kimuzukashiiiii comments

sangetsu, actually, doctots and nurses are paid pretty welll. its the nursing home/day service/home helpers that are paid appaulingly. im pretty sure if the government made the wages livable (a graduate would be starting at around 14-15万　in my area, which is incredibly low) the people who want to do this line of work, could.

dejaboo you are quite wrong. the ideal biological time to have a first child is late teens to early twenties. advanced maternal age begins at 35.that is not my opinion, but medical fact.

and heres a reference, so i cant be accused of pulling things out of my backside.

https://www.google.co.jp/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=advanced%20maternal%20age%20postpartum%20psychosis&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CCMQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.jogc.com%2Fabstracts%2Ffull%2F201409_WomensHealth_1.pdf&ei=KMkfVeP2O4iO8QXXvoHwCA&usg=AFQjCNFfvVSUpRE0l8xfWQUu748xr0jukQ&sig2=lqonDtUrcuMkOiwfJRN97g&bvm=bv.89947451,d.dGc

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-health/9095812/Older-mothers-five-times-more-likely-to-suffer-from-depression.html

http://www.medicaldaily.com/women-choosing-careers-motherhood-are-more-vulnerable-postnatal-depression-239977

poor daughters. there is much more help needed for old first time mothers like this lady, who are statistically the highest risk group for post partum depression.

What a jerk.... but its true Japan is not as safe as it used to be.

The poor in Japan are getting desperate - the taxes are increasing, and minimum wage is not enough to support yourself and your family, it is inevitable that these things will increase.

The only reason this mugging made the press was because she was choked in the process. "normal" mugging happens every day.

The problem is not the condoms... the problem is that young Japanese are not having sex at all.

I prefer katsue san to the other one!!!!!! I think mascots are great and all, but would it not be wonderful if they could actually teach visitors at the same time?

I have been to tottori many times, and to the ruins. BUT definitely I wont forget the story of those starved inside, after hearing (and seeing) the rather creepy katsue san.

The very last woman has the right idea. Far too much enabling of adult children in this country.

I am, on the whole, very sympathetic to those with depression or other mental diseases, but "Kanzo" is a complete selfish lump. A job, education and family and he just decides to quit one day? What were his family going to do, while he is stuck in his bedroom playing video games? Im assuming that he is not helping out with the childcare, cleaning or laundry, and did not go the doctor for any kind of help either?

The thing about most hikikomori, which is not mentioned in the article, is that they do, actually, go outside. They go to the convini in the middle of the night when no one is around to buy cigarettes and alcohol.

The sad/ironic thing about this is, that if he had not put on such a ridiculous show for the press conference, this would probably never have been brought to light. At least not to the level it has been. His awful tantrum has given him an awful lot of attention, which is WHY he is resigning and WHY he is facing charges.

It makes me wonder how many more politicians (with better PR guys) there are in Japan, receiving nothing more than a very little slap on the wrist from their bosses.

So .... the news is ... Its raining?

We spoke to my relatives in Kansai last night. They said there is absolutely nothing, at all, like a typhoon in kansai area. Its not even raining.

“There is a risk of unprecedentedly strong winds and torrential rains. Please refrain from nonessential outdoor activities,” Meteorological Agency official Satoshi Ebihara told reporters at a news conference.

I wish that this nice man from the Met.agency would add "And whatever you do, dont go up on your roof, EVEN IF the TV ariel blows down" ... to his speeches.

Fuji TV quoted police as saying that he drastically inflated the budget for cooking ingredients and, over the last five years, has taken approximately 10 million yen from the city coffers.

Im actually pretty glad to read that he was just fiddling the figures, and not taking food out of the mouths of the kids. Hope that he is punished severely though.

I hope to never, ever see you complain about the rights of women in this country when you are clearly sexist yourself and are more than happy to discriminate against others based on their gender.

How am I sexist? How is stating what is biologically normal sexist? Are you angry that men are denied the right to carry babies in their womb too? Would it be fairer if they could breastfeed? What I Am doing is putting forward an opinion of women who might need help. You are the one who comes across as hating women here, not me.

It IS gender discrimination. You think one gender is better BECAUSE of that gender.

Where did I ever say that women are better than men? Please...

Many Japanese women do not work. They can't afford to look after the kids so you think having kids live in poverty is better than living with their dad?

Japanese single mothers have the highest employment rate in the world. More than 90% are in employment. Much more than the employment rate of married women. Its a Shame the dads are not contributing child support every month though...

What does any of that have to do with a child who is no longer breastfeeding?

It has been proven that children who were breast fed have closer bonds long term with their mothers than those who were not.

You're suggesting mothers are perfect when clearly many are not of child abuse by mothers wouldn't be such a widespread issue.

Of course I am not. That would just be ridiculous. We see on here every week children who are killed or abused by their mothers and their fathers.

You're a fine example of a woman who would use hers when the time suited her.

Oh really? And what EXACTLY is that supposed to mean, Tmarie? Since you know so much about my private situation? In my opinion, Being cheated on, left for days at home alone with a small child, being humiliated, emotionally and physically abused are perfectly adequate reasons to take your child, and yourself away. I got a divorce, I did not run away. BUT I would have, If my ex would have refused to let me leave.

My lawyer agreed, so did the police, and so did immigration when I took my child out of Japan. LEGALLY, by the way. No child support, no contact. He never wanted to see his kid again, and could not care less. How is this using a child as a weapon?

But Im sure in your opinion though my ex was father of the year.

Im sorry Tmarie, but No, I dont think that fathers should have equal rights to a mother, in the case where a mother is in the position that she needs to flee the country, for whatever reason. Either should Grandparents, uncles, Aunts, cousins or other DNA relatives. Unless the mother is a drug addict, mentally unstable or a danger to the child, the woman should be given primary custody. I dont see why on earth she would not be. Its not gender discrimination - Its biology. Its how it always has been and always will be.

The mother carried the baby for 9 months, and often breast fed for an awful lot longer. The mother is usually the one giving up her career, getting up in the middle of the night. That bond is hard to break, for both mother and baby.

I dont understand why you think men are so great Tmarie. Some of them are real jerks. Some of them beat their wives, and their children. Men use children as weapons just as often, if not more, than women do. And for a woman in a foreign country being told by your spouse "Ill take the children and you will never see them again" is enough to make any mother run screaming for the airport.

I know (think?) you don't have children, and I really don't want to be patronizing, but until you have children and feel the love that comes with them, and the feeling that you will protect them no matter what, it is impossible to understand what I am saying.

Probably I would have said the same as you... before I had children.

It looks rough for Okinawa and Kyushu for sure.

But to be honest They ALWAYS issue storm warnings for Kansai and they never, ever come to anything more than a bit of a windy day.

It not that I have no regards for the rights of fathers - they do have some rights. However the few making the noise about this are the severe minority. There are an awful lot of fathers (and not just in Japan) who just bolt, never seeing their kids again.

But I mean lets face it.... when a couple split, in the very, very vast majority of cases it is the women getting full custody, while men slink off into the sunset with a younger girlfriend. This is particularly bad in Japan. The men never see their kids again. The only reason being because they dont WANT to. If Japanese men en-masse wanted to, then the old "only one person can have custody" rule would have been changed years ago.

I do feel sorry for these women. If a couple (for example Japanese wife and American husband) have split, then she is effectively trapped in America, with no support, possible language issues, and no friends. How can we say that is better for the child than being taken back to Japan? Of course, in an ideal situation, they would do it all legally, not have to abduct her children. But there is the threat of violence, or even aggression or control that makes it difficult to leave.

This goes for any woman in any country.

And Taiko666. If a woman I knew was in the position she felt that she HAD to leave Japan with her child, for whatever reason (violence, abuse etc ) I would help her get out. I seriously doubt that most women would take such a dramatic step out of anything other than desperation. It comes from fear and needing to protect your children - its fight or flight.

I challenge any other MOTHER to tell me she would not do the same, if she felt she was at risk of losing her child, or putting him or her in danger. Because only mothers can understand this instinct.

I feel terrible for these women. They have as much right, if not MORE, to take their children out of the country. They are the mothers.

Poor little girl... why was she even allowed in a pachinko parlor?! Why would her father take her there?!

I really hope that her family can get some closure...

mark my words ... in about 3 days time an update of this article will be released. Something along the lines of "Grandma had gone to pachinko" or "She went shopping and came back and realised the house was on fire."

To be honest... your own kids, it is difficult - not impossible - to watch carefully when they are so young.

But someone elses children who have been entrusted to your care overnight? I know I would be watching them as well, if not more, than I would my own.

It seems that those with chronic medical conditions should not be driving then. With an aging population Japan needs to get pretty strict on this, pretty fast. I say a yearly driving test for all those over 60.

Come on, lets face it, unless she was using the toilet in the convini down the road, or putting the laundry in some outhouse, then she would have been able to extinguish the fire. If she had been there, at the time, watching them, it would have never broken out.

Call me an armchair detective if you want, but What I do know is you cant leave a 2 and 1 year old unattended, even for a moment. The grandmother will have to live with her own negligence for the rest of her life, and in the meantime has deprived a couple of parents of their children. How anyone can defend her is beyond me.

Im sorry, but someone with diabetes which is causing dizziness on a daily basis should not be driving at ALL.

It is one thing for someone to suffer an unexplained medical problem, like a heart attack or a stroke, at the wheel of a car. Those are not preventable or predictable.

However this guys family knew he was at risk and they still allowed him to drive? It makes them as responsible as him. In this case he was lucky, he didnt kill anyone. I think this guy should be made an example of, and made to serve a hefty jail term.

How is that obvious? You obviously don't know how fast house fires can burn out of control in a wooden house.

Either one of 2 scenarios is probable.

The boys were left unattended, and found a lighter, or matches. They started the fire themselves, because they were not being supervised properly.

or 2. The fire started through some other means, but the boys were unsupervised in another part of the house, and could not escape.

Either way the grandma was pretty negligent as best.

Was was this allowed to happen? The grandmother was obviously not watching them very closely...

I wonder what this woman was doing or saying inside the museum that got her thrown out in the first place.

This statement "The activist had been on her way to check on the condition of an extremely rare albino dolphin calf which had been captured a month earlier." kind of says it all. Shes not a vet, or an employee of that museum. So her "checking up" sounds more like interfering and making a scene.

I agree with Ossan. These people are embarrassing.

The whole "Left turn while on red" thing is a death trap. Because the cars are supposed to give way to crossing pedestrians, but very often dont. I was hit on my bike once while crossing the road (at a zebra crossing with a green man) because the driver just did not stop. He "assumed I would" ... even though I had right of way.

This woman is a rock star... 77 years old... 10 days on a mountain and it is her younger son who becomes too weak too move.

These herbs need to be banned. All of them, for the moment. And marijuana need to STAY banned.

What I would like to see is some kind of meeting in the middle...

You have kids and want to have a career? Great. We will support you in every way possible for helping keep this country afloat. More money, better childcare provisions, tax breaks. You dont want to have kids or get married? Thats your choice.

disgusting. He had no business going anywhere near someone elses child.

I hope the parents of his grandchild take note...