illsayit comments

"China is keen on growing economy, not war"

Oh good that means they are interested in dropping their one child policy-you cant grow an economy with a shrinking population. So . Does Japan and America agree that a growing a population is healthy to this situation-I mean they could do the same too right? Where is the populous at? I reckon China's populous would be the quickest to take that up-Japan and America are too infatuated with pride to jump aboard that love-machine :) So is that the thang happening here? Obama' likes/endorses Planned Parenting-maybe he likes China the way it is now? Where does Japan sit then? The "wa" Japan would be like China- but if Japan is poodle like, I kinda think theyd prefer hairdressing.....Yeah Japan needs to frizz that haircut and and get on land. Test how big their bark is.

what Id like to see and hear about is who does Okinawa want to be, Japanese, Chinese, or American? cause to be honest there is times when I thin Australia is quite totalitarian....so those definitions are really nothing unless you see how things are handled on the ground. And Id like to hear more about Chinqa dropping it's one-child policy.

Sweden authorities are a bunch of jerks. Their regulations hint of Eastern European style politics. And even this 20% evidence that is called what? science? Is backyard. I wonder what the post-birth traumatic rates for women are? Any correlation there? mnmnmn???? Sleeping with your baby is a personal choice, anything else Sweden wants to put fear into mothers about?? Is that a warning or a recommended pushover?

why stop at 2?? release as much steam as you want, China. Policy on child-birthing isnt even communist.

And then we'll be one more step closer to a single-payer.

So is this the goal of Obamacare-which in effect would be trying to swipe out families? Seems weird that theyd want to attack families.

oh get real Sweden is so small, every service being within your area is being pathetic, not to mention the running costs could get by on what some companies cough up for winter bonus.....pleeeeease be real. And when you talk euthanasia, yk there is a fine line between being compassionate and totally prejudice to a less than normal circumstance, or person rather, right. Euthanasia doesnt just deal with the old yk. It kills any age, I remember a case not long ago, could have been Sweden, cause it was in Europe about, where somebody was mistakenly killed. Another case where because of mental illness-depression I think it was, they were compassionate and killed. Youd want to be careful it's not just hoarding a dictator-like mindset left over from half a century or so ago; and seeing that they and their family would now be the elderly, that they havent just hogged down all the taxes to establish a false pretense to something that is really not possible.

And tessa is なにさま？ The problem is the men are not inspired to work, and keep a family because wages are so low, and they can barely keep one person let alone a family. Thus men need rather than perhaps want their wives working so that they dont have to do all the overtime. It is about time Big business pay up. Encouraging men to be satisfied with their work and income, would all save us a mouthful of Tessa and the like, who are oh so good at fluffing up everyones feathers but make no sense at all. Its like as if the whole world is a salarymen to her and co. No talent.

"They find it empowering. That shocked me, but it lets them go out into the world without fixing more than their eye makeup. No need to worry about full-face makeup or a hairstyle if the day is busy"

hahaha, that's just funny. And how does that compare to somebody who does nothing? Rich and poor people maybe? Those who can afford to put some sort of covering and those who cant. Smart and stupid? Those who waste time on empowering themselves versus those who spend their time more usefully. Seriously. That is just the funniest comment. Hey lucabrasi-you dont get to defend your culture, you get to defend your heritage more like it. Culture is. Heritage is your roots. And you cant claim you do and dont wear head covering. It is either you do or you dont.

Im not really familiar with the religions and all but isnt the full head coverage not actually a symbol of the religion? Like has nothing to do with the religious part of Muslims? Just a rule? Associating that with a cross seems silly-cause that is a symbol of the religion. But headware is just a rule of the religion. So you could say one has a religious connotation but the other is just an ideal. Dont Muslims have some symbol too? Like is it the moon or something like that??

"Science of relationships is not based on chemistry; and negligence still means you are guilty."

Does this need repeating.

Of course Mr Yamaguchi is Japanese.

Clearly some people will read anything into everything-that's a good one. Why dont you reread what I intially wrote

"Please voice your opinion about Syria (are not our neighbours neighbours, also our neighbours) while you are at it, Mr Yamaguchi, or otherwise we will have to assume you have an agenda, one that is passive-aggressive"

and see who first took the tangent, and read something that wasnt there. Why would you do that anyway? Of course when Komeito leader talks about foreign politics, is it not natural to ask his opinion about the current event of the day, that is Syria. Or is his focus just China? Which in that case the little pull your cords-neighbour comment-has no meaning what so ever. And is a passive-aggressive statement.

smith-injapanornot: "Sounds to me like his agenda is to improve relations with JAPAN's neighbours. What does that have to do with Syria? Personally I applaud any politician who wants to improve ties and backs it up with suggestions rather than the usual lip-service followed by a visit to Yasukuni or something."

Perfect example of passive agressive. You ask a question where it makes out everybody else, me, other political parties, are aggressive. While you passively ignore the plight of Syria, and play ignorant to the effects it has on Japan and neighbours, By your classification neither is Australia a neighbour of Japan. You state your sentences in a way that says you applaud improved ties, while you give reference to Yasukuni, as if by referring to a war related refernce, you highlight violence. And so on.Some people might read your comment as padded and sound, others see razor like darts. Science of relationships is not based on chemistry; and negligence still means you are guilty.

Please voice your opinion about Syria (are not our neighbours neighbours, also our neighbours) while you are at it, Mr Yamaguchi, or otherwise we will have to assume you have an agenda, one that is passive-aggressive.

@chucky

All parents have a right to raise their child how best they see fit-no matter what theology or ideology.If that violates a human right then it ought to be dealt with, but what that child is taught to believe is the fundamental right of a parent. Treading on slippery ground with that one chucky. Schools and France will do what they will, and a everybody has a human right to choose whether they abide by France, or how they educate their children.

it's not IN Australia. How can that be confused-Australia may be helping out. But it's not starting in Australia, it's not even ending in Australia. It's NOT in Australia.

I'm saying Mum used slaps and spankings that had little effect, Dad didn't and got better discipline out of us. I think we would have listened to Mum more - and she would have enjoyed being a parent more - if she hadn't been so quick to hit. But that was the way she was raised, and as we've seen on this thread people who are hit as kids tend to want/expect to hit their own kids in turn. If I'm messed up - and I don't think I am, no more than most other folk at least - I've done the messing-up myself after becoming an adult.

Exactly! You are speaking for your mother. Whether she is dead or alive, if she isnt speaking from herself, she isnt saying it. The same would be for a child, if she isnt saying it, then anything else-like you saying all children dislike spanking for discipline-is also false. So Dad was good to cuddle up to huh? And dont imply that I am messed up, that is your words, Im not putting them in your mouth, you said.....no more than most other folk....But I suggested that, because you are constantly debating anyone who suggests spanking a child is wrong and will effect the child detrimentally, and yet, you say you were hit and werent effected. You have no logic, only a dictative attitude. I really wonder whether this issue is important to you, or you just want to create confusion for the reader, and put a sense of fear into them, the reader, that there are people out there who wont like their disciplinary methods? It does seem like that. You are a hypocrite about yourself, you set standards for others and dont keep them yourself. But you say you are messed up, which you did to yourself, no matter what your childhood was like. Okay.

Oh and I mentioned the sex thing because that is part of raising a child. Or dont you know what sex is? That it is a beautiful even between two adults who love each other, and could and will produce a child.

our little ones

Im guessing you are saying that our, meaning the parents', little ones. When you word this like this it is hard to determine whether the children are yours, or that we are all to do parenting your way, or that in the best interest for children is for their parents to raise them. I gather you are not trying to say that you (or others besides the parents) raise everybodies child/ren. It can be confusing, because despite some parenst who have a hard time with parenting, most do okay, and better when encouraged, and helped to realize that they are important to their children and what they are doing, even when imperfect and un-ideal, it is really such a important job, just because they are the parents and are there.

That's ideal,

and the words fair were thrown around as well. I dont think lying to children and telling that it is fair is real.

Let's see; @cleo are you saying you were hit, and you were messed up because of that? That would make your stand-over attitude plausible. Or your not messed up, and the hitting didnt effect you. Or you know your messed up, but you dont want to change and have something by way of reasoning to substantiate that like the part where you quoted Phillip Larikin, whoever the f that is. Or you know your messed up, and you dont want to change, because you think youre right.

And what is ideal anyway, 2 kids, as you say you have cleo. So while your version of an ideal parent is non-spanking discipline, total honesty, and attention focused, never for a moment incapable loving parenting. You are though, willing to have teach and install a somewhat scattered and not ideal reasoning of sex onto your children. Or you are suggesting that abstinence is also something you teach your children when they get older? And that has absolutely no reflection on the love you and your husband or wife havefor each other. Or that taking drugs, or manipulating your body by means of well, from anything to putting on a mask to complete destruction of your bodily parts, is , well okay.

perhaps the ability to say that we arent perfect as parents, you arent perfect children, will help the child learn that it is an imperfect, un-ideal world. Life isnt fair, and that is the way it is. Then the child could understand that there are different , all sorts of different, situations.And thus rather than regulating everything into a square box, understand that it is a lot mre complex, and a child who is raised to be a open-minded person is what most parents try to do, no matter that the road to the end result may be different.

we wouldn't be seeing all these little tykes, baby-biting toddlers, mother-slapping schoolkids or knife-waving adolescents

or arrogant bully's bred from hypocrite parenting

The Global Initiative to End all Corporal Punishment of Children website states Sweden's anti-corporal punishment law; "Children are to be treated with respect for their person and individuality and may not be subjected to corporal punishment or any other humiliating treatment

whoever is claiming that Swden is some thing to be reckoned with has no idea.

You are dreaming if you think the state can do a better job. ARe you aware of the recent case in Swden where a ward of the state, a child, died in her guardians home. Are you aware how much her parents fought to get her back? And that is just the cream of it-26000 cases in 2011. Are you claiming that all those parents are lesser than the state-when the state really is only people too.

Hitting and spanking are two different things imo. Spanking is not corporal punishment! I dont know how you can confuse the two. ANd for all those who suggest it,that spanking isnt the BEST form of discipline as if they have the knowledge to do the best. Dont fool yourself, you or nobody is the best. As much as you may want to tell yourself that. There is no such thing as best, when you are talking about parenting.

I dont find it difficult it to say no. Even saying it a few times isnt very trying. Cell phones are issued by the payer, that is, their father. If they demand one, versus request, I can say no pretty well. If they request, then I expect they are old enough to state their argument why, results pending.

like rice; a billion people eat it. How can they all be wrong.

That sounds about as likely as the more traditional version, at any rate.

Well, 2 wells make a river you jumped in and made it bigger! Traditional version of what? Creation? Salvation? Name it, otherwise your 'sounds like' sounds like any version of those sort of things- and in that case, they ALL sound likely. The question is which one is truth, in case you hadnt realized. 2000 years history for Jesus and the Bible, plus 4000 years before that of telling that He was to come, versus this brother story which only exists here in Japan? Without even checking it out, Im pretty sure which is more likely to be a truth. But like anything, I challenge you to REALLY check out ALL sides of the stories!

i dont get the chicken thing?? im guessing black americans eat it a lot?? so is it racist to say japanese eat sushi, or australians eat vegemite sandwiches?? maybe it is generalizing. maybe if you looked down on the food....but even then....food?? i think those who define racist need a little more defining.

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smithinjapanMay. 21, 2013 - 09:42PM JST

illsayit: "What is with the problem by all the foreigners with how he says it?"

I think you answer your own question with the wording. And sorry, but "It's necessary" when it's Japan, and "It's abuse" when it's other nations.... I mean, I know a lot of Hashimoto supporters want to claim he was misinterpreted in his own language and mistranslated in others, but drop the excuses. Of COURSE there's a problem with what and how he said what he said, because it's downright wrong.

too bad smith just keeps quoting everybody and pointing out where he thinks theyre wrong; as if that isnt being a bit of a control artist: notice to commentators, either you comply by smiths language standards or he will tell you you are wrong. Evidence of him being right is not necessary, so long as he doesnt read.

how many sex slaves are there today and why doesnt he talk about that? why doesnt everybody talk about that? what is it with everybody being hung up on language? The guy has said he knows it occured, and thinks that the abuse of women wrong, in one way or other. What is with the problem by all the foreigners with how he says it? hang ups with the language you're talking? Or maybe hang-ups with the language that others use? Trying to control everybody speech, as if there is ever only one way to say something? Even maths doesnt do that.

poor bugga meets poor bugga

" This issue is about Hashimoto and and how he views women - and that view is clearly that women are not equal to men, should be subservient, and are nothing more than sexual objects to be used.......

Women in Japan, and really throughout the world, should be horribly offended by these remarks - and any man with an ounce of compassion, and any respect for human rights, should be just as offended"

This is the quoted part.

This issue is about Hashimoto and and how he views women - and that view is clearly that women are not equal to men, should be subservient, and are nothing more than sexual objects to be used.......

Women in Japan, and really throughout the world, should be horribly offended by these remarks - and any man with an ounce of compassion, and any respect for human rights, should be just as offended.

So if this is about Hashimoto and how he views women, then perhaps those who are arguing his words could answer whether the women should have been used as soldiers or should have been at home safe and sound? When you consider this side to those who state Hashimoto is incompassionate, you can understand that this talk then isnt about his view on women but rather about international relations. Those who argue the women were abused, I wonder what do you think these women should have been doing instead, just quietly going off to uni and ignoring the war? I dont think Hashimoto is denying it happened, so what would have been the non-offensive position that these women should have been in?