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Posted in: American father arrested in Japan had asked Tennessee court for help See in context

This has nothing to do with the Hague. Japanese courts will simply consult with Tennessee courts on the parenting plan. They have in the past looked at laws from other states and referred to them in their rulings. I'm advocating both courts talk with each other to settle this. I believe the two courts can make an agreement to respect both courts ruling.

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Posted in: American father arrested in Japan had asked Tennessee court for help See in context

1)Jusrisdiction of the divorce goes to Japan, divorce is agreed to by both parties and signed at the ward office. 2)Japanese Court accepts Tennessee Courts ruling on joint custody and parenting plan, but with some changes 3)Children habitual residence is Japan 4)Noriko agrees to put a bond on each of the children to ensure Chris' visitation rights, whereas Noriko's visitation rights to Japan now become Chris' visitation rights to the US. Noriko will also agree to give Chris and his family unlimited access to his children whenever he visits Japan 5)Chris' alimony is reduced to $200,000.00 6) Tennessee courts agree to accept the new arrangement under the condition Japanese Courts agree to never alter the parenting plan without their approval and vice-versa 7) Noriko agrees to counseling to help her accept and understand the role of Chris' new family 8)The children return to the US with Chris to say goodbye to their family and friends 9)Chris gets a get out of jail free card

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Six months is still enough time to claim habitual residence. It really doesn't matter, the argument is about his rights of access to his children. The Tennessee courts ruling still stands in my view. I can see why he went ballistic, "I just paid you $800,000.00 and my kids are where? Are you nuts?" (Joke) Who is trying to get over on who?

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Man go here and read this. This is gona make all men scream. The Japanese need to free this man and send him and his children back to the U.S.

http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5i1wNIMvNzJOj4tJ3S-nfVaZ6lCGAD9B2JQA80

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Had Chris Lawyers fulfilled the Japanese Courts criteria for recognition of a foreign courts ruling in the US it would have made his case stronger, but the reality is it would not have made one bit of difference because of their so called "PUBLIC POLICY" requirement. They effectively shoot all foreign court rulings down with this argument. They delay the court proceedings, then claim habitual residence and jurisdiction now belongs to Japan. We've seen this happen too many times.

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Teiku, Chris and Noriko, both had a home and permanent mailing address in the state of Tennessee for one year. That makes Tennessee the state of Habitual Residence and gives their courts the authority to rule on the divorce. Chris' nationality is irrelevant, two foreigners with habitual residence in the US can file for divorce. I can see your point, he may have lured her to the US to get the divorce. I believe the Tennessee courts made their decision to hear the case based upon rather or not Chris' parental rights would be recognized by Japanese courts and was this in the best interest of the children. One can argue that a US Court has taken jurisdiction over the case because of human rights concerns, whereas Japanese courts would not recognize these rights. I would agree that his lawyers handled this badly in the beginning. The key point is who has sovereignty over the case.

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Posted in: American father arrested in Japan had asked Tennessee court for help See in context

hollywood1, Japanese courts will not honor foreign courts ruling when it comes to custody battles between foreign parents and Japanese parents. With that said , the Japanese Law does have four conditions in which they will honor foreign court's ruling.(1)foreign court has jurisdiction and is the final court; (2)Japanese national must be served the final ruling; (3)cannot violate Japanese Public Policy or Morales; and (4)reciprocity. Japanese courts will not recognize Chris ruling from the Tennessee Courts because they have not met the criteria for one, final court and two, Public Policy. Public Policy is the one they use when the foreign parent has met all the other criteria. They will simply say it goes against Japanese Public Policy.

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Posted in: American father arrested in Japan had asked Tennessee court for help See in context

Nigel Boy, please write the answer to my questions.

Did the Tennessee Courts give Noriko custody of her children? yes or no

Did the Tennessee Courts grant her visitation rights? yes or no

Did the Tennessee Courts allow her take her children for visits to Japan? yes or no

Will the Tennessee Courts enforce Noriko's parental rights? absolutely

Will Japanese Courts grant Custody to Chris? no or never

Will Japanese Courts give Chris visitation rights? maybe no or never

Will Japanese Courts allow Chris to take his children for visits to America? never

Will Japanese Courts enforce Chris parental rights? Hell No!!

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Posted in: American father arrested in Japan had asked Tennessee court for help See in context

Some of you have bi-cultural kids, speak up about how your children make a natural adaption between both cultures when they have two loving parents that share it with them. These children learn to speak, read, write and do all the things that come with both customs when their parents create the right environment for them to learn. When one parent is fearful of the other parents culture it will have negative effects on the children. Japanese parents tend to be more afraid of the children's western identity because they think it will cause them to lose their Japanese identity. I think their fears are unfounded and they should practice more tolerance to the children's western identity. Furthermore, Japanese courts are worst than the parents when it comes to protecting these children's Japanese identity. You guys need to stop being so defensive of your culture and learn to respect other customs. These children have every right to know and practice both of their customs. For those of you who can't handle that don't have children with foreigners. Japanese courts have no right whatsoever to deny these children the right to learn about their western heritage. US Courts recognize the rights of foreign parents to pass their customs down to their children and affords foreign parents those rights. Noriko was given custody, visitation rights, and the right to take her children for visits to Japan. What does Japanese courts afford the foreign parents?.........Not a dam thing.

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Some of you have bi-cultural kids, speak up about how your children make a natural adaption between both cultures when they have two loving parents that share it with them. These children learn to speak, read, write and do all the things that come with both customs when their parents create the right environment for them to learn. When one parent is fearful of the other parents culture it will have negative effects on the children. Japanese parents tend to be more afraid of the children's western identity because they think it will cause them to lose their Japanese identity. I think their fears are unfounded and they should practice more tolerance to the children's western identity. Furthermore, Japanese courts are worst than the parents when it comes to protecting these children's Japanese identity. You guys need to stop being so defensive of your culture and learn to respect other customs. These children have every right to know and practice both of their customs. For those of you who can't handle that don't have children with foreigners. Japanese courts have no right whatsoever to deny these children the right to learn about their western heritage. US Courts recognize the rights of foreign parents to pass their customs down to their children and affords foreign parents those rights. Noriko was given custody, visitation rights, and the right to take her children for visits to Japan. What does Japanese courts afford the foreign parents?.........Not a dam thing.

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Posted in: American father arrested in Japan had asked Tennessee court for help See in context

Hehehahahoho, rather you like his intentions or not does not change the fact that Japanese Laws are the blame here. Why won't you say the Family Laws here are whats driving these cases? Do you believe that in the case of divorce one parent should be left out of their children's life?

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Posted in: American father arrested in Japan had asked Tennessee court for help See in context

Hehehohohaha, he is the father of the children rather he is married to her or not and his rights of access cannot be denied simply because she is a woman scorned. If she goes back to the US she will probably get a nice settlement, if he has anything. But what she won't get is the right to deny him access to the kids because he married another women. Japanese law would allow this women to seek her revenge in such a manner that would cut him off from his children, possibly for life. No Japanese parent should have such authority over their spouse so as to threaten them with denial of access to their children if they seek a divorce. In international marriages this threat is real and Japanese spouses tend to pull this card without concern for the rights of the their spouses, and most importantly the rights of their child. I'm sorry, but the international community cannot allow you to play this card any longer.

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

For you people damming Chris, do you think he would have gotten a divorce in Japan when he lived here for 7 years with Noriko, had Japanese law granted visitation rights and enforced those rights, as well as allowed his children to travel to the U.S.?

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Posted in: American father arrested in Japan had asked Tennessee court for help See in context

It doesn't make sense to me why a divorced parent in Japan has to bend over backwards to please his ex-spouse just so that he/she could have access to their kid. The children are from your seed, a manifestation of the man and the women. Why does one have more rights and responsibilities than the other? No loving parent forfeits these rights unless they cannot handle the responsibility. Divorcing in Japan doesn't mean you forfeit these rights, and should not be automatically taken away from either parent because they divorce. How can you bow for what is rightfully yours, especially when you only want to love your child. You cannot give a person what they already own, nor can you place barriers to their access w/o expecting some form of protest. All this talk about different cultures and laws, no matter which side you choose in this case doesn't outweigh the natural rights of both parents. Most of the criticism should be directed to Japanese Family Law for failing to protect these natural rights.

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Everybody is trying to take a side. Look at it in simple terms, does Japanese law guarantee and enforce both parents right of access-No. Does US law guarantee both parents right of access-yes. If you love your children and know you could lose your parental rights by divorcing in Japan, where would you want to get the divorce US or Japan? Come on people, tell the Japanese to fix the dam law and most of these cases will disappear tomorrow.

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Even if he lured her back to the US he did so because Japanese Law would not guarantee nor enforce his right of access. Stop trying to obscure the obvious, the Family Law is the problem. Fix it damit.

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Japan has to come to grips with a parents right of access to his/her children. Just go ahead and change the dam domestic laws, if you're not going to do it just say it clearly and stop trying pretend like its something Japanese society doesn't want. Japanese Parents want access to their children just as bad, and they've acted in a worst manner than Chris- to be with their kids. Hell the former PM Koizumi kidnapped his son. Face it the customary practice of denying a parent access after divorce is backward and gots to go. Its doing more harm to the society- increased suicides among single mothers, higher juvenile crimes, more young girls going into the sex industry, a declining birthrate, and a higher burden on tax payers because of welfare. One of you politicians be strong enough to bring this issue up in the diet and lets get it over with. Stop destroying peoples lives to uphold an outdated customary practice that's no longer useful in the 21st century.

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Posted in: American arrested in Fukuoka for kidnapping own kids from ex-wife See in context

Do both parents have a right to participate in the upbringing of their child after they divorce?

Moderator post this question and lets see the response. Make it a simple yes or no

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Posted in: Man arrested for shoplifting with 9-year-old nephew See in context

Its difficult to punish someone for stealing food, plus the fact that a child was involved makes this even more distasteful to the palate when condoning this behavior, but I do. Japanese people, in general, have a strong amount of tolerance for hunger. I wonder how much did this man suffer before he acted out of necessity. Society here has to ask itself when should I step in, how should I involve myself, and what can we offer to help our brothers who are in need? Do we need bread lines, well, if there is no jobs then society has no choice. A self help solution is the best approach. Punish this man, but help this man more so he can provide for his family. Rewarding criminals is not good precedence, but diminishing circumstances has to be considered in such hard economic times.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for killing her two sons in Fukuoka See in context

Stricter rules for divorce aren't necessary, the actual legal procedure can take quite some time if one party disagrees. There are serious problems with the process - the mediation is the biggest issue that needs reform. When children are involved the mediators tend to take the women's side without actually trying to figure out the root causes of the problem. The mediators don't build that level of trust with both parties to get them to open up and explain honestly whats going on in the marriage. Both parties tend to be guarded about their true feelings for fear of swaying the mediators to the other parties side. These mediators who are literally marriage counselors are not qualified, as far as I know they have no formal training. I'm not saying mediation is bad, I'm saying the process needs to be reformed to ensure the mediators can identify the problems in the marriage and be able to offer real solutions to fix these problems to keep the marriage together. Japan has solutions after the divorce to keep the women and the children from falling into poverty, but as we all know the welfare checks they pass out is not enough. What's needed is for the mediators to correctly identify when the marriage is breaking down because of a financial crisis. Once this is identified the government has to implement policies to financially support the man so he can keep his family together. Temporarily supporting a husband who is trying to support his family makes better since than providing a lifetime of support to single mother. Lets face it no man likes welfare, but the government can come up with something else that keeps the breadwinner afloat through difficult times.

Now divorce will still happen, thats why changes to the law are needed so dual custody and guaranteed parental access allows for both parents to participate in the upbringing of the child.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for killing her two sons in Fukuoka See in context

Got dam it, something has to change here. Of course, like so many of you I wanna know where was the father, why wasn't he there, what about her parents, and the in-laws? Why was this women left alone to raise two children on her own? Let me tell you people in government something, especially you people dishing out those welfare checks, and dividing families into single households. Time has ran out with that old customary practice of allowing one parent to raise a child on its own. Get with the dam 21st century and change the law to allow dual custody and make both parents actively participate in raising children. Enough is enough.

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Posted in: Proxy wedding means Marine's Japanese widow, baby unwelcome in U.S. See in context

I'm confident this issue will be resolved with the woman and the child staying in the US if she wants.

Slizzer you crack me up dogg.

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Posted in: Child abductions, but not by North Koreans See in context

Hi ionnyboy, thank-you for your comments. The words japanese culture means exactly what I said, its no misnomer. I would agree they are afraid these children could change the existing political structure, but my use of the word culture means language, religion, behaviour, attitude, preference, etc. Changes in culture will come well before these children have any affect on the political status quo, but this doesn't mean their culture will become extinct. I admit some things may die out, but the heart and soul of their culture will remain intact. My preference for chopsticks over the fork is just a small example. You see, as child I was taught to use a fork and spoon, but in my new home I learn to use chopsticks and prefer them now. I've taken to chopsticks but I've kept my mother tongue. In order to protect their culture, as it currently exist, they deny these children their rights to know more about their foreign culture. How can a homogenous society teach a child of mixed race about his foreign culture? They can use books and their version of history, but unless you're immersed in a culture you really don't understand it. The best way for these children to learn about their foreign culture is by way of their foreign parents. If my words frighten some its because they are afraid of the truth. I don't need to be politically correct for fear it may hurt Japanese peoples feelings. I've been here long enough, seen to much injustice, and gone thru enough personal pain to know the meaning of what I'm writing.

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Posted in: Child abductions, but not by North Koreans See in context

Thanks Timtak, mere proof they are on the run now and we gotta keep up the pressure.

One of my biggest concerns is they sign the Hague Convention then do nothing about domestic abductions. We have to watch both sides carefully because western governments might accept the notion of domestic abductions as a domestic issue. We should be demanding that western governments put pressure on Japan to change the Family Law here. Now how they change it, I don't care as long as they fix it so both parents have access to their child and the courts enforce parental rights.

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Posted in: Child abductions, but not by North Koreans See in context

You can ask the courts for visitation rights once the divorce is done. But what happens when the Japanese Parent pulls a runner and lies in court about DV and Child Abuse? You won't get access, unless you have loads of money to fight a prolonged court battle. Why should parents pay private investigators to locate their children when its the job of the state? You will see that those with money have a chance and those w/o have none. Its the responsibility of the state to at least ensure that parents have access, instead the Japanese courts will let Japanese parents walk right out of the court room and pull a runner. They even give them shelter when they claim DV and Child Abuse and they won't tell you they've relocated your children to Kagoshima or some far off place in Japan.

Once a month doesn't go far enough it just proves my point that their intentions is to deny the child access to its foreign culture while preserving their Japanese identity.

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Posted in: Child abductions, but not by North Koreans See in context

Illsaveit, there are foreign parents who get custody, but only when the Japanese parents agree to it. No judge has given custody of a child to foreign parent over a Japanese parent in a custody battle. Show me one. Any statement that you find false prove it. This fight with them is personal for all of us here and if you can't stand to hear the truth go somewhere else. Evolve means this society, namely their courts and government has to change, accept, and enforce parental rights.

Moderator whats wrong with my post? is it too controversial?

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Posted in: Child abductions, but not by North Koreans See in context

Timtak I recognize the historical differences in marriages between the West and Japan. I'm sure you know that many cultures placed importance on the sexuality of the child, most wanted a male. The point is we are in the 21st century not pre-Taisho era. Japan evolved to the point of marriage ceremonies so they can evolve into dual custody in cases of divorce without a threat to their culture. I believe that stronger bonds will be made between the two divorcing families.

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Posted in: Child abductions, but not by North Koreans See in context

Soldave i already recognized my mistake, so stop trippin. lets get back to the post.

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Posted in: Child abductions, but not by North Koreans See in context

I didn't know CRN was shutdown, but I do know that Wong was not the owner of the site. It was being ran by a parent who lost access to his child in Japan and he went to China. Thats all I will say. Lets wish him well and thank him for his years of support on this issue.

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Posted in: Child abductions, but not by North Koreans See in context

The rise in divorces in Japan is clear evidence of a breakdown of their family values system. Using a child to keep an irrepairable marriage together has lost its importance here, albeit is a good norm. This is not a trait of family values that is exclusive to Japan, westerners have the same values too. Attempts to force parents to stay together for the sake of the child is no excuse for denying one parent access when the inevitable divorce happens. The notion of western parents loving each other more than they love the child is not true. We don't place any type of hierchial system on love for our spouse over love for our children. We treat them both as equal, but in different ways. This exclusivity in the relationship between the parent and the child is a good point, but I don't agree that one parent should have exclusive rights over the other.

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