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Posted in: Convenience store manager arrested for filming up skirt of customer See in context

Jonathan PrinToday 12:54 am JST

The guy is so weak he lets a woman grab his smartphone lol.

Wow. You just managed to be sexist towards both men and women in ONE sentence! Congrats.

If there are upskirt photos, then red handed.

Careful, so far he is innocent, for instance if no photo ..

I wondered when someone was going to try to pull this card. Jonathan Prin never disappoints!

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

wallaceToday 09:18 am JST

How did you arrive at those conclusions? Where does the 4% come from?

The stat originally came from a book written by a long-time sex crimes prosecutor in a book she wrote, and has since been widely quoted in the media. Unfortunately, I've misplaced the name of the book, but you can see the figure quoted here:

http://spring-voice.org/

https://www.hrw.org/news/2018/07/29/japans-not-so-secret-shame

https://www.hrw.org/news/2018/07/29/japans-not-so-secret-shame

But don't believe me - I see how you managed to find those other figures, so surely you can Google and find it for yourself.

Japan is safer for women than many other countries. It is also safer for all people than in other countries.

So? Comparing Japan with other countries has zero impact on how women in Japan feel about their safety.

Shall the government declare a national crisis telling all women the country is not safe for them and will most likely experience rape, sexual assault, and domestic violence?

No one has to tell us that.

We know.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

StrangerlandToday 09:17 am JST

No I haven't.

Yes, you have. We have gone round and round about it, many times, and I know you have a good enough memory for that.

I could go back though your posting history and post them here to prove it, but frankly, I don't have the time, and I know that you remember.

Making up stuff like that is only further reasons why it's hard to have a discussion with someone with an extremist position. You clearly aren't concerned with accuracy.

I don't need to make up lies when facts are right there.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

I can back up every statement I make with citations.

Look at the stats on crime - which gender shoots guns into crowds, gets into fistfights, and commits rape and sexual assault at higher rates?

Then tell me again which gender is overemotional and irrational.

The oldest silencing tactic in the book by misogynists is that women can't have rational discussions.

Pfft.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

StrangerlandToday 09:08 am JST

I wasn't the one who made that statement.

No, but you quoted it back at me, and you have made such statements MANY times in the past. So if you stand by those comments, justify them:

Why would anyone put such a statement as "this place is mostly safe for women" knowing that a victim of rape or sexual assault will read it.

But what I did say, stands; it's hard to have a rational discussion with someone who holds an extremist position.

You've stated in the past that there is nowhere safe on the planet.

No, let's be clear. I have stated that nowhere on the planet is safe for women because rape and sexual assault happen everywhere.

I have also explained why, but for some reason you can't come up with a counter argument other than, "it is an extreme position".

It is not extreme. It is merely a fact.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

@ Strangerland Today 08:54 am JST

You read this statement:

It is possible to make that statement without being accused of abusing victims though minimsation, if you are not making that comment in a thread that is about rape.

And rather than replying to it, you come back with this:

The problem is, you don't think ANYWHERE on the planet is safe.That's an extreme position, and it's hard to have rational discussions with those who take extreme positions.

First, you need to justify why you would make such statements as "Japan is safe for women" in a comment section on an article about rape, where women who have experienced rape and sexual assault can read them.

Second, it is not an extreme position to say that women are not safe anywhere on the planet from rape and other forms of sexual assault, because they are not. And that includes in their own homes.

As stats show, women are far more likely to be raped or sexually abused by men they know.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

I forgot to include the calculations. If this:

https://www.statista.com/statistics/864883/japan-reported-cases-rape-and-forcible-indecencies/

Is correct, then:

*The number of recorded rapes in Japan increased to approximately 2.7 thousand cases in 2023 from approximately 1.7 thousand cases in the previous year. At the same time, the number of reported forcible indecencies also increased from 4.7 thousand cases to about 6.1 thousand in 2023.*

2700 is 4% of 67,500.

6000 is 4% of 150,000.

Now tell me how safe Japan is for women.

Go on and downvote me instead of making an argument. You're just showing you are a coward.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

wallace Mar. 17 07:51 pm JST

A woman has made a claim she was raped, which is serious but that in itself does make Nagano City an unsafe city. Rapes happen in every city. Most go unreported.

Correct. The estimation by sex crime prosecutors that is most-often quoted in the media and by womens' sexual assault support groups such as Spring (http://spring-voice.org/english/) is that only 4% of rapes are reported.

As such,

The crime rates are an indication of the safety of a city as are the types of crimes committed.

No, crime rates are not an indication of the safety of a city, because very few sex crimes are reported. From your link,

The number of recorded rapes in Japan increased to approximately 2.7 thousand cases in 2023 At the same time, the number of reported forcible indecencies also increased to about 6.1 thousand in 2023.

I also should point out that women don't read crime stats and think, "Oh, that means I'm safe."

Women decide what kinds of precautions to take by listening to their instincts, paying attention to their surroundings, remembering stories told them by other women, and of course, from their own personal experiences of sexual assault.

And who are you to tell them that they are wrong.

I didn't say Nagano City was "safe" I said it was "still very safe".

We lived in Nagano for 10 years and from my experience, it is a safer city than many others.

Are you a woman? Have you ever experienced sexual assault?

If not, then how can you possibly know how safe women feel in Nagano, or anywhere else?

This victim claimed she was raped at home. How much more caution could she have taken? More locks on the door?

Why would you ask this question.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

/dev/randomMar. 17 07:35 pm JST

Why would anyone do that? What kind of argument is that?

My question was, if you were face-to-face with a woman who told you she had been raped, would you say to her, "Well, Japan is pretty safe."

I know you wouldn't, because hopefully you would know better than to say something so incredibly insensitive.

Yet people here continually write things like this, knowing that there will be women who have been raped reading it. I would like to know why these people think it is okay to do that, as if their comments won't effect anyone.

I am here to tell you that your comments here, and everywhere else MATTER.

Just because something is relatively safe does not mean it is absolutely free of crime. It must be possible to make that statement without being accused of abusing victims through minimisation.

It is possible to make that statement without being accused of abusing victims though minimsation, if you are not making that comment in a thread that is about rape.

I suggest that before commenting, imagine you are speaking those words to a woman who has experienced sexual assault, and THEN decide whether you want to put those words out into the world.

Think about it.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

anonymouse Today 02:41 pm JST

Nowhere is totally 'safe'' and it is a dangerous word to use, especially for women, as it can cause them to let their guard down more than they should. Nagano is not 'safe'. Nowhere in Japan (or anywhere) is 'safe' from sexual predators. It's good for our girls and women to be cautious and mindful of their surroundings and the potential threat of being sexually assaulted in a public place such as a train, a park, a side street or even if their own home.

This.

Also, may I point out that when there is an article about a woman who was raped because she was out late at night, or was alone with a guy she had just met, or left her door unlocked, the comments focus on the mistakes she made. These comments just drip with victim-blaming, and yet here you are bragging about how safe Japan is for women.

You can't have it both ways.

You can't in one breath talk about how safe Japan is and how rare sex crimes are, and in the next criticize women for being careless. If it were safe as safe as you claim, women would be able to walk alone at night, be alone with men without fear, and accidentally leaving the door unlocked would not be an issue.

Aslo? Not replying and just downvoting posts is characteristic of people who know they are wrong and also know they can't defend what they are saying.

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Posted in: Man arrested over sexual assault, robbery of woman in Nagano See in context

wallaceToday 11:28 am JST

Nagano City is still very safe.

Would this be what you would say to a woman who told you she was raped?

If not, then why would you write it here, where women who have experienced rape and other forms of sexual assault can read it?

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Posted in: Japanese high court rules same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional See in context

You also keep using the terms "polyamory" and "polygamy" as if they were analogous. If you don't even know what those words mean, you should probably look them up and stop making assertions as if you know something about them. It's pretty clear that you don't.

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Posted in: Japanese high court rules same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional See in context

@Dirk

To get back on topic, same-sex couples should be allowed the same rights of marriage as everyone else, and their relationships are not inferior in any way. The facts are this: LGBTQIA love just as hard and just deeply and just as long as heterosexual couples. Their lives have the same value, and they can raise and care for children if they so chose.

You keep speaking if you are speaking fact and not simply your opinion. You should work on understanding that there are all different kinds of people in the world who don't feel the way you do, and their feelings are just as valid as your own.

No one is demanding you accept same-sex marriage, polyamory, or any other relationship structure; only that you must tolerate it and not seek to undermine, denigrate, or attempt to prevent them from living with the same freedom as you live. That is equality.

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Posted in: Japanese high court rules same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional See in context

DirkToday 05:44 pm JST

cultures for thousands of years have celebrated the relationship between man and woman (monogamy or polygamy)

What is the difference between polygamy and polyamory?

The biggest difference is that in most polygamous cultures women do not have the choice of who they marry, and men take other wives, often without the permission of the other wife, while women aren't allowed to take other husbands.

Polyamory is equal in all respects because it's by choice, and not a cultural imperative. Obviously, poyamory is far superior in that regard.

This is like a universal timeless understanding of society and our species which suddenly now is being explained as a form of discrimination.

It's obviously not universal or timeless since people are openly and vociferously disagreeing with this.

Monogamy expresses the equality between man and woman. It also expresses the particular, exclusive nature of a man and a woman becoming father and mother of the same child.

Sexism and gender inequality exist despite monogamy being prevalent, so how can monogamy be the answer for attaining equality?

A man and a woman becoming father and mother of the same child is biological, and has nothing to do with monogamy.

The sexual union between man and woman loses its profound meaning for their relationship when they start sharing their bodies with others. It diminishes the meaning of love between one man and one woman. Something that is less exclusive, loses at least part of its value. That's a general notion for many things.

This is a personal opinion, not a fact.

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Posted in: Japanese high court rules same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional See in context

itsonlyrocknrollToday 09:42 am JST

Sorry, girl_in_tokyo, I am not intentionally provoking a reaction that could be construed as bigotry.

Bigotry has a definition. This is not a mater of "construing" your comments as bigotry.

For some, many I suggest, the natural need, the divine purpose of marriage cannot and never will accept same sex relationships let alone marriage into society.

You don't have to accept it. You just have to tolerate it.

We all must tolerate things we don't like or disapprove of. I vehemently dislike religion and think the entire concept is silly. But somehow I manage not to broadcast that at every opportunity, and I don't speak out with the intention of gathering support with the aim of getting religion banned.

All you have to do is let other people live their lives without interference. You can silently disapprove as you go about your own business. Try it.

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Posted in: Japanese high court rules same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional See in context

itsonlyrocknrollToday 07:13 am JST

Queerness is something to laugh at, not an acceptable way of life.

It's not "a way of life".

It's simply how people are.

And that you think it is acceptable to actively discriminate against people, who are not doing any harm, simply because of how they were born, really shows exactly what kind of person you are.

There's way too much bigotry in this world. People really are just awful.

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Posted in: Japanese high court rules same-sex marriage ban unconstitutional See in context

The ruling also said "there would be no disadvantage or harm" even if same-sex marriages are legalized, including in terms of social impact.Feelings of discomfort or aversion toward same-sex marriages "are only due to sensuous, emotional reasons," the ruling said, adding those feelings could be resolved through promotion of public awareness about the unnecessity of treating same-sex couples differently.

Exactly.

There are no logical reasons to deny same-sex couples the right of marriage. There are only personal prejudices and bigotry.

And it's about time the courts recognized that the constitution applies to everyone, and not just hereosexuals.

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Posted in: More Chinese women choosing to stay single as economy stutters See in context

kohakuebisuMar. 11 08:22 pm JST

"I cannot find a man who values my autonomy" does not sound like a situation where someone is making a positive choice.

Hahaha, right ... I suppose you think "I need a man to tell me what to do and who will control my life" is a better, more positive choice for us wimmins, since our little lady-brains can't handle big-boy decisions.

Talk about self-serving claptrap ... this is so transparent I can't even get mad - it's just FUNNY.

Good luck to the men out there who think this way, cause I'm pretty sure you'll stay single.

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Posted in: Six couples file suit seeking separate surnames See in context

ted williamsMar. 9 04:02 pm JST

The institution of marriage and family ties are NOT arcane ideas. Any culture that respects them are immediately more successful.

Well, family ties are never going to be outdated, but the idea of marriage is outdated - you don't need to be married to be a family, and marriage doesn't keep families from breaking up.

Divorces happen regardless of marriage, and people stay together for years and have children and even grandchildren without being married.

So really, what exactly is the point of marriage, when it doesn't stop people from separating, it doesn't stop families from fracturing or falling apart, and it doesn't make relationships more stable?

Marriage should be a choice a couple make for themselves as a personal and private ceremony to celebrate, instead of it being foisted on them by the government making these rules and regulations that make your life harder if you don't marry. The government should not be involved in personal relationships or get a say about who gets to inherit, who can visit you in the hospital, or who you live with for tax purposes, or anything else.

We are well past the stage in history where marriage is necessary. Young people are rejecting marriage more and more. It's the oldies who are hanging onto it, just like they hang onto everything else - they need to let go and let change happen.

Why are we trying to stop people from doing what they feel is right for them, just because we have our own ideas of what was right for us?

As I have pointed out, having the same family name is essential. It is an agreement between man and wife that they are in it for the long haul, and not as some sort of shallow business arrangement.

I'd like you to say this to the face of a couple who have been together for 20 years (or more) without being married. I can introduce you to some. They'll straighten out this archaic notion of yours that their relationship isn't based on love.

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Posted in: Japan's new female 'role models' seek to empower other women See in context

toraToday 11:53 am JST

Want to run the birthrate to zero? Continue what you are doing, Ms. Koike.

Sorry not sorry that Koike inspires women to be more than baby-making apparatus.

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Posted in: Japan's new female 'role models' seek to empower other women See in context

Quo PrimumToday 09:13 am JST

y also have to stand up for themselves, in Japan and elsewhere, and take issue with inequality and lack of female representations in the bricklaying, plumbing, coal mining, roofing, mechanical, and sewage-treatment industries.Oh, wait. It's not those male-dominated jobs where women want to increase their presence.It's only positions of prestige and power.

Do you know how many women mechanics there are, or women in construction, who get the same sexist attitudes from the men they work with?

Men to women: Hey girlie, this is a man's job, you can't do it, get out, or we'll harass you until you give up!

Also men: Women don't want those jobs.

Gee, I wonder why.

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Posted in: Japan's new female 'role models' seek to empower other women See in context

YubaruToday 08:18 am JST

Like it or not, women themselves have to stand up and take issue with the inequality in corporate Japan.

In over 35 years of working in Japanese businesses I have too often seen women themselves meekly following along with the harassment and discrimination.

Victim-blaming much?

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Posted in: Japan's new female 'role models' seek to empower other women See in context

Marc LoweToday 07:56 am JST

Female [politicians empowering other women is simply reverse sexism and favoritism. Koike should instead focus on doing her job and serving the people she was elected to serve. No more power brokers!

So does it equally anger you when male politicians favor other male politicians so that 99.9% of politicians are male?

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Posted in: Osaka Prefecture eyes collecting fixed fee for inbound tourists from 2025 See in context

Great. Not only are we going to be harassed by hotel staff ignorantly demanding to see and photocopy our passports, we're also going to have to argue with tourist police over an entry fee to Kansai.

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Posted in: Upskirt photos lead Japanese high school to redesign cheerleader uniforms See in context

Jonathan PrinMar. 5 08:15 pm JST

Do as you wish.

Hide if you wish to hide.

It's not that they "wish to hide." It's that the men can't behave themselves so they are being forced to hide.

Expect photos to be taken in a public event...

Isn't that common sense ?

Expect photos to be taken up the skirt of teen girls in a public event?

So ... it's the girls' fault, or the event's fault, but not the fault of the perverts because it should be expected that they will be there?

It is god for cheerleaders if that is their choice.

I am still sure some would show (off) more if they could. And some the opposite.

They aren't "showing off" for men. Honestly, the number of grown adult men who look at teen girls and see them as serious potential sexual partners is disgusting.

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Posted in: Upskirt photos lead Japanese high school to redesign cheerleader uniforms See in context

PseudonymouseMar. 5 09:21 pm JST

Where in the article does it say men are taking the photos ?

Lets be realistic and acknowledge it's not just men taking the photographs

I pointed out that it's the photographer who is lacking in respect for the bodily autonomy of the cheerleaders, and you come back with "it's not only men doing it."

Well, okay then.

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Posted in: Upskirt photos lead Japanese high school to redesign cheerleader uniforms See in context

albaleoMar. 5 06:45 pm JST

@girl_in_tokyo

I'm sure there's a difference between people who "sneak up" to take photos and those who simply take photos (e.g. for a newspaper or simply the cheerleader's family). But I don't see a great difference of the effect on the cheerleaders themselves. Don't they generally show what's under their cheerleader skirts when they jump up and down? Not so different from how they might look in a swimming pool.

You think there is no difference between accidentally seeing up a girls' skirt when she jumps or moves around, and taking a picture up a girls' skirt. Or is it only cheerleaders whose feelings of safety and security and right to self-ownership over their own bodies that you think don't matter?

I'm still reminded of when my son played rugby as a young teenager and there was talk of banning people taking photos in case they were perverts. One of the mothers just laughed and said, "If someone gets a thrill of taking a photo of my son rolling in the mud, that's his problem, not ours."

And you're comparing men purposefully taking photos up the skirts of teenage girls for their own perverse pleasure, with what is pretty clearly a silly policy born of an overreaction by a conservative, over-protective helicopter parent?

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Posted in: Upskirt photos lead Japanese high school to redesign cheerleader uniforms See in context

albaleoToday 05:42 pm JST

I'm a bit puzzled by this. It's hard not to look up the skirts of cheerleaders. Taking photos of things you can see normally doesn't sound so weird to me - just google "cheerleader photos".

You don't see any difference between the bare glance of partial upper legs one gets when the cheerleaders jump around, and someone sneaking up on the girls to position themselves to take a photo of the exact moment the skirt goes up so that he can capture a full crotch shot of their underwear?

Really?

Seriously?

You honestly think it's hard not to take upskirt pics of cheerleaders? Yeah, I can see how that would be hard not to do. Uh huh....let's see ...

These guys just "happened" to pretend to be a member of the media, "by accident" positioned themselves in juuuust the right way, then waited and timed it juuust right so that they "accidentally" caught the moment more than legs could be seen, and "just happened" to click the camera at the "wrong moment" and "accidentally" got the upskirt pic of ONLY the girls' underwear. Yeah, sounds like a simple mistake to make.

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Posted in: Upskirt photos lead Japanese high school to redesign cheerleader uniforms See in context

PaustovskyToday 05:19 pm JST

I have always thought the same. What self-respecting girl wants to be the frilly sideshow to the mens' event ?

I think you missed the point if you think he feels the girls don't respect themselves. It's pretty clear that the person who has no respect is the men sneaking around to take pictures up the skirts of high school age girls.

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Posted in: Japan feminist Ueno's books resonate with struggling Chinese women See in context

Bruce PennyworthToday 08:30 am JST

Feminism is the worst thing for modern women to cling on too. Destruction of the nuclear family.

I'm guessing you have never read any of Ms. Ueno's books.

In fact, it's probably safe to say you've never read any feminist literature.

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