jtuzr comments

Did someone mention the dual-state solution yet?...

noypikantoku and tkind2, tell you what, next time you go out with your housewife lady friends for lunch at the family restaurant on a weekday, do me a favor and take an informal poll about whether or not they are even allowed to work by their husbands. I'm curious about what feedback you'll get.

Some guys only agree to marriage if the wives agree to quit their job to take care of the kids.

So it's not always the woman's fault for expecting the man to have plentiful resources if she's expected to quit. Most of the women I know don't want to quit work so I kind of doubt what you guys are saying.

Just like what I write doesn't apply to all men, I'm not sure if the all Japanese women suffer from Cinderella syndrome.

What do you think?

Like Robin Harris said:

I wear my wedding ring on the wrong finger cuz I married the wrong damn woman!!!

It's only natural that a man gets criticized for not having sex with his wife. Unless a man is sexually dysfunctional or just isn't physically attracted to his wife, it doesn't take much to get him started. Physically and emotionally healthy men are sexual light switches when paired with the right woman.

I also don't buy the argument that men would have sex with their wives if they had more time. You give a sexless man more time, he's going to blow it on more drinking, more pachinko, more golf, and more sex with other women who he is attracted to. And if that wasn't bad enough, out of the hobbies above, sex is the most available and affordable!

The only reason a man says that he's at the office until the late hours is because he wants you to believe he is, when in fact he's out with other women. I don't see it as right or wrong, it's just a fact of life. If anything, it's a closer reflection of how Mother Nature intended it. Mother Nature didn't invent marriage; the nobility and the church invented marriage to control people like sheep.

I'm tempted to believe that the husbands of the wives in this article who say the are unsatisfied were either trapped or tricked into getting married. I say they deserve each other.

dolphingirl, you probably could've ended your post with "Amen..." Nice way to sum it all up, kudos.

Kids or work, stress or boredom, at the end of the day all we want is to get laid every now and then, is that so wrong?

When in doubt, just remember what they say:

Sex - The most fun you can have without laughing.

That's just sad....

In the west, I guess it's not as bad, but in Japan, women just give up after marriage.

It seems strange that there are guys out there who only respond to verbal cues from their partners... I think most guys out there know for a fact that women have tons of other ways to send non-verbal signals to the guy that she wants to do it, some subtle some pretty obvious.

If a guy's not getting any signals and on top of that he's not being told that she wants to do it... then I hate to burst your bubble, but I'm guessing she wants to do it, but not just with you... :/

I just find it hard to understand that's all.

dolphingirl, I didn't make up the rules, I'm just saying....

But yasukuni has a point, if a husband isn't directing his sexual energy at his wife, then I can almost guarantee you that he's directing it at some hot girl at the office. Even if he isn't actually doing anything, he's definitely thinking about it. (Men, nod your head "yes", please)

So, I would bet that the women who are not satisfied with their sex lives after marriage are the exact same women who lured their future husbands in with a hot body, perfect make-up, and a mini skirt, and the moment the poor guy says "I do" and puts a ring on her finger - BAM!!! - Out with the mini skirt and in with the granny underwear, baggy turtleneck, dumpy jeans, and a pair of cheap Reeboks from ABC Mart!! (Ladies, nod your head "yes", please)

Just as men shouldn't be making excuses about not being mind-readers, women also shouldn't make excuses about not having the time to take care of themselves or not having enough money to look hot. I'm telling ya, a pair of low-cut form-fitting jeans and a tight little pink T-shirt exposing just the right amount of skin and cute underwear and I'm ready to go to town with this girl! I don't care how tired I am or who's making copies at the office. You could probably whip up an outfit like that for under 3,000 yen at Uniqlo or Gap anyway, so no excuses!! (Men, stop drooling, please)

If there was a red-lamp district catering to the "needs" of women, that would solve the problem most of the women in this article have, and apparently a lot of the posters here have as well. Whereas men usually don't have much of a problem spending money to have fun with an absolute stranger, I assume most women would have a problem. Otherwise, there would already be tons of happy women with big smiles on their faces and there would be no need for such a magazine survey. Am I right? (Nod your head "yes", please.)

So, my only guess is that all you women suffering from vanilla-withdrawal probably, I repeat probably, don't look "HOT"...

She doesn't need to try...

I echo Fadamor's remarks. Had this been a case of questionable witnesses, planted evidence, or a forced confession, then I would agree to keep someone like him off deathrow, until it's proven beyond a reasonable doubt. But this guy was caught in the act! They even showed some footage from the incident. Pretty chilling stuff.

But, no matter what folks might write, I don't think people will really know how they truly feel until they are directly victimized by such a crime.

The only thing that frustrates me (no pun intended) about this article is that it fails to give us feedback from the 3 Japanese women who were supposedly "very satisfied" with their sex lives.

Now how many of you will actually go out and buy a copy of the Shukan Post to find out? Grab a copy for me while you're at it, will ya? Thanks!

Although the following quotes don't come from a "couple", they still illustrate the unfortunate reality in today's relationships.

Lady Astor to Winston Churchill:

"Winston, if you were my husband, I'd put poison in your coffee."

His Reply:

"Nancy, if you were my wife, I'd drink it."

C'mon, girly-men! Quit being a wussy and grow a pair. I think the whole "I ain't no mind reader!" rant is such a cop out. Of course, because most otherwise intelligent men don't do their homework and don't have a clue, naturally I would also encourage women to be bold and "get yours".

One thing men must remember is that the woman's greatest erogenous zone is her brain! If you whisper the right "stuff" right up in her ear in a calm, deep voice for a few minutes, you will literally change her breathing rhythm on the power of your words alone. Then it's downhill hill from there. Okay, I think I just changed the lives of a few lucky couples out there. You're welcome. ;)

But I digress....

They probably should have let the family members of the victims pull the trigger.

Knowing what kind of person she is, I'd say it was her husband's idea.

I get nisegaijin's point as well which is fair, but organizations like the one featured in this article still deserve to be helped provided the money goes where it should. I may be mistaken, but I don't think this particular charity is meant to help out the lazy freeloaders in 1st world countries, but rather those who suffer as refugees in war ravaged nations or maybe malaria stricken countries and what not.

Still, I'd like to know more about your opinion or what you learned from that book. I might not have time to read it so maybe you can share a little on this forum.

"We’re living together and having sex"

It's T.M.I., but talk about preemptive strike. Bet the press won't have any questions left to ask now...

But, dude got a girlfriend almost ten years younger. Score! ;P

nisegaijin, geez, friend... I think you need a hug... or a role model or something...

I understand that people shouldn't rely on hand outs, but I think we've all benefited from someone's charity in one way or another. I know I wouldn't be where I am today had it not been for someone's generosity. I hope you do some analysis as well. ;)

When it comes to the eikaiwa business in Japan, I have mixed feelings. After having worked as a teacher myself for more than 5 years, I have come to the conclusion that people who want to learn English will do so no matter what. No English school, no good teachers? Doesn't matter, they will find a way to learn if they're hungry enough for the knowledge. Those who attend school, but don't have the motivation, perseverance or just don't care? You could probably send them to the best school money could buy and they would never improve.

Although I got my start in Japan through eikaiwa, I feel that the current state it's in is kind of pitiful. Let's hope it makes a comeback in a good way.

As for students who are thinking about joining a school, I say put your money back in your pocket, meet some foreigner friends on mixi or facebook and go hang out with them every now and then. Study your butt off at home and then practice with your new friends. Or take that money and go live abroad where there are no other Japanese students.

If someone is truly willing to learn, they'll be able to do so spending close to nothing. In short, the language industry shouldn't be such a big business. Buyer beware.

Just my two cents.

Cheerz mates.

If a commercial actor like this guy can get this much press, that other foreigner in the old TEPCO commercial who said: "Hajimameshite!" should also get some publicity! Lord knows he needs it...

Has anyone noticed that the article says he's known for his role as "Oni-san"....? But if you translate the romaji to Japanese, it means "Mr. Devil" or "Mr. Demon".

It should be written as "Onii-san".

I saw that guy on the train at Roppongi and he just blends in with the rest of the crowd. ;)

I've been in this country for quite a few years now and even I only have about maybe one or two close male friends, I'm a guy btw. My only close Japanese male friend is from college. It seems that if you wanna have close male friends, either Japanese or western, you gotta either A. Drink a lot or B. Smoke a lot or C. Hang out at Roppongi or Kyabakura a lot, none of which I am all that fond of....

So I end up hanging out with my Japanese lady friends most of the time, which can be a little emasculating at times, but it's still fun.

Okay, for you Japanese guys out there, watch the following to get an idea of western (or American at least) friendship in action:

1. Friends, the TV comedy series

2. 40 year old virgin

3. The Tao of Steve

Everyone else, please add to the list! Consider it a cultural exchange!

She's much cuter than this picture lets on.

she's got daddy issues resolved;

Haha, this gave me a chuckle. I read somewhere that the purpose of a relationship is to resolve your childhood issues. I wonder what kind of relationship she had with her famous dad.

For starters, I think we should all celebrate a couple that is still very much in love after even after 11 years. You hear a lot of talk about the so called "7-year itch" and how it might be a reason behind a lot of divorces, but these two made it well beyond that.

But instead of focusing on their apparent age difference, I think we can all learn something from their respective personality types. He's a rock 'n roll entertainer, in the spotlight kind of guy. On the other hand, if I remember correctly, she seemed to be the more relatively reserved and mature type, not always begging for attention despite the fact that she's also a tarento.

The bottom line is these two compliment each other very well and that probably explains why they share a close bond regardless of age.

It's not so much we need to find a person of the right age, but a person of the right personality type. I'm still trying to find mine....

Okay, let the flaming begin...!

Gosh, and to think that I probably wouldn't be able to hook up with anyone in their 20's now that I'm in my mid-30s.... I'm gonna go for it now! ;)

But seriously, back in the day, teenagers getting married was the norm so this shouldn't be too surprising. Also, being a teenager when she got married, he was probably able to "mold" her, hence the strong bond, who knows?...

White Day is coming up and I'm curious how many guys are going to remember to reciprocate...

After reading some of the comments here, I wonder what guys need to do to be worthy of giri-choco on Valentine's Day. Especially what kind of guy-behavior would make a girl want to give giri-choco to a co-worker. Hmmm, now there's a thinker....

@helloitsme

Dude, I think you need a hug... or a role model or something...

I respect everyone's opinion, but I have to admit that your comments are so boneheaded, if you didn't know any better, you'd probably think you were Japanese yourself.

I'm not sure what group of boneheads you hang out with here in Japan, but I've been to my share of countries, and I could easily find a similar group of boneheads in any other country.

The Japanese are some of the most curious people on the planet who are generally interested in learning more about other countries and cultures. Granted, they're not the smartest people on the planet, but I'm always impressed about how much they generally know about other countries.

Let's try to understand the culture before we criticize, this article could apply to any country. In fact, it should be titled, "The dumbing down of the planet."