’s. The Myanmar government at the time gave her permission to visit her family in the UK to say goodbye to her husband. She declined stating that the plight of Myanmar was more important and she feared she would not be able to enter the country again if went to see her family.
what kind of person does that? Now we know.
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Good for her! And FYI to the folks that don’t know but Nissan has not really been a “Japanese” company in a cultural sense for a long long time.
Nissan corporate HQ in Yokohama the internal language is English and I’m pretty sure Nissan boss Carlos Ghosn speaks even worse Japanese than Naomi Osaka! Just throwing that out there...
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Well, I’m sure that China would would treat their detainees with much more respect... especially in regards to human rights;)
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This is getting ridiculous. Who cares? What’s next, boycotting every openly gay actor who plays a straight character in a movie or vice-versa? I don’t think that would go down too well in Hollywood because half of the actors would then be typecast and only be allowed to play a gay character because it’s “authentic”.
Should Brokeback Mountain have been condemned because the two lead actors were actually straight in real life?
Actors are supposed to immerse themselves in a role and become someone they are not.
I’m all for transsexual actors getting more recognition but let’s face it, there are not too many of them outside of a certain adult film genre.
I am just surprised how overly sensitive the world has become in recent years.
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All of his movies were kind of silly in a way but I always thought he was much more bearable to watch than say, Steven Seagal.
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Fukuoka has always had the highest rate of STD infections in japan and it has nothing to do with southeast Asian tourists.
Its the proximity to the rest of Asia. A lot of Japanese guys in Fukuoka travel to Southeast Asia for business, holidays, sex tourism, you name it, drink too much and then come home with more than a souvenir from the airport in Bangkok.
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Trump knows exactly what he's doing. He's golfing buddies with Bill Clinton. He personally said if he ever ran for president he would run republican because they are the stupidest demographic. He even had a confidential call with Bill shortly before he entered the race last year. Trump is not republican. He is trying to destroy the republican party from the inside out. Trump doesn't want to be president. Trump is the ultimate showman and his outbursts are calculated. He wants Hilary to win and he is doing everything in his power to make that happen. Trump is not dumb; the American public are. Trump is a democrat and he has finally made the republicans look as dumb as they actually are for nominating him.
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There are many very talented Asian actors but people will always use the race card when they think something is unfair.
Black actors/ comedians/ mucisians are incredibly successful and popular but black lives matter would make you think otherwise.
This is the same as earlier this year when black people were complaining that this years academy awards did not nominate a single black actor.
I don't care about race and I watch a movie if I think it's good. Hollywood is Hollywood. They cast who they want.
Why can't China do the same thing? Movies are all BS anyway. Just a fun distraction for two hours. Matt Damon is a great actor. Really don't care. Maybe Asian actors in Hollywood should stop playing to stereotypes.
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I don't know if trump is really so ignorant or if this is an act.
And to those claiming he is better than George W, I'm not sure. W was not/ is not as ignorant as people think.
Yes, Iraq was a disaster but compared to Trump, Bush acrually looks like a good president.... And he understood the importance of the US - Japan Security alliance, hence his cozy relationship with Koizumi.
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To be fair, I don't like America and I'm American and I'm liberal and I hate guns. Guess I've been in Japan too long.
But I've travelled all throughout Asia and I've felt a lot less safe in the Philipenes or Indonesia than I ever felt in America. The only country I truly feel safe in is Japan.
But to not travel somewhere because of what could happen is stupid. We could all die if a giant earthquake hits Tokyo and Tokyo is overdue for one.
You have a better chance of being killed in a car crash in the US than being killed in mass shooting... It's calculated risk.
The world is a big place and there are good and bad points about every country.
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I stand corrected. Was never interested in playing the game, just wanted to see if it works here. And besides, I just deleted it. I thought Pokemon was pointless 20 years ago and that my class mates were wasting their time. Smart phones have just made things worse and people "less smart". But there's always money to be made pandering to the lowest common denominator.
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I live in Japan. I just downloaded it from the US app store for kicks. What are the Japanese complaining about?
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And I thought the US Godzilla with Ken Watanabe a few years ago was bad... Guess I was wrong.
Japan, please do not make a monster flick if you don't have a $100 Million plus budget. It just looks cheap. Please stick to dramas with compelling story lines and protagonists.
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I was body boarding with friends on a trip to Hawaii when I was 15. They just gave us life jackets and the board. We were kids with no experience. That was it.
I caught a wave and got pulled under by a rip tide or something. I hit up against some rocks. I couldn't move and the life jacket didn't help much. I just clung on to the rocks and used all my strength to pull myself out back to the beach. That was the first time I thought I might die. The second time I thought I might die was 3/11/11
I've never been in an ocean again. I'll take a lake or a pool any day.
I've let my 5yo son play in the ocean but only under close supervision and only if there are life guards.
I would never let my children play in a river.
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United offers ONE complimentary beer or wine and then charges $8 for any additional Heineken and $10 for anyaditional tiny bottle of wine for economy passengers. United no longer even offers pretzels and peanuts and their meal service is terrible.
ANA offers unlimited free booze, better snacks, better meal service, and friendlier and prettier flight attendants. If I am going to be paying over $1000 for a ticket I will always pay a few hundred more and take an ANA flight.
The only good attribute United has as an airline is that you get to walk off the plane with your life intact. I guess that's what constitutes a good airline these days -- not crashing.
The difference between ANA and United is night and day. United is a joke and anyone who has the money should opt for ANA.
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Man I was 24yo when my son was born. It wasn't planned and i wasn't ready. I was stressed out of my mind. I couldn't sleep, i couldn't eat, it was non stop just trying to lesrn how to take care of a baby.
How did i deal with the stress? By smoking 2 packs of cigarettes a day on my balcony. Not great for my health but it got me through and I learned how to be a parent.
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I've said it before and i'll say it again, there is something wrong with moms in this country. Its every day or so we hear about this.
Yeah sometimes its the dad, but usually its the mom.
Good job mom. Kill yourself, at least you weren't able to take your baby with you. Selfish, moronic, piece of trash.
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To all the folks saying do not judge, I am guessing none of you have children.
The fact is, something like this happens multiple times a week in japan: mothers killing their children. Weather or not the baby was stillborn, doesn't make a difference. What kind of person would flush a human baby, dead or alive, down a toilet?
Japan is probably one of the easiest places in the world to get an abortion. This woman is 28! Come on! There is no excuse, regardless!
After 10 years in japan, and my experience with removing my own children from their abusive Japanese mother, I have come to the conclusion that 50% of Japanese mothers should have never had kids in the first place.
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Japanese courts don't side with the mother, they side with whoever takes the children first. I'm a single foreign father in japan with custody of my kids. My ex Japanese wife was psychotic, violent/ abusive, drunk etc.
One day I witnessed her slap our 2yo in the face because he wouldn't stop crying. That was it for me. I just took the kids then and there and left.
A year later our divorce was finalized and the Japanese courts awarded me custody because they said it would be harmful to remove the children from my care since they had been living with me as the primary caregiver for a year already.
Japanese family law has many problems but it's not true that the courts favor the mother.... It's just that in most cases the mom takes the kids while dad's at work.
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These couples should just bite the bullet and go the Surinder Singh route:
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There's a difference between failing to raise a bilingual child and raising a child who has stronger language skills in English than Japanese. As a parent first, and as a parent of a half Japanese kid second, I find this article just plain insulting on so many levels. This article should be titled "How to fail at being a parent!" What language you're child ends up speaking has nothing to do with the amount of love you give your child!
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