gaijinpapa comments

This is such a clever move by Abe.

People will think he’s taking massive action.

And he’s just saved the President of APA Hotels.

Why would this surprise anyone?

Plenty of times ambulances drive people around for hours not being able to find a hospital to take them.

You think they can handle hundreds if thousands of Corona patients?

if this doesn’t overwhelm the system a big earthquake will.

But even today, there will be plenty of people waiting for a “lucky day” to leave hospital and the average stay in hospital is too long anyway.

They could easily discharge 10% of hospital patients tomorrow. Probably 30%

I was really saddened by this. I’ve spent some fun times watching his funniest skits on youtube. Some, over and over.

Looks like I’m not the only gaijin who was happy to get to the point where you could understand what he was saying and the people he was portraying.

His humor was often totally politically incorrect (Benny Hill style), but that made it funnier.

Outrageous sometimes - one with Beat Takeshi comes to mind.

Lady Di, September 11, and now Shimura Ken. I will always remember where I was when I saw the news.

You know you’re good when foreigners who learn the language love your comedy.

Every Japanese person I have spoken to recently thinks that the Japanese govt was hiding the true situation.

“Aki-Hiro Sato, a professor of information sciences at Yokohama City University, said in a recent report that Japan is now likely facing a second or third wave of the virus coming from Europe and the United States”

Okay, so the official line will probably be that Japan had the situation under control but the people from the US and Europe brought it in recently and finally Abe had to call for a lockdown. Perfect way to escape responsibility.

DV was underreported for sure.

But there is another problem now.

When it comes to divorce and child custody cases, just going to discuss DV with police is increasing at the suggestion of lawyers.

It’s enough in some cases to have restraining orders extended and counts in custody cases.

It’s unfortunate that many people put up with real abuse when they should get out - but then there are others abusing the system.

Japan has gone from police telling women the fact that their husband beat them up is a “family issue” to women filing DV complaints over anything in order to win in court.

There are men who can’t see their kids because the wife claimed her husband “didn’t let her work” and that counts as DV.

70% of children lose contact with a parent after divorce in Japan.

it isn’t a man vs woman issue and isnt about DV or foreigners.

There are Japanese women who can’t see their children.

Hostesses aren’t prostitutes.

“For those idealists here that have NOT actually seen or experienced the actual system, it is totally unreasonable for those negative comments.”.  

I have been in one. The baths as others have said are once every five days.

Lights are kept on at night, and you can’t sleep on your stomach to avoid the lights.  

“I have not seen the facilities used for confinement”

 Okay, so you don’t know what you are talking about.  

“but have talked to some inmates that expressed no harsh treatment”.  

Most people aren’t made to sit seiza style or interrogated eight hours a day or tortured.  It’s more like continual boredom and stress. 

But sitting in a cell all day with two other people is not fun.  Neither is going without showers and not having any idea when you will get out. 

“Apparently some policies and procedures are different at different facilities, but those for foreigners are no different than those for local citizens.”

I’d say that’s true.  I wasn’t treated worse as a gaijin.

“One is placed there for a reason. “

You are placed there when you are under suspicion of something. So, they don’t know if you are innocent or guilty at first. 

Many of the people there are detained and then let go before indictment.  Get it?  So you are innocent, but instead of being held overnight, or told to answer questions on another day , you can be there for days or weeks, and lose your job and reputation. If it happened to you, you’d understand. 

“That reason is determined by laws and not at the whim of any individual. “

No.  Most times the police don’t even know their own laws. Talk to them and ask them some specific question.  

“When one commits a crime in a any country, one must abide by such laws”

Correct.  Absolutely. But like I said, people are arrested and detained for long periods of time and then released before indictment. In my case I told the truth from beginning to end. I wasn’t interrogated.  I was told someone was going to come to talk to me but was released.  I had done nothing wrong. But a week of my life and dignity was taken from me.

“There have been many famous and not so famous people from government officials to corporate officers and out right crazy people jailed here in Japan, but none has made such ridiculous claims. “

That’s simply because they are Japanese and don’t know anything about the outside world.  They think it’s normal when it isn’t.  They’d say “sho ga nai”

Plus, they never want to go back so they probably don’t want to say much.  People want to get back to real life and forget about it, and not remind people they were there because people like you will just assume they did something wrong. 

But in my experience, no, it wasn’t hell. It wasn’t like a POW camp.  If you enjoy just sitting down and doing nothing and reading and talking to other people, it’s not that bad depending on where you are and whether or not you get questioned. 

I can laugh about it. But, its an insane system.  And I now know why Japanese are so timid and don’t help other people. I also finally understand how so many people fall for ore ore sagi.  Most Japanese would rather pay money quickly than to end up arrested and have no idea when you will get out. 

And again, the people I met were interesting. The guards were pleasant. 

That bath after five days is really nice though! And walking out of there makes you appreciate being able to walk for 5 meters in one direction. 

I might agree with you that in some western countries, jails are too nice?

But this isn’t jail we are talking about.  Detention centers in Japan are worse than prisons.  And some people are in there for months. 

Its terrible if you’re innocent.  And bad if you are guilty - but only guilty of something that many other people do. 

There is no way Scott McIntyre should have been kept there for that long for what he did.

I may be being picky, but the twice a week shower answer is a lie.

Ghosn said it was every five days, so did Scott McIntyre. It’s every five days.

I don’t know why they answered that’s its twice a week unless officially it “can be” twice a week.

but in detention - before sentencing. It’s every five days.

The only good thing is that you don’t do anything except read and talk and sleep so you don’t get that dirty.

everyone loves bath day though.

It’s a shame in Japan??

News to me. Ads for sanitary products on tv all the time.

“Women physically and mentally change every month” and need time off???

Usually a man saying that over the past few decades would be shouted down by feminists....

So... do tell. How much do these physical and mental changes affect job performance? And given that it does .. and they even need time off- I can think of some occupations where it would make sense to hire a man over a woman.

Disclaimer - Many women argue that they don’t change, and don’t need time off.

but here we go.

women want equality in the workplace but - everyone has to accept that they’ll change mentally?? And need time off?

interesting.

How can you punch a child?

How can you punch a baby? And have a normal job?

Most of you underestimate the hikkikomori problem.

There could be hundreds of thousands of men with no jobs living at home with mothers who will die soon - and this will continue for decades.

These men do nothing. Their mothers cook, clean, wash, pay bills - everything.

many of these guys do nothing besides eat, sleep, play games and watch TV, Internet.

They often don’t talk to anyone.

its no fun for normal people to act and organize when someone dies.

but these guys?

too much bother .

@yubaru

As someone who has been through this I can tell you there is nothing strange about this.

they are still married but going through the process of divorce which can take years until both parties agree on money and kids.

Once his wife moved out she can not let him see kids, but they are still married she will and can expect to be supported because he has the obligation. The main amount of the 170000 he is paying probably child support.

he may have agreed to that higher figure than he needs because he was told it would make her want to let him see kids.

but once he says he’ll pay that - if he doesn’t the court can order his company to not give him ANY salary until it’s paid.

he just can’t stop paying, unless he leaves the country.

and as crazy as it sounds , once she leaves , he just can’t go and see the kids or go to school or he could be arrested.

Nobody wants to be arrested and have to tell their company they don’t know when they can return to work.

whoever takes the kids first wins.

but - a foreign man with no parents here has almost no chance of pulling it off.

its not just a man /woman thing..

i know women who haven’t seen their child for years.

btw until you are officially divorced you can be forced to pay alimony and child support.

Because you have to support your wife as long as you are married. Regardless of debts and even if she is refusing to let you see kids.

so trying to stay married doesn’t work when it comes to seeing your kids.

you can still be arrested for trying to see them even if married and supporting your wife.

its too late for many, but it comes down to who you marry - and/or their parents.

to the woman who said her mother-in-law is trying to run your kids lives - don’t let her.

but remember - a man with parents who leaves taking the kids will win .

This goes for Japanese as well, but more so for a foreign mother .

@sunfunbun

youre lucky because your wife was reasonable and also liked working.

some Japanese are reasonable. But when it comes to divorce and seeing kids over half are not.

some of us haven’t seen children for years.

it’s hell.

really.

and often the ex is on welfare plus getting money from us plus doing cash in hand work.

they are the sympathy as a single mother, money , kids . We have nothing.

good for you.

@dothehustle At least you did get to see them

Read Kazuaki Shimazaki and Andreea’s post.

And if you have any experience with not being able to see your child you’ll see again why it’s totally hopeless.

Embarrassing.

Taylor is their star witness?

it’s great that this is public. Thanks Schiff, Pelosi , Schumer etc.

trump wins again.

Prepare for the worst , hope for the best.

Imagine being a President and having to deal with incredibly difficult decisions regarding foreign policy, but having to put up with Democrats who spend every day since they lost the election trying to get rid of you.

Just glad someone like Beto isn’t the President.

The irony is that if someone asked the mother how she was she would probably answer that she was fine.

Japanese is fully of people on the edge.

Yes it happens more often. It’s cultural.

Japanese mothers who commit suicide have the thinking that their children won’t be happy without them.

It’s also a mistaken understanding of family.

For those who don’t know, in a similar vein, some Japanese put their children in orphanages - often for years, and in some cases until adulthood but refuse to allow anyone else to adopt them because.....they are THEIR children.

I could go on about how after divorce one parent keeps a child and the other is cut off.

Japanese need to overhaul their understanding of children and their place in the family.

A child is an individual who deserves their own life.

" and how Putin is running things in America"

What other mad conspiracies do you believe in?

If he's running it, he's not doing a very good job. The Rat is onto him.....

"Affecting 1-2 out of every 1000 women, postpartum psychosis can be sudden onset and endanger the life of the child. This condition was first recorded around 2000 years ago

I’m sorry for not not only the baby that died but the untreated mother as well."

I don't feel sorry for the mother at all. She did a terrible thing. Women hurt and kill babies and children of older ages. Some men do too.

There is no proof that some illness FORCED this woman to kill her child.

So much for gender equality. If you really think that it is ONLY mothers that get some mental illness that causes them to kill babies, then don't demand equality.

The other thing they do is fall in love with a Japanese woman , have a great job, lots of money - but lose their wallet , and for some reason can’t access any money from everywhere so if she could just send a few thousand bucks .....

or they get stuck in a Harbor and can’t pay the customs tax and again for some reason nobody can loan them the money - but once they pay it they’ll get hundreds of thousands.

The problem is a woman can think you’re horrible if you say “you know I just don’t believe this story”.

because the woman is convinced she’s met a wonderful rich handsome sincere guy - who she still hasn’t actually met ....

sad.

Recuperating?

From the precious attack?

Violence within families in Japan is scary

People die.

even people in their 80s and 90s.

people of that age died in summer decades before air conditioning.

They might have been better off than the ones confined to beds for a year or two more in an air conditioned aged care facility.

I have no idea why foreigners in Japan get so annoyed and irritated by Japanese trying to start a conversation with incorrect grammar.

What nasty people.

There was a time when people appreciated someone trying to talk to them. Especially when they tried in a foreign language.

As for peoole in other countries being so great after 2 or 3 years - Yeah , that’s why Americans can all converse in Spanish.

hardly anyone ever speaks to me in English in Japan, but when they do I think they’re great for having a go.

Too many angry white guys in Japan.

“Now can they go after the fake "Trump supporter" accounts “

And the fake “resister” accounts?

@Yubaru. From what I understand, the Emperor wasn’t welcome by the Okinawans. It wasn’t that he refused to go there.

And if you are Okinawan or know any war history, you’d know that Okinawan’s were happy enough when the great news about Pearl Harbor was announced.

i understand how much the Okinawans suffered, but they weren’t against the war while Japan was winning.

@Cricky The Japanese did not commit mass murder of anyone who wasn’t Japanese. There were atrocities everywhere, but your statement is misleading.

My conclusion after everything I’ve read.

Hirohito could have stopped the war earlier if he really wanted to but it would have taken radical heroic action and perhaps risk to his life.

As as others pointed out, he eventually did step in but even then the very people who told others to die for him as he was god would have killed him.

the main thing is to not repeat the mistakes.